The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v2 - General

Broke up with my girlfriend of 13 months last night.... Couldn't feel more free and relieved! [editline]19th January 2012[/editline] It's also really fun to watch her lame 13-year-old facebook statuses pour down my feed. Apparently I'm a terrible person, but there's someone else who deserves her out there! Funny how the girl can act like a total bitch, but I'm 100% cool with the breakup. Oh wells! Single lyyffeee niggaazzz

[QUOTE=Juice_Layer;34291773]Broke up with my girlfriend of 13 months last night.... Couldn't feel more free and relieved! [editline]19th January 2012[/editline] It's also really fun to watch her lame 13-year-old facebook statuses pour down my feed. Apparently I'm a terrible person, but there's someone else who deserves her out there! Funny how the girl can act like a total bitch, but I'm 100% cool with the breakup. Oh wells! Single lyyffeee niggaazzz[/QUOTE] :dance:

Urghrhg I need to stop worrying so much when a girl doesn't text back.

Seith, you do know you don't have to rate [i]everybody[/i] winner?

so I've been talking to this girl for a while as well as going out to places with her a few times at the weekend, it's been just over a month since we've been doing things and I think I'm getting all of the right signs how do I bring up the conversation of our relationship? I don't really want to try "are we more than just friends" because it sounds sorta dumb...

[QUOTE=zerotwelve;34295087]so I've been talking to this girl for a while as well as going out to places with her a few times at the weekend, it's been just over a month since we've been doing things and I think I'm getting all of the right signs how do I bring up the conversation of our relationship? I don't really want to try "are we more than just friends" because it sounds sorta dumb...[/QUOTE] I'd like to know about this aswell

break me out of my awkward rut i can't even talk to people without sounding like a dumbass circa this weekend i'm tired and always bitchy, i think it has to do with the weather or exams. but the awkward part i want to get rid of first thing. [editline]19th January 2012[/editline] this really isn't me, i don't like it. i went through this last year in february and it wound up with me losing friends and getting depressed I DONT LIKE THIS CYCLE MAN

[QUOTE=zerotwelve;34295087]so I've been talking to this girl for a while as well as going out to places with her a few times at the weekend, it's been just over a month since we've been doing things and I think I'm getting all of the right signs how do I bring up the conversation of our relationship? I don't really want to try "are we more than just friends" because it sounds sorta dumb...[/QUOTE] What have you done in terms of physical contact? I wouldn't assume you're in a relationship until you've at least kissed obviously. If not, then take her out on a date and let her know it is a date and that you're interested. If she accepts I think you're good to go ahead and start building up the physical side of things, holding hands, kiss, etc.

[QUOTE=zerotwelve;34295087]so I've been talking to this girl for a while as well as going out to places with her a few times at the weekend, it's been just over a month since we've been doing things and I think I'm getting all of the right signs how do I bring up the conversation of our relationship? I don't really want to try "are we more than just friends" because it sounds sorta dumb...[/QUOTE] Take her on a casual date. Go to the movies or something or to a sporting event.

we've been on "dates", I'm going seeing her tomorrow and we're just going for a walk in the evening we've hugged and held hands before, never kissed though

And holding hands in more than a very friendly way if you get what I mean? If yes, and its obvious she's into you, you should go for a kiss.. probably if you're hugging her, pull back a little and look at her face. it'll be obvious if she wants to.

Anybody know how to get over a crippling fear of breaking the ice? I've been feeling really damn lonely nowadays, and the only thing that's keeping me from talking to someone to alleviate this loneliness is that when I try talking to someone (online or otherwise), I become distressingly scared and chicken-out of it. It's easy to tell myself to "man up", but at that critical moment I start walking/typing towards them fear overwhelming keeps me from doing so. I have no idea what to do.

[QUOTE=zerotwelve;34296978]we've been on "dates", I'm going seeing her tomorrow and we're just going for a walk in the evening we've hugged and held hands before, never kissed though[/QUOTE] Make tomorrow the day then.

I noticed that I've been getting some attention on my first day of the semester yesterday. Positive attention. I feel pretty confident when I walk around on my own at school. I think that might be it. I see a lot of kids walking who just look so timid and scared about their surroundings for some reason, but I'm so used to my environment on that campus that I just feel comfortable. Sometimes I feel like I could own the place, in a manner of speaking? I'm not egotistical or anything. Far from it. But I really like the feeling of confidence. It takes away a lot of my stress and puts me in a really relaxed state. I wasn't bothered by any of my new classes or new faces in any of my classes. Just confident and relaxed. It felt really nice.

[QUOTE=Pascall;34297552]I noticed that I've been getting some attention on my first day of the semester yesterday. Positive attention. I feel pretty confident when I walk around on my own at school. I think that might be it. I see a lot of kids walking who just look so timid and scared about their surroundings for some reason, but I'm so used to my environment on that campus that I just feel comfortable. Sometimes I feel like I could own the place, in a manner of speaking? I'm not egotistical or anything. Far from it. But I really like the feeling of confidence. It takes away a lot of my stress and puts me in a really relaxed state. I wasn't bothered by any of my new classes or new faces in any of my classes. Just confident and relaxed. It felt really nice.[/QUOTE] I love that feeling, especially since it propagates itself. If you feel confident like that people just respond positively in kind towards you which then makes you feel even better. Works especially well when meeting new people like you said. It's even better when you feel like shit and you get just a a little attention, a wry smile at the right point in the day can completely turn it around. [QUOTE=Levithan;34297147]Anybody know how to get over a crippling fear of breaking the ice? I've been feeling really damn lonely nowadays, and the only thing that's keeping me from talking to someone to alleviate this loneliness is that when I try talking to someone (online or otherwise), I become distressingly scared and chicken-out of it. It's easy to tell myself to "man up", but at that critical moment I start walking/typing towards them fear overwhelming keeps me from doing so. I have no idea what to do.[/QUOTE] Can't really suggest anything without know what you're fearing, is it just how the conversation will go? All I can suggest is just small comments, it's much easier to comment on something small rather than a straight out introduction. A probably useless example, but say you're at a bar/cafe/fine establishment and there is somebody you just want to talk to, just make a simple comment like "Drinks are pretty good for price here" or something like that. Then you'll either get the blank or a conversation, work form there.

