The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v2 - General

[QUOTE=An Axolotl;34317603]I'm 15 and I haven't been in a relationship yet, am I doing something wrong here. I've always been shy, but most of my friends have a girlfriend. Maybe I'm setting my standards too high. :c[/QUOTE] I had a couple of "relationships" when I was in like middle school, but as far as dating in high school I didn't really date anyone until I was 16, almost 17. I started dating my previous girlfriend when I was 18 and we just broke up now that I'm 19. I'd say that's my first true relationship. Learned a lot from it. You're not doing anything wrong man. Also, when the time comes that you do get a girlfriend, make sure you don't get too serious too soon, trust me it isn't fun. Also, it's good to keep your standards high, but not too high. I mean, you need to find a girl you can enjoy both aesthetically and socially.

[QUOTE=Juice_Layer;34324899] Also, it's good to keep your standards high, but not too high. I mean, you need to find a girl you can enjoy both aesthetically and socially.[/QUOTE] That's so freaking stupid. You don't think you deserve, realistically, to be able to date a very good looking woman with good character? Is that, what, impossible in our reality?

Hey guys I have a friend. He is really socially odd, and like.... a bit of a creppy. While i am a bit of the same, Ive been told by guys and girls its a funny, joking around kind of way. Not with him. He is a legit creeper. He is on some website called myyearbook.com and just being overall pathetic. He is really desperate to find a girl, but he hides it rather well, but we know. Me and a friend are thinking of trying to help him get away from his awful ways. Should we help him or let him make his mistakes?

[QUOTE=gerbile5;34325392]Hey guys I have a friend. He is really socially odd, and like.... a bit of a creppy. While i am a bit of the same, Ive been told by guys and girls its a funny, joking around kind of way. Not with him. He is a legit creeper. He is on some website called myyearbook.com and just being overall pathetic. He is really desperate to find a girl, but he hides it rather well, but we know. Me and a friend are thinking of trying to help him get away from his awful ways. Should we help him or let him make his mistakes?[/QUOTE] Well if you know his interests, find him a date. If he's uncomfortable, just go in a group to the movies with a girl, have them sit next to each other, and see if they click.

[QUOTE=RIPBILLYMAYS;34325542]Well if you know his interests, find him a date. If he's uncomfortable, just go in a group to the movies with a girl, have them sit next to each other, and see if they click.[/QUOTE] we know he liked some girl. I personally told him "if you like her, just ask her out. it's simple". he kepts going no no no no noooooooooooo. he has like no confidence in himself. i really think he needs to drop weight and use skin moisturizer on his face and stuff but idk i dont think i could say that to him.

so this guy high up on the food chain has it out for me for some reason, and his friends are joining in i actually don't know what i did to piss this guy off, but he's doing his best to make my life hell hard times

[QUOTE=Mon;34326719]so this guy high up on the food chain has it out for me for some reason, and his friends are joining in i actually don't know what i did to piss this guy off, but he's doing his best to make my life hell hard times[/QUOTE] Exactly how? are they physically harassing you? [editline]21st January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=gerbile5;34326687]we know he liked some girl. I personally told him "if you like her, just ask her out. it's simple". he kepts going no no no no noooooooooooo. he has like no confidence in himself. i really think he needs to drop weight and use skin moisturizer on his face and stuff but idk i dont think i could say that to him.[/QUOTE] Actually this sounds like something that is bothering you, not him. As in, "he's ugly, causing me bad reputation, we either fix him or fucking detach ourselves from him"

I asked that girl out! She said no but eh w/e I feel great for actually doing it. She said she was busy, when I jokingly told her to suggest a different day she said she wasn't sure when she was free but would "keep you [me] updated". I doubt it.

[QUOTE=Mon;34326719]so this guy high up on the food chain has it out for me for some reason, and his friends are joining in i actually don't know what i did to piss this guy off, but he's doing his best to make my life hell hard times[/QUOTE] life can get shitty, and I've been there done that got out of it and became better remembering these things always made me feel better when those days I got ditched, lied to, hurt etc. you'll always have people that hate you disrespect you, make your life pretty shitty, just remember that everyone does and you should never ever do anything to appease them, if they continue their shit, fire right back and don't put up with it like I did, if you show that you shouldn't be fucked with you'll stop and people will actually respect you. everyone also has problems in some way, you might not see it but the people that seem like they have the perfect lives ( hot girlfriends, awesome jobs, best cars etc.) but they don't and everyone has problems, just remember that you have to overcome it man good luck bro

