The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v2 - General

[QUOTE=Mon;34266658]so guys a friend of mine gets really emotional when i talk to his girl last time i did he cried, and we're bros so i don't like seeing that happen - but i'm good friends with his girl, and i don't want to break anything off wat do[/QUOTE] Talk to him about it. Be honest and stuff.

I'm really excited because in 2 weeks its the start of senior slump, and I can finally stop taking adderall all the time when I'm on it, I pretty much don't want to talk to people, I don't know how to talk to people, and I get mad at people easily that or I talk way too much about a stupid topic I basically just feel like living inside my own head, and not dealing with anyone else also it makes me sweaty, and my hands get cold, so that never helps with anything when I don't take it I'm back to my usual self, so I'm glad I can finally stop focusing so hard on school

I've been feeling really down and sexually frustrated lately. I don't know why I feel this way but I do.

Hey Dark_Light, I know this may sound clichéd or ridiculous, but the one piece of advice I have for you is: Just live. [Read beyond this point only if you're the kind of person to jump at great opportunities.] Now I know that sounds stupid, but honestly. Don't get hung up over the stupid things that stupid people say, because they're stupid. Now this might sound horribly selfish, and even against what I would normally tell people, but guess what, life is about you and no one else. And no matter how awful that sounds, I'm afraid to say that it's true. Life is for YOU to learn and YOU to have fun. Grab life by the balls and don't let go. I was on Facebook the other day and one of my friends said, "I hate it when people say they have no regrets, I'm not even 17 yet and I already have far too many regrets." He's so unbelievably naive. People don't need regrets, regrets are a stupid waste of time. If you want to do do something, go out there and fucking do it and don't look back. [Don't read on unless you really love life, otherwise you might think I'm an idiot.] You know what, none of this matters, but in a great way. If I died tomorrow, I honestly would not care because I had fun, and that's what this is all about. If I were given the opportunity to go do something potentially life-threatening, I would come so close to pussying out, but guess what LIFE IS FUCKING GREAT and in the end I would have to do it. ARGH FUCK THIS. I HAVE A GIRL TO TALK TO, AND TOMORROW IS THE FUCKING DAY... Sometimes I just get a little bit too passionate with what I'm talking about.

[QUOTE=AmericanInfantry;34280887]I've been feeling really down and sexually frustrated lately. I don't know why I feel this way but I do.[/QUOTE] You do know why, you just don't want to look inside. When you are able to do so, make your move against life's resolve then. Godspeed.

its like a choose your own adventure novel!

[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;34281421]its like a choose your own adventure novel![/QUOTE] OH MY GOD I USED TO FUCKING LOVE THEM Totally not why I'm still single.

[QUOTE=Seith;34280987]You do know why, you just don't want to look inside. When you are able to do so, make your move against life's resolve then. Godspeed.[/QUOTE] Can you please learn how to talk like a normal human being? [editline]18th January 2012[/editline] I'm sorry if that sounds rude but it's like reading an awful self-help book every time you post

I agree with JohnnyMo. I don't understand what you're saying, Seith.

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[QUOTE=Mon;34281959]crazy dang jewfolk [img]http://i.somethingawful.com/forumsystem/emoticons/emot-bahgawd.gif[/img][/QUOTE] what does this have to do with me?

