Crossdressing & Transgender & A̲L̲L̲I̲E̲S̲ Discussion v. Thread Reassignment Surgery - General

I'm in a weird place where I'd like to present as a girl and I've been doing things like growing my hair out and dressing a bit more androgynous, but I don't really feel dysphoria in the sense that I'm fine with being seen as male as well. Online it's a lot easier to fulfil that since not many people really know what I look like (although I supposedly pass decently just growing my hair out and shaving/depilating, even without hormones). So I don't really know if I'm trans or not, and at this point I don't feel like it really matters? Mehhhhhh.

[QUOTE=Headhumpy;52510477]I'm in a weird place where I'd like to present as a girl and I've been doing things like growing my hair out and dressing a bit more androgynous, but I don't really feel dysphoria in the sense that I'm fine with being seen as male as well. Online it's a lot easier to fulfil that since not many people really know what I look like (although I supposedly pass decently just growing my hair out and shaving/depilating, even without hormones). So I don't really know if I'm trans or not, and at this point I don't feel like it really matters? Mehhhhhh.[/QUOTE] pretty much me rn, It's annoying and pretty confusing to figure out

I don't really feel what you would call dysphoria either. That's one of the reasons I'm not really comfortable with calling myself trans just yet. I'm still kind of figuring things out. Like I don't mind my body the way it is but a large part of me would prefer to be seen as a guy. Just not all of me. Who knows. I'm not in a rush to get a solid answer though. I figure it takes time.

[QUOTE=Headhumpy;52510477]I'm in a weird place where I'd like to present as a girl and I've been doing things like growing my hair out and dressing a bit more androgynous, but I don't really feel dysphoria in the sense that I'm fine with being seen as male as well. Online it's a lot easier to fulfil that since not many people really know what I look like (although I supposedly pass decently just growing my hair out and shaving/depilating, even without hormones). So I don't really know if I'm trans or not, and at this point I don't feel like it really matters? Mehhhhhh.[/QUOTE] i feel exactly the same way

My mom always warns me about things that may not be seen as "normal" for guys to do, but I think she forgets that I really don't give a flying fuck. I have only my left ear pierced where I wear a stud, I have long hair, and I dress with well fitting clothes/metro like. When I go to the gym I've been tying my hair back into a ponytail which is not "normal" for guys, but at the gym most people just go to get fit, so nobody is gonna call another gym goer out. I'm not transitioning, nor do I think I will, but I still like to imagine I'm more comfortable feminine-wise than masculine-wise. If I had someone offer to make me a girl, I'd take it in a heartbeat, but I'm comfortable with who I am. Roundabout way of saying - who cares what people think. Fuck them!

I love having longer hair, tbh

[QUOTE=Clovis;52510518]it honestly doesnt matter. dont force yourself into thinking youre trans to justify how you dont want to identify with male traits, you dont have to. just be yourself and things will come naturally[/QUOTE] I guess. But I definitely don't "feel" male, know what I mean. And I'd rather be known as female. But at the same time idk if I can really commit to all the effort of transitioning. Bleh.

well as long as all y'all lurkers are coming out i've been questioning my gender for ~2-3 years, recently told my closest friends that i'm having "gender issues" (which they've been overwhelmingly supportive of) and in the last 2-3 weeks been thinking that i'm probably genderfluid, with a tendency towards the femme side like the main thing that's stopped me coming out as full trans is the fact that, yes, some days i'll catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror and feel like i've been punched in the gut, like, that's not me, oh wait it is, fuck. fuck fuck fuck fuck that's not right, there's a massive disconnect between what i'm seeing and what i SHOULD be seeing. or i'll be browsing the web or walking around in public and oh there's a woman and fuck, why can't i look like her, like not even like "oh she looks attractive" like straight up "my body doesn't look anything like that and that fucking sucks so bad, i wish i would just dissolve into sludge right here and now, rather than [I]not[/I] look like that", kinda thing. which, again, sounds fucking dumb now i'm typing it out and then some days nothing. straight up nothing. doesn't enter my mind at all. like it feels like my body is just a dumb machine i use to get around and pick things up and press buttons and that's it. and i fluctuate between those two states of mind every few weeks or so. so yeah conflicted

