[QUOTE=Memnoth;46954716]if someone who happens to be homosexual asked me to suck his dick, I would do it[/QUOTE]
so watchu up to this weekend???
[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;46953991]Probably because honestly it's not special enough to warrant labelling and actively calling yourself something so vague and common. Demisexual isn't a real thing it's literally just a name people call themselves to feel different and special.[/QUOTE]
I'm so confused as to why you give a shit about how people define their sexuality?
[QUOTE=Memnoth;46954716]I'm heterosexual, but I have enough confidence in my own sexuality that if someone who happens to be homosexual asked me to suck his dick, I would do it. That's the magnitude of my benevolence. Homosexuality is just a mutation, a leap of evolution, and it should be embraced by everyone. Because when we treat this biological phenomena by handling it with disgust, it lowers the life quality of human beings, and they're no different from for example being born with blue eyes.
If you think this is strange then just embrace it, strange is simply a form of something that's unaccustomed with and different from what the subjective prejudices in your mind have created.
Love to everyone.[/QUOTE]
I've never understood why people like the D but not the rest. But all to their own I guess.
Nothing wrong with it. It's better to just accept that people like things in some ways. Just like you said.
EDIT: why the fuck do I always repeat what people say.
[QUOTE=Rubs10;46954782]so watchu up to this weekend???
I'm so confused as to why you give a shit about how people define their sexuality?[/QUOTE]
Because this is a discussion forum and he's talking about his opinions? That's like saying why do you give a shit enough about being gay to post in here? It's the discussion.
[QUOTE=kimr120;46954809]EDIT: why the fuck do I always repeat what people say.[/QUOTE]
Because you're reassuring them that you've understood their message, and that is a good way to go about it.
[QUOTE=Rubs10;46954782]so watchu up to this weekend???
I'm so confused as to why you give a shit about how people define their sexuality?[/QUOTE]
I'm so confused as to why you give a shit as to why I give a shit
[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;46954837]I'm so confused as to why you give a shit as to why I give a shit[/QUOTE]
I dunno I just kinda figured the gay chat thread was a place where anyone of any sexuality could come and talk about it without being judged or told their sexuality isn't real or they just wanna feel special.
There's a difference between sexuality and how you view relationships. Demi and shit like that is on the same level as someone who said he's bearsexual because he only wants to date hairy men. It's not a sexuality it's just a way to classify yourself and act like you're special when you're just someone normal who values emotional bond over a quick fuck.
Like I don't care what you call yourself but if you go around bragging about your really technical term explaining it every time because it's so obscure, don't be surprised if people don't take you seriously.
It's just a way of saying "I'm bisexual and I don't date people I don't like".
[QUOTE=Roll_Program;46954880]It's just a way of saying "I'm bisexual and I don't date people I don't like".[/QUOTE]
Nope, completely heterosexual, I gain nothing from lying as that would defeat my entire point of accepting something that's considered unusual.
[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;46954879]There's a difference between sexuality and how you view relationships. Demi and shit like that is on the same level as someone who said he's bearsexual because he only wants to date hairy men. It's not a sexuality it's just a way to classify yourself and act like you're special when you're just someone normal who values emotional bond over a quick fuck.[/QUOTE]
Those words were created so people could have an indepth conversation about their sexuality. Two bisexuals might be talking and one might not feel an emotional connection to men, but would be fine with a one night stand with them. And so they come up with a word to differentiate themselves.
And understanding that those people exist, and that it's not just bi or homo, has been a struggle in the queer community.
I've seen gay people tell bi people that their sexuality isn't real because bi people either confused or experimenting. It's just not a nice thing to do.
But isn't it just a matter of preference tho. Like do you really need a term, is it that big of a deal to just say hey I'm bi but I prefer girls instead of using a term you'll have to explain anyway . Like everyone has preferences at that point I might as well make my own Damn term.
The second part is just people who can't think outside of they're own little world. They're Gay so they think you can't do both. It's got nothing to do with "being only attracted to people who you emotionally connect with."
I am shitpostsexual and thi s has got me all hot and bothered
[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;46954922]But isn't it just a matter of preference tho. Like do you really need a term, is it that big of a deal to just say hey I'm bi but I prefer girls. Like everyone has preferences at that point I might as well make my own Damn term[/QUOTE]
It's not a big deal at all for some people. And is it equally a big deal if they just use demi-sexual, or some other specific term?
What's the god damn point tho. It means nothing. Like it's not a crutch and it doesn't stop you from dating people, it's literally just a term made up to say something pretty much everyone is.
It's like saying someone is blondsexual because he prefers blonde girls
[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;46954922]But isn't it just a matter of preference tho. Like do you really need a term, is it that big of a deal to just say hey I'm bi but I prefer girls. Like everyone has preferences at that point I might as well make my own Damn term[/QUOTE]
But the thing is, I don't have a preference towards penises, this is what defines my sexuality. Not being attracted to males as a male is considered being heterosexual. I'm saying, I have a spiritual side that if the situation presents itself, I would gladly pleasure anyone.
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[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;46954956]What's the god damn point tho. It means nothing. Like it's not a crutch and it doesn't stop you from dating people, it's literally just a term made up to say something pretty much everyone is.
It's like saying someone is blondsexual because he prefers blonde girls[/QUOTE]
Why does it have to have a point, I just wanted to show that this form of spiritual enlightenment is possible.
