Crossdressing & Transgender & A̲L̲L̲I̲E̲S̲ Discussion v. Thread Reassignment Surgery - General

Kinda off-topic but I got a sports bra so i could hide my nipples that were starting to poke out, and I'm really happy about it. Like man, I really wasn't expecting this much of joy from just a bra, but it's really up there on the scale of happiness. It won't hurt my breast growth though will it?

[QUOTE=AtomicSans;52905087]I'm not gonna lie. Every single time I've ever made an effort to actually join an LGBT-centric community it's been an absolutely horrible experience. My freshman year, I attended a small presentation from the main campus LGBT group during my freshman orientation. As we were doing the normal go-around-the-circle, give-us-your-name-and-pronouns-and-your-orientation-if-you're-comfortable-with-that icebreaker thing and the guy leading it gave me shit for being bi, saying I "wasn't committing" or something like that, which puts them on my shit list immediately There's a more trans-centric group on campus that I would like to silently sit in the corner on their meetings or something and just listen to some stories and experiences but I strongly suspect they would not take kindly to my being cis sigh[/QUOTE] If you want you can join the cd/tg discord, we try to have a "no bully" atmosphere. If your curious bout trans stuff, willing to experiment with the idea, just want to help people in need, or whatever you want we wont try to push you one way or another. drop a pm to me or biodude and we can drop a invite to ya. This goes for anyone reading this. We won't tell anyone your facepunch username if you don't want us to. Privacy is #1. Sorry for the weird semi-privacy invite system but we have to do it otherwise people will just post the link randomly on 4chan and raid us (which has happened.) for those curious about the cd/tg discord community member size wise, we cracked 150 members the other day so there tends to be peeps active all the time. it usually dies down when america sleeps though. [img]https://i.imgur.com/uss4DYR.png[/img] The trans community is bigger on FP then most people think. bretty gud :ok:

[QUOTE=AtomicSans;52905087]I'm not gonna lie. Every single time I've ever made an effort to actually join an LGBT-centric community it's been an absolutely horrible experience. My freshman year, I attended a small presentation from the main campus LGBT group during my freshman orientation. As we were doing the normal go-around-the-circle, give-us-your-name-and-pronouns-and-your-orientation-if-you're-comfortable-with-that icebreaker thing and the guy leading it gave me shit for being bi, saying I "wasn't committing" or something like that, which puts them on my shit list immediately There's a more trans-centric group on campus that I would like to silently sit in the corner on their meetings or something and just listen to some stories and experiences but I strongly suspect they would not take kindly to my being cis sigh[/QUOTE] Looking back on it I think the issue is more that student groups that are not hobby or subject based just tend to suck in general. Talked to some people at other universities and they say the groups there act more or less the same.

So today I set up an appointment with Planned Parenthood to possibly get HRT this week. I'm excited but super scared at the same time. Tbh, I wish I knew about Planned Parenthood's trans health services sooner. The fact that you can set up an appointment online without having to call anyone is great. Anxiety was really the only thing keeping me from talking about it to my gp at Kaiser.

Seen as it's TDOR I thought I'd pop in and say that I hope everything's going well for you, and that if it isn't then that things pick up. Some of my friends had to fight far harder than should have been necessary but they got there. You're all beautiful people, I hope you get all the love and respect you deserve. [IMG]https://facepunch.com/fp/ratings/heart.png[/IMG]

NHS sent a letter to my old address under my new name. Parents opened it. Not sure what to do. Dad seems ok but isn't saying much and I know for a fact mum will flip the fuck out. Any advice?

been having lots of nausea lately and some vomiting too, could it be caused by hrt? been on 1mg estradiol and 200mg spiro for about a month and a half

I'm going to be seeing my endo only twice a year now, I "graduated" my every-three-months appointments and now they only need to see me every six. I'm honestly going to miss seeing my endocrinologist as often as I was, I liked them there, lol.

I've been very stressed as of late ever since I came out to my mom. She's given me nothing but support, but it just made me realize I've wasted the past 10 years hiding it from her, and it just fills me with regret. Hindsight is 20/20 I guess.

Then again, I'm only 23 so it's not like I'm super late to the party.

I definitely feel that I should give up, I don't see how I could ever make this a reality I can barely deal with minor environmental changes in my life, let alone changing myself and how everybody in my life interacts with me

[QUOTE=AtomicSans;52911271]I definitely feel that I should give up, I don't see how I could ever make this a reality I can barely deal with minor environmental changes in my life, let alone changing myself and how everybody in my life interacts with me[/QUOTE] :( I think the human body is amazing and you'll surprised about the changes that come about through hrt, if that's something you might be interested in later. And everyone is different, what you want and your expectations might change as you go too. I've been taking testosterone for over a year now and I never thought I would want to look feminine again after starting (I'm nonbinary) but now I'm trying to grow my hair out and it doesn't currently bother me getting misgendered very much. Plus, what if it's a positive change in your life? It's definitely rough at first and I definitely went through what you're experiencing now before and right after I first came out, but those thoughts don't bother me so much anymore. I think you should start small, maybe with people who don't know you as well and go from there just to see how you feel. Sorry this is long, I'm getting the hang of posting and I thought this was important!

