• Gay Chat V12 - Even More Optimistic
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[QUOTE=Gray001;47269203]Will be getting a lip piercing on Thursday. 144 hours. :oo[/QUOTE] Heyyy thread, why all the piercing dislike. They're reversible!
[QUOTE=eurocracy;47269495]Heyyy thread, why all the piercing dislike. They're reversible![/QUOTE] Except the chance of infection and the permanent scar risk and the 6 week recovery period. Oh well. ;v [QUOTE=jp_rsardeto;47269455]My self esteem has been nearing rock bottom lately. [editline]6th March 2015[/editline] Lately I've been feeling hideous[/QUOTE] Whenever I feel ugly, I exercise a little. Okay, not a little, until I feel weak and exhausted. Dopameens, broski.
[QUOTE=eurocracy;47269495]Heyyy thread, why all the piercing dislike. They're reversible![/QUOTE] Holes don't disappear. Also it's ugly.
A surreal thing about friends coming out as transgender is that now when playfully insulting each other, as friends do, she's now a bitch instead of a bastard. Like it shows acceptance to use her proper pronouns, and somehow calling her a bitch is a sign of acceptance now too. Like, yeah, this is how we show that we accept you; you're a bitch now. It's not as weird in reality, but when you think about it, it seems kind of funny? I generally use gender neutral insults anyway. Like prick, asshole, or piece of shit.
[QUOTE=Gray001;47269203]Will be getting a lip piercing on Thursday. 144 hours. :oo[/QUOTE] What kind?
[QUOTE=Rubs10;47271022]What kind?[/QUOTE] Titanium loop! Whenever everything heals up maybe I can get one that's not so plain, but, good start! :D
My bedroom window is suitably festooned. I have to figure out how to put it on the wall outside without it blowing away in a hurricane or something. [IMG_thumb]http://i.imgur.com/LJa1UiW.jpg?1[/IMG_thumb]
[QUOTE=Teto;47269938]A surreal thing about friends coming out as transgender is that now when playfully insulting each other, as friends do, she's now a bitch instead of a bastard. Like it shows acceptance to use her proper pronouns, and somehow calling her a bitch is a sign of acceptance now too. Like, yeah, this is how we show that we accept you; you're a bitch now. It's not as weird in reality, but when you think about it, it seems kind of funny? I generally use gender neutral insults anyway. Like prick, asshole, or piece of shit.[/QUOTE] Not super related but this reminds me of something One of my close friends recently decided he was actually trans (now she). It is a really odd situation though, so personally it makes it kind of hard to take her too seriously considering the circumstances, but she feels better in her current shoes so its not for me to judge. And she wants to be taken seriously, so I will! I say it comes off as an odd circumstance because she's married to a gay guy as a gay couple, was super into wanting to work out and just in general a very sexual/proud to be gay kind of guy with plenty of confidence and the occasional feminine flair (honestly every guy who is comfortable about his sexuality isn't afraid to show a more feminine side at times). His husband used to be a bottom but because he has a bad case of IBS, he turned into being the dedicated top and his desperately-in-love-willing-to-please-no-matter-what (now trans) husband took the bottom role on with open arms in response. Fast forward a bit in time later the (now trans) husband gets turned onto the idea of being an ultimate bottom for his husband of sorts in the form of a roleplaying a cunt-boy (aka guy with a vagina). Suddenly shortly after having fun with that idea he starts having major gender-identity related stress and now has come out as female, likely being encouraged by all the recent pro-trans awareness going on in the world. I'm just very concerned that it is going to cause a rift in their relationship. The husband with IBS is very much gay and into dudes and they've been a happy gay couple for years. The now-trans person clearly is into guys still as well. The whole situation really came off to me as the only reason why she became trans was because she made an active choice to bottom in her relationship to please her husband no matter what, and got so into the idea of her being an ultimate bottom for her husband felt she couldn't mentally separate her ultimate bottom fantasy to please her husband at any cost from her gender. I mean, any reason is a good enough reason to be trans so I really feel shitty for making it sound like I'm judging her for her reasons. But its weird watching a good friend in one of the tightest gay relationships you know suddenly go trans essentially because being a power bottom who gets turned on at the idea of having a vagina in service of your husband must mean you have to be a girl. It just strange considering every trans person I've known prior has been essentially trans their whole life and struggled with it. She was not like that at all, and was very comfortably homosexual and male all the way up until now with her coming out as a female. And I'm talking being super serious about it with days where she'll be super neurotic and mentally unstable as she struggles to accept her new identity, not being able to sleep, wanting to just be female, etc. Its not her just jumping in for fun reasons. I'm really concerned with what kind of position she might be in if they happen to potentially divorce because of this. Or what kinds of things it might say about it her and being trans in general if she decides to go back to being a guy if a situation happens where her husband is noticeably not able to be turned on anymore by this new direction (seeing as he's still very much gay). And by the way she very open about herself, an extremely sexually active person with a super high libido, and is the kind of personality type who becomes easily obsessed/clingy with their partners, so if you are wondering why so much of this situation seems to be related to bedroom practices and how I know of it that is why :v:
