Crossdressing & Transgender & A̲L̲L̲I̲E̲S̲ Discussion v. Thread Reassignment Surgery - General

Lol yeah that's the benefit. I'm trying not to let things cross over into real life yet and I don't have a huge problem with being gendered as a girl by my family or people I've known since I was really small so I guess I'm not really dysphoric or anything but When someone refers to me as a guy online it feels really cool and a lot better so I'm likin' it.

Hi umm, long time lurker here I just recently came out to some friends so I might start being active on here now so I just thought I would say hi. Yeah

finally on t blockers, my butt hurts from the injection

[QUOTE=Lollipoopdeck;52824852]finally on t blockers, my butt hurts from the injection[/QUOTE] <3 that's wonderful. I'm so happy for you!

I wish there was some kinda social network but just for us. There's dating sites but I been pokin' through em and they seem like they're used by horny cis guys more than anything. It's hard to meet actual trans people what live in your area, not because they're not there, but because you either gotta bump in to them in person, or meet them at random online through tinder or some shit.

[QUOTE=Mister Sandman;52831395]I wish there was some kinda social network but just for us. There's dating sites but I been pokin' through em and they seem like they're used by horny cis guys more than anything. It's hard to meet actual trans people what live in your area, not because they're not there, but because you either gotta bump in to them in person, or meet them at random online through tinder or some shit.[/QUOTE]There's an app called HER [url]https://weareher.com/[/url] thats for both iOS [url]https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/her-lgbtq-dating/id573328837?mt=8[/url] and Android [url]https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.weareher.her[/url] but from what people have told me it's very dependent on your city. Also apparently it has a bit of a TERF problem :s:

i read up on that app apparently you need premium to do basic features like see whos online, change your location, or see who liked your profile. [url]http://support.weareher.com/en/support/solutions/articles/12000010636-what-is-her-premium-[/url]

So I'm back! I'm a hardcore lurker, etc, etc. I started getting laser hair removal for my legs and face, because I started having seriously bad anxiety attacks about shaving my legs. Jesus, it is so amazing. What used to take an hour (at LEAST) went down to 15 minutes after just one session. I'm about to have my third, and I think I will stop there or maybe get one more. I have only had one session on my face, but the results are already plain as day, my cheeks hardly have anything left on them that is dark, and after 6 days without shaving it only looked like a 5 o'clock shadow except for the goatee area, which is still pretty thick. But I no longer nick and cut myself all over (especially on my legs, god it was SO bad), and shaving is almost enjoyable. Anyway, I have a new picture! (or two) [thumb]https://i.imgur.com/HqA5luc.jpg[/thumb] [thumb]https://i.imgur.com/gLN4Cqv.jpg[/thumb]

Since I believe this is the correct place to ask, does anyone here consider the term, hermaphrodite, offensive? Some people say it's offensive in the trans' community while others from the same community simply don't give a shit.

[QUOTE=GHOST!!!!;52840960]Since I believe this is the correct place to ask, does anyone here consider the term, hermaphrodite, offensive? Some people say it's offensive in the trans' community while others from the same community simply don't give a shit.[/QUOTE] If someone says they're fine with it, then I don't have a problem with it. It's the wrong term and it has a negative connontation to it. It's really the same thing I think with pretty much all these terms. It's fine if someone says they think it applies to them, but generally you should use the correct term, especially with people you don't know well. And really most of the time, you should just use the pronoun of the gender they identify as, because it's not nice to bring it up when it's not relevant.

So... Um... I know it's been a while since I was active on the discord or even checked fp, but for anyone who's interested in knowing - I'm on estrogen now, and I am very happy! <3

welcome to the c̶u̶l̶t̶ club

Oh I didn't know if the discord still existed the link didn't work for me huh.

[QUOTE=sunplate;52842525]Oh I didn't know if the discord still existed the link didn't work for me huh.[/QUOTE] We're still around, but we keep getting posted on 4chan & raided so we don't put public links up. OP needs updated.

[QUOTE=GHOST!!!!;52840960]Since I believe this is the correct place to ask, does anyone here consider the term, hermaphrodite, offensive? Some people say it's offensive in the trans' community while others from the same community simply don't give a shit.[/QUOTE] Hello there, I'm intersex and I find the term misses the mark with most intersex people. Most of us don't like to be called hermaphrodites.

wowee didnt know trans community has such a big representation here on fp, pretty cool

[QUOTE=Raptor_S;52844014]wowee didnt know trans community has such a big representation here on fp, pretty cool[/QUOTE] yeah, we're cool af join us but this place isn't just for trans folk

anyone have any tips on acne scarring or am i stuck with my disaster face forever unless i shell out for treatment

Is the discord alive? I might actually not be a lurker if people play things on it (at least things that I play as well)

