The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v2 - General

[QUOTE=1chains1;34351383]No, she obviously wants to work on homework. DJKHFJKSDGHJKG WHAT THE HELL IS WITH WOMEN THINKING THEYRE GAY THESE DAYS BUT WANTING TO DO SEXUAL SHIT TO BOYS?!?![/Q] She doesn't know dude. I don't know. ITS A CONFUSING MOTHER FUCKING WORLD!

My sexual experiences so far have been nonexistent...

[QUOTE=1chains1;34348851]I never understood criteria for the other sex. I just kind of do my thing and be there. Like a lamp, or table or some other furniture. Maybe a couch, because then girls would sit in my lap. Yea a couch sounds rad.[/QUOTE] I don't really have any strict criteria. When I like someone, I like them.

I might have preferences, or a taste, but it really all depends on where the chemistry leads us. I could have nothing in common with a girl and yet have better chemistry with her than a best friend with similar interests. It all depends.

criteria: she needs to be a reader, serious literary shit needs to be left-wing to an extent no spray-on tans or fake boobs bonus points if she's miserable and into weird shit

Criteria: A female version of me with a lady-like body.

[QUOTE=FlakAttack;34348574]See if larger condoms work better for you. If the condoms are too tight, it will make you a lot less sensitive (condoms already take away some of that sensitivity) and can even cause discomfort/pain. Not likely to cause damage or anything, just saying. I had exactly the same problems as you, started using larger ones and they mostly went away. Condoms should feel a little tight, but not "choke my dick off at the base" tight.[/QUOTE] Yeah I think larger ones may help...They seemed a little tight (not painful or uncomfortable though) and had the tendency to slide forward a bit whevener we stopped for a second.

urrg... not sure where/who else to ask this so I guess I'll ask you guys. God, this is going to sound dumb. Its a small decision I'll have to make that may determine a gigantic unnecessary shit storm with my mentally-unstable family. I have an Aunt who is incredibly bipolar, and for the past 17 years has been mentally and emotionally pushing me down. Nice lady when she's in a good mood, but if you trigger something inside her she'll make your life a living hell. She'll do so much for a person, but for the wrong reasons, her usual motive was control. I recently told her I never wanted to speak to her again since she adds unneeded grief and stress in my life, this action of mine caused a major blowout where she was almost on the brink of suicide. Now her husband, my Uncle, is a very nice man but a complete beta pushover. Never having kids of his own hes always looked at my siblings and I as the closest thing to children. Caring for me so much, he was deeply saddened when I stood up and told him I never want to be part of their dysfunctional life. I'm also angry at him for standing idly by when his wife would go batshit insane on me. There is way more depth to this story, but this is the shortest i can type without anyone getting bored/massive wall of text. Fast forward almost a year, right now, made no contact with any of them thus far aside from random hate mail I see from my Aunt. My mom told me today that my Uncle was coming to cali for a business trip and would love to see me and the family for dinner. Now this is my dilemma. My initial reaction was was "no" where i was then scolded on how devastated my Uncle would be if i refused to go. I feel so silly for not being able to make up my mind about this, but its going to be awkward/uncomfortable for me to see him again plus my vow to never get wrapped up in their lives. Not to mention, if i decide not to my mother will never let me live this down. I just KNOW if I do he'll try to convince me to talk to my Aunt again. I just know that she'll start calling me up the next day crying about how sorry she is and the cycle I've tried to escape for 17 years will continue again. He is a really nice guy who's done a great deal for me. I feel so stupid writing this for some reason. So, what should I do? Family can be such a pain in the ass.

Goddamn dude it's one simple dinner that your going to with just your uncle so yeah go there. Just because your uncle wants to see you doesn't mean you have to deal with your aunt.

I know, I sometimes over think things.

So, it turns out my girlfriend has a legitimate fear of being naked in front of others. Now, we already talked about it and agreed to just take things slow and help her the same way I've helped her with other fears, which is just helping her get used to it best I can. I'm just posting here because I'm wondering if you all might have some better advice?

Well this girl I like shes now asking around if people want to come to the cricket with her on Facebook. hopefully someone else hasnt taken up her offer.

[QUOTE=Jimmaye;34354931]Well this girl I like shes now asking around if people want to come to the cricket with her on Facebook. hopefully someone else hasnt taken up her offer.[/QUOTE] Don't think . Act. [editline]23rd January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=dmillerw;34354683]So, it turns out my girlfriend has a legitimate fear of being naked in front of others. Now, we already talked about it and agreed to just take things slow and help her the same way I've helped her with other fears, which is just helping her get used to it best I can. I'm just posting here because I'm wondering if you all might have some better advice?[/QUOTE] Tell her to get naked by herself when she's home alone. The first thing she needs to do in order to become comfortable around other people naked is to first become comfortable with herself. Let her get use to her own skin and accept herself. Once she does this then she'll let other people close to her. It sounds ridiculous but it works. Also she should experiment sexually with herself if she doesn't already.