[QUOTE=KorJax;47273126]Not super related but this reminds me of something One of my close friends recently decided he was actually trans (now she). It is a really odd situation though, so personally it makes it kind of hard to take her too seriously considering the circumstances, but she feels better in her current shoes so its not for me to judge. And she wants to be taken seriously, so I will! I say it comes off as an odd circumstance because she's married to a gay guy as a gay couple, was super into wanting to work out and just in general a very sexual/proud to be gay kind of guy with plenty of confidence and the occasional feminine flair (honestly every guy who is comfortable about his sexuality isn't afraid to show a more feminine side at times). His husband used to be a bottom but because he has a bad case of IBS, he turned into being the dedicated top and his desperately-in-love-willing-to-please-no-matter-what (now trans) husband took the bottom role on with open arms in response. Fast forward a bit in time later the (now trans) husband gets turned onto the idea of being an ultimate bottom for his husband of sorts in the form of a roleplaying a cunt-boy (aka guy with a vagina). Suddenly shortly after having fun with that idea he starts having major gender-identity related stress and now has come out as female, likely being encouraged by all the recent pro-trans awareness going on in the world. I'm just very concerned that it is going to cause a rift in their relationship. The husband with IBS is very much gay and into dudes and they've been a happy gay couple for years. The now-trans person clearly is into guys still as well. [B]The whole situation really came off to me as the only reason why she became trans was because she made an active choice to bottom in her relationship to please her husband no matter what, and got so into the idea of her being an ultimate bottom for her husband felt she couldn't mentally separate her ultimate bottom fantasy to please her husband at any cost from her gender.[/B] I mean, any reason is a good enough reason to be trans so I really feel shitty for making it sound like I'm judging her for her reasons. But its weird watching a good friend in one of the tightest gay relationships you know suddenly go trans essentially because being a power bottom who gets turned on at the idea of having a vagina in service of your husband must mean you have to be a girl. It just strange considering every trans person I've known prior has been essentially trans their whole life and struggled with it. She was not like that at all, and was very comfortably homosexual and male all the way up until now with her coming out as a female. And I'm talking being super serious about it with days where she'll be super neurotic and mentally unstable as she struggles to accept her new identity, not being able to sleep, wanting to just be female, etc. Its not her just jumping in for fun reasons. I'm really concerned with what kind of position she might be in if they happen to potentially divorce because of this. Or what kinds of things it might say about it her and being trans in general if she decides to go back to being a guy if a situation happens where her husband is noticeably not able to be turned on anymore by this new direction (seeing as he's still very much gay). And by the way she very open about herself, an extremely sexually active person with a super high libido, and is the kind of personality type who becomes easily obsessed/clingy with their partners, so if you are wondering why so much of this situation seems to be related to bedroom practices and how I know of it that is why :v:[/QUOTE] This is very reminiscent of Booker K's "My brother started doing this and now it's made him gay!" I don't know the extent of your friendship but how do you know this isn't something she has dealt with her whole life? As for the relationship that's entirely up to them. If she truly feels she is a woman, and he can't accept that in the context of their current relationship, then that marriage will/should end. Don't be worried about that. Just because that marriage ends doesn't mean they'll hate each other or have to not be friends anymore. But when they got married they were both under the impression they were both guys. It's not fair to expect or hope or try to continue a marriage if that changing is not a condition both people are comfortable with. It's not what they signed up for. Given that they're married, surely the level of communication between them is at a level that they've already discussed this in detail? I'd hope.
Those thoughts were just musings in my head really. On a surface level, it's hard to take her situation seriously considering what I know from her and how it all happened, and considering my trans classmates I'm close friends with as well were all very clearly struggling with trans related issues their whole lives, so it paints an bit of a skewed picture for me. It shouldn't, and I don't really think bad of her at all, but its hard for me to separate this as simply a quirky phase with potentially very real relationship side effects down the road knowing how quirky her personality is, even though I know she's legitimately struggling with all of this right now. Its just something I need to get used to I suppose. Especially considering I've not ever really gotten to know anyone before they came out as trans.
[QUOTE=KorJax;47273126]Not super related but this reminds me of something One of my close friends recently decided he was actually trans (now she). It is a really odd situation though, so personally it makes it kind of hard to take her too seriously considering the circumstances, but she feels better in her current shoes so its not for me to judge. And she wants to be taken seriously, so I will! I say it comes off as an odd circumstance because she's married to a gay guy as a gay couple, was super into wanting to work out and just in general a very sexual/proud to be gay kind of guy with plenty of confidence and the occasional feminine flair (honestly every guy who is comfortable about his sexuality isn't afraid to show a more feminine side at times). His husband used to be a bottom but because he has a bad case of IBS, he turned into being the dedicated top and his desperately-in-love-willing-to-please-no-matter-what (now trans) husband took the bottom role on with open arms in response. Fast forward a bit in time later the (now trans) husband gets turned onto the idea of being an ultimate bottom for his husband of sorts in the form of a roleplaying a cunt-boy (aka guy with a vagina). Suddenly shortly after having fun with that idea he starts having major gender-identity related stress and now has come out as female, likely being encouraged by all the recent pro-trans awareness going on in the world. I'm just very concerned that it is going to cause a rift in their relationship. The husband with IBS is very much gay and into dudes and they've been a happy gay couple for years. The now-trans person clearly is into guys still as well. The whole situation really came off to me as the only reason why she became trans was because she made an active choice to bottom in her relationship to please her husband no matter what, and got so into the idea of her being an ultimate bottom for her husband felt she couldn't mentally separate her ultimate bottom fantasy to please her husband at any cost from her gender. I mean, any reason is a good enough reason to be trans so I really feel shitty for making it sound like I'm judging her for her reasons. But its weird watching a good friend in one of the tightest gay relationships you know suddenly go trans essentially because being a power bottom who gets turned on at the idea of having a vagina in service of your husband must mean you have to be a girl. It just strange considering every trans person I've known prior has been essentially trans their whole life and struggled with it. She was not like that at all, and was very comfortably homosexual and male all the way up until now with her coming out as a female. And I'm talking being super serious about it with days where she'll be super neurotic and mentally unstable as she struggles to accept her new identity, not being able to sleep, wanting to just be female, etc. Its not her just jumping in for fun reasons. I'm really concerned with what kind of position she might be in if they happen to potentially divorce because of this. Or what kinds of things it might say about it her and being trans in general if she decides to go back to being a guy if a situation happens where her husband is noticeably not able to be turned on anymore by this new direction (seeing as he's still very much gay). And by the way she very open about herself, an extremely sexually active person with a super high libido, and is the kind of personality type who becomes easily obsessed/clingy with their partners, so if you are wondering why so much of this situation seems to be related to bedroom practices and how I know of it that is why :v:[/QUOTE] People fetishizing transexuality isn't uncommon. Also Zilla thinks your post is dumb, despite it being rational from your perspective. Who knows if that person is legit transexual or just getting extremely extremely into it as a turn on.
