The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v2 - General

fuck I cannot believe after all this damn time I still have slight feelings for this girl. damn. I've been thinking they'll go away once I find someone new, but that seems so unlikely nowadays that it makes it even harder to get over this girl. at least she's in the hospital so I cannot see or talk to her. She was absent from school for a few days so I decided to walk down to her house (I needed the exercise, so I thought I'd might as well go to her house and back) and I met her mom for the first time, who told me she was back in the hospital (which I already suspected). Eh, I'm so tied up on what I should do. I keep thinking that if she gets better things might work out, but I also tell myself it'll never work and I need to get over it. I'm thinking showing I still care and telling her mom to pass a message of regards to her is enough to make her happy, but I know it won't win her over. god damn i'm bipolar.

[QUOTE=redBadger;34469300]at least she's in the hospital so I cannot see or talk to her.[/QUOTE] what the hell listen to what you're saying [editline]31st January 2012[/editline] you're obsessed. find someone else, talk to anyone else, forget about her, she doesn't feel the same way about you

Decided I'm gonna break up with her tomorrow Wasn't meant to beeeeeeeee

[QUOTE=redBadger;34469300]fuck I cannot believe after all this damn time I still have slight feelings for this girl. at least she's in the hospital so I cannot see or talk to her. She was absent from school for a few days so I decided to walk down to her house (I needed the exercise, so I thought I'd might as well go to her house and back) and I met her mom for the first time, who told me she was back in the hospital (which I already suspected). Eh, I'm so tied up on what I should do. I keep thinking that if she gets better things might work out, but I also tell myself it'll never work and I need to get over it. I'm thinking showing I still care and telling her mom to pass a message of regards to her is enough to make her happy, but I know it won't win her over. [/QUOTE] redBadger ..what the fuck man...

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;34468707]I honestly think you're giving too much credit and getting your hopes up on an ideal relationship based on some night.[/QUOTE] You obviously didn't read the other posts, I specifically said that we had been talking weeks prior to that and after that night, I was told she really likes me so I was going to ask her out. I am not just spontaneously saying that we had a thing one night and I want to marry her, this has been going on for a long time now.

[QUOTE=redBadger;34469300]fuck I cannot believe after all this damn time I still have slight feelings for this girl. damn. I've been thinking they'll go away once I find someone new, but that seems so unlikely nowadays that it makes it even harder to get over this girl. at least she's in the hospital so I cannot see or talk to her. She was absent from school for a few days so I decided to walk down to her house (I needed the exercise, so I thought I'd might as well go to her house and back) and I met her mom for the first time, who told me she was back in the hospital (which I already suspected). Eh, I'm so tied up on what I should do. I keep thinking that if she gets better things might work out, but I also tell myself it'll never work and I need to get over it. I'm thinking showing I still care and telling her mom to pass a message of regards to her is enough to make her happy, but I know it won't win her over. god damn i'm bipolar.[/QUOTE] Get a hold of yourself.

Sorry. Its just that ive been like this for awhile yet nothing works :(

This girl I like, I found out is in a relationship with a guy she met in high school back home. However they've only been dating like a year and he's basically across the country from where we go to school. Is it wrong of me to try to move in? Would it be too difficult to even bother?

Yes, it's wrong of you. If there's nothing wrong with their relationship, you trying to butt into it is greedy and selfish.

[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;34471211]This girl I like, I found out is in a relationship with a guy she met in high school back home. However they've only been dating like a year and he's basically across the country from where we go to school. Is it wrong of me to try to move in? Would it be too difficult to even bother?[/QUOTE] Jesus christ I never understand people like you. Why would you deliberately try to ruin someone else's happiness out of sheer selfish jealousy? In what part of your mind do you think it would be alright to do that? Furthermore if the girl was willing to do such a thing how could you trust her and yours relationship? How could she trust you? Half the people in this thread need to [I]THINK.[/I]

[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;34471211]This girl I like, I found out is in a relationship with a guy she met in high school back home. However they've only been dating like a year and he's basically across the country from where we go to school. Is it wrong of me to try to move in? Would it be too difficult to even bother?[/QUOTE] Those usually don't last very long after high school. Back off but go for it if they break up just not immediately after but exploiting the rebound is up to you.

