Crossdressing & Transgender & A̲L̲L̲I̲E̲S̲ Discussion v. Thread Reassignment Surgery - General

[QUOTE=Boilermaker;52635424]Cis here trying to understand gender dysphoria and the decision to transition: Do you think you would still feel the need to transition if your society as a whole had more broad definitions of masculinity and femininity (i.e. not associating certain traits like gentleness as exclusively feminine or assertiveness as exclusively masculine)?[/QUOTE] yeah my dysphoria is half that stuff and half due to physical attributes. if one goes away ill still feel like total shit everyday because no bust, genitalia being wrong, etc.

[QUOTE=Clovis;52636261]im a bit nervous of going to see a psych for this stuff, i dunno f theyd believe me anymore cause ive not really felt dysphoric in the same way i used to, now i feel so normal cause for like a year or longer ive seen myself as female (albeit with a flat chest, junk etc still) so itd be weird explaining to the psych about how i feel cause i wouldnt be able to describe dysphoria so well. im really nervous i couldnt convince them i really feel this way because i dont think about wanting to change in the same way i used to think about it now cause its like to me that i already have? hope someone understands what i mean[/QUOTE] if they're at all a good psych they will understand - it's definitely normal that taking steps to alleviate dysphoria actually does what it's supposed to! although, it can be kind of disorienting, like oh god I don't completely hate myself any more, what if I'm making it all up

[QUOTE=Clovis;52636688]yea i thought about it a bit more today. the best i could explain it is that i just see myself as female and ever since, ive not felt unhappy with myself like i used to when I was dysphoric - assuming dysphoric is kind of the definition of being unhappy with yourself (thats always how i understood it) i dont really feel dysphoric anymore, because i'm not really distressed about it. like the path is sort of clear to me now, in a sense that i'm not really battling with myself to figure things out anymore, im sort of past that stage. so i'd have to just straight up be able to convince them how i really feel how i feel without being so distressed about it, thats what i'm just unsure about - cause if it came to the point where i wasnt able to get what i wanted, then i'd be distressed in a situation that had no solution. if i organized psych sessions to tell them how i feel about it (which i assume is the only real way to go about it to be referred to docs for hrt and documents and stuff) and they arent convinced, i'm in shits creek without a paddle[/QUOTE] if you get a bad therapist, worst case is you lose money seeing them and you find a different therapist do a bunch of research about the psych beforehand. they should specialise in gender issues (try asking online if anyone has seen them before and their experiences). whatever happens, you got this. good luck [editline]1st September 2017[/editline] I was asking myself a while back if I really wanted to transition, to really unreservedly throw myself into the female gender role in all aspects of my life and damn the haters, and I think I do. I know I do. it was one passage in Anne vitales book that really fucking hit me hard and I felt an insanely bad sense of longing. I'll see if I can find it later

wtf never had anything like that, you must have already had a fairly weak bladder?

Hey I'm Jessi and I am a TransWoman who socially Transitioned a little ovre 7yrs ago and started HRT a little ovre 6yrs ago, I'm using Creid's profile rn and they r my Fiancée, today is Our 5th month Anniversary of our Being Engaged!!! Nice to meet all of u Wonderfully BEAUTIFUL people!

we had to recently change our invite link for discord cause 4chans lgbt board said hi heres the new one: [url]https://discord.gg/SKFnT2r[/url]

[QUOTE=The golden;52640865]It's a case of Heavy sleeper + diuretic + shrinking bladder (caused by HRT) = Body doesn't wake me up in time.[/QUOTE] I was on spiro for 3 years too, I am aware of why it happened, just amazed at how much more heavily it would affect someone

Ive done it twice during my 2 years of hrt. The key is to stop drinking liquids like 2 hours before you sleep. There's nothing worse then having to get up and pee every hour or so, especially when you're curled up next to your SO

Its happened once to me, glad to see I'm not the only one cause I was fucking embarrassed

Guess I'll look out for that, then. I get up 2/3 times a night normally so this will be fun.

to be fair I got a bladder of steel, went the whole 5 years of secondary school without ever seeing the inside of the bathrooms B)

Got banned from OkCupid after I changed my gender to genderfluid and androgynous. This is the only reason I can think of that would result in someone reporting me and getting me banned. I haven't sent any messages on it in months and I actually just recently re-activated it after my relationship ended back in April. I asked for an explanation through e-mail but if they can't give me one, then fuck it.