I make really weird things when I'm bored. [video=youtube_share;d8URLSDzgpw]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d8URLSDzgpw[/video]
[QUOTE=KorJax;47273126]Not super related but this reminds me of something One of my close friends recently decided he was actually trans (now she). It is a really odd situation though, so personally it makes it kind of hard to take her too seriously considering the circumstances, but she feels better in her current shoes so its not for me to judge. And she wants to be taken seriously, so I will! I say it comes off as an odd circumstance because she's married to a gay guy as a gay couple, was super into wanting to work out and just in general a very sexual/proud to be gay kind of guy with plenty of confidence and the occasional feminine flair (honestly every guy who is comfortable about his sexuality isn't afraid to show a more feminine side at times). His husband used to be a bottom but because he has a bad case of IBS, he turned into being the dedicated top and his desperately-in-love-willing-to-please-no-matter-what (now trans) husband took the bottom role on with open arms in response. Fast forward a bit in time later the (now trans) husband gets turned onto the idea of being an ultimate bottom for his husband of sorts in the form of a roleplaying a cunt-boy (aka guy with a vagina). Suddenly shortly after having fun with that idea he starts having major gender-identity related stress and now has come out as female, likely being encouraged by all the recent pro-trans awareness going on in the world. I'm just very concerned that it is going to cause a rift in their relationship. The husband with IBS is very much gay and into dudes and they've been a happy gay couple for years. The now-trans person clearly is into guys still as well. The whole situation really came off to me as the only reason why she became trans was because she made an active choice to bottom in her relationship to please her husband no matter what, and got so into the idea of her being an ultimate bottom for her husband felt she couldn't mentally separate her ultimate bottom fantasy to please her husband at any cost from her gender. I mean, any reason is a good enough reason to be trans so I really feel shitty for making it sound like I'm judging her for her reasons. But its weird watching a good friend in one of the tightest gay relationships you know suddenly go trans essentially because being a power bottom who gets turned on at the idea of having a vagina in service of your husband must mean you have to be a girl. It just strange considering every trans person I've known prior has been essentially trans their whole life and struggled with it. She was not like that at all, and was very comfortably homosexual and male all the way up until now with her coming out as a female. And I'm talking being super serious about it with days where she'll be super neurotic and mentally unstable as she struggles to accept her new identity, not being able to sleep, wanting to just be female, etc. Its not her just jumping in for fun reasons. I'm really concerned with what kind of position she might be in if they happen to potentially divorce because of this. Or what kinds of things it might say about it her and being trans in general if she decides to go back to being a guy if a situation happens where her husband is noticeably not able to be turned on anymore by this new direction (seeing as he's still very much gay). And by the way she very open about herself, an extremely sexually active person with a super high libido, and is the kind of personality type who becomes easily obsessed/clingy with their partners, so if you are wondering why so much of this situation seems to be related to bedroom practices and how I know of it that is why :v:[/QUOTE] Maybe they really like each other and they'll stay together even if the guy with IBS isn't as attracted to his partner like when she was a guy. They can work it out. They can eventually hookup with another people or even have an open relationship. You know some relationships aren't so "square" as they look.
I'm sure some of this thread will be interested to know there was a Furry Float at the Sydney Mardi Gras: [IMG_thumb]https://pbs.twimg.com/media/B_e47QCVAAAOz-C.jpg[/IMG_thumb]
[QUOTE=gerbe1;47274408]I'm sure some of this thread will be interested to know there was a Furry Float at the Sydney Mardi Gras: [IMG_thumb]https://pbs.twimg.com/media/B_e47QCVAAAOz-C.jpg[/IMG_thumb][/QUOTE] [img]http://i.somethingawful.com/forumsystem/emoticons/emot-furcry.gif[/img] That's some nostalgia there
i've seen that fox before someone enlighten me o nvm thx kaze
[QUOTE=LuaChobo;47274635]when i was dating my ex, i found out one of his really close friends helps organize that shit fucker kept asking me if i wanted to be on their float or some shit just because he knew it pissed me off never dating a furry again[/QUOTE] Why did it piss you off...?
I think I'll never have understanding for anything furry related outside of the Internet. To me it's almost like fetish gone too far. But whatever.
[QUOTE=LuaChobo;47274681]because they were saying it to piss me off knowing i wasn't a furry or big on gay culture and having told them on multiple occasions i wasnt interested in the furry community[/QUOTE] Sounds to me like they were just teasing you becaue you were having such a reaction over something so silly, I get not being big on furries and all but there's no reason to get mad about it?
