• Gay Chat V12 - Even More Optimistic
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[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;47318193]People interpret being in the closet as being in denial I think that's where the problem is. You can feel good about yourself and accept you who are without needing to tell everyone about it. If you want to sure go ahead, but it's personal and nobody else's biz[/QUOTE] To be honest I don't think I'm quite there yet when it comes to being gay, which I imagine is the result of being brought up in a very conservative rural family, but I don't know how shouting it from the rooftops would help. But I'm just fine as I am now, honestly, no need to change it up and possibly make the situation worse, imo.
Today I went to Gainesville to watch some drag racing and I decided to take the girlfriend with (mostly because she.. really wanted to?). Incredible shit, god damn. I've never heard or felt anything like funny cars / dragsters.
[QUOTE=Saza;47319033]Today I went to Gainesville to watch some drag racing and I decided to take the girlfriend with (mostly because she.. really wanted to?). Incredible shit, god damn. I've never heard or felt anything like funny cars / dragsters.[/QUOTE] Depending on income you could easily get into drag racing ,look into bracket racing which falls down to ability to tune and driver skill over speed.But going fast is really really fun.
[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;47318193]People interpret being in the closet as being in denial I think that's where the problem is. You can feel good about yourself and accept you who are without needing to tell everyone about it. If you want to sure go ahead, but it's personal and nobody else's biz[/QUOTE] This really, i personally have no plans to come out to my family as it's something that i find....largely pointless. If i meet someone who becomes very significant to me then i will, but for the time being i have no reason to come out and tell my family. Its not out of fear, my family would accept me no problem i have no reason to believe other wise i just don't think there's any need to tell them i like dicks. I don't come out to friends either unless it's relevant, i don't meet them and go 'hi my name is viva and im a genuine dick sucker nice to meet you'
It's a matter of comfortableness for me. I don't like people assuming I'm straight so if they do it, I tell them. Usually happens in the form of "lol did you slay lots of womanz on ur trip dudebrah?" and I go, "no, if I were to have sex it would be with men." And then they stop being dicks for fear of me wanting to suck them. I have - for the most part - only ever come out reflexively. I didn't come out to my parents until they asked about girlfriends (I've probably told the story before, at dinner, tv on in the background, science program about pheremones, dad goes "you should watch that so you can get all the girlz" I go "I don't think I am interested in women, dad, I'm more interested in men" end of convo). Same story essentially for everyone else. Only people I came out to pro-actively were my friends because I had a "boyfriend" at the time and my sister because she is in Germany and everyone else in my immediate family knew. HOWEVER. I still think if you consider there is no harm either way, there is a social benefit that has to be emphasised to being completely open (on your facebook, plastered on your face): so people who can't be out can see that there is a situation where one day they won't have to hide their sexuality and it won't ruin their lives if someone find out. aka it can provide hope.
[QUOTE=JesseR92;47319053]Depending on income you could easily get into drag racing ,look into bracket racing which falls down to ability to tune and driver skill over speed.But going fast is really really fun.[/QUOTE] Oh I'm aware. I'm not really into doing it, but watching it was intense as hell. I myself prefer autocross and course racing, but I'll never be a professional driver - not for a while, anyway. It'd require too much of my time to do when I plan to major in aerospace engineering this fall.
I lifted something heavy at work after exhausting myself and now my chest still hurts a few hours later. But I don't know if it's worthwhile chasing up or if I just overexerted myself like an idiot. I'll have to see how I wake up tomorrow. There won't be any doctors open now anyway, or tomorrow.
Is it your pecs that hurt? Probably this. [url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delayed_onset_muscle_soreness[/url]
[QUOTE=Roll_Program;47319369]Is it your pecs that hurt? Probably this. [url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delayed_onset_muscle_soreness[/url][/QUOTE] Nah it's more around where my heart is. I am not trying to sound panicked or anything, I feel far better than I did so I am assuming it's just me accidentally pushing myself too hard. On that page, this is linked: [url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Acute_muscle_soreness[/url] Which sounds a bit more accurate. It was instant rather than delayed, and has lasted a few hours with improvement.
I had really bad doms in my left pec after fucking up my bench press form, struck me in the middle of the night and I thought I was about to have a heart attack or something since it was right where my heart is.
I am now ashamed to say my pain is from lifting a metal pan full of dead pine needles rather than something actually interesting like weight lifting.
Don't be a DYEL and get strong instead.
Srsly it sounds like you used your muscles to their max for the first time in a looong time and you got a classic case of DOMS, your chest is what's gonna be under strain when you're holding a heavy box and tryng to keep it off the ground.
Roll is right. Even if you don't wanna get big so can training prevent pain.