Ok date feedback. Apparently she thought this was just a thing between friends which is alright. If any of you watched the Penguins game we came back from 1-3 to 5-4 winning in a shootout. We got to talk a lot and I forgot how the topic of dating came up but apparently she's had really shitty boyfriends in the past. One was a jerk who said she wasn't good enough for him and the other wanted her to sext him. She told me she doubts she'll try dating again until she's out of college but she's unsure. I got to take her behind the scenes of the hockey arena with my dad and she saw the video control room and got to stand on the ice. She also got a lot of swag from my dad since there's always a lot of promo crap lying around in his office. She told me that this was the best night of her life and she had the most fun she's ever had. I walked her up to the door in the snow and she hugged me, thanking me for taking her. I'm glad I took her. Pic related it's us in our seats. [img_thumb]http://i.imgur.com/RkEym.jpg[/img_thumb]

[QUOTE=RIPBILLYMAYS;34327754]Ok date feedback. Apparently she thought this was just a thing between friends which is alright. If any of you watched the Penguins game we came back from 1-3 to 5-4 winning in a shootout. We got to talk a lot and I forgot how the topic of dating came up but apparently she's had really shitty boyfriends in the past. One was a jerk who said she wasn't good enough for him and the other wanted her to sext him. She told me she doubts she'll try dating again until she's out of college but she's unsure. I got to take her behind the scenes of the hockey arena with my dad and she saw the video control room and got to stand on the ice. She also got a lot of swag from my dad since there's always a lot of promo crap lying around in his office. She told me that this was the best night of her life and she had the most fun she's ever had. I walked her up to the door in the snow and she hugged me, thanking me for taking her. I'm glad I took her. Pic related it's us in our seats. [img_thumb]http://i.imgur.com/RkEym.jpg[/img_thumb][/QUOTE] To be honest that sounds like her trying to bullshit her way out of dating you without hurting your feelings and keeping the friendship. Saying "oh I dated two guys who were shitty one said mean things to me and the other had a sex drive" sounds like a retarded thing to be scarred over, and she obviously trusts you enough to hang out with you so she knows youre not like them. Youre very naive.

[QUOTE=Seith;34327071]Exactly how? are they physically harassing you? [/QUOTE] it's just words so far, there'll be some smack talk on facebook and irl, but the one guy at the center of it all wants to scrap i know he could kick my ass, he works out and is 6'1 (i'm 5'7). so far i haven't been letting him shove me around, but bringing his buddies into it has complicated things

unless RIPBILLYMAYS lives in a heavy christian area that is

so guys i have this sort of silly thing i need to get off my chest i'm scared to death of one day being gay - i've never had a crush on a girl, but i do look at (some) girls and think "gee she's pretty" or "wish i looked like that" - i have watched lesbian or solo-girl porn before, but i'm not really sure whether i've done it because i relate to the pleasure the girls get, but not the pleasure guys get - like, i know how it feels for a girl but not for a guy - i have a boyfriend, and we do rock the bed quite a lot and it's not like i think about girls while doing it but i just can't get rid of the "what if i'm just gay all along?" it's so silly but it's really messing with my head i have a lot of ocd symptoms and my boyfriend and whole family is convinced i have it and i don't know if that might have something to do with it - what i really need is for someone to say to me in a convincing tone that i'm not fucking gay and it's not like being gay would be that bad for me, seeing as my whole family is quite acceptant - i guess my biggest fear is that i wouldn't have my boyfriend if i was gay, and i can't stand that thought

[QUOTE=Seith;34327071]Exactly how? are they physically harassing you? [editline]21st January 2012[/editline] Actually this sounds like something that is bothering you, not him. As in, "he's ugly, causing me bad reputation, we either fix him or fucking detach ourselves from him"[/QUOTE] it bothers me, yes, because he likes her and wont take action because he isn't confident in himself. Losing weight, AS TOLD TO ME BY YOU GUYS, helps to boost confidence. And him not being good looking does not hurt me. I am not an attractive person and I will be the first to admit it.

[QUOTE=SaWAH;34328737]so guys i have this sort of silly thing i need to get off my chest i'm scared to death of one day being gay - i've never had a crush on a girl, but i do look at (some) girls and think "gee she's pretty" or "wish i looked like that" - i have watched lesbian or solo-girl porn before, but i'm not really sure whether i've done it because i relate to the pleasure the girls get, but not the pleasure guys get - like, i know how it feels for a girl but not for a guy - i have a boyfriend, and we do rock the bed quite a lot and it's not like i think about girls while doing it but i just can't get rid of the "what if i'm just gay all along?" it's so silly but it's really messing with my head i have a lot of ocd symptoms and my boyfriend and whole family is convinced i have it and i don't know if that might have something to do with it - what i really need is for someone to say to me in a convincing tone that i'm not fucking gay and it's not like being gay would be that bad for me, seeing as my whole family is quite acceptant - i guess my biggest fear is that i wouldn't have my boyfriend if i was gay, and i can't stand that thought[/QUOTE] If you are in a monogamous relationship with your boyfriend and are attracted to him, then it is a non-issue and especially if you're never even had a crush on a girl, that points strongly towards 'not-gay' [B]until you have a crush on a girl you are not gay and you don't even need to worry about it if you're committed and attracted to your boyfriend[/B] [editline]22nd January 2012[/editline] if you've grown up in an accepting environment, it's pretty unlikely that one day you will wake up and realize 'oh dang I actually like women'

