• Gay Chat V12 - Even More Optimistic
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[QUOTE=Trekintosh;47388880]Nobody's ever been able to give me a reason to try it. The only positive answers almost always seem to be "the social aspect" or "I like the taste." Socially, I don't see why drinking alcohol would make you any more social than, say, drinking grape juice. And as for the taste, I really like the taste of fruit juices so why do I need to drink alcohol? The taste is the only thing that I've seen anyone say that makes any sense to me.[/QUOTE]Alcohol is an intoxicating drink that lowers inhibitions and makes you more social. Grape juice is not intoxicating. The social aspect is having a few drinks and talking about shit with your friends. Alcohol usually helps in this aspect to just relax and be more open with your friends and such.
[QUOTE=TehWhale;47390390]Alcohol is an intoxicating drink that lowers inhibitions and makes you more social. Grape juice is not intoxicating. The social aspect is having a few drinks and talking about shit with your friends. Alcohol usually helps in this aspect to just relax and be more open with your friends and such.[/QUOTE] I once tried snuggling with one of my friends (who I thought was cute) when I was really tired once while drunk. Pretty sure he isn't gay (then again, he didn't say no). :v: It is funny in hindsight though.
[QUOTE=Trekintosh;47388880]Nobody's ever been able to give me a reason to try it. The only positive answers almost always seem to be "the social aspect" or "I like the taste." Socially, I don't see why drinking alcohol would make you any more social than, say, drinking grape juice. And as for the taste, I really like the taste of fruit juices so why do I need to drink alcohol? The taste is the only thing that I've seen anyone say that makes any sense to me.[/QUOTE] Did somebody have to give you a reason to try that grape juice? And it potentially makes you more social than grape juice does because grape juice doesn't contain alcohol. One of the things alcohol does is makes you more spontaneous, but you need to drink a decent amount of it. Just tasting it for the sake of tasting it has absolutely no short or long term effects. Even someone who hasn't had alcohol before could finish a beer without feeling anything. [editline]25th March 2015[/editline] Alcohol is an Arabic word though so its dangerous
Hot damn, I had thought that a huge fuck up on one of my tests meant it would be completely impossible for me to get a 4.0 in Calc II, regardless of what I did on the final. I guess my professor calculated the grades differently though, because I just got my grades back and it's a 4.0. Pretty happy about that.
[QUOTE=Trekintosh;47388880]Nobody's ever been able to give me a reason to try it. The only positive answers almost always seem to be "the social aspect" or "I like the taste." Socially, I don't see why drinking alcohol would make you any more social than, say, drinking grape juice. And as for the taste, I really like the taste of fruit juices so why do I need to drink alcohol? The taste is the only thing that I've seen anyone say that makes any sense to me.[/QUOTE] [img]http://lh4.ggpht.com/dEUc-AVWpZ1LJZKN9D-LP_8DrEx-THFl2FOtZntstA5ZHN9yGSQeZg7LYra2ihcxTzbg7QemtXsD__eLsrYSUw=s320-c-e365[/img] You see this shit? This wonderful tasty drink? That my friend is a cocktail. That's right, a motherfucking cocktail that looks like a ice cream sundae. Why does it look like an ice cream sundae you might ask? Bitch that's because it [B][I]IS[/I][/B] one. An ice cream sundae with vokda in it, this aint no kids birthday party drink, this is an adult drink that you can order at fancy bars and shit that gets you [I]wasted[/I] while you chat about your childhood memories then cry to yourself in the bathroom. And it's my favorite. .....fuck Jägerbombs
[QUOTE=Mould;47389500]I always think it tastes horrible, I can only drink fruity ciders. I need it for parties though, I'm shy in crowds so it's useful to get a bit of buzz to take away some inhibitions[/QUOTE] I used to drink cider and mix stuff like Baileys or Kahlua with milk. And sometimes those colorful drinks that are supposed to appeal to younger people. I can't drink much because I feel lightheaded after a single 330 ml cider.
[QUOTE=LuaChobo;47391018]so basically you just discovered desert cocktails?[/QUOTE] I thought all cocktails were deserts?
[IMG_thumb]http://www.siroter.com/recette/desert-sunrise-cocktail-211.png[/IMG_thumb] [editline]25th March 2015[/editline] ?
I love making pretty drinks, especiallly sunrises, cause they're easy. I'll throw it in a highball, line the rim with sugar, and throw some fruit on the edge for good measure mmmmmm Although most of the time I'll just do shots because drunk
I love making cocktails too! That's why I became a cocktail bartender. Shit is fun as fuck. [editline]25th March 2015[/editline] Also talking to my kinda bf person, asking about fetishes and he says that he's into taboo stuff, like murder... I'm scared now.
[QUOTE=Vashe;47391273]Also talking to my kinda bf person, asking about fetishes and he says that he's into taboo stuff, like murder... I'm scared now.[/QUOTE] I've been through something similar with someone else but I thought it was funny and adorable. But most things are adorable to me so how much that means I don't know.
nightmares ;_; Can't i dream about something nice for once
I don't even know what to do anymore. I love my boyfriend, and he loves me, but lately I've been feeling guilty. I've done nothing wrong, but I feel as though he deserves someone other than me. Someone better. Is it normal to fear that you're only a burden to them?
