The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v2 - General

[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;34403346]what was she doing, if you don't mind saying? i remember you wrote about it ages ago but can't recall :([/QUOTE] She used to be great. Gradually, we both changed and she started to be more and more mean towards me and I tried to be nice. This week in a nutshell, she pulled some bullshit to do with a break and took advantage of my weak personality to manipulate me in to chasing after her. Today I stood up to her about it and that I don't really love her anymore because of what she's done. She's the kind of person who gets a rush out of petty drama. She got a little butthurt and we agreed to break it off tomorrow. If she comes back after me, she's had her last chance. [editline]26th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=thisispain;34403565]yeah take drugs when you feel bad, what a great idea. that's how i ended up on heroin so no that's a terrible idea.[/QUOTE] Weed isn't addictive though. I won't try it until I'm over her, as of what you two have said. I was only asking a question, don't be so arrogant.

[QUOTE=geogzm;34403571]She used to be great. Gradually, we both changed and she started to be more and more mean towards me and I tried to be nice. This week in a nutshell, she pulled some bullshit to do with a break and took advantage of my weak personality to manipulate me in to chasing after her. Today I stood up to her about it and that I don't really love her anymore because of what she's done. She's the kind of person who gets a rush out of petty drama. She got a little butthurt and we agreed to break it off tomorrow. If she comes back after me, she's had her last chance. [editline]26th January 2012[/editline] Weed isn't addictive though. I won't try it until I'm over her, as of what you two have said. I was only asking a question, don't be so arrogant.[/QUOTE] This is pain is a good poster, plus hes experienced so its not really arrogance, he has a right to give you advice.

[QUOTE=geogzm;34403214][img]http://img1.uploadscreenshot.com/images/orig/1/2506132616-orig.png[/img] Seriously, she's hung me off the edge of a cliff for too long. She's done this in the worst way possible, she's hurtful and she knows it. She's one of those people who gets a rush out of drama and I regret being so blind I couldn't realize it for myself. [b]I'm free.[/b] [editline]26th January 2012[/editline] Would you advise weed to calm me down from anger and the inevitable sadness until I'm over her? She never let me use it and my friend's been begging me to try it with him.[/QUOTE] I smoke weed all the time but when I an feeling shit I do like to keep sober, turn to those around you when feeling crap. Nothing wrong with having a beer or joint with friends but don't turn to it as a solution

[QUOTE=geogzm;34403571] Weed isn't addictive though. I won't try it until I'm over her, as of what you two have said. I was only asking a question, don't be so arrogant.[/QUOTE] weed isn't physically addictive but it is like anything else psychologically addictive, especially if you use it to "calm me down from anger and the inevitable sadness". you don't need it. and i'm not particularly proud about anything so i don't think it's fair to call me arrogant

[QUOTE=geogzm;34403214] Would you advise weed to calm me down from anger and the inevitable sadness until I'm over her? She never let me use it and my friend's been begging me to try it with him.[/QUOTE] Having a bit of a J is fine but two things: 1) Don't do it all the time. You'll end up not doing anything else. I live with stoners and they [i]never[/i] go in to lectures. They even skipped some exams. 2) Doing any kind of drugs when you're sad goes like so: Be sad -> Have drugs -> Feel a bit better -> Feel sad still -> Get to that stage of crunk where you're like "Fuck it!" -> Go to bed -> Carry on being sad again -> Sleep -> Wake up -> Go "alejfse;lkjfs;lk, ahh morning." -> Remember last night -> Be sad again. Then you either get over it, or get more drugs. But eventually, you just have to sober up and get over it. Same goes with alcohol, except you might end up singing to Adele really loudly. Same goes with self pity smoking, where you wake up and your duvet smells of cigarettes. BUT BUT BUT, do go and hang out with your friends, for the sake of hanging out with your friends, not for getting high.