I rarely post anywhere on this forum, but I made a big step in my life recently this week. I have crossdressed from time to time for various reasons, and have gone out in public dressed twice, once for a date with a girl and once to buy clothes. But this week I've started riding my bicycle around while dressed, and am planning on getting my legs waxed because I literally can't shave my legs without getting nicks everywhere and some serious razor burn that lasts weeks. I'm hoping waxing will be different as it has always been a major obstacle in being femme that I can't show off my legs, especially when my legs and butt are basically the best girly parts of me. Anyway, heres me being a dork. [IMG]http://i68.tinypic.com/212691t.jpg[/IMG]

[QUOTE=DeathBacon;52510949]I rarely post anywhere on this forum, but I made a big step in my life recently this week. I have crossdressed from time to time for various reasons, and have gone out in public dressed twice, once for a date with a girl and once to buy clothes. But this week I've started riding my bicycle around while dressed, and am planning on getting my legs waxed because I literally can't shave my legs without getting nicks everywhere and some serious razor burn that lasts weeks. I'm hoping waxing will be different as it has always been a major obstacle in being femme that I can't show off my legs, especially when my legs and butt are basically the best girly parts of me. Anyway, heres me being a dork. (I don't think I can image tag this even if I share the link? It is on my google drive) [img]https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B-p7fNL0y7s5cDFEaEJnamtFNDQ/view?usp=sharing[/img] [url]https://drive.google.com/open?id=0B-p7fNL0y7s5cDFEaEJnamtFNDQ[/url][/QUOTE] Google drive does not allow hotlinking.

You never know until you try, and honestly regardless of whether you have support of your parents or not, you need to do it. It's your life, your happiness. Don't sacrifice it for acceptance.

[QUOTE=gtanoofa;52511934]I told my mom that i might start presenting female in a month or two and she didn't really take it kindly. Not that she can stop me or anything, but come on mom! Be at least a little bit supportive. She also said that she has never met another trans person that passes(yeah no kidding, mom. Maybe because they pass???) as if she can tell trans people apart from cis people. Then called me a transvestite lmao! Dad doesn't really care so it's whatever by his side. Also i'm wondering how people in my neighborhood will react considering they've known me for years as a dude who would sometimes leave their facial hair grow in certain occasions. Some other trans people have told me that my neighbors probably have already figured out something is wrong with me(like you know, girly face and long hair as well as rather androgynous clothing) and probably won't even care if i just start dressing in girl clothes and start wearing makeup. I am kind of scared of how i will react if they go "[male name]???? Is that you?????"[/QUOTE] Huh, I already thought you were presenting female since every picture you've posted you've passed very well. Don't listen to your mother, believe you me.

[QUOTE=Kiwi;52511197]I did it when I asked for a referral from my doctor and broke down into a literal crying mess. V:v:V[/QUOTE] Yep same thing happened to me when I finally talked about my problems out loud to my therapist, I totally broke down in a way I've never done before I was shivering, felt great afterwords though really felt like a weight lifted off my shoulders.

starting to see slight changes in my face or at least i dont want to look away as much when I see my own face, hooray! also is it weird that my doc is only prescribing me estradiol? I always ask about t blockers but he just mumbles about how my t levels are going to go down as time goes on and such, I've been on e for about 6 almost 7 months now and I've got my first hair removal two days after my bday

For the last couple of years I've promised myself that I'd try to start transitioning, but I've been super scared, and only now started getting confidence to do so (until the hair cut thing ofc) but I have no idea how to confess my feelings to my parents (or at least my GP), I'm a very paranoid person of what others will think of me, and I'm a bit scared that my dad will be upset. My mum had suspected it due to some of my ~female~ purchases, but even when she confronted me about it I was still too spooked. So, what do?

hmm, I take 4mg estradiol but yeah I guess I'll ask for my blood results next timeee tyty

The only way I can achieve a decently non-dysphoric hairdo is not showering after 2 days of waterparks. What does this mean. How do I replicate those effects with producc

it means the salty water is making your hair stiff and sticky acquire wet look wax

i tried contacting the clinic i wanted to go to on facebook only to be told to call them instead spent like a month building up the nerve to even contact via text, phone call is a whole nother level essentially doesnt help that their hours are weird. they are closed for the weekends too.

