Crossdressing & Transgender & A̲L̲L̲I̲E̲S̲ Discussion v. Thread Reassignment Surgery
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[QUOTE=Lord of Boxes;52689264]Aye there everyone, I'm not trans or anything myself, but I came into this thread seeking advice for a friend wh om I just discovered has gender dysphoria.
Thing is, they live in the bumfuck of Texas and to make matters worse their parents are total religious zealots. They're having a massive conundrum on what to even do with their life. So I guess I'm just wondering what advice I should give them to avoid any paths that would fuck them over even more than they are now.[/QUOTE]
Tell them it's fine to experiment with smaller/easier to explain things/hard to find out Like coming up with a new name, growing their hair out, (or cutting it) wearing more androgynous clothes, shaving/letting body hair grow. That sort of stuff.
[QUOTE=Tinter;52687978]but I'm flat and I don't know how much of a trouble it would be to find something. [/QUOTE]
Buy a smaller bra with a band extender? Or an A cup with a larger band online?
[QUOTE=Kiwi;52692092]temporarly moving this to FT so registered users can only see this just to prevent 4chan raiding trash[/QUOTE]
tbh i think both this thread and gay chat belong behind a register wall
[editline]18th September 2017[/editline]
and addicts lounge too
the move makes sense, whew got a little upset thought it was deleted again lol
[QUOTE=gtanoofa;52692594]Dang, looks like you peeps get raided a lot lol. Good thing you have the newbie channel tho.[/QUOTE]
Unfortunately, our bot went down due to Irma right as we were getting raided the second time. Probably going to look into a bit of a better hosting solution now, if we can.
i got a non-selfhosted bot for the auto-role management (tatsumaki) so its safe again even if my power goes out because of hurricane.
[QUOTE=gtanoofa;52692594]Dang, looks like you peeps get raided a lot lol. Good thing you have the newbie channel tho.[/QUOTE]
yeah think its just someone butthurt cause they keep creating threads on /lgbt/ posting our invite link, saying we are a hugbox, to basically get 4chan to unintentionally raid us.
4chan aint a personal army.
[QUOTE=Wii60;52694792]4chan aint a personal army.[/QUOTE]
Its funny when people keep trying to do that.
Even funnier when they get called out.
[editline]19th September 2017[/editline]
Also better bookmark/sub this thread for now, with it being in FT if no one replies for a while theres a chance it'll drop off the frontpage. :v:
I really think I might be a girl but it's very scary to think about so it's hard to think straight about it
[QUOTE=AtomicSans;52698057]I really think I might be a girl but it's very scary to think about so it's hard to think straight about it[/QUOTE]
I think that sometimes but remember not every girl is the same!
[QUOTE=AtomicSans;52698057]I really think I might be a girl but it's very scary to think about so it's hard to think straight about it[/QUOTE]
Don't feel like you're rushed in to a choice! Don't be afraid to take the time to [i]really[/i] think things through and make sure that this is something that you want. It's a big, daunting, life-changing choice! Do what's right for YOU and don't let anyone else try to force you into something that you're not comfortable with.
And like lol user said, every girl is different. Don't feel like you have to fit a specific mold just to be a girl. Be you, and if you're a girl, then you're a girl!
I wanna wear leggings soon, but I'm afraid I'll pull a david bowie from labyrinth
I shaved my legs for the first time today and I feel [b]LIBERATED[/b]
I just want to have cute dresses and wear long socks and little flower pins and be cute and non-threatening and not be socially pressured into forced masculinity that makes me feel like shit
and I don't know who or what any of that makes me
I'm terrified and confused
I don't know what the fuck I'm doing
[QUOTE=Vodkavia;52701891]I have some of those feelings, though I still feel like a guy though I don't think I could even describe what I mean by that. I don't feel im gender fluid, but my personal tastes and mannerism and feelings?, I don't know, leave me feeling like the box I feel like I fit in most doesn't dictate anything about me. For most of my life I've had mostly female friends and now that we're all in different countries and states... I don't feel comfortable really being myself anywhere anymore. A big part of that is social expectations I suppose. I say maybe a sentence an hour and its draining on me because without social contact I just feel deflated all of the time.
Idk really how to conclude all of that because I spent like 30 mins trying my hardest to make sure I didn't accidentally step on anyone's toes. tbh i dont like posting in threads like these bcus i feel like im sticking my nose where I don't belong[/QUOTE]
There is no such idea that you step in a place you don't belong. This kind of thought is what many people go through, at one point or another, and you can talk as you explore here. We can help you more the more you say in detail, even if it seem as though you are implying badly or have some preconception that might offend somewhere here. It is best for everyone and for feedback of your situation if you remove that inhibition and speak.
