• Gay Chat V12 - Even More Optimistic
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ive always known, started coming out to people around 13 i think
I can't remember what and when got me my orientation. Goodnight gays
[QUOTE=GhostProject;46991089]ive always known, started coming out to people around 13 i think[/QUOTE] I've told 3 real people, one a girl who is also gay, my cousin, and one a guy who isn't really my friend anymore.
i tell ppl im bi but they say im gay so i just roll with it
I brought water goggles in hs to have a good look at some booty and some titties in hs in the pool And then when college came up I learned I was alright with the dong too
Figured out I was Pan when I was like 16, hadn't really thought about it till then. I think people who are straight up gay seem to figure it out pretty early, where Bi/Pan people don't tend to until they are a bit older, since they like the opposite gender as well so the "oh I like my own gender as well" thing doesn't pop up as soon? Just entirely anecdotal though from all the people I know, no clue if that's actually true.
Tbh I didn't really think guys were hot until I was like 18-19 and it's still very specific. I'm really picky with dudes
yer all ghey And that's okay :D <3
I already posted it but I can always repost it in another shape. I was straight until like 19, when I started to notice that I feel somewhat attracted to guys. Not until like 3 months ago I realized that I do almost not at all feel attracted to women. So I see myself as mostly homosexual. Feels kinda strange in a way but at the same time I'm happy with how I feel. The next step is probably to actually find someone that likes me. Which feels kinda hard because most gays are most likely like me. They don't stick out of the masses.
I don't even remember when I found out I liked dudes but I found out last year I'm into anything that has a nice personality to go alongside it [QUOTE=Teto;46989888]I read 'faeces' like "yeah, that would ruin a movie".[/QUOTE] that would ruin something yeah
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[QUOTE=Roll_Program;46990908]Everyone was confused about their oritentation age 14.[/QUOTE] I honestly have to agree, i knew around age 12 that something was slightly different. But i didn't accept my own sexuality until i was 18, took 6 years of confusion and a girlfriend until i could safely say i wasn't confused. You get folks who say they knew at age 12 13 14, and sure you can but that seems like a bit of the minority. The rest just get stuck in limbo for a few years of their teenage lives it seems.
[QUOTE=Roll_Program;46990908]Everyone was confused about their oritentation age 14.[/QUOTE] I kinda started to realize my attraction to dudes at 14, but I bottled up my feelings for 4 years. I would agree. [editline]22nd January 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=G-foxisus;46991182]i tell ppl im bi but they say im gay so i just roll with it[/QUOTE] I tell people I'm gay because it's easier to explain than bisexual. People are more understanding of gay than bi and it's seriously annoying.
I recall one of my first crushes was on a guy when I was 11 or so, but I didn't actually fully consider myself gay or anything until I was around 15 or 16.
Honestly, it never occurred to me that I was bisexual until last year, and I'm 20. Although, I've never really been good at putting two and two together, so don't sweat it; everyone figures it out at their own pace.
'Sup, hombros. I should post here more often.
I'm now 22 years old. wooo.....
soon: death
When I came out, the initial reaction from several guys in my former school was "Ew, I was in the shower with you".
I've only come out to, like, 2 people. Not even my best friend. I'm afraid he'd see me differently is all, and that's not something I want to risk.
[QUOTE=Pastel;46990585]My mom just generally dislikes gay people (She is very religious.) I'm not even sure if I'm gay/bi, I'm just lustfully attracted to men. I had no thought of coming out soon but I'm just afraid she won't love me as much anymore when/if I do come out.[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Pastel;46990585]My mom just generally dislikes gay people (She is very religious.) I'm not even sure if I'm gay/bi, I'm just lustfully attracted to men. I had no thought of coming out soon but I'm just afraid she won't love me as much anymore when/if I do come out.[/QUOTE] If you suspect you might have difficulty coming out to your parents or friends there are valuable resources just for you! If you are feeling lonely or sad there is the [URL="http://www.itgetsbetter.org/pages/about-it-gets-better-project/"]it gets better project[/URL] If you have already come out to your parents or are considering it there is [URL="http://www.theparentsproject.com"]the parents project[/URL] there are also plenty of pflag organisations across varying countries which are really important for you if you feel maybe your safety is at risk and also for helping your parents understand it. You should go visit them alone before bringing your parents. They won't bite. If you have pressing questions or uncertainties that need to be answered or just want to know you are not the only one with the problems you have there are numerous advice sites available. A youth oriented one is [URL="http://everyoneisgay.com"]everyone is gay[/URL] Make sure you read some of the other questions before assuming they will give an answer that suits you, they might not have an outlook on life that fits your values but I find they are often superb. A more controversial and less specific website is Dan Savage's [URL="http://thestranger.com/savage"]savage love[/URL] but more pertinent is his YouTube videos, probably [URL="http://youtu.be/09RMqWo6br0"]this one[/URL]. But they are all good. There is plenty out there and whilst I have never personally actually required most of it, the general positive vibe from these places did take me out of a dark place a year or so ago where I only seemed to find horrible lgbt news articles and stories. This post I hope will help you but don't take it as if I am specifically directed at you, I made it for everyone~
It was sort of obvious to everyone around me when I was 5. There was the obvious "Ew girls have cooties" idea, but the constant running up to the older class men for hugs and such is what gave it away. Add 8 years to this and I finally bother looking at myself and asking what exactly I am attracted to.