[QUOTE=lintz;52517342]it means the salty water is making your hair stiff and sticky acquire wet look wax[/QUOTE] 'Twas decently chlorinated freshwater though.

consider it your natural oils then you don't have to wash your hair every single day

If I don't shower everyday then my hair get greasy :pudge:

it's not grease it's natural oil. it helps add to the shinyness of your hair if you're concerned about smell you can use a dry shampoo

hello, i have another account here, but i made this one cuz people i know irl sometimes stalk my facepunch (weird, right?) anyways, like a month ago my dad found some girls clothes and stuff i had bought off the internet in my bedroom, and i told him it was an invasion of my privacy and he shouldn't think about it. fast forward to now and he's been really cool about it and hasn't talked about it unless i brought it up. so basically he's probably assumed im trans or something, but we haven't talked about it. how do i get courage to talk about it and admit to him that i'm trans? i'd imagine he'd be pretty cool with it, i'm just weirded out that he knows but also doesn't and it's hard to talk about it.

While I'm not transgender myself, I've always been a big fan of female style and fashion and I feel like I'd love to crossdress every now and then, like a part time princess, not a full time queen. But I'm fat and mannish and would probably look 100% abhorrent and feel terrible in any outfit i'd pick out. You ladies are super brave and strong and you're all beautiful so keep being queens so i can live vicariously through you [editline]29th July 2017[/editline] Also you guys in here too, keep being the handsome beefcakes you know yourselves to be

Never be afraid to express yourself like that. Do try crossdressing, do not be scared, don't let anyone stand in your way - and I bet you'd look pretty.

Well i have crossdressed before for a role in a play, it was a long black dress, a stuffed bra, a wig and a really pretty necklace i still have. I did get complimented on it which was nice but the whole ensemble was a lot more conservative and way less revealing than something i would have picked for myself Also i was really bummed about not getting some heels for that [editline]29th July 2017[/editline] Also it was a comedy so of course i didn't shave like at all [editline]29th July 2017[/editline] This would be a little closer to my fem style, just lose the leggings and jacket unless it's cold out which it never is because california [T]http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-UgvqP-YePfs/T9KI8a1YzjI/AAAAAAAAEk0/SxTPYQbFyHE/s1600/hipster_girl.jpg[/t][t]https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/39/d6/d6/39d6d6d0b5774b143090f6870f6eaea7--street-style-summer-california-california-style-clothes.jpg[/t] [T]https://s1.favim.com/610/150725/california-girl-model-pretty-Favim.com-3005891.jpg[/t][t]http://data.whicdn.com/images/34389556/large.jpg[/t][t]http://ell.h-cdn.co/assets/cm/14/52/54a00562c737f_-_yvonne-seiler-lg.jpg[/t]

[QUOTE=lintz;52517983]it's not grease it's natural oil. it helps add to the shinyness of your hair if you're concerned about smell you can use a dry shampoo[/QUOTE] Yeah, but it adds a ton of weight to my hair and just feels so eww. I have a serious problem with grease of any kind, anywhere on my skin.

[QUOTE=inebriaticxp;52518965]Well i have crossdressed before for a role in a play, it was a long black dress, a stuffed bra, a wig and a really pretty necklace i still have. I did get complimented on it which was nice but the whole ensemble was a lot more conservative and way less revealing than something i would have picked for myself Also i was really bummed about not getting some heels for that[/QUOTE] That's cool! At-least you have some experience. And yeah the first picture you have there is definitely what I'd want to look at some point. The hair especially is to die for.

[QUOTE=BlackMageMari;52519170]The hair especially is to die for.[/QUOTE] if you like that teased look check out my best friend here: [t]http://i.cubeupload.com/RqcFzy.png[/t] she gets complimented on that shit literally everywhere she goes personally my hair is suuper curly and i hate growing it out because it becomes a dirty brillo pad so i'd wear it something like one of these: [t]https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/06/ab/4d/06ab4d029fabcc1ba77c153b6f0630f0.jpg[/t][t]http://www.short-haircut.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/Black-Girls-with-Short-Hair.jpg[/t][t]http://www.short-haircut.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/04/8.Short-Hair-for-Black-Women-2016.jpg[/t] even that last one i'm not sure i could pull off, my hair gets really ratchet the longer it gets i'd also love to wear it the way ilana is doing in my avatar [editline]29th July 2017[/editline] and speaking of hair, who has any good tips for fighting dandruff?