The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v2 - General

[QUOTE=AmericanInfantry;34360721]So during lunch a hot friend-girl of mine flirts with me, and she usually does this. My friend sees this and tells me that I should ask her out, and I'm currently considering this. Next period while waiting for class to begin she walks up to me, puts her arm around me, gets close and kisses me on the cheek. She doesn't go around kissing guys so here I am, shocked a girl would do this. She kisses again, I kiss back, we all go home happy. I have no issue with this but for what reason would a girl spontaneously do this, besides if she likes me?[/QUOTE] Have you considered that it wasn't a kiss, but a taste? Maybe you spilled some food on your cheek?

[QUOTE=AmericanInfantry;34360721]So during lunch a hot friend-girl of mine flirts with me, and she usually does this. My friend sees this and tells me that I should ask her out, and I'm currently considering this. Next period while waiting for class to begin she walks up to me, puts her arm around me, gets close and kisses me on the cheek. She doesn't go around kissing guys so here I am, shocked a girl would do this. She kisses again, I kiss back, we all go home happy. I have no issue with this but for what reason would a girl spontaneously do this, besides if she likes me?[/QUOTE] she wants to feel the touch of a gay man

Well turns out sh's taking another person to the cricket, and iI have a suspicion that she has a boyfriend already. Girls, how do they work?

My girlfriend won't talk to me properly and keeps snapping at me. I'm trying to be nice but I've cried myself to sleep the past few nights and all my built up stress and shit is going to shoot out. What do I do? I just want the tiniest bit of affection.

[QUOTE=geogzm;34363930]My girlfriend won't talk to me properly and keeps snapping at me. I'm trying to be nice but I've cried myself to sleep the past few nights and all my built up stress and shit is going to shoot out. What do I do? I just want the tiniest bit of affection.[/QUOTE] Well first pull yourself together man, it sounds like youre being extremely clingy and it is annoying her. You need to learn to function by yourself and not depend on others. Also she is probably sailing on the red river too which doesnt help.

Her period was like two weeks ago. I've been giving her enough space to build a house in and if I dare try to talk to her she doesn't really talk much so I'm forced just to walk out again. She won't tell me what I've done wrong or if something is bothering her. I'm really stuck, or maybe I'm clingy and in denial. My past probably made me clingy as fuck due to my last relationship, after which I just started to feel lonely because the girl I was with before tormented me all the time and I felt trapped. Anyway, I've given my girlfriend tons of space and kept out of her way but she keeps on. She talks to everyone apart from me.

[QUOTE=geogzm;34364117]Her period was like two weeks ago. I've been giving her enough space to build a house in and if I dare try to talk to her she doesn't really talk much so I'm forced just to walk out again. She won't tell me what I've done wrong or if something is bothering her. I'm really stuck, or imaybe I'm clingy and in denial. [b]My past probably made me clingy as fuck due to my last relationship[/b], after which I just started to feel lonely because the girl I was with before tormented me all the time and I felt trapped. Anyway, I've given my girlfriend tons of space and kept out of her way but she keeps on. She talks to everyone apart from me.[/QUOTE] Oh well that makes it OK then. Make sure you tell that to everyone meet just to make sure they know how much of a fun level headed guy you are. That is Le sarcasm. I hope I don't sound like a dickhead, but people don't like clingy people. And it's even worse if you try and have an excuse. It doesn't matter if you have a [i]reason[/i] for being clingy, whether legitimate or not - it still isn't a great quality. At least that's what I think. It's like when you meet people who are still virgins at an inappropriately high age (I'm not going to suggest one cos people might argue or feel a bit upset if that's them) and they say "Well it's not like I haven't had the [i]chance[/i] to, it's just..." - it makes them look more silly than if they just straight up say it. I can't tell if that paragraph is making any sense but there it is. I understand it may be easier said than done, but you've just gotta get over being clingy and be your own man who has his own hobbies and can make himself happy. I'm not saying things shouldn't get you down, that's a bit silly, what I mean is you should have enough going on to fulfill yourself to the extent that yeah you'll be sad if you're girlfriend ignores you - but you won't let it make you cry yourself to sleep.

