The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v2 - General

i don't think rolling around on the floor shirtless means that she's yours to keep if you're really into her then give her some space; i appreciate you might be wanting to try and make her feel better but you're in danger of scaring her off if you try to act too nice just now. if she shows even the slightest inkling that she wants some help/anything from you in the future then go for it, but at the moment it seems like you've offered to be the nice guy and she's turned you down, and if you try your hardest to please her, you might end up coming off too keen (which isn't good)

Thanks, that's nice of you Turnips! on topic; i want to talk a bit about social pressure when it comes to dating, or even love itself, I've seen guys dating the wrong girl and vice-versa, either because of peer pressure or other factors.. I saw this all the time in high school, from close friends to acquaintances, every single time the same bullshit. Guys just focus 'on the hot blond' and girls care too much for the popular guy, or the douchebag guy, or the whatever adjective-guy, this tends to happen on young people, i don't know the [i]real[/i] demography of the people that seek this thread, but this, this is not a problem, this is just nature taking its course. But we are supposed to be superior to nature right? right! At least.. that's what we are taught from the beginning, that we walk on this earth blessed from GOD, and whatever bullshit they spray over our young ones. But it's true to a sense, our sentience means we can have a choice. Choice is really important guys, that's the key to dating, at least partly because you have a choice when your friends want you to date the hot chick and to be well seen to society, but when you really crave that dorky funny girl. You have the choice, but people don't seem to know this, and what happens most of the times is that all parties get hurt, this is a terribly vicious cycle because it creates a generation of cynics and makes it HARD for other people to fall in love. or in most cases asking a girl out, you guys see my point? I know because i've been through a lot when i was younger and had no idea what i was doing, i suffered, a lot, i learned from most of my mistakes, and you have to make mistakes otherwise you don't wise up, you'll just be a dumbass over and over, the key is to be better dumbass over time, even now i still make mistakes, not so often but i do. And i bet you do to, and you probably hate yourself for it, but i can surely tell you that it's not a problem. Because there will be a time, EVEN if you don't get the girl you want right NOW, you will get someone else in due time. But funny thing happened to me, i was starting losing hope that i would be truly "forever alone", when i started losing up i stopped giving a shit about what i did or said, i was myself pure and raw, and girls started noticing that. i enjoyed the perks of not giving a fuck and i continued; this hurt my grades a lot during that time, for obvious reasons. So another key is not giving a fuck (you may notice that i already denominated a lot of keys, you see, love is a complicated door). I hope this text serves someone good, 1 person is enough. Can't be all advice though! sometimes sharing war stories help a lot more than single sentence advice.. [editline]30th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Mon;34466135]you need social advice[/QUOTE] you realize that social prerequisites are one of the reasons that there's threads like this, right? so ironic EDIT: Nice try though!

I'm not saying shes mine to keep, I am just saying we really hit it off and she told my friend's girlfriend that she really liked me so I was going to ask her out today but I guess I will let her have some space. She seemed totally fine at the party.

[QUOTE=Jordan589;34467026]I'm not saying shes mine to keep, I am just saying we really hit it off and she told my friend's girlfriend that she really liked me so I was going to ask her out today but I guess I will let her have some space. She seemed totally fine at the party.[/QUOTE] so how old are you, and her for the matter, if you don't mind me asking

Both 16, please don't start on how it isn't going to last because we are only 16 and that it is high school. I don't need to hear this shit.

[QUOTE=Jordan589;34467228]Both 16, please don't start on how it isn't going to last because we are only 16 and that it is high school. I don't need to hear this shit.[/QUOTE] Nah don't worry man, quite the opposite. but you must understand, no one can give you advice for 30 year olds when you're 16, or vice-versa, it would be disastrous, that's why everyone that asks for advice should include ages and stuff. okay! So basically.. Autumn's post hits the spot, if she really wants a relationship with you, maybe she thought you guys were taking things too fast (and adding the pms..) and freaked out a little? If not, just take your time I'm sure it's nothing.. but always be on your toes, you never know

Well today we were talking a bit when she was in an ok mood and she said brownies would make her feel better. I don't fucking know, don't ask. Do you think it would be nice if I put one in her locker with a little note on it?

i'm afraid that's probably considered a little creepy but i could be wrong, maybe 16 year olds dig the thought of some guy going through their locker to strategically place a brownie!

[QUOTE=Jordan589;34467492]Well today we were talking a bit when she was in an ok mood and she said brownies would make her feel better. I don't fucking know, don't ask. Do you think it would be nice if I put one in her locker with a little note on it?[/QUOTE] that's sweet but it's a little creepy at this stage don't you think? Just go with her at starbucks or something and buy her one of those huge cookies, double points because you're now a sweet guy and you're bonding with her.

Hahaha it isn't like that. We meet at her locker every morning and I know her combo and everything, she leaves notes in mine all the time. Except today, no confrontation at all. Cry cry. EDIT: DrBreen: There is no starbucks near and I don't have a car yet.

[QUOTE=Jordan589;34467492]Well today we were talking a bit when she was in an ok mood and she said brownies would make her feel better. I don't fucking know, don't ask. Do you think it would be nice if I put one in her locker with a little note on it?[/QUOTE] Stop trying to please her with gifts. This is not the way to make her want you more after a night of making out together naked on a bed.