[QUOTE=Jamirus;47391432]I don't even know what to do anymore. I love my boyfriend, and he loves me, but lately I've been feeling guilty. I've done nothing wrong, but I feel as though he deserves someone other than me. Someone better. Is it normal to fear that you're only a burden to them?[/QUOTE] Hmmmm, my boyfriend sometimes feels the exact same way sometimes.... Tell me more about the way you feel so I may gain some insight.
[QUOTE=Trekintosh;47390121]Okay, I think I understand it now. I wasn't trying to be high and mighty, it just literally didn't compute for me.[/QUOTE] I didn't drink until i was 21 and gave up on life. (Legal drinking age in UK is 18 and most people start drinking here is like 15-16) I'm being serious here. Ever since i started drinking, i've become more confident, more outgoing and a lot more sociable. I don't drink a lot at all. Maybe a few beers when im with a group of friends on the weekend or i get drunk on nights out. But even since i went on nights out with mates, clubs, pubs and stuff, i've made a lot of new friends and become a lot more happier. It does benefit you if you have outgoing friends that like going out though.
I have to start a really salt and fat-strict/free diet because of my hypertension, and the doctor said the best way is to improvise dishes that center around [url=http://www.dashdietoregon.org/files/dash/pdf/dash_shopping_list.pdf]these[/url] foods and be generous with the spices so that it can make my food not taste bland. I'm gonna turn into Gordon Ramsey because I fucking love adding spices to everything.
I don't really have a strong opinion on alcohol, I personally don't really like the effect(s) it has on me and I've yet to find a drink that I [I]really[/I] like. So it's not something I generally do, but neither something I judge other people for. Different tastes, no?
I've been eating awfully lately, most days I just have a bacon and egg mcmuffin out of convenience. I haven't put on any weight but I'd like to eat healthier. I just dunno where to start though. I'd like to eat more fruit but I still feel hungry afterwards unless I eat large amounts of fruit every morning.
[QUOTE=ultra_bright;47391473]Hmmmm, my boyfriend sometimes feels the exact same way sometimes.... Tell me more about the way you feel so I may gain some insight.[/QUOTE] Maybe my concerns are misplaced, but I sometimes feel like an idiot whenever I speak to him. He's pretty smart, with a lot of interests in many things like computers and space and whatnot. I really don't have much going on for me. I don't have any hobbies, no major goals in life, nothing. I just float on by.
[QUOTE=Jamirus;47391537]Maybe my concerns are misplaced, but I sometimes feel like an idiot whenever I speak to him. He's pretty smart, with a lot of interests in many things like computers and space and whatnot. I really don't have much going on for me. I don't have any hobbies, no major goals in life, nothing. I just float on by.[/QUOTE] Are you my boyfriend?
Fuck sake i just did a massive post about my issues and then the forum stopped working and deleted my post. [editline]25th March 2015[/editline] EDIT: nm i found it. [QUOTE=Jamirus;47391537]Maybe my concerns are misplaced, but I sometimes feel like an idiot whenever I speak to him. He's pretty smart, with a lot of interests in many things like computers and space and whatnot. I really don't have much going on for me. I don't have any hobbies, no major goals in life, nothing. I just float on by.[/QUOTE] I think i can kind of relate but the circumstances are switched. My boyfriend always feels guilty with me. Apparently i subconsiously give this guilty aura and whenever my boyfriend doesnt like something, i make him feel really guilty about it, even if its unintentional. But saying that. It's just reminded me. I was hoping for some advice from a few of you guys. I have a gay mate from the internet, he lives about 2-3 hours away from me, we've become stupidly good friends, we're very similar and have good laughs. Anyway. We want to meet with each other in real life (non-sexual obviously, we are both taken but his boyfriend is at uni about 5 hours away so its hard for him to come down often) and just have a laugh, finally get to abuse each other in person instead of over text or the internet. My boyfriend knows about him and knows hes cool and stuff and taken. But when i said i wanted to go see him just as friends, my boyfriend got really defensive about it. This hasn't been the first time my boyfriend has got really judgey and defensive about little innocent things before (he wanted me to stop taking selfies and putting them on tumblr, but he realised eventually that he was being stupid about that, he didn't like it when i reblogged attractive photos of guys on tumblr (innocently, its mainly just the theme of my blog, its what i find attractive) and he eventually deleted his own tumblr to avoid practically stalking my tumblr i think.) This time i was adament not to cave in like i have done many times before to keep him happy. I reassured him a good 3 or 4 times that its just a friend thing and he would just go from being fine with it, to getting himself worked up over it again. Eventually, he told me "You can go and everything, but i won't like it, and i will be really unhappy about it the whole time you're out with him and i'll constantly be thinking bad things" which lead me to basically caving in again. He said he would be fine if it was all 4 of us (me, him, my mate and his boyfriend) but not just me and my mate but yet he didn't want to come if it was me, my mate and him. I've said it sounds exactly like a trust issue but he says its not, its just that he "doesn't like it" I feel like i let him do everything he wants without a nudge or a bicker but yet there always seems to be a hoohar about something i'd like to do. And oddly enough this was close to the issue when i asked him if he went on this forum, and he said no, twice, and he did, he waas reading what i put on here which hit me pretty hard but yet apparently he didn't feel that bad. He also says he feels really guilty about not letting me go see my mate for the day but obviously not guilty enough because he still doesnt want me to. We've settled on a double date with my mate and his boyfriend to Alton Towers in May but i still feel slightly pissy about it because i feel like im being a bit controlled but yet i also feel like i can't say much because he pays a lot for me and has helped me out financially alot.
