The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v2 - General

[QUOTE=sonny99;34299915]This isn't much of a social problem, but I can't cross a street with cars passing by. It's not a fear problem, but every time I try to cross, I almost get hit by a car. Every fucking time. Help?[/QUOTE] 1, stop sucking at traffic. 2, You are not supposed to 3, there is a button at the corner that you should press.

Is there any sort of reasoning for why they may break up? If they do, don't just jump right in. You'll look like an asshole to one or the other. Wait for a certain amount of time. If they don't, don't bother.

She was actually just telling me about it, she's not happy with him for multiple reasons. Plus she just turned 18 and he's like 22. I'm 19. Anyways, I'm going to try to retain a friendship and go for it after a few months. She's not the type you let get away if you have a chance.

[QUOTE=Juice_Layer;34302981]I like my cousin's girlfriend. She's my age. How does this work.[/QUOTE] Are you close to your cousin? It wouldn't be much fun for him to have to hang out with you at family events knowing you stole his girlfriend. Liking a girl is a transitory thing, don't be a dick to family if you can help it.

I'm kind of annoyed with my buddy right now. He has a tendency to text me frequently when I don't respond, and it's shit like "Derp" and "ass" and things that... well... aren't conversation starters. I can't respond to this shit. It's kind of like, "oh, unread text... how the fuck to I respond to this?" Any ideas of what I should do?

I only see him at family gatherings, I've never been very close to that part of my family. Weird situation.. Anyways, I think they'd be able to see past it, lol. There's plenty of other drama that goes on between them.

[QUOTE=Protocol7;34303072]I'm kind of annoyed with my buddy right now. He has a tendency to text me frequently when I don't respond, and it's shit like "Derp" and "ass" and things that... well... aren't conversation starters. I can't respond to this shit. It's kind of like, "oh, unread text... how the fuck to I respond to this?" Any ideas of what I should do?[/QUOTE] A friend of mine use to do this. I just ignored him and he stopped. Now he sends actually sends texts that allow for some kind of conversation.

[QUOTE=Protocol7;34303072]I'm kind of annoyed with my buddy right now. He has a tendency to text me frequently when I don't respond, and it's shit like "Derp" and "ass" and things that... well... aren't conversation starters. I can't respond to this shit. It's kind of like, "oh, unread text... how the fuck to I respond to this?" Any ideas of what I should do?[/QUOTE] If he's really your buddy you should be able to tell him to stop it and lay off the texting. I've had to tell one of mine before. He still texts me like "whatsup" pretty often, and honestly I'll just ignore it haha.

[QUOTE=Protocol7;34303072]I'm kind of annoyed with my buddy right now. He has a tendency to text me frequently when I don't respond, and it's shit like "Derp" and "ass" and things that... well... aren't conversation starters. I can't respond to this shit. It's kind of like, "oh, unread text... how the fuck to I respond to this?" Any ideas of what I should do?[/QUOTE] I kind of fall into this issue except I don't even like responding to "What's up". I stopped seeing that as genuine a long time ago and sort of just feel like it's a sub-par greeting made to force conversation. Unless I know the person relatively well, I usually won't respond, and if I do know them, I still won't say much. Something along the lines of "not much" and then it's dropped. I like having conversations but it bugs me when they're just time passers.

That's what I do, and then he'll start bitching and I'll be like "It's kind of hard to respond to stupid shit like 'derp', bro"

I feel like I understand sociopaths sometimes. Not because I'd ever be interested in torture, rape or murder, but because I feel so alien, so removed from people sometimes. A two-minute conversation with a stranger is enough to give me an insight into who they are, how they see themselves, their motivations, their social strengths and weaknesses, and an ugly fact or two they may not know or choose to acknowledge about themselves. I can make people talk about themselves without them realizing it. I can appear to a stranger as literally any kind of person I choose to be. It's lonely. Depression has caused me to fall out of touch with all my old friends and acquaintances. I literally have nobody to talk to. I don't feel particularly good about it, but I don't feel bad about it either. What am I supposed to feel?

What bugs the shit out of me is when people get upset when I can't hold a conversation that THEY started. I'm like "uhhh ok". I don't even know how to respond. So I usually just stop.

The stupid thing is you may have a conversation like a sociopath but it's a small step to get better at it and become great at having a conversation, while still being a sociopath. Jo said about a retail job and after getting one, I may have improved my conversational skills so I can carry out a proper conversation, but I still invest none of myself into it. Faking facial expressions like they're normal, doing the standard back and forth, actually being interesting, yet I couldn't give a fuck about them or anything.