[QUOTE=DeathBacon;52845724]Is the discord alive? I might actually not be a lurker if people play things on it (at least things that I play as well)[/QUOTE] the discord itself is alive and doing well but im not sure if the games section is that active

I'm in a bizarre situation and I might need some advice from you guys. My friend is putting herself in a concerning position, but I feel wholly unqualified to question it because I'm a CIS dude, which I know is absurdly irrational. My friend is a trans woman and has been for about a year now, if memory serves. She's always been very pro-LGBT and generally is a great example of a human being, and I've been supporting her (Along with all of our other friends) from the very beginning. Recently she met another person. I knew her by name, but was never really allowed to meet her. (Not that we were barred from eachother's company, but if I was generally around, she'd always have an excuse not to appear in person.) I had contact with her in group discord chats. We've shared quite a few interesting conversations, and apparently share a few similar interests, but still, no personal meetings. The friend I mentioned earlier even recommended coming to me when her computer packed up on her, but she refused for vague reasons. Either way, what I've neglected to mention thus far is that this person is trans. I don't think that I'm supposed to know, but one of my female friends told me after mutual concern was expressed (This woman only really seems comfortable meeting with women and trans women, from what I can tell.) She presents herself in a very sexualized... Kind of atrocious manner, sometimes. She's described herself in horrible ways like 'Gutterslut.' When we asked her what she did for a living, she implied that she would just 'Blow somebody' when she was getting broke. I don't want to pour the quotes on in case any of them get recognized, but her behavior is pretty in line with what I mentioned above when the topic of anything feminine is approached. In my head, if a fella' was saying this stuff, he would be rightfully called a bigot, but because of this woman's position my friend seems oddly lenient on her. Should I be concerned? I feel like this person is a bad influence on my friend, as well as a generally bad example of both a woman and a trans woman. Not to mention how personally uncomfortable I and a few others in our group get at how vulgar she can be sometimes when describing herself. Is this a situation worth approaching?

does it affect you? no? take the prude out your ass and let it go

If she wants to be vulgar when referring to herself, there's really no problem with that. It's her choice.

No sweat on the responses, guys. I get how it can come across. It really wouldn't be an issue if it wasn't thrust in our face so often, it only bewilders me how my friend is so tolerant of it when usually she's very modest and clean. I suppose in the end it's less an issue of this person being a bad example in a trans community, and more about how she doesn't know when it isn't the time to say her gross stuff. I'll probably just mention that she keep the really vulgar stuff to herself unless it's specifically asked for. Thanks!

I don't consider someone a bad influence unless they're really irresponsible. Being vulgar or open about sexuality never hurt anyone.

I was kinda nervous to say anything here at first but I think I've very quickly become comfortable with the thought of saying something here. I'm a 15 year-old (almost, I will be on the 4th) trans guy who hasn't even got anywhere close to socially transitioning. I'm seeing someone for my anxiety problems (not sure if she counts as a psychologist or what, I can't remember) who I've sorta told about me being trans, partially because I'm very sure that my being trans is feeding into my overall anxiety in a way. She seems to be paying absolutely no attention to that fact, maybe because I didn't talk about it in a way that might make it sound like it's severe enough to be addressed right now. I don't remember a time it's been brought up by her in any way past the first day I told her. I wanna try and bring it up again so more attention will be paid to the fact that I'm trans but I'm really nervous to for whatever reason. I guess it's because I'm kinda uncomfortable with bringing it up to someone who I'm talking to face-to-face. One of the people I was seeing before didn't bring it up at all because [I]I[/I] never tried to talk about it, so she assumed that I'm not ready to talk about it. Maybe I'm not "ready", but I know for sure that, whether I'm ready or not, I need to try and talk about it anyways because this shit's been tearing me apart since the day I actually realised I'm trans, if not longer than that. I'm really not sure what to do at this point. My anxiety is preventing me from talking about this when I feel like I really really need to. Sorry if I accidentally made that whole thing an incoherent mess, that tends to happen when I spit out walls of text like that.