I used Okcupid back about a year ago and met my last boyfriend on there. So when we got together, I deactivated my account or put it into stasis or whatever it is that you do to not get rid of everything but to just deactivate it for a while. When we broke up back in April, I didn't want to reactivate it, so I waited until like two weeks ago to say hey maybe I can find some cool people to talk to. So I reactivated it, decided to change my gender around because of how I feel about it now, changed a little bit of my summary here and there to reflect what I'm doing with my life now and that's it! Didn't change any of my pictures or anything. Like two days later, I try to log in and I get the "technical issues" error which is just their way of saying you're banned. Emailed them to ask what's going on and one of the support staff just sent me an e-mail saying "you were banned for TOS violations. We consider this matter resolved." and that was literally it. No explanation given, no nothing. The only thing I can think of that would result in them thinking that I'm bannable would be because I adjusted my gender and somebody saw it and got all bothered about it for one reason or another and reported it. I don't know. It's irritating, so I sent them a feedback complaint asking for an actual reason so I can know whether or not the ban was warranted, but if they can't give me a specific reason or unban me then I guess I'm just done using OkCupid.

Trains all booked for the 21st, really no going back now. Gonna be hell getting over to Leeds for god damn 12.

Does anyone have any tips for passing at Uni? I move out in a week but I still haven't had my second appointment with the GIC so I won't be getting T for a while yet.

I've heard that binding your breasts regularly can cause serious harm to you, so I wouldn't recommend doing it too much. Wearing baggy clothing such as hoodies will possibly help, but it's a small aid at best.

Make sure you use an actual proper binder btw and not just bandages. That can be harmful.

So I started taking estradiol today :D I have enough refills for 3 months, but my next Dr's appointment is in 4, is this normal? [sp]not lot I expect during that one month crossover period to be flooded with testosterone and be slain, but I'm kind of worried that that's not right and I should have enough pills for 4 months[/sp]

It is a little bit odd, yeah.

Wearing binders or sports bras for too long in one go can affect lung capacity as well as cause deformation of the rib cage, if I remember correctly. Honestly when you first start binding, you want to start with short periods of time and gradually increase, but I wouldn't ever go longer than 7-8 hours if you can help it. I don't bind because I already get paranoid about my breathing issues with my asthma but I'm like a 34B and wear men's shirts most of the time so they don't stand out too much anyway. But if I ever go full force, I'd probably save up for actual top surgery just to eliminate the need for a binder altogether.

yeah something like that fuck if I know. people just call me whatever pronoun and I'm just kinda like "yeah". In the middle of figuring it out but I'm kinda stuck since I live in a conservative household and I can't really FULLY explore anything lol. but maybe someday I'll be able to.

I'm getting up there in age (26 as of last month) and I'm sort of hoping that within the next year or two I'll be able to finally leave my parent's house. When I do, I have higher hopes for being able to explore my gender. But I didn't know gender therapists exist! That might be a neat thing to look for once I'm on my own. Thanks!

You gay faggots have to get over the fact that this is just a fad you're going through. A temporary mental ailment that will soon pass once you wake the fuck up and realize how stupid it is that you woke up the previous morning and said "i wanna be a girl :))) i wanna have b00biez and a vaginyy :DD" and then ACTUALLY acted on it. You're inflicting permanent damage to your body and even more so your mental state the further down this rabbit hole you go. Do the world a favor and wake up, realize that you maybe don't know yourself as well as you thought you did. You are mentally ill, so please get help. - The sane world. [highlight](User was permabanned for this post ("Alt" - Kiwi))[/highlight]

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[QUOTE=gtanoofa;52656144]Are you on anti-androgens as well? Testosterone inhibits a lot of what benefits estradiol gives you and slows down a lot too.[/QUOTE] Oh shit, I'm not, he said I'd be fine without them. I'm really hoping this is some big error but, damn am I worried now.

LGBT groups tend to be hit or miss. I don't think you're missing out if you're not in one.

ugh, turns out the guys I'd been hanging out with now and then are all really transphobic bar the one that introduced me to them. This is the exact reason I'm not out yet lol

[QUOTE=The golden;52657579]Ask him what your testosterone levels are and then do some research on it. You might be fine without them but I highly doubt that. Most people aren't. It used to be more common to pile estrogen on a person to counteract the effects of testosterone but that's fallen out of favor for most doctors. Healthier doses of estradiol + anti-androgen are now the common norm. Estradiol will act as a testosterone-suppressant if you take enough of it but you'd be at serious risk of killing yourself from clotting if you took THAT much. The risks of estradiol go up as the dosage goes up.[/QUOTE] I remember he said some number in reference to my testosterone levels (700 something I think???) but he has a heavy accent and it's hard to understand him. I asked him later if the reason I'm not on spiro or anything was because I already had low a low testosterone but he laughed and said it was high. I'm currently taking one 2mg tablet a day, but he wants me to start taking 2 of them in a week, is this enough? Either way I think I'll have to call him or the pharmacy once all this hurricane stuff is out of the way.

Ugh, was really hoping I could just relax for a bit with getting hrt. Hope calling is enough to get my prescription changed, because I really don't want to schedule another appointment, he tends to be super booked up and usually when I come at the scheduled time, I end up waiting two hours. I'd go to someone else but I'm pretty sure the closest is an hour away which I just can't do with my current situation.

Is there any site in particular I should go to for finding out about this type of stuff? Like a guide or something? I feel like it was partially my fault for not knowing beforehand.