Crossdressing & Transgender & A̲L̲L̲I̲E̲S̲ Discussion v. Thread Reassignment Surgery - General

I was having some dysphoria issues because of my hair, and I finally got my mom to cut it short and into a haircut that's not a bob lmao It's still a girly haircut but man does it feel a million times better [QUOTE=Kiwi;52922397]Well all of the threads are going to be imported including this one soooooooo[/QUOTE] Do we even know how the move is gonna work? My dumb ass accidentally signed up to newpunch with the name "tomatohentai" instead of "Tomato Hentai" since I'm so used to having to use tomatohentai most places, I don't wanna accidentally have two accounts or something.

It's mostly so the mods of the discord server would have control over the OP for discord links and such. We don't want to keep bothering shotz or a facepunch mod to edit stuff.

So a friend just did my makeup! I feel so fucking pretty right now, going to go out tonight like this hopefully [t]https://i.imgur.com/ZhN8w6R.jpg[/t]

I can barely describe how good I feel when I look at my feminine curves in the mirror [editline]28th November 2017[/editline] it's a kinda really validating feeling

Hahhh I love when I see close family that I haven't seen in years and they have no idea who I am.

I get "mistaken" for a girl a lot, but people usually take it back when they see my face (facial hair, mostly) and it kinda sucks Hopefully in the next few years i'm gonna get a permanent solution, I don't mind doing my arms and stuff but it grows way too quick on my face Doesn't help that HRT isn't covered by my insurance either :(

[QUOTE=MAspiderface;52930530]I get "mistaken" for a girl a lot, but people usually take it back when they see my face (facial hair, mostly) and it kinda sucks Hopefully in the next few years i'm gonna get a permanent solution, I don't mind doing my arms and stuff but it grows way too quick on my face Doesn't help that HRT isn't covered by my insurance either :([/QUOTE] HRT can be relatively cheap depending on where you're at. My copay is like 5 dollars for a months supply but I've heard that if I needed to buy it on my own it'd only really be 20 dollars for a month supply. It's still a bit more but it's not un-affordable. I'm not sure if location is cost-effective though. Also HRT doesn't really impact facial hair at all unfortunately. (could be ymmv though??) My facial hair thinned out and regrew blonde and clear in some areas, however in other areas it was just as bad as it was before. Had to get a fair amount of electrolysis to totally get rid of that problem.

Urgh. Planned parenthood hasn't gotten back to me, and their reviews don't look so hot. I'm considering the LA LGBT center in Hollywood, but it's 30 miles away and I'm really scared to make the phone call. I know they're a billion times more accepting, obviously, but the idea of calling and talking to someone really makes me nauseous...

[QUOTE=ToastedBread;52931088]Urgh. Planned parenthood hasn't gotten back to me, and their reviews don't look so hot. I'm considering the LA LGBT center in Hollywood, but it's 30 miles away and I'm really scared to make the phone call. I know they're a billion times more accepting, obviously, but the idea of calling and talking to someone really makes me nauseous...[/QUOTE] If youre under 24 try to get in contact with Childrens Hospital LA's trans youth program. They were pretty fast with their appointments [editline]1st December 2017[/editline] [url]https://www.chla.org/the-center-transyouth-health-and-development[/url]

Welp, i did it. I fucking did it. My appointment isn't till January 16, but still! They just asked for basic stuff, like birth sex, age, insurance or lack of, income, preferred name and pronouns, preference of male or female doctor etc. The worst part was having to spell my name and enunciating multiple times while still holding a relatively andro voice. Stupid T-mobile not having good coverage indoors and around my area. Lmao Jesus Christ, my heart is beating a million times a minute, but at least i cleared that hurdle!