[QUOTE=plecy;52845815]I'm in a bizarre situation and I might need some advice from you guys. My friend is putting herself in a concerning position, but I feel wholly unqualified to question it because I'm a CIS dude, which I know is absurdly irrational. My friend is a trans woman and has been for about a year now, if memory serves. She's always been very pro-LGBT and generally is a great example of a human being, and I've been supporting her (Along with all of our other friends) from the very beginning. Recently she met another person. I knew her by name, but was never really allowed to meet her. (Not that we were barred from eachother's company, but if I was generally around, she'd always have an excuse not to appear in person.) I had contact with her in group discord chats. We've shared quite a few interesting conversations, and apparently share a few similar interests, but still, no personal meetings. The friend I mentioned earlier even recommended coming to me when her computer packed up on her, but she refused for vague reasons. Either way, what I've neglected to mention thus far is that this person is trans. I don't think that I'm supposed to know, but one of my female friends told me after mutual concern was expressed (This woman only really seems comfortable meeting with women and trans women, from what I can tell.) She presents herself in a very sexualized... Kind of atrocious manner, sometimes. She's described herself in horrible ways like 'Gutterslut.' When we asked her what she did for a living, she implied that she would just 'Blow somebody' when she was getting broke. I don't want to pour the quotes on in case any of them get recognized, but her behavior is pretty in line with what I mentioned above when the topic of anything feminine is approached. In my head, if a fella' was saying this stuff, he would be rightfully called a bigot, but because of this woman's position my friend seems oddly lenient on her. Should I be concerned? I feel like this person is a bad influence on my friend, as well as a generally bad example of both a woman and a trans woman. Not to mention how personally uncomfortable I and a few others in our group get at how vulgar she can be sometimes when describing herself. Is this a situation worth approaching?[/QUOTE] Its not really that big of a deal. A lot of transwomen resort to a sexualized persona as a way to cope witg dysphoria. If said person is on hormones its also possible the hormones dramatically increased her libido, which happens sometimes. Either way its nothing to be concerned about, just make sure she's not forcing your friend into uncomfortable situations

[QUOTE=Tomato Hentai;52846460]I was kinda nervous to say anything here at first but I think I've very quickly become comfortable with the thought of saying something here. I'm a 15 year-old (almost, I will be on the 4th) trans guy who hasn't even got anywhere close to socially transitioning. I'm seeing someone for my anxiety problems (not sure if she counts as a psychologist or what, I can't remember) who I've sorta told about me being trans, partially because I'm very sure that my being trans is feeding into my overall anxiety in a way. She seems to be paying absolutely no attention to that fact, maybe because I didn't talk about it in a way that might make it sound like it's severe enough to be addressed right now. I don't remember a time it's been brought up by her in any way past the first day I told her. I wanna try and bring it up again so more attention will be paid to the fact that I'm trans but I'm really nervous to for whatever reason. I guess it's because I'm kinda uncomfortable with bringing it up to someone who I'm talking to face-to-face. One of the people I was seeing before didn't bring it up at all because [I]I[/I] never tried to talk about it, so she assumed that I'm not ready to talk about it. Maybe I'm not "ready", but I know for sure that, whether I'm ready or not, I need to try and talk about it anyways because this shit's been tearing me apart since the day I actually realised I'm trans, if not longer than that. I'm really not sure what to do at this point. My anxiety is preventing me from talking about this when I feel like I really really need to. Sorry if I accidentally made that whole thing an incoherent mess, that tends to happen when I spit out walls of text like that.[/QUOTE] do you think she will respond negatively if you make your feelings clear to her? I honestly think that you should try being honest to her, since, to me, it doesn't sound like she'd respond outright negatively to it, assuming she's a professional. she's there to help, so I think you should really be honest about anything that could help you a lot with solving your problems with anxiety. also, honestly - if it's already tearing you apart, I'd be worried that it'll only get worse and worse if you repress your feelings. I know from firsthand experience what gender dysphoria can do to someone if they don't get treatment for it. I'm pretty sure my dysphoria played a huge role in how my life has basically been completely ruined since my puberty started.

[QUOTE=cynaraos;52847468]do you think she will respond negatively if you make your feelings clear to her? I honestly think that you should try being honest to her, since, to me, it doesn't sound like she'd respond outright negatively to it, assuming she's a professional. she's there to help, so I think you should really be honest about anything that could help you a lot with solving your problems with anxiety. also, honestly - if it's already tearing you apart, I'd be worried that it'll only get worse and worse if you repress your feelings. I know from firsthand experience what gender dysphoria can do to someone if they don't get treatment for it. I'm pretty sure my dysphoria played a huge role in how my life has basically been completely ruined since my puberty started.[/QUOTE] I don't [I]think[/I] she'll respond negatively, but I guess I'm just scared because I don't know for sure, and I don't really like uncertainty. I'm also not good at explaining the way I feel in words by speaking to someone on the spot, which makes me feel even more nervous about that. I'm also worried about that which is why I wanna get proper help for this as soon as possible. I wish my anxiety wasn't as big of a hurdle to jump over to even mention it as it is.

[QUOTE=Tomato Hentai;52850423]I don't [I]think[/I] she'll respond negatively, but I guess I'm just scared because I don't know for sure, and I don't really like uncertainty. I'm also not good at explaining the way I feel in words by speaking to someone on the spot, which makes me feel even more nervous about that. I'm also worried about that which is why I wanna get proper help for this as soon as possible. I wish my anxiety wasn't as big of a hurdle to jump over to even mention it as it is.[/QUOTE] One thing that might help is to write down what you want to say, and bring it in when you go to talk to her. I always have trouble articulating what I feel aloud as well, but doing it in text is usually easier. You did post here after all