Similar for me: the first time I masturbated properly it was to the thought of kissing an older guy. I proceeded to do the whole "if I watch two straight porn videos I can watch one gay porn video!" then zoned out/focused on the guy in the first two and really enjoyed the last until I was just watching gay porn. This continued until I was 19 and feeling alone at uni and whilst I had never said to anyone I was gay or even to myself, I just saw no reason to not try guys first. Then after my first experience I saw no reason to even bother with girls. At high school I was too focused on work to be lonely or desire intimate stuff so I never bothered about sexuality beyond porn. Also I always liked the Ken doll more without his clothes on. I also had a Ken doll
[QUOTE=Fancy Godgineer;46993739]When I came out, the initial reaction from several guys in my former school was "Ew, I was in the shower with you".[/QUOTE] People like that are really annoying.
[QUOTE=MaddaCheeb;46992102]I tell people I'm gay because it's easier to explain than bisexual. People are more understanding of gay than bi and it's seriously annoying.[/QUOTE] This behaviour bothers me. I am going to get aggressive without fully understanding and you are the victim here so it is probably victim blaming but nonetheless: Why are gay people more accepted? There are probably more bi people out there than gays, though they aren't seen as often. I think gay people are more accepted because they were the face of the stonewall days, though other sexualities were involved. So they became more accepted through that over the decades after pushing through often violent situations and not hiding who they were often because they couldn't (again other sexualities and members of that broader community were also involved but they didn't get the acceptance as much). So it certainly is your choice to not inform people how you actually identify and you have no obligation to do anything else, you don't have the acceptance that gay people do. Other identities also have this problem and some of them are fighting for their own equality now. By being open about their identity, even if it doesn't define them or represent who they are. So they go through the difficult conversation - often more difficult than the gay one, especially now - and they make people understand. Rather than just making something up because it is easier. You don't have to be an activist but you must recognize that it is hard conversation that changes the status quo. It is people who are bi and open about it that bring you more acceptance. The same goes for any identity including being gay. Straight people help as well by participating in organisations in support of alternate sexualities and then [I]actively not disclosing their heterosexuality, because it shouldn't matter[/I] By helping friends and family understand suddenly they know about something they had never thought about because it wasn't them and what is more they have an emotional connection - a friend, a family member, or at the very least a human being - so that when they are with someone else who says "bisexuals don't exist!!" Or something equally stupid, they might have the decency to correct them and then have a hard conversation [I]for you[/I] And it is that, that situation, those straight people who have no reason other than their own decency and humanity who win the battles for equality. Those conversations happen. And they need to. So. Yeah. I get a little annoyed when people who can be "out" about their sexuality or identity aren't. Having said that I don't say I am gay on my Facebook when I probably should, although I am saving that for when gay marriage gets seriously put to a vote in Australia. Anyway. Having hard conversation isn't a responsibility of yours but I think that morally there may be some obligation.
[QUOTE=Ax3l;46994599]People like that are really annoying.[/QUOTE] Yeah, no kidding. They eventually found out I had a crush on some other fella and started telling him how I wanted to rape him in the showers. At that point I was labeled as the Shower Rapist for the rest of my time in that school.
[QUOTE=Fancy Godgineer;46994679]Yeah, no kidding. They eventually found out I had a crush on some other fella and started telling him how I wanted to rape him in the showers. At that point I was labeled as the Shower Rapist for the rest of my time in that school.[/QUOTE] holy shit
[QUOTE=Roll_Program;46989788]Enemamies [editline]22nd January 2015[/editline] Hey duderinos. What's an easy cocktail with suff like fruit juice? I'm on my way home after gym and drinking this "tropical" pure fruit juice drink and thinking it would make a next-level pina collada with white rum or something. Or I could just pour vodka in :v:[/QUOTE] I was going to say vodka or rum :v:
Screwdriver always.
[QUOTE=Fancy Godgineer;46994679]Yeah, no kidding. They eventually found out I had a crush on some other fella and started telling him how I wanted to rape him in the showers. At that point I was labeled as the Shower Rapist for the rest of my time in that school.[/QUOTE] tbh i can see why youd be labelled that
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