[QUOTE=Seith;34467600]Stop trying to please her with gifts. This is not the way to make her want you more after a night of making out together naked on a bed.[/QUOTE] you're right but, when a woman is emotional little things count, besides it's a brownie not a diamond ring @Jordan, still, don't put the brownie in her locker, just do what i said, counts as a date and you won't come off as Seith describes EDIT: you edited your post, just saw it.. so.. just take her to a bakery? be creative damn it :v:

I am not doing this because of what happened, we have been talking for weeks and I wanted to ask her out but now somethings up so I am just checking on that, all that was was to give you a background of recent events. Breen, how am I supposed to get there and back, I don't have a car or my license, it is a VERY far walk, there is an ice cream place near, would that work?

[QUOTE=Jordan589;34467722]I am not doing this because of what happened, we have been talking for weeks and I wanted to ask her out but now somethings up so I am just checking on that, all that was was to give you a background of recent events. Breen, how am I supposed to get there and back, I don't have a car or my license, it is a VERY far walk, there is an ice cream place near, would that work?[/QUOTE] I said starbucks as an example, ice cream is good enough, but consider if she likes ice cream or that particular shop. I'd say being spontaneous is really important in these situations mate

Definitely wait until things clear up though, right?

[QUOTE=Jordan589;34467961]Definitely wait until things clear up though, right?[/QUOTE] that's up to you now, you have the choice, can't go wrong with either. give her a few days, but don't lose contact, just back off slightly, then go for the kill.

[QUOTE=Autumn;34467547]i'm afraid that's probably considered a little creepy but i could be wrong, maybe 16 year olds dig the thought of some guy going through their locker to strategically place a brownie![/QUOTE] Better then the time I planted a confetti bomb in an old friend girl locker for her bday. The thing fell sideways and misfired into her face and caused her to pass out from fright giving her a concussion as she fell backwards slamming her head. I totally didn't get any cake. :C

[QUOTE=1chains1;34468103]Better then the time I planted a confetti bomb in an old friend girl locker for her bday. The thing fell sideways and misfired into her face and caused her to pass out from fright giving her a concussion as she fell backwards slamming her head. I totally didn't get any cake. :C[/QUOTE] ouch.. you should have used the rose technique instead

[QUOTE=DrBreen;34468059]then go for the kill.[/QUOTE] totally not the creepiest fucking way to talk about talking to girls

[QUOTE=DrBreen;34468122]ouch.. you should have used the rose technique instead[/QUOTE] Roses? That is stupid, I have no interest in the woman and you cannot fire roses at a high velocity from peoples' lockers can you? Well you [I]could[/I], but they don't have very good trajectory.

[QUOTE=Turnips5;34468159]totally not the creepiest fucking way to talk about talking to girls[/QUOTE] now you're just knit-picking. it's just an expression. [editline]30th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=1chains1;34468163]Roses? That is stupid, I have no interest in the woman and you cannot fire roses at a high velocity from peoples' lockers can you? Well you [I]could[/I], but they don't have very good trajectory.[/QUOTE] Nah man, you carefully place a bunch of roses so that when she opens the locker they just slide to her, rose by rose, not all at once though

I love to knit

[QUOTE=DrBreen;34468251] Nah man, you carefully place a bunch of roses so that when she opens the locker they just slide to her, rose by rose, not all at once though[/QUOTE] That sounds incredibly boring and stupid. Anyways I am thinking of finding a nonflammable spray I could possibly put on the roses to avoid possible complications during launch sequence from the locker. I don't feel she would appreciate flaming roses being propelled at her.

[QUOTE=1chains1;34468569]That sounds incredibly boring and stupid. Anyways I am thinking of finding a nonflammable spray I could possibly put on the roses to avoid possible complications during launch sequence from the locker. I don't feel she would appreciate flaming roses being propelled at her.[/QUOTE] no do it, as a final sequence you quickly give her a fire extinguisher and when she uses it a ring pops out then you ask her to marry u. FIERY PASSION

[QUOTE=Jordan589;34467961]Definitely wait until things clear up though, right?[/QUOTE] I honestly think you're giving too much credit and getting your hopes up on an ideal relationship based on some night.

Today one of my friends told me that I look good, even with my hair all terrible from the pouring rain. I know for a fact that he's not into me, but that compliment made my day a little better. He's probably the only guy friend that I've had from high school that HASN'T tried to get with me at some point.

[QUOTE=DrBreen;34467632]you're right but, when a woman is emotional little things count, besides it's a brownie not a diamond ring @Jordan, still, don't put the brownie in her locker, just do what i said, counts as a date and you won't come off as Seith describes EDIT: you edited your post, just saw it.. so.. just take her to a bakery? be creative damn it :v:[/QUOTE] sexist pig

[QUOTE=DrBreen;34468676]no do it, as a final sequence you quickly give her a fire extinguisher and when she uses it a ring pops out then you ask her to marry u. FIERY PASSION[/QUOTE] Can you go away you make my jokes unfunny. edit- and I mean that in the nicest way possible.

[QUOTE=Pascall;34468740]Today one of my friends told me that I look good, even with my hair all terrible from the pouring rain. I know for a fact that he's not into me, but that compliment made my day a little better. He's probably the only guy friend that I've had from high school that HASN'T tried to get with me at some point.[/QUOTE] now that's charming

[QUOTE=Pascall;34468740]Today one of my friends told me that I look good, even with my hair all terrible from the pouring rain. I know for a fact that he's not into me, but that compliment made my day a little better. He's probably the only guy friend that I've had from high school that HASN'T tried to get with me at some point.[/QUOTE] Hey, at least youre getting rain. We just get wind that makes my hair stand up so I have to fix it every time I go inside.