Crossdressing & Transgender & A̲L̲L̲I̲E̲S̲ Discussion v. Thread Reassignment Surgery - General

Hello friends I don't know what I am

I wanna be cute and pretty but I'm not, I'm a gross boy

I just wanna be a cute girl [editline]7th November 2017[/editline] with long fucking beautiful hair fuck my hair sucks

[QUOTE=gtanoofa;52866304]I wanna be a cis girl, but i can't have that so transition is good enough in my eyes.[/QUOTE] I feel like this too. I don't want to be trans and go through all the struggle. I might be in denial about it. I just wanna wake up as a girl and retcon the past so nobody remembers I was ever a boy.

[QUOTE=AtomicSans;52866436]I feel like this too. I don't want to be trans and go through all the struggle. I might be in denial about it. I just wanna wake up as a girl and retcon the past so nobody remembers I was ever a boy.[/QUOTE] If I woke up as a girl I could care less about the past. I just want to skip the middle man and get straight to it.

Apparently the University of Minnesota basically hands out HRT drugs? I got myself an appointment to get in on that I guess. Every phone call and appointment I have made before this has been a real train wreck.

I can't help but think that maybe I'm just doing all this for attention. it's really bothering me

[QUOTE=AtomicSans;52867620]I can't help but think that maybe I'm just doing all this for attention. it's really bothering me[/QUOTE] The fact that you are questioning it, doubting yourself, means it's most likely legitimate.

I'm just really worried because the trans community seems to really hate "transtrenders" and I don't want to be one of those

[QUOTE=AtomicSans;52867620]I can't help but think that maybe I'm just doing all this for attention. it's really bothering me[/QUOTE] Everyone has those doubts. It's normal, and frankly, a good sign. [QUOTE=AtomicSans;52867935]I'm just really worried because the trans community seems to really hate "transtrenders" and I don't want to be one of those[/QUOTE] Why do you think you might be a transtrender, beyond just feeling doubt? Do you have dysphoria? [QUOTE=Clovis;52867948]Dont worry about people who are exclusionary. Thsyre just bullies that lack empathy and sympathy. [/QUOTE] Transtrenders is a harsh word, but a certain group of people with similar habits have done damage to the transgender community.

I don't really think I have dysphoria but I absolutely hate being a guy. I can't name anything I like about it and I want to be a girl more than anything else and it bothers me constantly to the point of crying myself to sleep sometimes. My body doesn't exactly bother me, I'm fine with it. It's hard to pin down exactly what's going on with what I'm feeling and what I want. and I know they've done damage, the last thing I want to do is delegitimize real trans people, that's why I'm so worried...

[QUOTE=AtomicSans;52868088]I don't really think I have dysphoria but I absolutely hate being a guy.[/QUOTE] That is dysphoria. You don't need to dislike your genitals to be transgender. You don't need to dress like anything, have your hair a certain way, or act a certain away. Don't judge yourself harshly in that regard, because cis women themselves come in different shapes and sizes. [QUOTE=AtomicSans;52868088]I absolutely hate being a guy. I can't name anything I like about it and I want to be a girl more than anything else and it bothers me constantly to the point of crying myself to sleep sometimes. want.[/QUOTE] Can I ask why? If you rather keep that private that's fine, I'd just like to alleviate some stress if I possibly can.

fuckers who think "transtrenders" exist are the worst do what make you the happiest, and if for some reason you change your mind and it ends up being a phase, that's still okay! life is a journey, and everyone is a work in progress

thinking about it, I'd be willing to bet the whole "transtrender" thing stems from the fact that, with the LGBT movement, transfolk were pushed to the forefront of society. in today's globalized media, that meant a [i]lot[/i] of people very quickly were able to figure out what they were feeling. a lot of exposure means a lot of people discovering there are people just like them. kids especially. and the thing with kids is, from what I've read, they're actually the ones who "go back on" being trans. young kids can know something is up, sure, but there are some cases where a young child "grows out of" being trans when they hit puberty. plus, they can very easily be given puberty blockers, not go through puberty, make a much better informed decision, and then go forward either way they chose. but they're probably seen as "transtrender" or their parents pushing the ~liberal/homosexual/transgender agenda~ on their kids, r something along those lines.

Okay... It's good to know that I'm not hurting anybody by exploring this

[QUOTE=The golden;52869174]I'm going to be me, do the things I enjoy, like the things that I like, wear the things I want, talk the way I want, and anyone who thinks otherwise can fuck right off. I have the right to exist and live too.[/QUOTE] Funny enough, nearly these exact words were what got me through the whole process in the end. The worst problem is getting past yourself though, once you can tell yourself to fuck off and get past the mental block, stuff becomes so much easier.