[QUOTE=Dr. Disciple;34355748]Tell her to get naked by herself when she's home alone. The first thing she needs to do in order to become comfortable around other people naked is to first become comfortable with herself. Let her get use to her own skin and accept herself. Once she does this then she'll let other people close to her. It sounds ridiculous but it works. Also she should experiment sexually with herself if she doesn't already.[/QUOTE] This is good advice. I'd like to add that if she has trouble being naked even with herself, she should start by sleeping naked.

Me again with the same problem as always. Never see this girl, spoken to her before, want to get the damn ball rolling but I [b]never see her[/b]

I've been having relationship trouble for the past week and I'm usually 100% independent and I'm very keen on solving my own relationship problems. But recently it's been getting worse, the issue is my girlfriend and me are both stubborn, outgoing, people but the one small difference is my girlfriend is dependent on me and I refuse to be dependent on her, I'm very keen on being independent (previous relationships, aka I could leave her and not worry about being hurt) and before she's pressed our relationship to a breaking point just so she could get some attention from me we stopped talking because I needed space for a couple of days so she thought it'd be okay if she went to a party at a heroin user's house, after talking she finally admitted she did something wrong, and continued to cry so I didn't dump her but after that I'm finding it incredibly hard to trust her now and our relationship kind of sucks we had a big talk last night because we were both really unhappy and we agreed that we should just see where things go but I can easily tell unless one of us really changes its going to end fairly quickly here

[QUOTE=Mr.Dounut;34358284]aka I could leave her and not worry about being hurt[/QUOTE] then i don't think you care enough about her/the relationship to justify staying in it.

[QUOTE=thisispain;34353198] bonus points if she's miserable and into weird shit[/QUOTE] Kind of like the girl I was previously madly 'in love' with: She went to an eating disorder hospital for a month and a half and I think has gone back, and has been slacking in her academics and might not be able to graduate. Good choice, eh? [editline]23rd January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=The Maestro;34358226]Me again with the same problem as always. Never see this girl, spoken to her before, want to get the damn ball rolling but I [b]never see her[/b][/QUOTE] If that's the case I'd see if you can maybe get together by asking her via facebook, phone, etc. I'd recommend calling first, (assuming you have her number).

[QUOTE=redBadger;34358579]If that's the case I'd see if you can maybe get together by asking her via facebook, phone, etc. I'd recommend calling first, (assuming you have her number).[/QUOTE] I don't, and she doesn't have a Facebook either.

[QUOTE=FlakAttack;34357667]This is good advice. I'd like to add that if she has trouble being naked even with herself, she should start by sleeping naked.[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Dr. Disciple;34355748]Don't think . Act. [editline]23rd January 2012[/editline] Tell her to get naked by herself when she's home alone. The first thing she needs to do in order to become comfortable around other people naked is to first become comfortable with herself. Let her get use to her own skin and accept herself. Once she does this then she'll let other people close to her. It sounds ridiculous but it works. Also she should experiment sexually with herself if she doesn't already.[/QUOTE] To the best of my knowledge, she doesn't have a problem with just herself, but a combination of being self-conscious and a bad experience a couple years ago (doctors forcefully stripped her naked after her mom was making false accusations of drug abuse) just makes it difficult when around others. Also, being in a house with four sisters, and sharing a room would make both being naked, and experimenting, rather difficult. Is there much I can do? Assuming it's only a fear when around other people.

[QUOTE=dmillerw;34358713]To the best of my knowledge, she doesn't have a problem with just herself, but a combination of being self-conscious and a bad experience a couple years ago (doctors forcefully stripped her naked after her mom was making false accusations of drug abuse) just makes it difficult when around others. Also, being in a house with four sisters, and sharing a room would make both being naked, and experimenting, rather difficult. Is there much I can do? Assuming it's only a fear when around other people.[/QUOTE] But "movies" have taught me that sisters living together like to get naked and experiment in the shower together. If this isn't true, I'm going to have to rethink my whole outlook on life. [editline]23rd January 2012[/editline] Also, I have a little bit of a problem. I'll start with some back-story. I go to school with the girl that I really want to ask out, but she's constantly with her friends, I mean she NEVER leaves their sides. And one of them is a guy, which makes it a lot more difficult. She's also in none of my classes so I can't go over and talk about homework or something. So basically what I'm asking is, when should I go and talk to her? Should I do it when her friends are in the middle of a conversation? I would think that's a bit rude. Also if I don't get a chance, is asking her out on Facebook really that big of a deal? Because charm is still conveyed over FB isn't it?