[QUOTE=spog;34403818]I smoke weed all the time but when I an feeling shit I do like to keep sober, turn to those around you when feeling crap. Nothing wrong with having a beer or joint with friends but don't turn to it as a solution[/QUOTE] This. I used to not give a fuck when anyone smoked but I've recently started getting wary of people who do because I know several people who've turned it into an every day thing, but not just because they enjoy it. They do it to get away from their problems and they can't stand being sober anymore. It's pathetic and depressing.

i remember feeling like shit a few weeks back and asking a friend for a bowl i think that's the lowest i've ever let myself stoop in my life [editline]26th January 2012[/editline] think it made me feel worse actually

I think the lowest I ever stooped was when I was really hungry and found a bag of 8 year old pork rinds. Totally worth the projectile vomiting that had enough pressure to shatter one of my lamps.

[QUOTE=CommanderPT;34399615]If anyone remembers my little [URL="http://www.facepunch.com/threads/1152241?p=34240126&viewfull=1#post34240126"]tale from last week[/URL] then I come with an update. We went out today. I took her to her favorite place where they sell smoothies (her friend told me of the place) and we talked for quite a few hours. In the end I asked if she had a good time and if she would like to go out again sometime and she said yes. Edit: Prior to the date she also started to text me a lot. She once started a conversation by simply saying that her hands were cold when riding her bike since she forgot her gloves. :v: So my guess was that she just wanted to talk.[/QUOTE] Prior to my first "date" we texted back and forth so much. I think around 200 texts per day. And of course, she gives me the, "I do not see you as more than just a friend" thing. She is still mentally and emotionally unstable with her depression and her eating disorder so maybe if she considers getting in a relationship with me after she is fixed and better (which won't be anytime soon) I may cut her a break. Bah, who am I kidding.

[QUOTE=1chains1;34398753]So I came home and found my dog lying on the floor, had to carry her to my car and take her to the vet. She had internal bleeding from a growth on her spleen and she had 40% chance of survival. They decided to operate on her for 3 hours (I was just sitting there for 5 hours, worst 5 hours of this year) and because they couldnt find where the growth was they had to do an exploratory which amounts to cutting her open all the way. Finally when they finished we got the news that she had done extremely well and now has an 80% chance of survival which is an amazing achievement by the vet as this dog is about 14 years old and is a larger dog. (Bigger the dog = supposedly shorter the life).[/QUOTE] I got her home, she is on pain killers and is so spaced out that she will stand there and wag her tail at the couch. [img]http://i305.photobucket.com/albums/nn229/1chains1/Picture062.jpg[/img]

ouch

[QUOTE=Mon;34406864]ouch[/QUOTE] Yea, luckily the growth was benign and not cancerous as we lost our other lab to cancer about half a year ago. Unfortunately the growth had pretty much become the spleen and was a blood filled mass, so they had to take out the entire spleen. You can obviously live without your spleen though. I think the coolest part though is that they left all blood she internally bled in her, because now that they removed the growth the blood will actually be reabsorbed and will speed up the healing process. After 10 days (starting today) she will be able to have the cone removed. The incision they made on her was half a foot long.

I wouldn't know what I would do without my dog.

[url]http://www.facepunch.com/threads/1158703[/url] why do things like this just make me feel like shit? jesus christ. I know logically there's not one person on this forum who has actually done the same thing, but I can't help internalising these things until it seems like everyone is some kind of ubermensch I've forgotten all those songs I used to be able to play on the piano, because I couldn't be arsed to practice by myself after my mum stopped forcing me (which almost sent me insane, by the way. I got to grade 7 and stopped there because fuck playing the piano is hard). there's always some asian kid on youtube who can do the exact same thing as me, better. now all I do is study physics, walk places, see my girlfriend, fix my mum's computer over the phone, occasionally go out with friends. I've been watching firefly with her for the past 1 hr 20 mins, now I'm sat on the bed eating skittles and listening to [url=http://www.scenemusic.net/demovibes/]demoscene radio[/url] [editline]27th January 2012[/editline] really, my problem is motivation. how do I get more motivation?

Good music helps

I'm going to make it my mission to do something creative. SOMETHING. Gotta finish learning how to make shitty games in BlitzMax. I really enjoyed that. I used to be so motivated - I made a 3 minute long flash animation about one of my teachers who was a dickhead once, even though I couldn't animate for shit and I was 13, I FINISHED IT, and people thought it was great/horrifically unfunny. I always start some project, get about half of it done and then lose interest. It would piss me off if I didn't care so fucking little [img]http://i.somethingawful.com/forumsystem/emoticons/emot-suicide.gif[/img] It's going to be my late new year's resolution to pick a hobby and fucking stick with it, no matter how thankless it initially seems. Tomorrow I am going to buy BLITZMAX and listen to SWEET AMIGA TUNES and start work on A RIDICULOUS GAME.

smoking pot helps a lot with motivation or hurts a lot, i forget which

hahah, I found this thing I made years ago [url]http://www.pown.it/2379[/url]

[QUOTE=Turnips5;34408484] really, my problem is motivation. how do I get more motivation?[/QUOTE] the first thing to do is not to care about anything. the second thing is to start something that you feel is important. don't worry about anyone else

e. thanks guys [editline]27th January 2012[/editline] e. thanks thisispain

[QUOTE=Turnips5;34408814]hahah, I found this thing I made years ago [url]http://www.pown.it/2379[/url][/QUOTE] I think I've just found new workout music. Thank you.

[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;34408754]smoking pot helps a lot with motivation or hurts a lot, i forget which[/QUOTE]Depends on what type of weed you smoke and how much. Sativa will give you more of a "hyper" feeling, while indica gives you couchlock. Of course if you smoke too much Sativa you will end up not having much motivation for anything. Half a bowl/one bowl of Sativa is optimal for getting motivated, at least in my experience

or just take cocaine.

Cocaine is more expensive though. And you might end up looking forward to this "motivation" more than you expected to

She wants to be friends. I can handle that. Not active friends though.

Oh so you're just a reserve friend.

More friends as in "I'll say hi once in a while and won't tell people stuff that was just between us"

So acquaintances. Friends don't just "say hi once in a while".

God, I'm in such a mixup. I'm seriously so into this girl that I liked before I dated my previous girlfriend. I started talking to her Senior year, and this year she's a Senior. We chill sometimes, but it's always with a friend. She's the girl who posts a picture on facebook and gets 30 likes and about 10 guys calling her beautiful. I'm like 100% sure she wanted me to take her to homecoming last year, but I was dumb as shit and too preoccupied with the girl that I ended up dating. It's been a year, and god damn is she beautiful and fun as hell. I feel like I'm 15 or something posting this, but this is one of those girls that you don't forget about. You have no clue. I'm 19 and not exactly "fit", and I think that would be the only thing holding me back from this girl. Would it be wrong to start working out with the intention to start looking better? I mean, even if this love interest doesn't work out, would it be wrong for future ones? I think I have the personality, social skills and sense of humor, and I'd like to say that I'm attractive, at least in the face. My physique doesn't totally blow, but I definitely should hit up the gym. I just feel like after all this time she's probably friend zoned me. Sucks to know that I possibly could have missed an awesome catch. [editline]27th January 2012[/editline] Guess that was a pointless post.. Just stumped.

[QUOTE=Juice_Layer;34416628]God, I'm in such a mixup. I'm seriously so into this girl that I liked before I dated my previous girlfriend. I started talking to her Senior year, and this year she's a Senior. We chill sometimes, but it's always with a friend. She's the girl who posts a picture on facebook and gets 30 likes and about 10 guys calling her beautiful. I'm like 100% sure she wanted me to take her to homecoming last year, but I was dumb as shit and too preoccupied with the girl that I ended up dating. It's been a year, and god damn is she beautiful and fun as hell. I feel like I'm 15 or something posting this, but this is one of those girls that you don't forget about. You have no clue. I'm 19 and not exactly "fit", and I think that would be the only thing holding me back from this girl. Would it be wrong to start working out with the intention to start looking better? I mean, even if this love interest doesn't work out, would it be wrong for future ones? I think I have the personality, social skills and sense of humor, and I'd like to say that I'm attractive, at least in the face. My physique doesn't totally blow, but I definitely should hit up the gym. I just feel like after all this time she's probably friend zoned me. Sucks to know that I possibly could have missed an awesome catch.[/QUOTE] Its never too late to hit up the gym. And with exercise comes a lot more physchological and physical perks too.