[QUOTE=Reagy;52869276]Funny enough, nearly these exact words were what got me through the whole process in the end. The worst problem is getting past yourself though, once you can tell yourself to fuck off and get past the mental block, stuff becomes so much easier.[/QUOTE] that's really it! honestly all the incessant categorising around trans people sucks. do what you want to do, dress how you wanna dress, even if doing it is really terrifying. I'm happier when I can manage to stop ruminating on the question and just be. gotta accept the gender variant parts of yourself.

I came out as trans to my mom today. She was very understanding and accepting. We had a big cry about it. It was great.

my mom would probably be ok with it but I still wouldn't want her to ever know

I probably will never tell anyone but my sisters about how I feel about crossdressing/maybe transitioning, i feel too uncomfortable and embarassed even talking about it out loud

Here's how it went down. While I was at work, she went in my room and noticed I have a lot of clothes laying around and decided to try to find space for them. Well, she found some stuff and texted me apologizing and she dropped the whole "you can talk to me about anything" bomb on me. This has happened to me before, but today i broke down in tears and came clean. It's like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. Apparently she always suspected something was up and was waiting for me to break the ice, but I was also waiting for her to do it. :v: It's weird. I've always had a good relationship with my mother. Like, we talk a lot and go places and stuff, but it never dawned on me that I haven't hugged her in years. It was nice being able to finally talk about my feelings.

My mom's kinda been denying that I'm actually trans ever since I told her (although she's also been trying to get me the proper help, though that's kinda hard because of how shit works (or doesn't lol) in the province I live in). I kinda wish she didn't doubt it so heavily but at the same time I can see why she does—she doesn't want me to have to go through the process of transitioning (though I'm sure she'll let me if I have to) and she doesn't want me to have to deal with all the other things that come with being trans. She also denies it because I've had a bunch of other issues since I was younger, like having my first period at 8 and it being extremely painful and all my periods still being extremely painful after that, so she thinks it might just be that I don't like having to deal with some of that, which is honestly somewhat true, but it's more than that too. I also almost forgot to mention, I was supposed to have an appointment with my psychologist yesterday but I wasn't able to go because I was really nervous about the appointment the night before and was having issues falling asleep.

one time when I was going home from school, around the time I started questioning my gender identity, I was stopped by some classmates and they asked if a specific girl was my sister, which was correct. I answered by trying to say "yeah, we're siblings" but I slipped up and said "yeah, we're sisters" [editline]f[/editline] the slip-up was entirely subconscious. it wasn't like I was trying my hardest to keep tight about it. it didn't even feel like a big deal at the time

thats such a cute slip up tho omg

[QUOTE=ToastedBread;52870757]Here's how it went down. While I was at work, she went in my room and noticed I have a lot of clothes laying around and decided to try to find space for them. Well, she found some stuff and texted me apologizing and she dropped the whole "you can talk to me about anything" bomb on me. This has happened to me before, but today i broke down in tears and came clean. It's like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. Apparently she always suspected something was up and was waiting for me to break the ice, but I was also waiting for her to do it. :v: It's weird. I've always had a good relationship with my mother. Like, we talk a lot and go places and stuff, but it never dawned on me that I haven't hugged her in years. It was nice being able to finally talk about my feelings.[/QUOTE] Wait, she actually reorganized my underwear drawer and stuff that was at the bottom is now neatly folded on top. Fuck. I guess I really have no more secrets with her. Lmao

[QUOTE=cynaraos;52872309]one time when I was going home from school, around the time I started questioning my gender identity, I was stopped by some classmates and they asked if a specific girl was my sister, which was correct. I answered by trying to say "yeah, we're siblings" but I slipped up and said "yeah, we're sisters" [editline]f[/editline] the slip-up was entirely subconscious. it wasn't like I was trying my hardest to keep tight about it. it didn't even feel like a big deal at the time[/QUOTE] the thing with this is that the Norwegian words for "siblings" ("søsken") and "sisters" ("søstre") start off quite similarly, which made it even easier to mess it up than if that conversation was in English

[QUOTE=gtanoofa;52876079]I made a deal with my parents to keep my room completely clean with out a hint of dirtiness and they have to call me she/her and my preferred name. Victory i suppose? :thinking:[/QUOTE] Must be nice I guess, but honestly I think it's kind of scummy to hold something like recognizing your identity back in exchange for something.

My mom has only brought up me being trans once or twice since I've told her. The last time was she asked how my sex life was gonna go when I would go full time girl. Was so tempted to go into full details to disturb her but just joked "life uh...finds a way". But I swear to god she has been finding some way to fit in a male pronoun about me in every sentence. It's driving me nuts.

just do the reverse tactic of calling her the wrong pronouns too whenever possible its the most passive aggressive effective way to prove your point. meanwhile my dad who is supporting-neutral still calls me male pronouns but i dont really mind it yet because i havent begun transitioning so it isnt really that harsh yet.

Shame HRT has to wait since my insurance was through my moms work and she just got laid off. You win some you lose some I guess. :v: