The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v2 - General

[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;34484182]You said earlier you put zero effort in.... way to contradict yourself.[/QUOTE] Zero effort in the context of having to deal with conflict. But whatever.

it's really rare to be in a relationship for so long and never have a fight, it's totally possible, i've seen it, but it's really. really. really.. unlikely.. and if it is happening it's more likely that you're dating your mother or your sister. Freud out.

Ugh, what the fuck guys, this argument should of ended when "do not butt into other people's relationships" was stated two pages ago. Also seith I am no longer responding to you because your posts are comprised of 100% bullshit that shows you have no experience in what you are talking about and is as scattered in subject as it is vague and unintelligible.

[QUOTE=1chains1;34484970]Ugh, what the fuck guys, this argument should of ended when "do not butt into other people's relationships" was stated two pages ago. Also seith I am no longer responding to you because your posts are comprised of 100% bullshit that shows you have no experience in what you are talking about and is as scatted in subject as it is vague and unintelligible.[/QUOTE] So you've stuck your dick in almost everything BUT relationships? :v: nah just kidding, you're right.

[QUOTE=1chains1;34484970]Ugh, what the fuck guys, this argument should of ended when "do not butt into other people's relationships" was stated two pages ago. Also seith I am no longer responding to you because your posts are comprised of 100% bullshit that shows you have no experience in what you are talking about and is as scatted in subject as it is vague and unintelligible.[/QUOTE] You're allowed to have a different opinion than me.

here: [QUOTE=Seith;34478075]This is starting to bore me. I am talking from experience. "Breaking relationship" is a naive saying from people who are afraid to get hurt. This is life, it will happen whether you'd like it or not for the above reasons.[/QUOTE]

So what you guys thinking about doing for valentines day? I was thinking giving my girlfriend a big bunch of flowers, card with box of chocolates. but in the box of chocolates is a little note with some poetry. as it turns out she likes poetry so its all good...

[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;34485247]here:[/QUOTE] Obviously our tiny brains cannot fathom his intellectual sentences and his power to decrypt the meaning of our futile existence!

[QUOTE=cr2142;34485319]So what you guys thinking about doing for valentines day? I was thinking giving my girlfriend a big bunch of flowers, card with box of chocolates. but in the box of chocolates is a little note with some poetry. as it turns out she likes poetry so its all good...[/QUOTE] Money is kind of tight for both of us these days, so I wrote her a lengthy note and will probably take her out to a nice dinner.

[QUOTE=1chains1;34485340]Obviously our tiny brains cannot fathom his intellectual sentences and his power to decrypt the meaning of our futile existence![/QUOTE] no idea what you're talking about, I'm just responding to this [QUOTE=Seith;34484676]Give me the exact quote, so I could respond.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=cr2142;34485319]So what you guys thinking about doing for valentines day? I was thinking giving my girlfriend a big bunch of flowers, card with box of chocolates. but in the box of chocolates is a little note with some poetry. as it turns out she likes poetry so its all good...[/QUOTE] The poem should be The Kraken by Alfred, Lord Tennyson

[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;34485381]no idea what you're talking about, I'm just responding to this[/QUOTE] I was just making a commentary on how horrible his post was.

[QUOTE=Pascall;34480643]Conflict is a healthy part of every relationship. I'm not sure how well a relationship can do if you don't disagree on [I]something.[/I][/QUOTE] [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zv4o6dDPt2s[/media]

[QUOTE=1chains1;34485413]I was just making a commentary on how horrible his post was.[/QUOTE] huh, seems a bit hypocritical

[QUOTE=Levithan;34480727]By sheer chance I decided to hop into an IRC chat, and I found someone. I wasn't even looking or anything, he just kept chatting me up every time I connected. I applaud myself for trying something new, and my loneliness is all but gone! My body may not be all that hot, but my mind sure is. I feel so very jubilant, even if it doesn't work out in the end, I'm promised a friend for life, and that's more than what can be said about my last hookup.[/QUOTE] Well that was quick, he's still my friend, but damnit it seems like I'm the only on on Earth that doesn't mind long-distance ships.