[QUOTE=huntingrifle;34450815]Hey guys, I just need help understanding this situation I'm stuck in. I broke up with my girlfriend because I started losing interest, but I didn't want it to get to the point where I'd be lying to her by saying I still loved her. Now I realized I still did love and that I just needed a break for a bit. As much as I tried to tell her how sorry I am, and how it was the biggest mistake of my life (so far, I consider this true, she was really the only person I cared for), but she said she only wanted to be friends, which I understand because I hurt her so much. The only problem now is that one day she was PMS-ing, and out of nowhere decides to kiss me on the lips. I took this as a hint that she wanted to go back out with me in the future. Days later, she tells me that she only wants to be friends. At this point I'm just frustrated because she basically led me on when I tried not to lead her on in the first place. So now I'm stuck with the choice of just being friends with her, or completely ignoring her. Right now I'm just so angry I don't want to see her again, but I don't want to act on impulse, so I just want to know what I should do about all of this. Sorry for the long and awkward post :v:[/QUOTE] Just reposted it cause nobody actually helped me.

fuckshitcuntpiss my car broke down and now the misses is upset because i'm acting like a cunt about it. so here's a tip for everyone: when something bad happens the worst thing you can do is try to unload it off on people, no matter how much you'd think it would help.

[QUOTE=thisispain;34471766]fuckshitcuntpiss my car broke down and now the misses is upset because i'm acting like a cunt about it. so here's a tip for everyone: when something bad happens the worst thing you can do is try to unload it off on people, no matter how much you'd think it would help.[/QUOTE] Well that is kind of obvious, but I think we can all remember a time of when our emotions got the best of us. For me I feel that it is 75% of the person's fault for not controlling their emotions but 25% should go to the person receiving it who should understand how that feels and should try to defuse the situation.

[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;34471211]This girl I like, I found out is in a relationship with a guy she met in high school back home. However they've [b]only been dating like a year[/b] and he's basically across the country from where we go to school. Is it wrong of me to try to move in? Would it be too difficult to even bother?[/QUOTE] That's pretty long for most relationships just as an FYI. Still, I don't see anything wrong with flirting with her as long as you don't force her to cheat on her boyfriend. It's a sort of moral gray area where as long as you don't resort to having her cheat there shouldn't be anything wrong with it. Not just saying this to be argumentative with everyone else, but if you like her then just go for it.

[QUOTE=Pascall;34471302]Yes, it's wrong of you. If there's nothing wrong with their relationship, you trying to butt into it is greedy and selfish.[/QUOTE] Well that's the thing. I don't know if there's anything wrong with their relationship and if there isn't I wouldn't bother in the first place.

[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;34471956]Well that's the thing. I don't know if there's anything wrong with their relationship and if there isn't I wouldn't bother in the first place.[/QUOTE] Don't bother at all until they are completely not together anymore. It's disrespectful to try to but into other peoples relationships no matter what condition its in. Nothing wrong with being a friend though and staying in touch with this girl. A month from now they might not be together anymore and you can hit her up for some coffee.

Roommate I dislike : "I may be using your computer later this week" No you are going to use the computers in the library and/or writing center.

[QUOTE=Jmir 54;34472262]Roommate I dislike : "I may be using your computer later this week" No you are going to use the computers in the library and/or writing center.[/QUOTE] Can you not change roommates?

[QUOTE=Jmir 54;34472262]Roommate I dislike : "I may be using your computer later this week" No you are going to use the computers in the library and/or writing center.[/QUOTE] Tell them that. Then make sure to lock your computer with a password and set the hint to something stupid like "I told you to use the library computers."

[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;34472459]Can you not change roommates?[/QUOTE] Were on the basketball team together so if I started shit I would have to put up with it everyday I kind of just put up with him, he's not too bad. Just a little annoying.

Hey, guys. This might fit better in the sex thread, but it's been affecting me socially. I've been feeling isolated lately because I'm the only virgin in my group of friends. They talk about sex frequently, and it makes me feel bad about myself and inadequate; like something is wrong with me. I don't really know what to do, so I thought I would post about it and see if some responses would give me a different perspective. Maybe even make me feel better.