It's the general mood in here atm, so I'm not gonna quote any specific posts, but.. I made a [url=https://facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1584775&p=52896255&viewfull=1#post52896255]big post[/url] about my experiences -- prior warning, it deals with the recent Sobotnik crisis, so if you don't want to see references to that or an incident of extreme cruelty then avoid clicking it. I link it here just to give some purchase to what I'm about to say. Don't be afraid of other LGBTQ+ people. The negative ones you will meet are the minority. They are vocal, and they are present, only because of dilution. The uniqueness of people in this minority further draws out and dilutes the exceptional and vocal arseholes. I was hurt bad by a trans woman who instilled me with a great fear of other trans people. Took a long time to get over that. Took a long time to deal with my phobia. But it does get better. You meet better people. You pick up and you move on. Don't let a vocal, focused minority group of arseholes from an already small group get to you. If someone is toxic, you forget about them and move on. Ditch their ass in a heartbeat, and forget their ass in the next. Do not do others the courtesy of leaving scars on your person. That's what they want. And don't think you can't change your future. A good person once told me "the only person that's stopping you from reinventing yourself, is you."

[QUOTE=AtomicSans;52911271]I definitely feel that I should give up, I don't see how I could ever make this a reality I can barely deal with minor environmental changes in my life, let alone changing myself and how everybody in my life interacts with me[/QUOTE] that's how i felt, and i still do to a degree, but transition is a process. you can take it as slow as you need to. it's definitely an adjustment, and it is scary... but at least for me, it's 100% worth doing.

Hi! I just wanted to make a post because Facepunch has been in my life for so damn long and it feels right to get my roots in the loop again. I made this [url=https://twitter.com/LosttoLauren/status/914063043969130496]a big thread on twitter[/url] a little while back with a bit more detail than I'll have here in case you are interested or that format works with you better~ So I've been having dysphoric feelings for about 10 years now without really understanding what they were, I just used it as a drive for my creative projects. I realised around that time that playing female characters online would give it a bit of relief, and I was able to project myself onto them a bit better. So since around a year and a half ago, I have asked myself almost daily 'Would I transition?' and the answer was always 'No, I'm not nearly brave enough for something like that'. This continued up until April 27th this year. At this point, I was stressed at work from work deadlines getting further and further behind (I draw plans and elevations of point cloud scanned heritage buildings), and my brain was in crunch in my free time due to my game project, 2000:1 - A Space Felony, approaching it's deadline too. It was that evening while driving back from work that the answer was 'Yes', this isn't some distant future technology or impossible challenge, I can totally do this. That moment was the most incredible feeling. Every time I write about this I can feel it again, like I'm finally going to become who I want to be. I told my fiance that weekend and I started the process (queuing :v:) with the NHS and private! A month later, I had my appointment with the GP to get a referral, but my mum was still home and I accidentally mentioned the GP, which made her nervous and I had to tell her. She had no idea how I was feeling and was in tears. the news hit her extremely hard, like I think it made her doubt her ability as a parent for not identifying an issue like that. :c She's a lot better now, my close family know (apart from grandparents and cousins, no idea how they'd react), and I'm making progress! On the private side, I've been having voice coaching lesson with Christella since late May. I visited Dr Lenihan on October 13th, got her psych report on November 7th, and I'm booked for possibly getting my prescription on the 7th of December! Glad to be moving through the system at a steady pace.

[QUOTE=Chris Morris;52912062]A good person once told me "the only person that's stopping you from reinventing yourself, is you."[/QUOTE] Yeah, I know. That's the problem. I'm always going to be the roadblock in the way of becoming who I want to be. Because that's who I am.

[QUOTE=AtomicSans;52912436]Yeah, I know. That's the problem. I'm always going to be the roadblock in the way of becoming who I want to be. Because that's who I am.[/QUOTE] Change that. You can do it. Stop yourself and evaluate yourself when you get in your own way.

God its been like two years since I started to question myself about this stuff and I still have zero idea what I want to do with myself. It's like a mix between denial and the regret if i were to actually go through with being the opposite gender and Idk if it's common to be like this for so long. I did keep it in the back of my head most of that time, though just recently out of nowhere it hit me again and its been on my mind almost constantly for a few weeks now, just getting to my mood and making me anxious. I haven't been wanting to post here either cus i'm afraid the wrong people will somehow find my posts. Fuck im just feeling confused and needed to say this somewhere, might end up snipping this because of what I said before. God I wish I didn't have to be like this, would make things a lot easier for myself and others.

I still sometimes get like that but I think its pretty normal, I usually get like that if its been a while since I felt or presented as feminine I start wanting to just not try or give up on transitioning but then I'll clean myself and dress in something cute or practice make-up, its the small things I think that help If you can I'd find someone who is a professional or someone who can understand and talk about it, saying things out loud helps put things in perspective its weird Good luck!

[QUOTE=aussiedropbear;52916281]And still the dark stain spreads between their shoulderblades, a mute reminder of the poppy-fields and graves. When the fight was over, we spent what they had made. But in the bottom of our hearts we felt the final cut.[/QUOTE] I snipped that just for your own sakes because of what you said at the bottom, but.. honestly, you're not alone and this is plenty normal. I'm still not sure who I want to be. I live in the moment and I live by what's happening. I guess that makes me a turncoat or a traitor I guess because I don't tend to take a solid stance on anything anymore -- I try and be as liquid as possible, except about certain barriers -- but at the end of the day, it's how I stay afloat. Constantly pushing back against a great big tide that wants me to be one way or the other. Feeling like I'm gonna drown every other day. Just stay afloat by being who you feel like at the time. [editline]23rd November 2017[/editline] In the words of great warrior poet Max Payne, you keep your eyes on the road, off the rear-view mirror and the roadkill behind you.

I don't feel comfortable at all thinking of myself as either cis or trans...so honestly I have no idea where to begin thinking about myself at all.

Absolutely! More people on the discord is always great, and you can blab with me anytime you want on there too, if that helps. It's not all trans talking too, you can just shoot the shit about anything.

IM WEARING A SKIRT AT WORK HAHAHAHahh wooooooo [editline]24th November 2017[/editline] fuck yeah i dont care this is awesome [editline]24th November 2017[/editline] i feel so fucking good! my colleagues are so nice!!!!!!

here in norway im pretty sure you can get it done for free with ease, without ever going through the 'official' gender clinic. a year or so ago they made it so that you dont need to go through genital surgery (after possibly years of going through the aforementioned gender clinic) to get it changed. [editline].[/editline] the gender clinic. ooh boy. it's.. a thing. there are so many things wrong with it and the people in charge of it

[QUOTE=gtanoofa;52918867]I see. I remember reading about how hard it is to even get hormones in norway back in like 2010.[/QUOTE] it still is. if it werent for the pure coincidence that somebody at my school knew of an 'unofficial' gender therapist when i came out i would probably have been rejected by the 'official' gender clinic before ever getting to talk to them and i wouldnt have started on hormones 11 months ago if youre depressed they will not even consider taking you in for "being a liability" and even when they dont reject you, you basically have to lie in case youre f.e. "not feminine enough" or else they wont give you the diagnosis you need to get medical treatment. throughout it all youre also likely to be met with insensitivity and a lack of empathy by the people you talk to and thats just scratching the surface i have generally heard just honestly disgusting things about the place

Because Scotland (I am actually a Dutch resident now but whatever) makes a point of having a separate legal system to the rest of the UK, you can change your name whenever you want under Scots Law. It is free to do so, but if you need it changed on your birth certificate it is £40 because UK still controls that, but it is automatically accepted unless they suspect you of fraud.

[QUOTE=gtanoofa;52918827]I'm planning to change my legal gender and name in May and the price for that is like 750 to 1000 euros. Is it the same for you peeps?[/QUOTE] Costs 200 to 250USD here in Connecticut. Really simple process too. I guess it varies a lot by location though.

[QUOTE=gtanoofa;52920899]Yeah, i know a transwoman who lives in Salt Lake City, i think? She went to court to change hers and they rejected her for some reason. She mentioned she's gonna try again after a few months.[/QUOTE] Aw that's awful. I wish her the best of luck with her second attempt. I've never heard of people getting rejected for name / gender marker changes around here, although I live in a much more liberal area compared to Utah.

We are now on Newpunch! [url]https://forum.facepunch.com/f/general/oswb/Crossdressing-Transgender-Allies-Discussion-New-Look-Same-Dysphoria/1/[/url] Ready for the transfer over when this forum is sadly killed off :(

[QUOTE=Luafox;52921177]damn that forum looks bad[/QUOTE] Use the [url=https://forum.facepunch.com/f/general/gvro/Facepunch-Awfully-White/]Awfully White[/url] theme. It recreates oldpunch's theme as accurately as we can manage.