I'm more annoyed when someone starts a conversation and doesn't even keep it up well, if you really want to talk to me... find something to fucking talk about.

[QUOTE=thisispain;34301995]i believe you[/QUOTE] i dont l-o-l i think cheesemonkey views himself very differently to how he is

[QUOTE=archangel125;34303114]I feel like I understand sociopaths sometimes. Not because I'd ever be interested in torture, rape or murder, but because I feel so alien, so removed from people sometimes. A two-minute conversation with a stranger is enough to give me an insight into who they are, how they see themselves, their motivations, their social strengths and weaknesses, and an ugly fact or two they may not know or choose to acknowledge about themselves. I can make people talk about themselves without them realizing it. I can appear to a stranger as literally any kind of person I choose to be. It's lonely. Depression has caused me to fall out of touch with all my old friends and acquaintances. I literally have nobody to talk to. I don't feel particularly good about it, but I don't feel bad about it either. What am I supposed to feel?[/QUOTE] The reason you are alienated is because you view yourself as some kind of differing mind that can read people perfectly. How old are you? Chances are you are completely misreading people and by trying to judge their traits and focus on bad traits that you are not even sure they possess creates a horrible mindset. To me you seem like a moody teenager type who believes they see the world through different eyes. I am not trying to insult you when I say that, it is just that I used to act the exact same way. Also anyone know of any good ways to seal off my pockets? Spaghetti keeps falling out.

[QUOTE=1chains1;34303315]The reason you are alienated is because you view yourself as some kind of differing mind that can read people perfectly. How old are you? Chances are you are completely misreading people and by trying to judge their traits and focus on bad traits that you are not even sure they possess creates a horrible mindset. To me you seem like a moody teenager type who believes they see the world through different eyes. I am not trying to insult you when I say that, it is just that I used to act the exact same way. Also anyone know of any good ways to seal off my pockets? Spaghetti keeps falling out.[/QUOTE] I'm 21 now. And I only believe that I can read people well because I can make literally anyone, even the angriest, most unreasonable person, come around to my point of view, and quickly. I can fake concern and I can fake interest in someone or something, and do it convincingly, without apparent effort. I'm not boasting when I say I can make anyone like me when they first meet me. It's a useful skill, to be sure, but not one I take pleasure from. The woman I'm most interested in right now is so fascinating to me because she's the only human being I've met so far who seems to be able to do the same. We've been friends for three years, and I know her very well now - And all I've learned about her seems that much more precious to me because of the time it took to learn it. And to this day, when I try to guess what she's thinking, I'm still wrong more often than I'm right.

[QUOTE=archangel125;34303370]I'm 21 now. And I only believe that I can read people well because I can make literally anyone, even the angriest, most unreasonable person, come around to my point of view, and quickly. I can fake concern and I can fake interest in someone or something, and do it convincingly, without apparent effort. I'm not boasting when I say I can make anyone like me when they first meet me. It's a useful skill, to be sure, but not one I take pleasure from. The woman I'm most interested in right now is so fascinating to me because she's the only human being I've met so far who seems to be able to do the same. We've been friends for three years, and I know her very well now - And all I've learned about her seems that much more precious to me because of the time it took to learn it. And to this day, when I try to guess what she's thinking, I'm still wrong more often than I'm right.[/QUOTE] Lol, I'm sorry, but I'm pretty sure anyone can read another person in a short amount of time and work their way to form some sort of mutual trust. It's called deception. A common human trait believe it or not.

[QUOTE=archangel125;34303370]I'm 21 now. And I only believe that I can read people well because I can make literally anyone, even the angriest, most unreasonable person, come around to my point of view, and quickly. I can fake concern and I can fake interest in someone or something, and do it convincingly, without apparent effort. I'm not boasting when I say I can make anyone like me when they first meet me. It's a useful skill, to be sure, but not one I take pleasure from. The woman I'm most interested in right now is so fascinating to me because she's the only human being I've met so far who seems to be able to do the same. We've been friends for three years, and I know her very well now - And all I've learned about her seems that much more precious to me because of the time it took to learn it. And to this day, when I try to guess what she's thinking, I'm still wrong more often than I'm right.[/QUOTE] Cool.

