Crossdressing & Transgender & A̲L̲L̲I̲E̲S̲ Discussion v. Thread Reassignment Surgery - General

I just dont like the term for the negative connotations people gave it over the years, personally.

at least it's not as bad as "transvestic fetishism", lol

Trans people who hate crossdressers should just mind their own business.

I like putting on girly clothes and fake boobs (wish I had real ones...) but I could seriously care less what's in my pants. I have a lot of conflicting thoughts and emotions on HRT and being girly, but for now I've decided to just wear whatever and snap some selfies [sp]and then realize how not-pretty I am oh god why is make up so hard to put on[/sp]

Tranny is a porn term, similar to something like shemale. Don't use it unless you want to be seen as someone who views trans people only as something to jack off to.

i thought tranny was a slur like nigger or faggot. I use it ironically.

I don't feel like crossdresser or trap are necessarily negative words and I have nothing against people who use those words to describe themselves. I just don't want to be associated with those words because I don't see myself as neither of those, I just see myself as wanting to be comfortable and trying to transition into becoming a woman. Sounds odd to phrase it like that.

I don't really care for gender roles and I just wanna wear clothes I like

[QUOTE=Clovis;52673866]yea but i hate the regrowth[/QUOTE] jus' shave em daily, don't even got to use foam/gel/cream to maintain the smoothness in my experience. [editline]12th September 2017[/editline] and it's all and all easier and quicker to shave if you do it daily

yeah, as far as I'm concerned the only people that need/i think should know that I'm trans are those who are going to close during my transition, even then this is completely debatable; none of my irl friends know except maybe an old friend I've not spoken to since highschool, my mums parents know but my dad's don't, those that I'd want to know are intimate partners and my doctors Like otherwise I just want to be seen as girl but I doubt that will happen and I don't expect/want to be referred to as a girl in my current situation ugh shits weird

[QUOTE=Unique_mask;52669382]Do any of you know where I can get makeup without going out? I'm wanting to see how much of a difference makeup could make to me but I don't want to be caught with it because my family still don't know (and going outside randomly will raise a bit of suspicion) :s:[/QUOTE] If you're still looking for recs there's [URL="https://www.shopmissa.com/"]Shop Missa[/URL]! My friend said their makeup is good and it's cheap so it'd be good for experimenting!

Hey! I haven't posted here before but I've been lurking for awhile. I plan on getting hormones through IC at Planned Parenthood very soon. However I am moving states in about 2-3 years. How would I end up getting my prescription at the new state?

The best term for a woman's dong is to call it a "hen." (as opposed to a cock)

[QUOTE=Luafox;52676803]are afab/amab as bad as mtf/ftm? just curious because sometimes research uses some of those terms and I'm not sure if that's offensive and what they could use instead. [/QUOTE] I think it's fine within a research context, because there it is important to their research to be able to distinguish between trans and cis people. I just think that unless the conversation is specifically about something trans, then using those terms would be rude.

[QUOTE=Kiwi;52676814] i actually closed my eyes and thought of cat girls. all i felt was a numbing feeling and that's it. it is sore though where they pricked me. i'll never get used to that.[/QUOTE] If you think hard enough you will become a catgirl. Alternatively think of me

I'm settled on my name being april, it's much better than matthew, i like to believe.

There are days when I'm like "having a gf would be really nice right now" but most of the time I'm very glad to be single [editline]13th September 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=Dazzgrace;52677107]I'm settled on my name being april, it's much better than matthew, i like to believe.[/QUOTE] Ayy that's my name! Except mine is Mathew and not Matthew

My name is Eóghann which dosen't really have a female form, even when it is Anglicised from Gaelic to Ewan. Gaelic is a pretty dumb language anyway so I'm thinking of Laura :v:

[QUOTE=The golden;52677596]AFAB/AMAB work as more gentle terms to describe a persons biological sex but they don't describe their gender identity at all. Honestly the most gentle things you can call a trans person are just "trans man/guy/dude/gentlemen/boy" and "trans girl/woman/lady/gal" and so on. Those terms already imply that they are trans and thus clearly transitioned from something else, making the whole mtf/ftm thing useless and offensive. But ultimately you should just ask the person. It's never a safe thing to assume what a person wishes to be called. Quite often I've come across people who seem to be a trans woman or trans man but in reality they're actually non-binary and prefer neutral terms. Always ask.[/QUOTE] I am not too hot on being called a transgirl tbh. I see myself as female and that is how I'd rather be addressed.

[QUOTE=Kiwi;52675028]Let it be known that I fucking hate needles.[/QUOTE] STARE THOSE FUCKERS DOWN. No pain when you scare them away. I have a bad habit for watching when they put needles in me, and worst of all I like it. :v:

[QUOTE=Clovis;52677199]the more these discussions happen the less i feel labels really matter. if there were no such thing as gender roles id be able to do everything id ever dreamed of without feeling like im making some irreverdible life changing decision[/QUOTE] I definitely didn't consider myself transgender or use the term to refer to myself until like 6 months on hrt. Labels can definitely suck, but I've found that most people have actually been pretty good about only using whatever labels I actually say I'm comfortable with.

[QUOTE=Dazzgrace;52677107]I'm settled on my name being april, it's much better than matthew, i like to believe.[/QUOTE] I'm quite happy with both my birth name and the name I decided upon tbh

So I was thinking of buying a bra because I just want some more clothes wear and it would be discreet enough to wear in public, but I'm flat and I don't know how much of a trouble it would be to find something. Does anyone have some experience or advice? I'm not even sure if I should bother.

[QUOTE=Tinter;52687978]So I was thinking of buying a bra because I just want some more clothes wear and it would be discreet enough to wear in public, but I'm flat and I don't know how much of a trouble it would be to find something. Does anyone have some experience or advice? I'm not even sure if I should bother.[/QUOTE] get nipple covers instead, less restrictive, hides pokies, doesn't show through clothes.

you can always pad it just measure your chest around your rib cage and add a cup size for every inch of volume you want on top

[QUOTE=Headhumpy;52688121]get nipple covers instead, less restrictive, hides pokies, doesn't show through clothes.[/QUOTE] I'm not a stripper and it's not so much for functionality, but just because I want to wear more feminine clothes. [QUOTE=lintz;52688168]you can always pad it just measure your chest around your rib cage and add a cup size for every inch of volume you want on top[/QUOTE] Hadn't thought about padding, however given that I'm not out, I fear it would cause people to ask questions I can't comfortably answer. Nevertheless, thanks.

i'm not out either i just keep some nice clothes hidden away in my closet for when i'm alone and have time to dress up in the house

Start with sports bras maybe? Those can still look cute but also not be too big of an issue with a flat chest.

[QUOTE=Pascall;52688322]Start with sports bras maybe? Those can still look cute but also not be too big of an issue with a flat chest.[/QUOTE] sports bras + loose fitting tank tops = A+ combo

Aye there everyone, I'm not trans or anything myself, but I came into this thread seeking advice for a friend wh om I just discovered has gender dysphoria. Thing is, they live in the bumfuck of Texas and to make matters worse their parents are total religious zealots. They're having a massive conundrum on what to even do with their life. So I guess I'm just wondering what advice I should give them to avoid any paths that would fuck them over even more than they are now.