So, uh, hello I know I'm not exactly well known on this forum, so I doubt anyone even noticed, but I posted in this thread for the first time maybe a month or so ago because I'd been lurking and I noticed someone needed help with something specific I had some knowledge about. That would be the first and only time I'd ever stated, even implicitly as was the case there, that I am transgender on this forum. For a few reasons, I thought I might never do that here. I suppose I wanted to distance myself from a username I was using back when I still... thought I was a guy (as well as being younger and dumber and more embarrassing). And I'm still not sure how I feel about having my transgender status be public knowledge in the long term. However, if I did end up going stealth (and that's a huge [I]if[/I], I kind of doubt that I even [I]could[/I]), I don't think anyone in the future would ever discover that I own this account, nor would anyone likely have any reason to even want to do that kind of sleuthing anyway. Right now, in my life, the only non-medical professional who I'm out to is my brother. And while he's supportive, it still feels really awkward for me to talk to him about this kind of stuff, so I rarely do. And not really having a space in my life besides my therapist's office for about fifty minutes every month where I can just say "Yeah, I'm a girl" has been starting to feel... increasingly suffocating to me lately. But I still have a lot of trepidations about coming out to people I know personally. So I think I'm juuust, gonna stop by here to chat now and again, for the time being. That's basically what the point of this post is, yeah

Feel free to stick around and chat as long as you'd like! It's what we're here for. We also have a discord and you can PM [url=https://facepunch.com/member.php?u=93651]Wii60[/url], [url=https://facepunch.com/member.php?u=511504]MissingGlitch[/url], or myself for an invite! We keep it lightly locked down, but just let us know once you join that you're from here and you'll get in.

Does anyone have any tips for buying clothing off amazon? I've only ever bought a hoodie off of there and it turned out pretty shit. How do I know what to look for? How do I know I'm going to get quality clothing?

[QUOTE=slayer20;52945779]Does anyone have any tips for buying clothing off amazon? I've only ever bought a hoodie off of there and it turned out pretty shit. How do I know what to look for? How do I know I'm going to get quality clothing?[/QUOTE] Order from Chinese retailers if you want cheap but probably utterly crap and/or small clothing. Just look for the reviews, hesitate to order items/from sellers who have no reviews, because you won't know what you expect. [editline]4th December 2017[/editline] I've gotten several clothes from Amazon and Ebay, Amazon is worse for me because it has insane shipping costs (and additional toll taxes if I order from US) whereas the vast majority of clothes I get from Ebay are sent as gifts (no toll taxes), but from chinese retailers. I've also used Sockdreams quite a bit, which is an excellent shop to order socks from. I'd recommend not ordering cheap hoodies and other "complex" clothing, ones with zippers and buttons and pockets and such, but any simple ones like a normal T-shirt, underwear or yoga pants are good enough when ordered from china.

[QUOTE=slayer20;52945779]Does anyone have any tips for buying clothing off amazon? I've only ever bought a hoodie off of there and it turned out pretty shit. How do I know what to look for? How do I know I'm going to get quality clothing?[/QUOTE] Remember that Amazon is not just one store, but lots of stores. So don't expect anything to be consistent.

Also, if you're ordering from China, always expect articles of clothing to run small. I usually order a size up from what I'd normally wear.

What do I do if I end up getting something too small? Am I just stuck with it? I have a few pairs of pants I bought a long time ago because I didn't know how girl sizes worked and now they're just sitting in my closet.

This thread's discord is now public. You can find the link by clicking on the discord image in the OP.

Anyone have any good tips for making long hair look more masculine. I definitely don't have a masculine face but I can't cut my hair because of my uhhhh conservative environment so I'm trying to figure out how to present more masculine while I'm stuck with it I have some ideas on a pinterest board but any other suggestions are cool

[QUOTE=Pascall;52950594]Anyone have any good tips for making long hair look more masculine. I definitely don't have a masculine face but I can't cut my hair because of my uhhhh conservative environment so I'm trying to figure out how to present more masculine while I'm stuck with it I have some ideas on a pinterest board but any other suggestions are cool[/QUOTE] I'd say maybe a clean ponytail from the upper part of your head or top knot would emphasize a more masculine look. If you don't want to tie your hair, making it straighter such as combing up your bangs and making your forehead clearer and prominent, while letting the sides of your hair just fall over straight down would give it a more masculine appearance. The lining of your hair from the front to the sides should look straight and boxy rather than curvy.

[QUOTE=MissingGlitch;52948517]This thread's discord is now public. You can find the link by clicking on the discord image in the OP.[/QUOTE] Are you sure that's a good idea...?

Has anyone heard of hormone therapy fucking with your ability to empathize/feel emotion? I know someone who is on hormone therapy and has gotten colder and colder as time has gone on. And in the times when they snap out of it they express that hormones make them feel "less sane", that rather than feeling bad for someone going through rough shit they just feel glad it wasn't them, and that they "feel emotionally numb most of the time, like I feel the emotion but it doesn't reach my conscious mind". I really worry about them, they didn't use to be like this and I don't know of anything that's changed beyond going on hormone therapy.

[QUOTE=Mister Sandman;52950752]Has anyone heard of hormone therapy fucking with your ability to empathize/feel emotion? I know someone who is on hormone therapy and has gotten colder and colder as time has gone on. And in the times when they snap out of it they express that hormones make them feel "less sane", that rather than feeling bad for someone going through rough shit they just feel glad it wasn't them, and that they "feel emotionally numb most of the time, like I feel the emotion but it doesn't reach my conscious mind". I really worry about them, they didn't use to be like this and I don't know of anything that's changed beyond going on hormone therapy.[/QUOTE] Are they trans-fem or trans-masc? Generally speaking, feminine hormones tend to make people more emotional, and allow easier expression. I've heard that male hormones are just the opposite, and can have a numbing effect. For some people it's affirming, as in "oh wow, I can finally cry," or "fucking finally, I can deal with my problems without breaking down" and so on. If the someone you know is trans-fem, I worry that the numbness might be depression related.

[QUOTE=Sega Saturn;52950766]Are they trans-fem or trans-masc? Generally speaking, feminine hormones tend to make people more emotional, and allow easier expression. I've heard that male hormones are just the opposite, and can have a numbing effect. For some people it's affirming, as in "oh wow, I can finally cry," or "fucking finally, I can deal with my problems without breaking down" and so on. If the someone you know is trans-fem, I worry that the numbness might be depression related.[/QUOTE] Trans-fem. It could be depression related but it's hard to tell. I worry that maybe they're receiving too many or too little hormones, or it's interacting badly with their untreated depressed mind, or it's just the wrong medication, or maybe it's just coincidence and their depression for some reason took a turn for the vastly worse for some reason at the exact same time they started hormones. It's really unclear. I worry about them a lot because our relationship has fundamentally changed and it's hard to feel driven to fix yourself when you don't feel much in the first place.

[QUOTE=Sega Saturn;52950766]Are they trans-fem or trans-masc? Generally speaking, feminine hormones tend to make people more emotional, and allow easier expression. I've heard that male hormones are just the opposite, and can have a numbing effect. For some people it's affirming, as in "oh wow, I can finally cry," or "fucking finally, I can deal with my problems without breaking down" and so on. If the someone you know is trans-fem, I worry that the numbness might be depression related.[/QUOTE] I didn't know this about male hormones...one of my friends disconnected with me very long ago and I'm curious if it could possibly have been part of it. :s: They slowly stopped talking and then just cut me and some other people off entirely. It was rough.

it's hard to tell what hormones are doing to your mental state, let alone predict what emotional effect hormones will have on someone else. anecdotally, in all my conversations with trans folks I know IRL, the vast majority of people said they experienced little to no emotional difference when they started hormones. I know one girl who has been on HRT for 4 years, is considering GRS, and mentioned that she really didn't notice a difference. take hormones for physical feminisation or masculinisation. if you're depressed get on antidepressants. those are actually proven to help depression and anxiety

What do you folks use to deal with neck hair? I have bear person genetics but it all responds well to razors except the neck which always leaves a nasty dark shadow. I have been using make up to cover it but I really do just want it gone. Expensive stuff like laser treatment is not an option right now, but I wondered what works for everyone else.

laser is by far the best option for dealing with dark facial hair permanently, sucks that it's expensive, maybe you could try a groupon or start a gofundme

Laser treatment is the end goal, just not financially feasible right now. Not sure why my neck hair is so dark either, considering facial and scalp hair is very fair brown/blonde

I need some advice. So my girlfriend is afraid on how people will think of us when we'll eventually be seen together (We live in different countries). She's worried that people will not see her as a woman and think it will look weird when we're together. I'm a cis male who lives in a pretty liberal area and have seen a few similar couples like us before with nobody actually batting an eye or anything, but I'm not going through what she's going through and honestly not 100% sure about the situation either. Does anyone have some advice that will help with this mindset? It would be very helpful!