[QUOTE=archangel125;34303370]I'm 21 now. And I only believe that I can read people well because I can make literally anyone, even the angriest, most unreasonable person, come around to my point of view, and quickly. I can fake concern and I can fake interest in someone or something, and do it convincingly, without apparent effort. I'm not boasting when I say I can make anyone like me when they first meet me. It's a useful skill, to be sure, but not one I take pleasure from. The woman I'm most interested in right now is so fascinating to me because she's the only human being I've met so far who seems to be able to do the same. We've been friends for three years, and I know her very well now - And all I've learned about her seems that much more precious to me because of the time it took to learn it. And to this day, when I try to guess what she's thinking, I'm still wrong more often than I'm right.[/QUOTE] ...uh...that is called basic social skills and brown nosing. Congratulations you have the skills required to be in the sales department at your local best buy.

i dont like u myth busted

[QUOTE=Pascall;34305369]i dont like u myth busted[/QUOTE] You just don't understand his incredibly deep and deceptive skills.

[QUOTE=archangel125;34303370]I'm 21 now. And I only believe that I can read people well because I can make literally anyone, even the angriest, most unreasonable person, come around to my point of view, and quickly. I can fake concern and I can fake interest in someone or something, and do it convincingly, without apparent effort. I'm not boasting when I say I can make anyone like me when they first meet me. It's a useful skill, to be sure, but not one I take pleasure from. The woman I'm most interested in right now is so fascinating to me because she's the only human being I've met so far who seems to be able to do the same. We've been friends for three years, and I know her very well now - And all I've learned about her seems that much more precious to me because of the time it took to learn it. And to this day, when I try to guess what she's thinking, I'm still wrong more often than I'm right.[/QUOTE] Been there. You are being a complete idiot. You see through others but not through yourself. You fell to depression and loneliness due to your own actions. Think about it, why is this need rising every time you talk to a person? why do you think everybody is faking themselves in the first place so that you actually have a need to ask yourself those questions? Because of the exact reason you alienate people. You want them in your life, so you test them, their honesty. In order for them to be there for you, you must trust them, but that kind of notion goes both ways. Allow yourself to trust others and others will follow. This constant need to know everything, this constant "superiority" you feel is a product of your own lack of trust in people. If you believe, again, people are in essence good and want to give you their trust you need to believe it first. Yes, the world is evil, how does this make you above everybody else? start understanding, it doesn't matter besides your own need to satisfy yourself, that you're are above everybody, when in essence, again, you're exactly the opposite - a man in a world where he can't accept anybody and nobody can accept him - a lonely man, giving out excuses. very verbose and I'm tired. Read it slowly and I'm sure you'd be able to follow [editline]20th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Devodiere;34303245]The stupid thing is you may have a conversation like a sociopath but it's a small step to get better at it and become great at having a conversation, while still being a sociopath. Jo said about a retail job and after getting one, I may have improved my conversational skills so I can carry out a proper conversation, but I still invest none of myself into it. Faking facial expressions like they're normal, doing the standard back and forth, actually being interesting, yet I couldn't give a fuck about them or anything.[/QUOTE] how insanely human of you

I don't care about some people but I at least try to or else I feel like a cunt

[QUOTE=Pascall;34305695]I don't care about some people but I at least try to or else I feel like a cunt[/QUOTE] How insanely moral of you.

[QUOTE=Pascall;34305695]I don't care about some people but I at least try to or else I feel like a cunt[/QUOTE] I am cool with anyone who doesn't act like a complete ass, but if someone does something to annoy me I can't help but being blunt with them to the point where it is offensive. I should work on that. edit- Like yesterday some guy announces to the class "Did you hear the US government is going to censer the internet?!?! They already shut down wikipedia!" Conversation moves on into politics and some other guy says "Yea the USA is going to war with Iran, and Russia said they would declare war on us if we do fight Iran!" I really wanted to explain to them how they were wrong but I knew it would just turn into an awkward rant that would get neither party anywhere. I hate my class.

no you shouldn't

[QUOTE=Seith;34305836]no you shouldn't[/QUOTE] I should. It is getting to the point where I am anti social because if someone says something that I feel is stupid I pretty much walk away. (note that I feel a shitton of things are stupid, and the stuff I don't feel is stupid is usually stuff that puts other people to sleep.) edit- Not that I feel the things I am interested in are too complicated, it is just that the majority of my highschool classmates would rather talk about how one of them put their pubes in their friend's soup then about breaching a lake inside a giant slab of ice.

give me an example.

[QUOTE=Seith;34305884]give me an example.[/QUOTE] Like if someone tries to gossip to me about how someone I used to know got pregnant. I don't care about the personal business of other people but that is pretty much what 75% of conversation in this school is about. I just feel it is the same uninteresting bullshit spewing from people's mouths everyday.