I feel weird at school since I'm literally the only white guy in the one class I take. Good think I'm only on campus twice a week for a hour.

Yeah. I've already sort of made an impact in at least one of my classes. I have to wear sunglasses inside sometimes because my eyes are sensitive to fluorescent lights and I like to make jokes about it. People seem to find it funny, so I can have them laugh with me instead of at me. It's nice.

[QUOTE=Pascall;34297552]Sometimes I feel like I could own the place.[/QUOTE] This is how everyone should aim to feel in social situations or otherwise; complete comfort and confidence in your environment. Walk into a party feeling as if you own the room and you do.

[QUOTE=Pascall;34297818]Yeah. I've already sort of made an impact in at least one of my classes. I have to wear sunglasses inside sometimes because my eyes are sensitive to fluorescent lights and I like to make jokes about it. People seem to find it funny, so I can have them laugh with me instead of at me. It's nice.[/QUOTE] Your vision is augmented.

[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;34294206]Seith, you do know you don't have to rate [i]everybody[/i] winner?[/QUOTE] Everybody is a winner in my book, they just have to prove it first. [editline]20th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=zerotwelve;34295087]so I've been talking to this girl for a while as well as going out to places with her a few times at the weekend, it's been just over a month since we've been doing things and I think I'm getting all of the right signs how do I bring up the conversation of our relationship? I don't really want to try "are we more than just friends" because it sounds sorta dumb...[/QUOTE] If you've gone with her on a few "dates" "hang outs" and still haven't kissed her, you could be friendzoned right now. But, assuming you're not, go for the kiss and it's counterparts. Don't ask her, let her know, you want to take it to the next level. You obviously got physical approval of that... now it's just signing the papers baby. [editline]20th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Levithan;34297147]Anybody know how to get over a crippling fear of breaking the ice? I've been feeling really damn lonely nowadays, and the only thing that's keeping me from talking to someone to alleviate this loneliness is that when I try talking to someone (online or otherwise), I become distressingly scared and chicken-out of it. It's easy to tell myself to "man up", but at that critical moment I start walking/typing towards them fear overwhelming keeps me from doing so. I have no idea what to do.[/QUOTE] Be social, keep at it even though you think you suck at it. Time passes, you get better. that's life.

This isn't much of a social problem, but I can't cross a street with cars passing by. It's not a fear problem, but every time I try to cross, I almost get hit by a car. Every fucking time. Help?

[QUOTE=Pascall;34297552]I noticed that I've been getting some attention on my first day of the semester yesterday. Positive attention. I feel pretty confident when I walk around on my own at school. I think that might be it. I see a lot of kids walking who just look so timid and scared about their surroundings for some reason, but I'm so used to my environment on that campus that I just feel comfortable. Sometimes I feel like I could own the place, in a manner of speaking? I'm not egotistical or anything. Far from it. But I really like the feeling of confidence. It takes away a lot of my stress and puts me in a really relaxed state. I wasn't bothered by any of my new classes or new faces in any of my classes. Just confident and relaxed. It felt really nice.[/QUOTE] this is me p much 24/7 [editline]20th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Pascall;34297818]Yeah. I've already sort of made an impact in at least one of my classes. I have to wear sunglasses inside sometimes because my eyes are sensitive to fluorescent lights and I like to make jokes about it. People seem to find it funny, so I can have them laugh with me instead of at me. It's nice.[/QUOTE] mhmmm with you

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[QUOTE=Levithan;34297147]Anybody know how to get over a crippling fear of breaking the ice? I've been feeling really damn lonely nowadays, and the only thing that's keeping me from talking to someone to alleviate this loneliness is that when I try talking to someone (online or otherwise), I become distressingly scared and chicken-out of it. It's easy to tell myself to "man up", but at that critical moment I start walking/typing towards them fear overwhelming keeps me from doing so. I have no idea what to do.[/QUOTE] Man, I'm always scared when breaking the ice with new people. My fear was made even worse when I became a substitute teacher 5 months ago and I had to introduce myself to a new class every day or so. Every day I'd walk in feeling like I have a stomach bug because I know I can teach the material, but I'm scared as to how the students would react (irrational fear). I'm moving past the fear though, just by keeping at it every day. The only way to get over the fear of breaking the ice is to realize it's irrational, nothing horrendous is going to happen, and to do it multiple times a day/week until you get more comfortable doing it. Ask your friends to help you out if you ever get stuck.

get a retail job for a little while and you'll get over that fear

maybe i'm a broken person because the few times i'm nervous i tell myself "man up you blubbering vagina" and my balls enlarge like popeye's arms and i continue being fucking awesome

i believe you

I like my cousin's girlfriend. She's my age. How does this work.

Asking for trouble if you interfere. Don't do it.

[QUOTE=Pascall;34302984]Asking for trouble if you interfere. Don't do it.[/QUOTE] No, what if they break up. She's fine as hell and has probably the best personality I've ever witnessed.