Well, I have shit to do. I play Minecraft and Study a lot. She used to distract me from studying. She used to follow me around and shit even if I didn't want her to and she used to be the clingy one, even oter people could tell you that. I suppose I'll just leave her alone and not talk to her until she wants my attention. Is this a bad idea? [editline]24th January 2012[/editline] Also about smoking, it can be attractive as long as they're not double fisting and wheezing all the time. Also helps if they aren't a chain smoker :v:

[QUOTE=geogzm;34364426]as long as they're not double fisting [/QUOTE] excuse me, what

[QUOTE=thisispain;34364489]excuse me, what[/QUOTE] Multiple cigarettes at once.

[QUOTE=geogzm;34364515]Multiple cigarettes at once.[/QUOTE] why on earth did you call that double fisting?

[QUOTE=JenkinsJ;34362152] [b]Edit:[/b] P.S How does everyone feel about the attractiveness of smoking? Is it a put-off? I think it's definitely less of a big deal in the UK I'm thinking I should quit. Thing is I do quite like smoking, and I meet all the women when I go out in the smoking area.[/QUOTE] I realized that for me, it's only attractive in a case where the person who is smoking is attractive. So it's more the person that makes it attractive I guess? The act of smoking itself disgusts me but there's something about it that is really sexy to me if a good looking guy is doing it. Kind of messed up, but I can't lie, I dig it.

[QUOTE=thisispain;34364526]why on earth did you call that double fisting?[/QUOTE] A teacher said it a few years back :v: [editline]24th January 2012[/editline] This should be enough to turn someone. [img]http://watchmojo.com/film/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/clint-eastwood.jpg[/img]

I think smoking looks badass when you're an awesome dude or a hot chick, but the effects of smoking will quickly destroy that. Smokers are kind of disgusting, even though I like the smell.

[QUOTE=Pascall;34365338]I realized that for me, it's only attractive in a case where the person who is smoking is attractive. So it's more the person that makes it attractive I guess? The act of smoking itself disgusts me but there's something about it that is really sexy to me if a good looking guy is doing it. Kind of messed up, but I can't lie, I dig it.[/QUOTE] My friend pulls all the chicks by lighting two cigarettes and sticking them up each nostril and inhaling mightily until he falls onto whatever furniture/person is nearby and leaves of a trail of smoke and drool billowing from his mouth. edit- He is always the life of the party. edit- Until he coughs up black stuff then he is more the almost dead of the party.

[QUOTE=dmillerw;34354683]So, it turns out my girlfriend has a legitimate fear of being naked in front of others. Now, we already talked about it and agreed to just take things slow and help her the same way I've helped her with other fears, which is just helping her get used to it best I can. I'm just posting here because I'm wondering if you all might have some better advice?[/QUOTE] I didn't know people could actually be nevernudes [editline]24th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE='[CWG]RustySpannerz;34365527']I think smoking looks badass when you're an awesome dude or a hot chick, but the effects of smoking will quickly destroy that. Smokers are kind of disgusting, even though I like the smell.[/QUOTE] smoke erry day (no really it's addictive because it's enjoyable and I can't stop HELP save me from my pleasure seeking)

To have sex drink milk idk

[QUOTE=Contag;34366250]I didn't know people could actually be nevernudes [/QUOTE] I love my jeans-shorts.

Okay, there's no way that this isn't going to sound a little weird, but I'll try. So I'm going to community college right now and don't really know anyone there. I'm pretty quiet until I get to know people. Also, because this is community college, there are a [I]lot[/I] of international students, and by international students I mean Asians that don't really speak English. Anyways... I'm taking a Java programming class right now. I'm not the best programmer; I work really slow but can get the assignments done. Right now, we're supposed to be in groups of two working on a project. However, on the day we were supposed to get in groups, everyone around me had already partnered up, so I got stuck with one oblivious-looking Asian dude across the room. The next day, I moved and sat next to him; we separately looked up some Java things for reference without talking. The next day, I came into class a few minutes late and found he was working with another guy. They were in a conversations (not in English) and I didn't want to interrupt, so I just worked by myself. It seems like the two of them are working together and don't remember/know me. So anyways, I don't know what to do. It seems my awkwardness/shyness has screwed me over again.. I haven't told the prof what group I'm in, should I try to join up with another group? Should I just try to talk it out with the other guy(s)? Should I ask the prof for help? I don't know what to do. I don't even know what to [I]say[/I] to start a conversation. Any advice would be nice.