[QUOTE=Variant;34474037]Hey, guys. This might fit better in the sex thread, but it's been affecting me socially. I've been feeling isolated lately because I'm the only virgin in my group of friends. They talk about sex frequently, and it makes me feel bad about myself and inadequate; like something is wrong with me. I don't really know what to do, so I thought I would post about it and see if some responses would give me a different perspective. Maybe even make me feel better.[/QUOTE] Don't worry about. You shouldn't feel pressured to have sex just to fit in or have something to talk about with your friends. It's obviously more important to some people than others but you having sex isn't going to change anything other than something else for you and your buddies to talk about like sports. You should be emotionally and mentally ready for it and let sex come to you not you go after it. If they start talking about it and you wish to remain virgin or just haven't lost it yet just tune out the conversation or present a question that diverts from the subject onto another so you don't feel left out. There's nothing wrong with you , your just another human being who hasn't had sex yet. :downs:

[QUOTE=Variant;34474037]They talk about sex frequently.[/QUOTE] hah that doesn't mean they aren't virgins. you won't believe the stories some people will tell just to appear like they are sex-fiends.

[QUOTE=Variant;34474037]Hey, guys. This might fit better in the sex thread, but it's been affecting me socially. I've been feeling isolated lately because I'm the only virgin in my group of friends. They talk about sex frequently, and it makes me feel bad about myself and inadequate; like something is wrong with me. I don't really know what to do, so I thought I would post about it and see if some responses would give me a different perspective. Maybe even make me feel better.[/QUOTE] Sex doesn't make the man, but rather the man makes the sex. I like being a self-help book. [editline]31st January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=1chains1;34471524]Jesus christ I never understand people like you. Why would you deliberately try to ruin someone else's happiness out of sheer selfish jealousy? In what part of your mind do you think it would be alright to do that? Furthermore if the girl was willing to do such a thing how could you trust her and yours relationship? How could she trust you? Half the people in this thread need to [I]THINK.[/I][/QUOTE] Ease up. It's only a highschool relationship. If a man, or a woman, has something better to offer than the one that woman/guy is dating, then by all means why not let him/her try? Obviously, one cannot deny their partners of relationships with either females or males, so this process will happen regardless of someone actively trying to make her or him change partners. This is entirely her/his choice, which means, it's still up to her/him. If she still cares or is interested for/in the current partner, nothing will matter. My point is, it doesn't even matter. It's up to her or him to decide whether to change partners. It will happen whether you like it or not. And who knows, maybe he or she is really a better partner for him or her.

It's really hard to ask a girl out in my school. Fuck. Edit: Plus, my parents don't let me hang out with my friends.

So, there's this girl in the bus every morning and after school... She's different from the other girls in my age (16+) and actually she really seems simpatico for me. She's always alone with headphones on and not talking to anyone, I though'd of talking to her and ask her out, but me acting stupid, told a few of my room mates in the hostel about it. They said I really should talk to her and ask her out. So... I told them that I'll talk to her tomorrow... They replied: "Dare you saying that tomrrow too." Now I can't get around it anymore. [I] Fuck.[/I]

[QUOTE=Variant;34474037]They talk about sex frequently[/QUOTE] who even does this?

[QUOTE=jonoPorter;34474744]So, there's this girl in the bus every morning and after school... She's different from the other girls in my age (16+) and actually she really seems simpatico for me. She's always alone with headphones on and not talking to anyone, I though'd of talking to her and ask her out, but me acting stupid, told a few of my room mates in the hostel about it. They said I really should talk to her and ask her out. So... I told them that I'll talk to her tomorrow... They replied: "Dare you saying that tomrrow too." Now I can't get around it anymore. [I] Fuck.[/I][/QUOTE] What are you afraid of?

[QUOTE=Seith;34474994]What are you afraid of?[/QUOTE] To be honest, I'm not really afraid of talking to that girl, I'm afraid of forgetting what I want to say to her. Oh, and failure.