So during the past month I found out that 4 girls, all of whom have shown interest in me, have boyfriends. I know this sounds beta as all FUCK but I have literally no girls left to chase, what the fuck do I do now? Oh and one of those girls is my crush, which is why I'm all beta about it.

[QUOTE=SaWAH;34328737] i guess my biggest fear is that i wouldn't have my boyfriend if i was gay, and i can't stand that thought[/QUOTE] You answered your own question, youre not gay. You could be a bit bi curious but to be honest that is a lot more common than you think.

[QUOTE=SaWAH;34328737]but i just can't get rid of the "what if i'm just gay all along?"[/QUOTE] what if I'm so gay even I don't know I'm gay

[QUOTE=SaWAH;34328737]- i've never had a crush on a girl, but i do look at (some) girls and think "gee she's pretty" or "wish i looked like that"[/QUOTE] i don't think there's anything wrong with finding other women attractive. if i see a picture of really good looking girl i can appreciate that she is good looking. and if i see a picture of a pretty naked lady it won't turn me on, but it's still nice to look at - aesthetics and all that! [editline]21st January 2012[/editline] it doesn't mean i'm down for the kebab

[QUOTE=Autumn;34329104]and if i see a picture of a pretty naked lady it won't turn me on, but it's still nice to look at [/QUOTE] I don't know why but for some reason I started laughing when I read this. "Hmmm yes the nipples are quite symmetrical how lovely I can appreciate this in a totally non-sexual way."

i like naked ladies c:

[QUOTE=Mon;34329389]i like naked ladies c:[/QUOTE] Too bad they dont like you

[QUOTE=SaWAH;34328737]so guys i have this sort of silly thing i need to get off my chest i'm scared to death of one day being gay - i've never had a crush on a girl, but i do look at (some) girls and think "gee she's pretty" or "wish i looked like that" - i have watched lesbian or solo-girl porn before, but i'm not really sure whether i've done it because i relate to the pleasure the girls get, but not the pleasure guys get - like, i know how it feels for a girl but not for a guy - i have a boyfriend, and we do rock the bed quite a lot and it's not like i think about girls while doing it but i just can't get rid of the "what if i'm just gay all along?" it's so silly but it's really messing with my head i have a lot of ocd symptoms and my boyfriend and whole family is convinced i have it and i don't know if that might have something to do with it - what i really need is for someone to say to me in a convincing tone that i'm not fucking gay and it's not like being gay would be that bad for me, seeing as my whole family is quite acceptant - i guess my biggest fear is that i wouldn't have my boyfriend if i was gay, and i can't stand that thought[/QUOTE] You're contradicting yourself a lot in this piece of text. At first, you say you're scared of being gay, and then you say it's just the fact you won't have a boyfriend. This is something you should solve yourself, with yourself. I mean, are you scared because you are feeling yourself more attracted to women, or is it really because you need to satisfy the heads of the people around you? do what you want, not what everybody else wants of you.

[QUOTE=1chains1;34329409]Too bad they dont like you[/QUOTE] dam

[QUOTE=Autumn;34329104]i don't think there's anything wrong with finding other women attractive. if i see a picture of really good looking girl i can appreciate that she is good looking. and if i see a picture of a pretty naked lady it won't turn me on, but it's still nice to look at - aesthetics and all that! [editline]21st January 2012[/editline] it doesn't mean i'm down for the kebab[/QUOTE] Kebab? That really doesn't excite my taste-buds. Shouldn't kebab a metaphor for men?

[QUOTE=Mon;34329504]dam[/QUOTE] It is ok I like you. I also like to watch you naked, but it is in a totally non sexual way.

[QUOTE=Seith;34329544]Kebab? That really doesn't excite my taste-buds. Shouldn't kebab a metaphor for men?[/QUOTE] A kebab looks nothing like the male genitalia. Think about it.

[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;34329675]A kebab looks nothing like the male genitalia. Think about it.[/QUOTE] does that make me the odd one out

[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;34329675]A kebab looks nothing like the male genitalia. Think about it.[/QUOTE] Why would I want to think about dicks and kebabs when I can just use context clues and know she meant vaginas?