[QUOTE=Corndog Ninja;34370012]Okay, there's no way that this isn't going to sound a little weird, but I'll try. So I'm going to community college right now and don't really know anyone there. I'm pretty quiet until I get to know people. Also, because this is community college, there are a [I]lot[/I] of international students, and by international students I mean Asians that don't really speak English. Anyways... I'm taking a Java programming class right now. I'm not the best programmer; I work really slow but can get the assignments done. Right now, we're supposed to be in groups of two working on a project. However, on the day we were supposed to get in groups, everyone around me had already partnered up, so I got stuck with one oblivious-looking Asian dude across the room. The next day, I moved and sat next to him; we separately looked up some Java things for reference without talking. The next day, I came into class a few minutes late and found he was working with another guy. They were in a conversations (not in English) and I didn't want to interrupt, so I just worked by myself. It seems like the two of them are working together and don't remember/know me. So anyways, I don't know what to do. It seems my awkwardness/shyness has screwed me over again.. I haven't told the prof what group I'm in, should I try to join up with another group? Should I just try to talk it out with the other guy(s)? Should I ask the prof for help? I don't know what to do. I don't even know what to [I]say[/I] to start a conversation. Any advice would be nice.[/QUOTE] I think maybe he chose a partner of the same natural language because he felt it would make his work more efficient, I don't think it was anything to do with you. (Plus I think you are super neat :3)

I've noticed that people have began to give me nicknames in my classes. Not gonna lie, I love it. None of them are mean, and I've never really had nicknames before. Feels good.

nicknames? Like what?

[QUOTE=Corndog Ninja;34370012]Okay, there's no way that this isn't going to sound a little weird, but I'll try. So I'm going to community college right now and don't really know anyone there. I'm pretty quiet until I get to know people. Also, because this is community college, there are a [I]lot[/I] of international students, and by international students I mean Asians that don't really speak English. Anyways... I'm taking a Java programming class right now. I'm not the best programmer; I work really slow but can get the assignments done. Right now, we're supposed to be in groups of two working on a project. However, on the day we were supposed to get in groups, everyone around me had already partnered up, so I got stuck with one oblivious-looking Asian dude across the room. The next day, I moved and sat next to him; we separately looked up some Java things for reference without talking. The next day, I came into class a few minutes late and found he was working with another guy. They were in a conversations (not in English) and I didn't want to interrupt, so I just worked by myself. It seems like the two of them are working together and don't remember/know me. So anyways, I don't know what to do. It seems my awkwardness/shyness has screwed me over again.. I haven't told the prof what group I'm in, should I try to join up with another group? Should I just try to talk it out with the other guy(s)? Should I ask the prof for help? I don't know what to do. I don't even know what to [I]say[/I] to start a conversation. Any advice would be nice.[/QUOTE] As for actual advice, just ask your professor who isn't in a group and just approach the one you like the most, they are probably in the same situation as you. As for the asian guy, don't worry about it. He could already be friends with Asian 2 and paired with him for that reason, or maybe as a non native English speaker he was worried he'd be dragging you down because he couldn't communicate 100% with you. Another thing is he might be just worried about discrimination and stuff like that. You gotta think outside of the mentality of 'my social skills suck', because nine times out of then that isn't the case.

T.J. is one that all of my teachers have adopted because there's always more than one person in my classes with the same name as me. So they all just shortened my last name. One guy called me "glasses" today in an attempt to start a conversation since he overheard me talking about Mass Effect with the dude next to me (I didn't know him either, all I know is that his name was Kyle but he sat next to me so we talked a bunch and also he had a cool tablet). I didn't learn the guy's name who called me glasses. I didn't really see it as a mean nickname. I sort of liked it. There were a few others but gah I was kind of out of it today so I can't remember them.

My nickname used to be my username because of my tone of voice. I didn't really mind though.

my nickname is jew i didn't pick it

My nickname is Mako as in mako shark.

Does anyone pick their nicknames?

I was given mine.

You were given a shark? Badass.