[QUOTE=LuaChobo;47274681]because they were saying it to piss me off knowing i wasn't a furry or big on gay culture and having told them on multiple occasions i wasnt interested in the furry community[/QUOTE] furries and bronies are the easiest people to tease back though, I'm surprised you were the one getting angry in the end :v:
It must have been a slow day for ITV yesterday, [url=http://www.itv.com/news/channel/update/2015-03-06/police-search-for-driver-who-jumped-red-light/]someone jumping a red light actually made the news.[/url] This is how you know you're in Jersey when petty stuff like this makes headlines.
My mother used to live on Jersey when she worked as an air-hostess for what was then called Jersey European (now fly-be) I should probably take a holiday there to see if it's all she makes it out to be, even though it was 20+ years ago.
[QUOTE=The Genie;47275241]Living on Jersey must be pretty cool. I took a ferry there once and I just loved how it only took me like an hour to get around the whole island :v:[/QUOTE] It's nice for it to only take around five minutes to get into town, which means like you said there's always something to do no matter where you are. It's something I take for granted as when I was in the UK last August, I wasn't used to suddenly everything being around 15-30 minutes away.
[QUOTE=LuaChobo;47275313]my ex was a furry, originally i actually politely asked them not to involve me in that shit and they hounded me if they werent close friends of my ex i coulda destroyed em but i didn't want to make shit hard for him that is until they kept trying to show me their dildo collections and i just kept talking constant shit to them which eventually caused some massive furry "movement" to convince me ex to dump me furry community is fucking retarded [editline]8th March 2015[/editline] yeah how about don't be a cunt to people who are trying to be polite to you doesn't matter if they are in a group or not, you don't fuck with people irl when they make shit blatantly clear if you do, then you'd pretty much be a spastic[/QUOTE] I didn't know any of that, I was just replying based on what little I knew. Sorry if that offended you.
[QUOTE=LuaChobo;47275313]my ex was a furry, originally i actually politely asked them not to involve me in that shit and they hounded me if they werent close friends of my ex i coulda destroyed em but i didn't want to make shit hard for him that is until they kept trying to show me their dildo collections and i just kept talking constant shit to them which eventually caused some massive furry "movement" to convince me ex to dump me furry community is fucking retarded [editline]8th March 2015[/editline] yeah how about don't be a cunt to people who are trying to be polite to you doesn't matter if they are in a group or not, you don't fuck with people irl when they make shit blatantly clear if you do, then you'd pretty much be a spastic[/QUOTE] Sounds like a douchebag. It's bad enough when people like that come out of nowhere, but worse when you actually have to deal with them day to day because they're just latched onto some aspect of your life which you can't ignore. People who just for whatever reason revel in annoying other people persistently. I don't really buy into the whole furry 'community' thing. All fandoms are bad.
I like to think I'm not that bad.
There's no real "head" of anything, the only people you could consider that just run an event and have a fanclub because of it :v: To some people they might be some big figurehead, but to anyone else they're just some guy who organises stuff
[QUOTE=LuaChobo;47275654]considering these people were/still are considered "head" of the australian community i think its fairly reasonable to label the group everyone involved was very close to the owners of most of the australian furry conventions it wasnt just random furries either way its just my view on it based on actual experiences and not "lol they fuck dogs" i don't expect anyone else to have experiences like that[/QUOTE] You're still judging a pretty large group of people based on a few, and I think trying to justify it with your "personal experience", which is pretty limited in reality, is a bad thing to do. I'm not defending the specific people you've encountered, just critisizing your painting of the furry community with a mile-wide brush.
So what if he wants nothing to do with a community and judges them I mean it's his choice he's not harming them in any way
[QUOTE=LuaChobo;47276347]"4 months of experience isnt enough to judge it by" just sayin' ive seen enough of it to never want anything to do with it again in any scenario since i assume you are a furry im not really gonna go into it anymore because its like punching a wall and hoping it flinches[/QUOTE] Yes, I'm a furry. It's not something I bring up unless it's relevant. I'm sick and tired of being lumped together with the more pathetic sides of the community in spite of all the reasonable people in it. But yeah, fine. Just don't expect my sympathy if/when you ever whine about someone doing the same thing.
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