Hi, I'm using a throwaway account because I don't feel comfortable posting on my main account. I've had trouble coming to terms with this but for the past few years I've kind of always felt this way where I want to dress in girls clothing because I want to feel pretty and nice and good about myself. I don't know if I sound crazy or not but I just want to feel like I'm cute/pretty because I'd be happy. I don't really know what to feel about that desire. I'm confused and terrified because this is the first time I've come to terms with it as a comprehensive feeling rather than something thats always eating away at me at the back of my head. I think I might be wrong in the head or something. I just need this off my chest.
I genuinely sometimes cry because I feel ugly and unloved.
[QUOTE=throwaway6655;52702065]I think I might be wrong in the head or something. I just need this off my chest. I genuinely sometimes cry because I feel ugly and unloved.[/QUOTE]
There's nothing wrong with wanting to look good and dressing in what's typically the opposite gender's clothes. If it's not hurting anyone, then it's no one's business what you do that makes you happy!
Also, I do want to take a second to plug [url=https://discord.gg/kVgDcBs]the Discord chat[/url] we have. We're fairly active and have channels dedicated to help and support. Don't be afraid to come in and just chit chat with us!
Yeah I'm always scared to speak in these spaces because I'm scared that I might be unknowingly saying something horribly offensive.
[QUOTE=AtomicSans;52702222]Yeah I'm always scared to speak in these spaces because I'm scared that I might be unknowingly saying something horribly offensive.[/QUOTE]
We're pretty chill. If things get dicey, we'll talk to you about it first. As long as you're not being a literal Nazi and calling for genocide, we're cool!
I keep forgetting how damn warm the newsam centres waiting room gets.
Also didn't sleep at all due to nerves, I really don't know what they're gonna say to me.
Went pretty well, due to my whole situation we discussed about timescales and priorities.
Basically I'm confirmed but due to my current living situation, we all agreed to start HRT after I've done my degree and started to look at moving out fully.
Wasn't really the answer I wanted but its still great and honestly I see were they're coming from, got a lot on my hands currently, throwing this on to would make so much harder.
Either way, once course is done, I'm contacting them and getting put right onto the priority list so its happening, just not right now.
So its bittersweet but still left with a smile, best news I got was them both saying I'll pass with very little effort, something huge off my mind.
Now I just gotta break this all to my dad, the response letter to this should make it easier but I still don't know how he'll react, might be best playing when I can rent out a local place just incase.
[QUOTE=Reagy;52703644]Went pretty well, due to my whole situation we discussed about timescales and priorities.
Basically I'm confirmed but due to my current living situation, we all agreed to start HRT after I've done my degree and started to look at moving out fully.
Wasn't really the answer I wanted but its still great and honestly I see were they're coming from, got a lot on my hands currently, throwing this on to would make so much harder.
Either way, once course is done, I'm contacting them and getting put right onto the priority list so its happening, just not right now.
So its bittersweet but still left with a smile, best news I got was them both saying I'll pass with very little effort, something huge off my mind.
Now I just gotta break this all to my dad, the response letter to this should make it easier but I still don't know how he'll react, might be best playing when I can rent out a local place just incase.[/QUOTE]
Yeah I'd have a backup planned just in case; my parents literally disowned me and I have 0 contact with them nowadays and I was pretty sure they would be fine.
I already have an incredibly strained relationship with my parents, I would most likely leave before ever coming out to them (if i am trans)
[QUOTE=Kiwi;52703882]I don't have anything at all to do with my dad and haven't done for almost a year.
Burden's been lifted but he's still harassing me every month.[/QUOTE]
How is he harassing you?
I'll beat up your dad.
My extended family are actually really chill about the whole thing; my uncle in Canada actually offered me a place to stay if I needed it.
Was already moving to the Netherlands but a nice gesture.
I'm not considered an independent adult yet, but I know my sister and her boyfriend would let me crash there if things go sour.
[QUOTE=Mr Kotov;52703809]Yeah I'd have a backup planned just in case; my parents literally disowned me and I have 0 contact with them nowadays and I was pretty sure they would be fine.[/QUOTE]
Luckily I've got me a lot of options, if I cant do renting I've got the choice of moving over to my dad's moms for a while, she's known since the start and been fully supportive plus shed love to have someone around to help, then there is my god parents, odd couple but they've never said no before and I don't see something like this bothering them and lastly, move in with ninny for a while till stuff calms down or I manage to get some better work going.
Is it possible to tell whether or not your face would transition well?
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