Before I even start analyzing what you say to the tiniest of details, I shall let you know what you are feeling know is what I had felt years ago. Alone, "wide picture" kind of guy. Now, let me widen your picture further. [QUOTE=Dark_Light;34274702] I've made posts like this a few times here but I find myself in these moods too often where it all just seems so clear to me how miserable and lonely I [I]actually[/I] am. Then I go to sleep, and I'm fine again, and go on for a couple of months feeling at peace with myself and my life. But when I feel like this, I start to think that maybe I'm just living in a constant state of denial. I thought I'd actually vent somewhere this time instead of sleeping on it. [/quote] This is perfect, that post that is. I mean, it states perfectly your current mental being. It builds a perfect ground for understanding what is it and why is it you feel the way you do. When you acquire such "wide picture" views, you automatically, can't stray away from what your eyes want to see. You want proof, you want evidence. You think about stuff other people what to deny their minds from. This is for better and for worse. Mostly for worse. Why? because people, especially, exactly you, like me, tend to go to extremes. It's either wide picture or total blind belief, no questions asked. People are up or against. The world is black and white for most people, whether we'd like it or not. The world is not extreme, it's dynamic. You'll understand what I saw that you didn't in your text in a few mins. [QUOTE=Dark_Light;34274702] I'm confident in myself. I'm still shy and am usually quiet but I don't think that's a problem anymore, and I understand that that slight introversion of my personality is just a part of who I am. I know I'm interesting, funny, and generally likeable once people get to know me, and the few people that actually do know me at that level know that as well. But I often worry that my 'shell' or whatever just has so many people hesitant to get past it. I've heard shit like, "You're not as intimidating as I thought you were," more than once from people. It's no surprise really, currently my main source of 'mass' social communication is Facebook, and I come across as a bit of a dickhead there apparently mostly because I'm one of the few people that actually speaks their mind without any bs or sugar-coating. I'm not a judgemental cunt, I just have opinions which I'm not afraid to voice, something which I think a lot of people don't do or aren't used to. Obviously this is only emphasized over a text-only medium such as FB, but I don't care much for people that are going to judge me based on that alone. However, the problem is still there. [/quote] The problem is there because you have created it. You've created the barrier yourself. You test people, you blur out what you think, because you have lost faith in the world, so why not everybody else in it? Stop thinking for a second. There's a way to say what you think. It all depends on how you say it, how you verbalize it and how much do you have belief in yourself. Do you believe in yourself? I doubt it. I doubt it, because I have felt exactly the same at 16. I know what you are feeling now. You might be actually likeable, funny and all those things you've said because inside you are, as most people are. But, you put so much test, don't have faith in the world around you because it sickens you, this, hypocritical type of behavior, people can't see the good in you and they only see what you don't want them to know. What the fuck do you mean by that, Seith? I mean, you project your lack of satisfaction fiercely to those around you. People, consciously or sub-consciously can tell this and immediately drive themselves away. [QUOTE=Dark_Light;34274702] On that, I'm an arrogant person. As far back as when I started primary school, I've been at the top of my classes. Not just academically but also in a more general sense, I've always had a stronger and quicker grasp on concepts and issues ahead of my peers. Like I said, I try to not let this get in the way of my social interactions, and it isn't like I blatantly say or think shit like "I'm better than all of you," but it's definitely an aspect or perhaps a flaw in my personality. I often feel like the affairs and concerns of the majority of my peers are shallow and relatively insignificant. I hate that I feel this way because it makes me feel like a right cunt, but I can't deny it. [/quote] You come exactly to where I have pointed on the path. This is not about arrogance my friend, but rather an incompatibility of you with the worlds boring concept of living. Yes, you live too well. You think deeply, you love it. Awesome, I am exactly where you stand. And as I have said above, for the better and worse. Right now, it's for the worse. You have lost, as I have again said above, faith in the world. This absolutely natural and not so common sense of "big picture" thinking, made you think too much. You know too much, to be able to let go. Let go, understand the world is meant to be this way. Murders, killers and shallow drunken teenagers on sidewalks every Friday... are what makes life beautiful. Your ability to rise above the crowd, to be the change. If the whole world was like you, you probably would have turned out the same as those drunks. People, tend to love the extreme of things, you know it by now. You do the same, be extreme. Your personality is not a flaw, but rather a virtue. It's not this "flaw" that makes you "lose" the friends around you, but rather the way you utilize it. Life is so boring and even dim when you, feel so freed of a world full of constructed concepts of reality, but yet have to REAL GOAL. It's like freeing a man whose been to prison for half of his life and he wants to stay inside. He has no goals, nothing to look up to, even though he's free. It's only as sweet as you make it, start deciding. [QUOTE=Dark_Light;34274702] I'll elaborate (if you've read this far then whatever you probably actually want to read all of this so I'll continue to write however much I want). I like to think I have a wide world-view, and I can recognize that my own place in this world and the universe as a whole, is insignificant, and so I don't let myself get down over little shit in my personal life and am constantly aware of the so called bigger picture. I keep up to date with world happenings and so when I'm seeing non-violent protesters getting arrested or fundamental human rights getting breached in this or that country, it's hard to then alt tab back to say Facebook and see a whole bunch of people bitching about their cars, or their sport team losing, or their ex not caring about them or whatever, and not feel a little bit like what I've described. [/quote] This reminds me of those troopers that get sent to Iraq, get back after 2 years and start feeling weird when people around them back in America seem like they didn't know they were saved. Life kept as usual. This is the sense of deliverance I was talking about you feel, yet everybody else around you doesn't. You need to put this amazing skill to work my friend, or you will drown in your own sorrow soon enough, with broken hopes and promises to your young smiling self. There's still time, you're 16. You need... to accept the world is insignificant, the Earth is part of a dying universe and you are as well. You're flesh and bone, nothing else. When you accept, you can let yourself go and understand this is not about the big picture but about yourself you stupid idiot. It's about YOU. Not everybody else around you. People who want to help others, want to help themselves. They want to feel whole, my making others whole. IT"S ALWAYS HAVE BEEN ABOUT NUMBER ONE, YOU. Forget everything, delete your mind, it's about to explode my friend. You fill it with so much trash everyday, you keep thinking about it, you can't develop yourself and others around you. You stay put along with this feeling and you will die out eventually. All those tests and expectations out of people are actually things you accept yourself to do, but limit yourself because others remain the same. What comes out of that mixture? Nothing. You stay the same, while others drift away. Fly away, let go... I hope you understand those simple yet complicated words by now.... [QUOTE=Dark_Light;34274702] I end up asking myself if I should continue to actually care as much as I do; about people, about the world, about my place in it, and so on. The world is fucked up and going to shit at an accelerating rate, so the logical solution is to just not give a fuck and go down with it. Obviously that's not something I want to do nor is it something I think anyone should do, and I spend a lot of my time giving people the opportunity to get aware of the fundamental flaws that exist in our society (not in a shoving down their throats kinda way either). I believe that this awareness should be the primary role of any citizen.[/quote] [b]You are shoving it in their throats, trust me. I don't need you or people to tell me that, I know. With such strong beliefs at 16, you're bound to step on a few toes with your strong opinions. Accept this; you believe in this view too much, you make people around you feel the same and when you obviously can't change them, you write posts like these and feel you're drowning in a world that does not want change. [I]FOR THE FINAL TIME, BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT! STOP EXPECTING OTHERS TO FEEL THE SAME, ACCEPT ACCEPT ACCEPT.[/i] By now, what you actually feel should be understood perfectly... if you still can't grasp this simple idea, you're not accepting. You're not wrong, nor flawed. It's how you feel inside my friend... it's belief, for the millionth time.[/b] [QUOTE=Dark_Light;34274702] This whole thing just leads into spiritual and other ontological questions which is clearly another massive issue. Whilst I'm not religious per se, I think as a human being we should continually be asking 'those' questions, and at the moment I do believe that there's more to us than a chance combination of various physical properties and forces. But I don't really think that's a big issue in my life at the moment. Even though I've drifted from my family's religion (and consequently, my family), it's out of my hands right now and I'm not going to force myself to make decisions like that just because I feel down on nights like these. Maybe in a few decades I'll come to the conclusions that bring me 'true happiness' or whatever but at the moment, that's not something I'm just going to force into existence.[/quote] Continue to do so, and again, stop thinking others can do the same. This is a personal gift, not everybody's. Trust me, they can't handle it nor want it. I have repeated myself enough, you understand your mistake in perception by now... I assume? :) You know how to achieve this true happiness.. look inside, as you already do more than you need to. [QUOTE=Dark_Light;34274702] With the things I've outlined about myself, and my limited connection with my family, I'm left with a handful of friends. There's about 5 people in my life I would actually call a friend, 2 of which live on the other side of the country and I've never met. I don't want to be some social butterfly and I understand the idea of quality and not quantity, and I do have many people that I talk to regularly or people I would hang out with. The few 'real' friends I do have though I am very grateful for, and I know that the connections I have with them are actually meaningful and I appreciate that. It's however easy to feel lonely, especially if they're all busy or out or whatever, which is often the case with my irl friends as they're all over 18 and can go out together whilst I'm still underage. That's only a very superficial issue though.[/quote] Now you're talking about the consequences of your own actions, obviously. You feel lonely... well, you know why. Shit, you remind me a lot of myself. You can have a look then at your future, it's not so bad;) [QUOTE=Dark_Light;34274702] I don't know if it's as simple as feeling lonely though, at risk of sounding like a dramatic faggot it's more of an emptiness. I have goals in life, and I know I'm intelligent and mature to understand what I have to do to achieve them, and I've never felt like I have no purpose or direction. I still just feel something is missing. I like to think it's because I'm still only 17, in the transition from post-high school to university and the 'real world', and that consequently my impact on the rest of the world is restricted. If you were to ask me right now what my purpose in life was, I'd say to live a life which is rich in the experiences and knowledge of this world and to make the lives of the people around me similarly as meaningful and enjoyable. Clearly the fact that I'm still so restricted in terms of my access to the world makes achieving this difficult and so of course I'm going to feel a little stuck at times. Maybe I've just answered my own problem and this whole post is irrelevant.[/quote] You have goals, but you don't willing enough to make them come true. A once wise man said; "People think they want things in life. They think they REALLY WANT them, but the facts tell you otherwise. Imagine yourself gasping for air, you're having an asthma attack, what is the only thing you want in that specific moment? Air. This is how much you should want to have your goals. You need to be willing to lose sleep for them" This is more than motivation, this is understanding that you just didn't want them enough... you blame others for nothing helping you basically achieve your own goals. How absurd is that? Not the transition could stop you, not your friends, nobody could, if you really wanted them. This is whole post is not irrelevant because you obviously can't make the transition full and committing, when you drop and quit even before the judge had blown his whistle. How do I know this? I do not. I assume. Let me sum my reasoning by telling you a little story about myself; I thought I had goals. I kept doing what I loved but I kept losing the game. Why? how the fuck, when I have goals? I did not commit, that's why. I wanted, I believed I can and I LOVE IT! Then what the fuck, why can't I progress? because I didn't want it enough! I had a true meaning finally, I felt everything coming true, and I fell apart. What the fuck is wrong with me? I did not commit. It wasn't not me gasping for air, it was me fiddling with the life support. I got told a few times and I had to make the switch. The switch, to promise myself, I will be successful. I have committed. I had promised myself, I will do everything in my power to deny the forces that keep me away from my throne. It's a struggle, but everyday is nothing but a challenge I must face in order to be great. I need to fail, in order to win. You need to write this post, to fail, in order to understand you are a winner. You're still not gasping for air my friend, you're as I was, fiddling with the life support, taking a few sips out of what makes you tick. [QUOTE=Dark_Light;34274702] And on top of all of this, I'd honestly like to meet someone. Not even a girlfriend specifically (although the physical/emotional intimacy which comes with that is obviously something I'd like to have again), but I just want more meaningful connections in my life, people I can have interesting and insightful interactions with. I say to a lot of people in these threads, a relationship should only ever exist between two people which are happy and self-sustainable, and even though I've just spent the last 1000000 words sulking, I'm not a consistently miserable person and by no means do I think I 'need' a girlfriend. We all have our insecurities, and these are mine. I just think having someone that I trust enough to share these with would invite a new perspective on my life that would benefit me a lot. Again, it's not a priority though and not something I'm thinking about all the time.[/quote] That's another subject, I'll skype with you that shit, just get connected. But, this only feels a burden because you're not complete with your own, so you seek completion from the outside. I am lonely, because I am not complete inside. If you were driven and motivated, women would have come to you.. trust me, they love a man with such qualities.. this is who you can be. [QUOTE=Dark_Light;34274702] I don't even know how much I've written and I've probably repeated myself a bunch of times but whatever. This is just where my head is at at the moment and I wanted to empty it somewhere, and this is the best place to do so (and even for that much, I appreciate all of you here in these threads srs). Even writing all of this out and reading back over it has helped a little.[/quote] [QUOTE=Dark_Light;34274702] But still, I invite anyone that's read this far to be as blunt as they feel they need to be. If I'm just being a melodramatic bitch of a teenager, then that's what I need to hear. ty[/QUOTE] Good night, I got work in the morning. Fuck spelling, fuck grammar. Awesome Sauce. [editline]18th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;34281753]Can you please learn how to talk like a normal human being? [editline]18th January 2012[/editline] I'm sorry if that sounds rude but it's like reading an awful self-help book every time you post[/QUOTE] I am sorry as well.

I talked with my boyfriend today, he didn't really get what I was saying. But then during my lunch at school today I was groped by a complete stranger, my boyfriend got mad about that. For some reason the school can't do anything about the creeper and he stood up for me, kinda. Hope for our relationship, maybe?

When I first started going out with my girlfriend she didn't have many friends at all, and just as she makes a bunch of friends she breaks up with me. Makes you feel like you're not good enough, man. [editline]18th January 2012[/editline] I guess on the bright side of things I helped an anti-social girl be a lot less lonely, but still, she was the only girlfriend I ever had. :/

[QUOTE=Smokes;34282501]I talked with my boyfriend today, he didn't really get what I was saying. But then during my lunch at school today I was groped by a complete stranger, my boyfriend got mad about that. For some reason the school can't do anything about the creeper and he stood up for me, kinda. Hope for our relationship, maybe?[/QUOTE] he only got mad because he had to get mad. if he doesn't listen to what you say and acts indifferent towards you in other situations it's not worth it. that groping thing is weird and gross though.

[QUOTE=Smokes;34282501]I talked with my boyfriend today, he didn't really get what I was saying. But then during my lunch at school today I was groped by a complete stranger, my boyfriend got mad about that. For some reason the school can't do anything about the creeper and he stood up for me, kinda. Hope for our relationship, maybe?[/QUOTE] How did he stand up for you "kinda," though?

Seith, man. [editline]19th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE='[CWG]RustySpannerz;34280972']Just live.[/QUOTE] This + Seith's post made shit that I thought I always understood that much clearer. I appreciate the time you've taken into writing both of these posts as well as reading mine. And Seith, I felt a lot of what you were saying. We'll talk more another time as I'm about to head out, but basically the majority of what you've said I can understand and definitely agree with. I think and see too much and end up creating these problems for myself. My ex would joke about it, I'd say shit like "just go with the flow," and she'd bust me on it by saying, "in your case you mean calculate the exact shape and angle of the flow and only once all possibilities have been analysed, go with it." I'm still just a kid (17 not 16 btw, 18 in April), but I'm confident that as I continue to move through life and reach more people, I'll have the sort of impact I want and I'll find that consequent fulfilment. Even now, despite receiving my first preference for university last night, I'm taking a year off to make music with two friends. I believe that'll also benefit in many ways and I'll be able to form actual, tangible goals and have a medium where I'm able to express myself through a larger and more creative medium. On that, what you said about me not reaching my goals isn't really all that true. It's really that so far, I haven't had any goals that I'm that interested in reaching. I got through high school smoking weed and sleeping in class, and I still got an ATAR (end ranking score thing) of 94.3, so I know I'm pretty damn capable if I actually do push myself. I only needed around an 80 though, so like I said I never really had a goal that I've failed to reach. Maybe I should have taken high school as an opportunity to develop that ability to push myself to my limits, but I'm confident that when I'm actually working at something that I have a genuine interest in, I'll be more than able to. So with a year of music, work and travel ahead of me, and beyond that university, I am already feeling a lot better with the new realizations that have come out of writing that post last night, then re-reading it today when I'm not in the same shitty mood, as well as of course the replies here. I rambled on again, and I could write more and I want to go back over your reply, but I really should get moving. Thank you (all) again :love:.

This school has a pretty good 60-40 ratio of women to men and yet EVERY girl I am ever interested in is always in a fucking relationship Every time I find that out it just ruins my whole day That is all

[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;34283567]This school has a pretty good 60-40 ratio of women to men and yet EVERY girl I am ever interested in is always in a fucking relationship Every time I find that out it just ruins my whole day That is all[/QUOTE]You don't know enough women then.

If 60 percent are women, 66.6 percent of that 60 percent is taken and attractive, leaving you with the remaining unattractive, single 20 percent of the population. [editline]18th January 2012[/editline] I hope that sounds ridiculous to you, because it is. So get out there and meet the 60%!

Wow I got a date on Friday. Any tips other than don't be an idiot?

[QUOTE=General Omega;34284550]You don't know enough women then.[/QUOTE] I know plenty of women. Hell, my major is almost ALL women. I just don't have that interest in all of them. Maybe I'm being too picky I guess.

[QUOTE=RIPBILLYMAYS;34285324]Wow I got a date on Friday. Any tips other than don't be an idiot?[/QUOTE] whip it out

[QUOTE=RIPBILLYMAYS;34285324]Wow I got a date on Friday. Any tips other than don't be an idiot?[/QUOTE] Be yourself. Also I wouldn't advise talking about porn, I learned that the hard way.

[QUOTE=RIPBILLYMAYS;34285324]Wow I got a date on Friday. Any tips other than don't be an idiot?[/QUOTE] Talk down to her, make your date feel like shit, be as arrogant as possible. Trust me, it works 60% of the time, all the time. I'm an expert.

[QUOTE=EagleEye;34285365]Be yourself. Also I wouldn't advise talking about porn, I learned that the hard way.[/QUOTE] It depends on the person. Not very classy on a first date anyway, but at least you know their views from the get-go and they know yours. No pretending or anything.

[QUOTE=Evilan;34285685]Talk down to her, make your date feel like shit, be as arrogant as possible. Trust me, it works 60% of the time, all the time. I'm an expert.[/QUOTE] This man knows what he is talking about. Trust me, I got a PHD in knowing that people know what they are talking about.

[QUOTE=RIPBILLYMAYS;34285324]Wow I got a date on Friday. Any tips other than don't be an idiot?[/QUOTE] Cliched advice but really, just relax and be yourself. You're on a date for no other reason than to meet and get to know another person, and she's there for the exact same reason as you. Enjoy yourself, be funny, be interesting, and just be confident in knowing that no matter what happens you'll take something away from it. From the OP: "Stop over-thinking everything and exist in the moment, not in your head. If you're on a date with her, listen to her stories, smile when you want to smile, laugh when you want to laugh, grab her hand when the moment feels right."

Might as well repost in a more fitting thread: [QUOTE=theLazyLion;34288823]So I have this problem where I lose all motivation to have sex with a girl if I find out I like her emotionally. Like at first I find her physically attractive, I feel like making the sex with her, we talk, I like her personality a lot, I no longer wish to have sex with her. Like back when I was visiting Montreal with my friends for New Years, it was the night before New Years Eve.. we were out clubbing and this very pretty Iranian lady started dancing with me, I really wanted to take her back to the hotel for a one night stand, but she gives me her number and asks for me to call her tomorrow. So I do, next day I invite her back to the hotel lobby for drinks, she comes in a sexy white dress, fucking love classy ladies, and we have some wine and it's a romantic date n everything, keeping in mind it's New Years Eve, around 6pm.. and she knew before giving me her number that I have a flight back to California the next day, so neither of us are here for a relationship if you know what I mean. We talked for a bit, I found that I liked her more and more, I took her up to the second floor of the hotel where it was a waiting hall for business conferences, that was empty. Only a piano and some chairs, I sat her down and started playing a bit for her(don't think she liked it though lol), and eventually invited her up to my room to do a drawing of her at her request after she found out I was an artist.. Upstairs I'm drawing her and as I'm doing so we converse even more and more, and it goes on for hours, the drawing was done ages ago but we're just sitting and talking.. And me at this point having lost all desire for physical relations with this girl, just sit there not making a move where she eventually gets a call and says she needs to go get ready for new years.. She thanks me for a great night and gives me a kiss and says to give her a call after New Years if I'm still up for some fun. She leaves, and I never ended up calling her.. Went to a strip club with my friends and that was the end of that.. She did add me on Facebook though. Stuff like this happens all the time, even with my girlfriends that I've had, I never liked to make a move on them, they'd get pissed thinking I don't find them attractive or I'm gay or something, and I don't flirt with girls I like, so I always end up in really crappy relationships with girls I don't even like. Anyone know what's up? or what's my problem?[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=theLazyLion;34289189]Might as well repost in a more fitting thread:[/QUOTE] This popped out immediately when I read the last paragraph; "I never liked to move on them". To me it looks like you are obviously not confident enough, thus making yourself lose your sex drive. Been there. You reach a certain level of gratification from this new interaction with the woman, and then, when it comes back to sex, this vibe pops up, you don't want to destroy it by the unknown consequences it brings aka bad sex or maybe good sex, or maybe she'll want more, or less. I assume it brings too many questions to your mind that you deny yourself of it as a defense mechanism. You need to dare yourself more and take yourself out of the comfort zone. You will never get rid of this feeling unless you do. [editline]19th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=RIPBILLYMAYS;34285324]Wow I got a date on Friday. Any tips other than don't be an idiot?[/QUOTE] Don't be overzealous. "Be yourself" is the worst kind of advice, because if apparently you've already asked for help, then obviously saying "be yourself" is just about as helpful as the "whip it out" advice. Go for the kiss, want it. You'll know what to do.