I went out on what I presume was a date yesterday with a girl. We walked around for three hours and had an amazing time, but I am not sure if she thinks we are just friends or what or even if it is a date. I met her a year ago while doing volunteer work, and I ended up not working at that place any more so I didn't see her for a long time. during that time I developed depression, and paranoia. I found her on facebook about two months ago and we started exchanging messages, the messages got longer and longer and longer until the point where she asked me to hang out with her. So yesterday we went out and talked about personal things and stories and had an awesome time, we were both laughing and enjoying ourselves. I asked her to hang out again when I got home saying I had a great time ect. and I wanted to go out again and she said ok, but I don't know when she wants to meet again... Was this a date or two friends? What could I have done better with and what do I have to prepare for in the future? After talking to her, I felt less-depressed and less-paranoid, after seeing her I don't feel it at all. The Paranoia started after this celebration thing where we were doing the volunteer work, we had gotten along really well and talked to eachother and had a great time, when I got home, I went on the computer but I felt like I was being watched from the window behind me, I always felt like that after that night, I always turned around ever minute or so to check if anyone was there and there never was... I told my parents and doctors when I went go get evaluated a couple of months ago that I saw faceless people. That was a lie, I always saw her staring at me. tl;dr I met a fantastic girl and went out with her and I think I may end up dying if I don't spend time with her...

[QUOTE=flamehead5;34491131]I went out on what I presume was a date yesterday with a girl. We walked around for three hours and had an amazing time, but I am not sure if she thinks we are just friends or what or even if it is a date. I met her a year ago while doing volunteer work, and I ended up not working at that place any more so I didn't see her for a long time. during that time I developed depression, and paranoia. I found her on facebook about two months ago and we started exchanging messages, the messages got longer and longer and longer until the point where she asked me to hang out with her. So yesterday we went out and talked about personal things and stories and had an awesome time, we were both laughing and enjoying ourselves. I asked her to hang out again when I got home saying I had a great time ect. and I wanted to go out again and she said ok, but I don't know when she wants to meet again... Was this a date or two friends? What could I have done better with and what do I have to prepare for in the future? After talking to her, I felt less-depressed and less-paranoid, after seeing her I don't feel it at all. The Paranoia started after this celebration thing where we were doing the volunteer work, we had gotten along really well and talked to eachother and had a great time, when I got home, I went on the computer but I felt like I was being watched from the window behind me, I always felt like that after that night, I always turned around ever minute or so to check if anyone was there and there never was... I told my parents and doctors when I went go get evaluated a couple of months ago that I saw faceless people. That was a lie, I always saw her staring at me. tl;dr I met a fantastic girl and went out with her and I think I may end up dying if I don't spend time with her...[/QUOTE] You should see a shrink... not Facepunch.

[QUOTE=Evilan;34491379]You should see a shrink... not Facepunch.[/QUOTE] Very helpful, I see you took the time to assess the problem and answer the actual question I had from the beginning. Really, how does that help at all? If you had read what I wrote you would have seen that I have seen a doctor.

You shouldn't try to seek a relationship until you sort yourself out, otherwise your paranoia will make her paranoid, at least slightly. trust me fix urself first

[QUOTE=DrBreen;34491491]You shouldn't try to seek a relationship until you sort yourself out, otherwise your paranoia will make her paranoid, at least slightly. trust me fix urself first[/QUOTE] It's completely gone, or else I never would have, I thought I established that? It's been virtually gone since I started talking to her.

