The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v2 - General

I keep the shark in my bathtub.

My nickname in high school was "Russian", I don't remember why it started and people still use it nowadays. Not complaining though, some people called me "Commie" instead and it got really annoying, thankfully people stopped using it

Whenever I am invited to a friends house I usually stay up all night crying because I know my family will never be as close or good as theirs and I try to avoid meeting with friends families whenever possible. To put things into perspective my father (who walked out on us) is addicted to multiple hard drugs, my mother an alcoholic and former heroin addict. (There's other stuff but I'm not really keen on saying them on a public forum...) Does anyone else feel this envious of other families? Or am I just petty?

abandon your own family make better one with loved one

[QUOTE=Contag;34370504]abandon your own family make better one with loved one[/QUOTE] I have no real conception of how a healthy relationship functions or how a child is raised properly.

[QUOTE=Squeaken;34370538]I have no real conception of how a healthy relationship functions or how a child is raised properly.[/QUOTE] do everything your parents did not do [editline]24th January 2012[/editline] and don't do everything they did

Pretty much learn from their mistakes.

The basics of a normal life confuse the shit out of me. Even just eating dinner at a table is a foreign concept, and there is something so unnatural and forced in my behaviour with those kinds of things that people comment on it, and I feel like they pity me because of it. And I don't want my children feeling like that, I don't want them to feel like I really have no idea what I'm doing and am just forcing all my behaviour. I don't want my children feeling like they grew up in a family that wasn't 'natural' or normal the way I did.

Most parents have no idea what they're doing. Love, effort and time commitment are key. It's not like we're born with innate knowledge of how to do a whole lot of things, so you just try and keep at it until it's normal. [editline]24th January 2012[/editline] fortunately with the internet we all have instruction manuals at our fingertips [url]http://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Good-Parent[/url]

The thing with parenting is nobody ever sets out to be a bad parent and trying to be a good parent won't automatically make you one. Anyway I feel like this subject has dragged on long enough, I'm not sure if it even belongs in the thread.

My mates perants came from q disfunctional family, and they brought up great kids. he doesnt have a set dinner time etc, and his dads sarcastic as all fuck. So long a you recognise your perants wrong you can learn from it. Its not really advice its just how I see it.

being sarcastic is bad parenting? well isn't that great

[QUOTE=Contag;34370820]being sarcastic is bad parenting? well isn't that great[/QUOTE] No he is just generally sarcastic, my freinds dad.

Or date people with kids from a previous relationship, it's like parent practice. Also leads to horrendously complicated and difficult breakups!

May I recommend some of [url=http://www.cracked.com/members/John+Cheese/]John Cheese[/url]'s writing? He's a husband and father who had a [I]messed up[/I] childhood - and life - before getting back on track. Most of the articles are silly, but you can tell by the titles which ones are good. Sounds like [URL="http://www.cracked.com/article_19010_5-ways-to-avoid-your-terrible-parents-mistakes.html"]5 Ways to Avoid Your Terrible Parents' Mistakes[/URL] might be a good one for you.

Most of my conversations between me and my mother are rather spiteful and insulting, but in a good way. My dad has learned far more from me than I learned from him and it can be cringeworthy some things he says, like the racist old grandfather trope. In a way I want my kids to be a little fucked up too, so they'll at least be interesting.

I have a pretty good relationship with my parents - I didn't always, I'd use to argue with them for no reason but eventually you sort of realise they're just people. I find it a bit of a turn off if someone I know is still arguing like a teenager with their parents (I'm 20 at the mo), provided of course they have a normal family dynamic and not something that would obviously put them on bad terms with each other. In other news I decided not to quit smoking, I've been told I can pull it off (ie it looks alright on me), and I [i]like[/i] it! The lung cancer/sterility/increased risk of heart disease/clogged arteries etc, will just have to wait until I'm bored of it. I mean just reading that back, really I should stop.

you should probably stop

My dad walked out on my family and was a druggie. My mom has extreme OCD and has nervous breakdowns. My ex-step dad was an asshole police officer who ran his house like he did his job. My dog shits all over the carpet. What do all these things have in common? They're not me. All of you in here are making excuses saying that youre fucked up because of them, but in the end they only controlled about 15-16 of years of your life 6 of them you probably do not even remember. The choices you make and the person you become are up to you and your determination, all of the other factors be damned. I if was destined to become a person based on my childhood and family I would currently be dying in a gutter after trying to eat some home made drugs made from bleach. You need to move above and not linger, it may sound harsh but you have obviously learned the world is harsh and the only way to get through is to harden up yourself. This does not mean you have be some stupid tough guy, it means youre weathered enough to have emotions and feelings but knowing when to control them and use your logic over your emotions.

[QUOTE=Pascall;34370059]I've noticed that people have began to give me nicknames in my classes. Not gonna lie, I love it. None of them are mean, and I've never really had nicknames before. Feels good.[/QUOTE] Everyone in my school calls me OZ. as in oh-zee. looking at it from an outside perspective, it sounds pretty retarded but whatever. They're the ones that came up with it.

[QUOTE=aliendrone123;34372863]Everyone in my school calls me OZ. as in oh-zee. looking at it from an outside perspective, it sounds pretty retarded but whatever. They're the ones that came up with it.[/QUOTE] People call me "danger bat" or dinkleberg, both of them facebook nicknames that were both references to random shows. (danger bat obviously batman, dinkleberg fairly odd parents) You have no idea how many times I will make some smart ass comment and someone with squint their eyes at me say: "dinklebeeerrrg"

My nickname is Nick :c That with my father's nick name, rick, there is only a 1 letter difference in our names. Same middle and last names.

[QUOTE=Glitch360;34370314]My nickname in high school was "Russian", I don't remember why it started and people still use it nowadays. Not complaining though, some people called me "Commie" instead and it got really annoying, thankfully people stopped using it[/QUOTE] I feel for you, bro.

I don't have nickname, but I once told a new teacher that my street-name was "Trips," and she called me that for most of the semester before realizing I was just having her on. [editline]24th January 2012[/editline] Self-given nicknames are ridiculous. I worked with a guy who demanded to be called "Shadow." He was a bit of a flake.

i was crutch/crotch in college...

Going on a break with my girlfriend but she's reluctant to tell people it's a break. Why is this?

[I]Crotch[/I] is an embarrassing nickname. Back in high school, some mean old bullies cut holes in my gym shirt right above my nipples, so when I put it on my nipples poked out. From that point on, everybody called me "Nipple Bastard." It was just like in [I]Mean Girls.[/I]

because breaks are bullshit a break (to most people) means "we're not together, but we kinda are still together, so it's sort of a free card to get with anyone else, but then you can't get mad because we're on a break so it's allowed"

No, that's not true.

if you're gonna break up, break up going "on a break" is bullshit [editline]24th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Big Dumb American;34374585][I]Crotch[/I] is an embarrassing nickname.[/QUOTE] for the record my surname is Crutchley, hence the crutch/crotch nickname. it's not because i have a weird vagina habit or anything