Crossdressing & Transgender & A̲L̲L̲I̲E̲S̲ Discussion v. Thread Reassignment Surgery - General

[QUOTE=gtanoofa;52704672]I mean 19 years old no hrt. [IMG]http://i.cubeupload.com/70ujpS.jpeg[/IMG] 23 years old 10 months hrt. [t]http://i.cubeupload.com/nrh4PT.jpeg[/t] V:v:V[/QUOTE] oh my god, wow, okay

Hrt is actually magic. Don't worry if your face right now looks too masculine.

[QUOTE=AtomicSans;52704613]Is it possible to tell whether or not your face would transition well?[/QUOTE] HRT is powerful shit but a good rule of thumb is to compare your facial characteristics to that of your parents imo. Pretty much all of my facial features are close to my mother's with the exception of my nose. That being said plenty of people with masculine features initially end up passing really well too. [editline]21st September 2017[/editline] Worded that poorly; people who initially have masculine features can still end up passing well.

[QUOTE=The golden;52704942]Please don't say this. This creates toxic expectations.[/QUOTE] sorry. my bad.

God damn...I can't understand how a parent could be such an awful dick like that to their kids, for their identity, when they need even more support than usual. This is failing at your basic duty of protecting and supporting your children, and putting your shitty personnal beliefs before their happiness. I'm sorry for anyone who had to go through this.

I've been in my flat at uni nearly a week but my parents introduced me by my deadname. I don't have to confidence to tell anyone they're wrong, but I did manage to get around to emailing the course leader to say my registration details are wrong, so there's that

I think I am starting to lean more on being a girl? I'm still pretty confused by my entire situation, though

I'm really worried not being on blockers are going to fuck up my transition am I being dumb/paranoid? my next appointment isn't until October and I've been on estrogen for about 7 almost 8 months ughh between this and my new job having issues getting me started I'm losing my mind i feel so useless :<

[QUOTE=gtanoofa;52704672]I mean 19 years old no hrt. [IMG]http://i.cubeupload.com/70ujpS.jpeg[/IMG] 23 years old 10 months hrt. [t]http://i.cubeupload.com/nrh4PT.jpeg[/t] V:v:V[/QUOTE] You have left the Matrix?

everyone was worried this thread would die moving to ft but its got a reverse reaction and actually is posting alot again :ok:

part of it has to do with the amount of time spent seeing your old self compared to your new self having only been on hrt (or questioning yourself or dressing up and making an effort and what not) for a few years, it can't compare to years of seeing yourself in the mirror and memorising those details. give it time one day your reflection will show who you are inside

[QUOTE=gtanoofa;52706729]I don’t even know how to walk more feminine like do you shake your butt even more? Haha. I sometimes observe random girls walking and they usually just walk in a more relaxed fashion than dudes.[/QUOTE] Guys have more sway at the shoulders, girls have more sway at the hips. You can make your stride more feminine quite easily by "walking a rope", rather than keeping left and right foot on separate paths. [editline]22nd September 2017[/editline] Just be sure not to overdo it, otherwise you look like you're drunk :v:

A good tip I've heard is to imagine a rope running from the crown of your head to the ceiling. This helps reduce shoulder sway and head bobbing.

Someone told me that i was coddling myself by transitioning, that I needed therapy, not drugs. But I didn't let myself get angry, I instead listened to what he had to say. But then I said my side of things and explained to him how I wasn't coddling myself, I was taking action to make myself feel better. Eventually, with enough careful explaining, he finally changed his opinion. It felt very heartwarming that I could help someone reach a more positive outlook on things for once.

[QUOTE=space1;52709905]Someone told me that i was coddling myself by transitioning, that I needed therapy, not drugs. But I didn't let myself get angry, I instead listened to what he had to say. But then I said my side of things and explained to him how I wasn't coddling myself, I was taking action to make myself feel better. Eventually, with enough careful explaining, he finally changed his opinion. It felt very heartwarming that I could help someone reach a more positive outlook on things for once.[/QUOTE] You must have the temper of an angel. Don't think I could listen to someone saying that without it igniting a burning rage inside of me.