[QUOTE='[CWG]RustySpannerz;34359257']But "movies" have taught me that sisters living together like to get naked and experiment in the shower together. If this isn't true, I'm going to have to rethink my whole outlook on life. [editline]23rd January 2012[/editline] Also, I have a little bit of a problem. I'll start with some back-story. I go to school with the girl that I really want to ask out, but she's constantly with her friends, I mean she NEVER leaves their sides. And one of them is a guy, which makes it a lot more difficult. She's also in none of my classes so I can't go over and talk about homework or something. So basically what I'm asking is, when should I go and talk to her? Should I do it when her friends are in the middle of a conversation? I would think that's a bit rude. Also if I don't get a chance, is asking her out on Facebook really that big of a deal? Because charm is still conveyed over FB isn't it?[/QUOTE] Maverick would say go in the middle of the group and ask. Shows balls. It's ~alpha as fuck.~

So during lunch a hot friend-girl of mine flirts with me, and she usually does this. My friend sees this and tells me that I should ask her out, and I'm currently considering this. Next period while waiting for class to begin she walks up to me, puts her arm around me, gets close and kisses me on the cheek. She doesn't go around kissing guys so here I am, shocked a girl would do this. She kisses again, I kiss back, we all go home happy. I have no issue with this but for what reason would a girl spontaneously do this, besides if she likes me?

About a year ago I asked out this girl, she said no (shit happens), but because of this we became good friends and for about a year we hung out and that, we talked and called each other but I've always had feelings for this girl and I think she knows this and she's taking advantage of it; she was also in a relationship with a good friend of mine about 2 months before I asked her out. I think she still likes him and is using me to make him jealous, I think this because she's weird around me. Sometimes she's nice to me and sometimes she's ignorant as fuck and I can't help it. I really like this girl and what's really hurting is the fact that I'll never actually get with her and I'll take every chance I get to interact/socialise with her Not knowing that she is just fucking me around. She was arguing with me today about me being a dick because I only replying to some of her bullshit kanye west lyrics with, "nice", you know, one word answers and then I just fucking lost it. What I want is just to forget about her, to move on and actually meet a girl who likes me, and I've had the chance but it's just I keep thinking about this girl and It's killing me. :((

Go for it AmericanInfantry

[QUOTE=AmericanInfantry;34360721]So during lunch a hot friend-girl of mine flirts with me, and she usually does this. My friend sees this and tells me that I should ask her out, and I'm currently considering this. Next period while waiting for class to begin she walks up to me, puts her arm around me, gets close and kisses me on the cheek. She doesn't go around kissing guys so here I am, shocked a girl would do this. She kisses again, I kiss back, we all go home happy. I have no issue with this but for what reason would a girl spontaneously do this, besides if she likes me?[/QUOTE] grr just ask her out already

[QUOTE=AmericanInfantry;34360721]I have no issue with this but for what [U]reason[/U] would a [B]girl [/B][B]spontaneously[/B] do this[I],[/I] besides if she likes me?[/QUOTE] The underlined word has no correlation to the bolded words.

[QUOTE=AmericanInfantry;34360721]So during lunch a hot friend-girl of mine flirts with me, and she usually does this. My friend sees this and tells me that I should ask her out, and I'm currently considering this. Next period while waiting for class to begin she walks up to me, puts her arm around me, gets close and kisses me on the cheek. She doesn't go around kissing guys so here I am, shocked a girl would do this. She kisses again, I kiss back, we all go home happy. I have no issue with this but for what reason would a girl spontaneously do this, besides if she likes me?[/QUOTE] no reason ffs ask her out

[QUOTE=Phsykotik;34360202]Maverick would say go in the middle of the group and ask. Shows balls. It's ~alpha as fuck.~[/QUOTE] That's what I would recommend doing in face of a situation where you obviously have to deal with a group? be "alpha", isolate her from the group, enjoy. [editline]23rd January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Typhoonx10;34360743]About a year ago I asked out this girl, she said no (shit happens), but because of this we became good friends and for about a year we hung out and that, we talked and called each other but I've always had feelings for this girl and I think she knows this and she's taking advantage of it; she was also in a relationship with a good friend of mine about 2 months before I asked her out. I think she still likes him and is using me to make him jealous, I think this because she's weird around me. Sometimes she's nice to me and sometimes she's ignorant as fuck and I can't help it. I really like this girl and what's really hurting is the fact that I'll never actually get with her and I'll take every chance I get to interact/socialise with her Not knowing that she is just fucking me around. She was arguing with me today about me being a dick because I only replying to some of her bullshit kanye west lyrics with, "nice", you know, one word answers and then I just fucking lost it. What I want is just to forget about her, to move on and actually meet a girl who likes me, and I've had the chance but it's just I keep thinking about this girl and It's killing me. :(([/QUOTE] Start taking action. Thinking about your needs and desires is about as useful as blueprints on paper.

Oh my giddy aunt, I didn't read this thread for like a few days and there was hundreds of unread posts. Anyway! I'm over Australia girl now, went out the other night and got dancing with this girl and got her number which was good, it reminded me that I must be attractive to [i]someone[/i]! Just kidding I bet I'm attractive to everyone. [b]Edit:[/b] P.S How does everyone feel about the attractiveness of smoking? Is it a put-off? I think it's definitely less of a big deal in the UK I'm thinking I should quit. Thing is I do quite like smoking, and I meet all the women when I go out in the smoking area.