[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;34485247]here:[/QUOTE] I see. Maybe I wasn't clear enough; I do not condemn people who try and engage in premeditated conversation with a woman who they know is in a relationship. As I have said, there are two sides to the coin, and leaving the fact a strong relationship won't be harmed by his attempt, she might actually find him interesting and more worthwhile than her current one. That's how relationships work, it's not marriage, she's not obliged to stay with him forever. (According to vows) You looking at it the wrong way, there are no bad decisions, only a learning curve. If somebody comes and takes my girlfriend, I wouldn't care, because this was probably meant to happen sooner or later. I cannot control her actions or the future, I must accept that there might be a man who's better than me. As I have said, this whole look "destroying relationships" is a bit too dramatic. I'm not saying I support assholes, but I am not also saying I care whether a woman had fallen for one. Learning curve. [editline]1st February 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=flamehead5;34491505]It's completely gone, or else I never would have, I thought I established that? It's been virtually gone since I started talking to her.[/QUOTE] Re-read your post, and I'm not sure how extensive this feeling is in your life, but if it's bothering normal day to day functioning, I'd give it more attention medically. And just tell her when you want to me. As simple as that, don't over think. She'll give you signs when she's interested, if you can't see 'em, be direct.

[QUOTE=Seith;34491529]I see. Maybe I wasn't clear enough; I do not condemn people who try and engage in premeditated conversation with a woman who they know is in a relationship. As I have said, there are two sides to the coin, and leaving the fact a strong relationship won't be harmed by his attempt, she might actually find him interesting and more worthwhile than her current one. That's how relationships work, it's not marriage, she's not obliged to stay with him forever. (According to vows) You looking at it the wrong way, there are no bad decisions, only a learning curve. If somebody comes and takes my girlfriend, I wouldn't care, because this was probably meant to happen sooner or later. I cannot control her actions or the future, I must accept that there might be a man who's better than me. As I have said, this whole look "destroying relationships" is a bit too dramatic. I'm not saying I support assholes, but I am not also saying I care whether a woman had fallen for one. Learning curve. [editline]1st February 2012[/editline] I been in your situation. You need to allow yourself to understand that regardless of how hard you try, she still might not be interested. Relax.[/QUOTE] I never said she wasn't, I wanted to know if we were on a date or not....

also what's the diference between this thread and that sex girlfriends and stuff thread?

Ask her out you have known her and have been talking to her for that long sooo I guess the decision is yours to make

[QUOTE=DrBreen;34491861]also what's the diference between this thread and that sex girlfriends and stuff thread?[/QUOTE] This covers anything social and is for both genders, while the girlfriends one is more just talking about whatever you stuck your dick in.

[QUOTE=flamehead5;34491505]It's completely gone, or else I never would have, I thought I established that? It's been virtually gone since I started talking to her.[/QUOTE] I would say that in an ideal situation you should just ask her out again, and point out that it's a date. You can always point it out in a humorous and charming way. However, and I mean this in a totally serious way, you need to make sure that you're mentally stable enough to actually have a relationship. The last thing you want is for her to break up with you and you end up being paranoid again and possibly going on a murderous rampage.

[QUOTE='[CWG]RustySpannerz;34493243']I would say that in an ideal situation you should just ask her out again, and point out that it's a date. You can always point it out in a humorous and charming way. [/QUOTE] ...Or he could just say "Hey lets go on a date friday at the movies". Always keep it simple, if you try to be humorous or charming it could backfire if you are not in confident in your ability. It will come off as an awkward, mumbled and half ass joke that will make her say "what?" and then you will have to explain it to her, killing the charming/ humorous air you want. edit- Unless you are sure you and the girl share the same wit, avoid anything complicated as nothing is funny after you have to explain it.

I honestly would be very careful if you're relying on her to keep you from being paranoid or depressed or whatever. Because what if she actually doesn't like you? You're inadvertently making her responsible for your emotional and mental state of being and that's not entirely fair to her.

[QUOTE=Pascall;34480643]Conflict is a healthy part of every relationship. I'm not sure how well a relationship can do if you don't disagree on [I]something.[/I][/QUOTE] figured everyone in this thread can enjoy this [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jv9GiVJkP9Y[/media]

Gonna tell this girl I like her tommorow Any tips of how to approach it?