Don't let your boyfriend have control over what you do in your spare time. If he can't deal with you going out and seeing other friends - be it gay or otherwise - it's his issue, not yours. I'd recommend you talk to him about it.
Weirdly enough. He literally just this second told me he wants me to meet my mate over easter weekend when we're both not together. Slightly worried if he has come on this forum again and started looking at my posts again.
[QUOTE=Zeke129;47390694] Alcohol is an Arabic word though so its dangerous[/QUOTE] Al-Kahol?
Allow me to take a bite of this soft and not crunch food *CRUNCH* the hell was that oh it appears that my filling has fallen out of my tooth. That was my day today. My tooth looks like a meteor impact.. I didn't know how MUCH of it was filling. :v
Fuck sake, the boyfriend said it was all fine. he said it was all good. At first he said he didn't want it to be in Nottingham because hes going to be there. I said thats fine to begin with. Then i suggest how about it being in Nottingham where i meet my mate because then i could spend Saturday night with him after having the day with the mate. He was up for that so its a win win for all of us then we all get to see each other, just not together. I finally told my mate the plan, then my boyfriend decided he actually wasn't cool with it and doesn't want us to go to the city hes in for the weekend (This city is the perfect city as its right in the middle between me and my friend) but hes basically banning the city from being used by us because he doesn't like it. Why the fuck is this such a problem for him. Especially if it isn't a trust issue. All he says is that he doesn't know what the problem is, it just makes it "easier for him to let it happen" LET WHAT FUCKING HAPPEN? ME SEEING A MATE FROM THE INTERNET ?!? This has fucked me off so bad and it is becoming a huge issue. It makes me think that if this little thing is such an issue now, what will happen when something more important of an issue turns up?
[QUOTE=greeley;47392194]Fuck sake, the boyfriend said it was all fine. he said it was all good. At first he said he didn't want it to be in Nottingham because hes going to be there. I said thats fine to begin with. Then i suggest how about it being in Nottingham where i meet my mate because then i could spend Saturday night with him after having the day with the mate. He was up for that so its a win win for all of us then we all get to see each other, just not together. I finally told my mate the plan, then my boyfriend decided he actually wasn't cool with it and doesn't want us to go to the city hes in for the weekend (This city is the perfect city as its right in the middle between me and my friend) but hes basically banning the city from being used by us because he doesn't like it. Why the fuck is this such a problem for him. Especially if it isn't a trust issue. All he says is that he doesn't know what the problem is, it just makes it "easier for him to let it happen" LET WHAT FUCKING HAPPEN? ME SEEING A MATE FROM THE INTERNET ?!? This has fucked me off so bad and it is becoming a huge issue. It makes me think that if this little thing is such an issue now, what will happen when something more important of an issue turns up?[/QUOTE] It's obviously a trust issue, you need to talk about it with him to settle his fears/worries, and regardless not let him dictate wether you can see your friends or not.
[QUOTE=NoOnE#235;47392276]It's obviously a trust issue, you need to talk about it with him to settle his fears/worries, and regardless not let him dictate wether you can see your friends or not.[/QUOTE] Its because this friend is gay and we talk a lot which is his biggest fear (but wont admit it). Even though we are both have a boyfriend and we're both completely platonic with one another. I said if i went to see a girl or a straight friend, he wouldn't have any problem, but because hes gay, he does. And he even admitted that.
[QUOTE=greeley;47392358]Its because this friend is gay and we talk a lot which is his biggest fear (but wont admit it). Even though we are both have a boyfriend and we're both completely platonic with one another. I said if i went to see a girl or a straight friend, he wouldn't have any problem, but because hes gay, he does. And he even admitted that.[/QUOTE] I guessed as much, but you can't let that stop you from seeing a good friend. His fear is unfounded, as you say. So the best you can do is try and reassure him? Besides, if he's really worried you'll cheat on him, throwing a hissyfit over it won't do his cause any favors.
[QUOTE=NoOnE#235;47392411]I guessed as much, but you can't let that stop you from seeing a good friend. His fear is unfounded, as you say. So the best you can do is try and reassure him? Besides, if he's really worried you'll cheat on him, throwing a hissyfit over it won't do his cause any favors.[/QUOTE] I don't throw hissyfits haha. It just pissses me off that he won't admit that its a trust issue. And scares me that if me seing a friend that is gay is such a problem, that whats going to happen when something slightly bigger comes up? It just seems such a little thing to get worked up about.
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