Basically you were like neo in the first matrix
[QUOTE=gerbe1;47319280]It's a matter of comfortableness for me. I don't like people assuming I'm straight so if they do it, I tell them. Usually happens in the form of "lol did you slay lots of womanz on ur trip dudebrah?" and I go, "no, if I were to have sex it would be with men." And then they stop being dicks for fear of me wanting to suck them. I have - for the most part - only ever come out reflexively. I didn't come out to my parents until they asked about girlfriends (I've probably told the story before, at dinner, tv on in the background, science program about pheremones, dad goes "you should watch that so you can get all the girlz" I go "I don't think I am interested in women, dad, I'm more interested in men" end of convo). Same story essentially for everyone else. Only people I came out to pro-actively were my friends because I had a "boyfriend" at the time and my sister because she is in Germany and everyone else in my immediate family knew. HOWEVER. I still think if you consider there is no harm either way, there is a social benefit that has to be emphasised to being completely open (on your facebook, plastered on your face): so people who can't be out can see that there is a situation where one day they won't have to hide their sexuality and it won't ruin their lives if someone find out. aka it can provide hope.[/QUOTE] Pretty much this, you don't have to come out, and certainly shouldn't if it means you might risk being thrown out of your house or otherwise having your life ruined. But if there's no problems like that, there's no reason, in my opinion, that you can't tell your family/friends. In my opinion, you shouldn't go out of your way to tell everyone you're gay, but if the subject comes up it's completely okay to say "yeah, no, I actually like [same gender]" or something similar. To me, people knowing is a bit of a relief, I don't feel like I have to hide anything, people stop bugging me about "getting gurls" and (usually/mostly) stop making overly offensive jokes/remarks (I'm usually not offended by gay jokes and stuff, but holy shit there's a line guys).
Also I'm kind of crushing on someone in my class in college and I was wondering what's a good way to approach it. I tried messaging him on Grindr once and he replied and we talked for a bit, but that was a few months ago - tried again today but to no avail. Should I even try to pursue it?
Can you think of a good reason of why you should not? Because it doesn't sound like there is one
[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;47321924]Can you think of a good reason of why you should not? Because it doesn't sound like there is one[/QUOTE] I don't know. I'm typically very shy, so I have no idea how to initiate a conversation with him without sounding weird. We're not exactly friends but we don't get along bad either - but we rarely ever talk, I think I've talked to him once throughout two years, so I suppose we should get to be friends before I consider asking him out. Oddly enough, I'm not interested in him sexually at all. I've never been in a relationship so I have no idea how it works. I also don't know if a relationship I'd have to hide from my family would work out too well. I just really don't want to waste his time, that's all.
I mean if he thinks you're wasting his time he's a tool and you shouldn't give a shit if you do. If he's not then it's alright It's a win win [editline]14th March 2015[/editline] Go for it being shy is only a crutch you give yourself
shy people are cute
It's fun cuz you get to talk all you want and they just let you do it and listen And talking is fun
It's not even the talking it's just the lewd aspect of it. Idk I have weird kinks, one of them is shy people because they look and act innocent. I'm not a rapist I swear
It's all because of the implication.
[QUOTE=Batmoutarde;47322189]I mean if he thinks you're wasting his time he's a tool and you shouldn't give a shit if you do. If he's not then it's alright It's a win win [editline]14th March 2015[/editline] Go for it being shy is only a crutch you give yourself[/QUOTE] The thing is, I don't know how to talk to him at all. I messaged him (on Grindr) earlier today but didn't get a reply. So either he didn't see it or doesn't feel like replying, but either way I don't want to be pushy. Maybe I should just talk to him IRL instead? But then that means I have to talk to him when he's with all of his lady friends. It's difficult. Maybe I should just give it up. Even then, what could I tell him? Having a crush on someone is confusing. I've never felt this way about another person.
Made it to Portland! It's very wet here. But I like the weather. I think I will like it here for the next few months.
[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;47322366]It's not even the talking it's just the lewd aspect of it. Idk I have weird kinks, one of them is shy people because they look and act innocent. I'm not a rapist I swear[/QUOTE] s...shy replies to you from here on out...
[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;47322366]It's not even the talking it's just the lewd aspect of it. Idk I have weird kinks, one of them is shy people because they look and act innocent. I'm not a rapist I swear[/QUOTE] The shy ones are best at bed.
Does that mean that I'm a sex-machine? Or am I fucked because I medicate against social fobia?
I haven't posted here in a while. Why not start with a video of my band and I practicing for the first time in 2 years. We're awfully rusty, but oh well. I'm on the bass. [vid]http://puu.sh/gAuay/d2d77eae78.mp4[/vid]
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