[QUOTE=AtomicSans;52699809]I just want to have cute dresses and wear long socks and little flower pins and be cute and non-threatening and not be socially pressured into forced masculinity that makes me feel like shit[/QUOTE] Since I read this post something in my head fucking clicked. I don't crossdress (although i'm not against the idea of trying out sometime for fun), i'm cis, but you put into words better than I ever could something that I didn't understand and was making me feel absolutely awful and conflicted for years, and it's incredibly liberating. It's mild stuff compared to what people are going through in this thread, so I won't go into it. But damn, thanks. I genuinely feel better.

The internet make a good boogyman.

This is a long shot but if anyone knows of any good LGBT places in Cardiff and the surrounding areas, that'd be great. I just need somewhere to go that isn't my SU, given how homophobic and transphobic some events have been

[QUOTE=throwaway6655;52702065]Hi, I'm using a throwaway account because I don't feel comfortable posting on my main account. I've had trouble coming to terms with this but for the past few years I've kind of always felt this way where I want to dress in girls clothing because I want to feel pretty and nice and good about myself. I don't know if I sound crazy or not but I just want to feel like I'm cute/pretty because I'd be happy. I don't really know what to feel about that desire. I'm confused and terrified because this is the first time I've come to terms with it as a comprehensive feeling rather than something thats always eating away at me at the back of my head. I think I might be wrong in the head or something. I just need this off my chest. I genuinely sometimes cry because I feel ugly and unloved.[/QUOTE] oh hey its me

is it normal to avoid mirrors

[QUOTE=Mud;52712890]is it normal to avoid mirrors[/QUOTE] I actively make sure I never look at mirrors or reflective stuff so maybe :v:

I had a dream a few days ago where i had long hair and looked pretty then i woke up crying

[QUOTE=Mud;52712976]I had a dream a few days ago where i had long hair and looked pretty then i woke up crying[/QUOTE] i swear to god the long hair thing kills me all the time Not only do I have a slight receding hairline, my hair looks pretty thin on top (maybe it's just my imagination) and my hair looks like absolute SHIT if I try growing it out. My hair also has this natural comb over sorta like this: [t]https://c1.staticflickr.com/9/8356/8327963471_5a7b4872d3_b.jpg[/t] If I could pull off the long hair shit I'd be androgynous as fuck it pisses me off

I really hate looking at my face recently

[QUOTE=slayer20;52715636]i swear to god the long hair thing kills me all the time Not only do I have a slight receding hairline, my hair looks pretty thin on top (maybe it's just my imagination) and my hair looks like absolute SHIT if I try growing it out. My hair also has this natural comb over sorta like this: [t]https://c1.staticflickr.com/9/8356/8327963471_5a7b4872d3_b.jpg[/t] If I could pull off the long hair shit I'd be androgynous as fuck it pisses me off[/QUOTE] my problem is my face looks too manly

[QUOTE=Mud;52712890]is it normal to avoid mirrors[/QUOTE] i havent directly looked at myself in a mirror in years. can't even look at photos of myself dysphoria makes you do unhealthy shit just to keep it at bay while you try to find a job so you can pay for pills

[QUOTE=Wii60;52717282]i havent directly looked at myself in a mirror in years. can't even look at photos of myself dysphoria makes you do unhealthy shit just to keep it at bay while you try to find a job so you can pay for pills[/QUOTE] I actively look away from my bathroom mirrors when washing my hands, I've gotten super upset looking at my reflection on a window once. I'm a mess

Why the fuck are we in fast threads

[QUOTE=Solomon;52717328]Why the fuck are we in fast threads[/QUOTE] Viewing fast threads is behind a login wall. GD isn't.

[QUOTE=slayer20;52715636]i swear to god the long hair thing kills me all the time Not only do I have a slight receding hairline, my hair looks pretty thin on top (maybe it's just my imagination) and my hair looks like absolute SHIT if I try growing it out. My hair also has this natural comb over sorta like this: [t]https://c1.staticflickr.com/9/8356/8327963471_5a7b4872d3_b.jpg[/t] If I could pull off the long hair shit I'd be androgynous as fuck it pisses me off[/QUOTE] Yeah thats not me btw just a image off Google Lol I very rarely post pictures of myself and I always regret it after but I try not to delete them because idk [editline]26th September 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=Mud;52717288]I actively look away from my bathroom mirrors when washing my hands, I've gotten super upset looking at my reflection on a window once. I'm a mess[/QUOTE] There are days when I look in the mirror and I'm like "yep I'm a guy" but then there are days when I'm like "God damn I look as good as passable"