Like let's say you're at a bar and someone walks up and buys you a drink and wants to talk to you, do you jsut go no thank you I'm Demisexual I don't want to sleep with you unless I'm emotionally attached to you? Of course not that's stupid,you just talk and try to get to know the person and maybe something will happen or you just kinda brush them off. You know, like pretty much everyone does.
[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;46954956]What's the god damn point tho. It means nothing. Like it's not a crutch and it doesn't stop you from dating people, it's literally just a term made up to say something pretty much everyone is.
It's like saying someone is blondsexual because he prefers blonde girls[/QUOTE]
Sexual orientation is only sexual or romantic attraction to sex or gender, so saying you're an attackcoptersexual, as sexy as some of us may find 9ton warmachines to be, isn't an actual orientation.
[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;46954986]Like let's say you're at a bar and someone walks up and buys you a drink and wants to talk to you, do you jsut go no thank you I'm Demisexual I don't want to sleep with you unless I'm emotionally attached to you? Of course not that's stupid,you just talk and try to get to know the person and maybe something will happen or you just kinda brush them off. You know, like pretty much everyone does.[/QUOTE]
in that example, what's the point of saying you're of any sexuality? instead of saying no thanks I'm gay, you could just say I'm not into you like ya know, pretty much everyone else.
[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;46954986]Like let's say you're at a bar and someone walks up and buys you a drink and wants to talk to you, do you jsut go no thank you I'm Demisexual I don't want to sleep with you unless I'm emotionally attached to you? Of course not that's stupid,you just talk and try to get to know the person and maybe something will happen or you just kinda brush them off. You know, like pretty much everyone does.[/QUOTE]
I don't know. My thoughts ended there. Sorry.
But then why coin and use a term if you're never gonna use it other than to be quirky on the Internet?
[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;46955033]But then why coin and use a term if you're never gonna use it other than to be quirky on the Internet?[/QUOTE]
Uhm, too much bensodiazepines?
[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;46955033]But then why coin and use a term if you're never gonna use it other than to be quirky on the Internet?[/QUOTE]
Like I said, people use it for actual discussions of their sexuality?
When my queer friends and I are talking about what we're specifically into, why should someone bother saying they're not really into women unless they're women who they've gotten to know and like, when they can just say homo-romantic or some other term that people in the discussion understand.
Demisexual as it has been explained to me by people who identify with that term is more than wanting an emotional connection over a quick fuck. They wouldn't look across the room and say "that dude is hot". They wouldn't feel any sexual attraction to them at all until getting to know them on an in depth level.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;46955052]Demisexual as it has been explained to me by people who identify with that term is more than wanting an emotional connection over a quick fuck. They wouldn't look across the room and say "that dude is hot". They wouldn't feel any sexual attraction to them at all until getting to know them on an in depth level.[/QUOTE]
It's not like they're blind and suddenly when they know someone he/she becomes instantly attractive to them. It's more of a "hey this person looks good but I wouldn't really sleep with them just like that because it's not my type of thing" which is basically a very large portion of people
[QUOTE=Rhenae;46955052]Demisexual as it has been explained to me by people who identify with that term is more than wanting an emotional connection over a quick fuck. They wouldn't look across the room and say "that dude is hot". They wouldn't feel any sexual attraction to them at all until getting to know them on an in depth level.[/QUOTE]
Why does there have to be a sexual attraction between both individuals?
[QUOTE=Memnoth;46955076]Why does there have to be a sexual attraction between both individuals?[/QUOTE]
Because unless you're literally blind there's no way you can get past the fact someone is ugly. There is no way you can't have any opinion whatsoever on someone's looks unless you can't see at all
[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;46955074]It's not like they're blind and suddenly when they know someone he/she becomes instantly attractive to them. It's more of a "hey this person looks good but I wouldn't really sleep with them just like that because it's not my type of thing" which is basically a very large portion of people[/QUOTE]
That's actually not what demisexual is. You just literally don't think they're physically attractive until you've gotten to know them. It happens to me sometimes.
[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;46955074]It's not like they're blind and suddenly when they know someone he/she becomes instantly attractive to them. It's more of a "hey this person looks good but I wouldn't really sleep with them just like that because it's not my type of thing" which is basically a very large portion of people[/QUOTE]
Im sorry are you re-defining a word opposed to what people who are of that sexuality identify it as and what they use it to mean? No it isn't instant because any relationship grows over time, but although they might recognize someone looks good (same as a straight guy can recognize other guys look good and not be sexually attracted to them) they arn't attracted to that person physically on initially meeting them. Yes that happens sometimes to people who are not demisexual but using the word to describe their sexuality means identifying it as the primary way that they experience attraction, which is less true of the average person.
It isn't repressing sexual attraction because they don't want to just meet and fuck, they don't experience that attraction at all.
This is difficult to describe being as it isn't something I myself identify as, and to be honest I'll check out of this discussion now because I think i've explained it best I can and to be honest I think you just don't care to accept it either way.
So then they just have no libido and they're asexual?
[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;46955109]Because unless you're literally blind there's no way you can get past the fact someone is ugly. There is no way you can't have any opinion whatsoever on someone's looks unless you can't see at all[/QUOTE]
But why would the appearance of the individual matter if I would just consider going down on them. That would be why I would prefer the penis in that case, since I have no sexual attraction towards men it would seem the easiest approach.
[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;46955148]So then they just have no libido and they're asexual?[/QUOTE]
In a way, yeah, you'll find demisexual under the asexual page on wikipedia
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