Crossdressing & Transgender & A̲L̲L̲I̲E̲S̲ Discussion v. Thread Reassignment Surgery - General

I started going by TJ instead of my real name Sarah like my first year of community college as a way to differentiate myself from the other 3 Sarahs in one of my classes. I pretty much go by TJ literally everywhere except at home now. Changed it on Facebook. I like it a lot better. Lot more gender neutral.

[QUOTE=The golden;52995163]Everything about your post is fine except this. Breast growth is one of the very first things to start and they are permanent. It takes them a long time to mature but they start very very early so if you stop HRT early then you [U]may [/U]be stuck with breast buds. Not hugely a problem but not ideal either.[/QUOTE] That was the one part that I wasn't 100% sure on, thanks for the correction! I had heard that some of the earliest changes were ones that would go away if you decided to detransition. The timeline of what to expect during transitions is something that I just can't remember for some reason.

[QUOTE=The golden;52995163]First thing I'd do in your shoes is start doing some research into your medical plan(s) to see if they cover hormone treatment and/or if any other possible services do. I'm not in the US so unfortuantly my knowledge of this kinda dies here... Assuming you got that confirmed, I would start doing some intense Googling to see if there are any trans-friendly doctors in your area. Also check if you have any Planned Parenthood offices around as they do provide hormone therapy to trans gals! Once you have the billing sorted out and you're sitting down with a doctor then the doc will handle everything else or directly tell you what you need to do. It's straight forward from there. I went to school with a girl named Talia (pronounced the same) and I always wondered when I'd see someone else with that same name again. I think it sounds awesome. Everything about your post is fine except this. Breast growth is one of the very first things to start and they are permanent. It takes them a long time to mature but they start very very early so if you stop HRT early then you [U]may [/U]be stuck with breast buds. Not hugely a problem but not ideal either.[/QUOTE] I'm pretty sure I don't have any medical plan at all, because I can't remember ever signing up for one. I don't get one through my job and I really can't afford one. [editline]21st December 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=Pascall;52995176]I started going by TJ instead of my real name Sarah like my first year of community college as a way to differentiate myself from the other 3 Sarahs in one of my classes. I pretty much go by TJ literally everywhere except at home now. Changed it on Facebook. I like it a lot better. Lot more gender neutral.[/QUOTE] All you had to do was follow the damn gender binary, TJ!

[QUOTE=AtomicSans;52995542]I'm pretty sure I don't have any medical plan at all, because I can't remember ever signing up for one. I don't get one through my job and I really can't afford one.[/QUOTE] Given that you're under 26 and still dependent on your parents, you're still going to be on your parents' insurance plan.

[QUOTE=biodude94566;52995558]Given that you're under 26 and still dependent on your parents, you're still going to be on your parents' insurance plan.[/QUOTE] I know, but I can't use that. My parents would be able to see whatever I did with it.

[QUOTE=AtomicSans;52995542]I'm pretty sure I don't have any medical plan at all, because I can't remember ever signing up for one. I don't get one through my job and I really can't afford one. [/QUOTE] Speaking of financial stuff; if you have a AAA membership, they can discount up to 75% off of most prescription medications. Considering its only like $50 a year, I think the savings would pay it off pretty quickly. Also you get the added benefit of typical roadside assistance stuff which is neat. Doesn't really help with the doctor part though, but it's something.

[QUOTE=AtomicSans;52995565]I know, but I can't use that. My parents would be able to see whatever I did with it.[/QUOTE] I'm not sure if your parents will notice patient details and the like, but would it be possible to schedule an appointment with an endocrinologist or someone that specializes in hormone replacement treatment, and instead of using the prescription they'd give you; get the information on doses, medications, and etc you'd need and pay for them yourself without using a direct prescript? HRT isn't too expensive, and if you know exactly what you'd be prescribed you could buy what you need online without a prescription (afaik). You wouldn't be utilizing your parent's insurance so they shouldn't be able to know what you're taking and for what. Not advocating that you do anything hasty or dangerous btw. Like it has been said here many times, medically transitioning is a big step and it's best to both know that you're sure and are willing to take the risks that are associated with medically transitioning under the roof of family that's not too accepting.

Still at the stage where its really only online and close friends who use the name I wish to change to, for everything I still reference my birth name because its mostly just convenience so far. For documents I've started to just use my first initial and last name so its less of a pain later on updating everything as it wont be changing. Once college is done and all, the ball starts rolling again and will be able to change everything.

So. I have been approved for HRT for a while but due to me being on long-term medication that is known to interact badly I have not been able to start for a while; a few days ago I got my blood tests back and it is getting to the point where I will likely be able to start HRT within 3 months :saxout: Question is, I am considering taking private photos as a way of tracking progress. Has anyone done the same and at what intervals would you suggest taking photos? I was thinking every month?

[QUOTE=Mr Kotov;52996529]Question is, I am considering taking private photos as a way of tracking progress. Has anyone done the same and at what intervals would you suggest taking photos? I was thinking every month?[/QUOTE] I used to take a pic of me every month. I got kinda bored with it and stopped after a while though, lol. Still a good way to visualize your progress though!

Personally ive destroyed all photos of pre-HRT me that I can locate

[QUOTE=Amber902;52997086]Personally ive destroyed all photos of pre-HRT me that I can locate[/QUOTE] Oh my gosh. I didn't realize this was an option at all but now that I do I can't wait to maybe do this eventually.

Sorta late, but the way I picked the first name I thought I was gonna go by was when I went to some baby name site to try and pick a name for my Fire Emblem: if character. With the first two paths I played as a girl but I decided to play as a dude when I did Hidden Kingdom. Happened to find out I was trans a few weeks(?) later so I just latched onto that name. Abandoned that name later because I didn't feel like it fit me even remotely. My current name, Tommy, or Tom for short, was picked by some friends when I told them I wanted to use a different name but wasn't sure what. Nearly everyone suggested Tom since you can easily shorten "Tomato" down to it. I decided on my own later that I like the name Tommy a bit more than Tom.

I might actually be starting hormones soon(ish). I got a new doctor and he referred me to an endocronologist who might be able to prescribe me hormones. I have a GID diagnosis already so that helps. The nurse there said that 'endocronologists tend to schedule way ahead of time so it might be a few months' but a few months doesn't compare to the years I've been waiting. I was worried what my mom might think considering she went from being a bigoted shit to being tolerant but not wanting to support me (though she didn't seem to understand until recently that I haven't been asking for her to pay for surgery, she seems more fine with hormones though) My mom asked why he referred me to an endocronologist and then interrupted herself with "Oh, nevermind, I know why" in a sort of nonchalant tone. I don't know exactly what she thinks I'm going there for, maybe hormones, maybe something else, but I'm just gonna do my best to not tell her if I don't have to. So yeah. This might happen.

Going to start going on a strict weight loss diet, hopefully the boost of confidence will be enough to push me to come out. Either way I feel like shit all day so I need to do something, get my cardio pumping.

A bit late to the topic as well but I'm happy and thankful with what my parents gave me as a name, Lawrence Ainsley, and people irl call me either almost as often, which is alright despite the former being a prominently masculine version of the name. My mom is named Loren herself. Within the household, I'm called 'Yey/Yay' which is an affectionate nickname of my first two initials L.A. I use Ainsley more prominently online if sharing real first names, and with close friends I'm called Ainny which I'm really happy with, and Ainny in particular being the one that feels really great the most to hear/see being used Either way it's good when you find a name you're comfortable with, whether it's entirely different from your birth name or just a modification of it

the yay leaving san fierro? i have a strong attachment to lyn for reasons that might be self evident but i'm also slowly becoming a fan of elise

Can anyone explain to me the mentality associated with someone wanting to be non-binary or why they would want non-binary pronouns associated with themselves? Ive never understood this mentality because ive always understood gender as being incredibly open-ended regardless of whether you are male or female. I just dont understand why someone would decide to identify as something that is foreign to most people when it seems like these identities dont have any real relevance outside of being identified to other people.

Because internally, I don't quite feel 100% male but I also don't feel 100% female either so like. Y'know. Non-binary is a nice in between place for me while I figure it out.

[QUOTE=Pascall;52999281]Because internally, I don't quite feel 100% male but I also don't feel 100% female either so like. Y'know. Non-binary is a nice in between place for me while I figure it out.[/QUOTE] I guess I just dont understand what it means to 'feel' female or male, even though I guess I am one. I dont really know what part of my personal experience I correlate as being related to my gender. Im assuming you treat it more as a transitional process based on your post which makes sense to me, but I dont really understand people that point to it as their gender identity in and of itself.

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A childhood best friend of mine reached out to me and would like to see me for drinks after Christmas, It has been a long time since I've seen him because he's a pilot in the Air Force and has been stationed away for a while. I haven't seen him since my transition and as far as I know he doesn't know about it since both him and his family don't live around here anymore. I'm pretty nervous about seeing him again, I'm not really sure how he'll react. I'm wondering if I should text him and let him know before I see him.

[QUOTE=gtanoofa;53000100]I made a timeline thing. [t]http://www.wduwant.com/index_uploads/uploads/62bcc60efb39.jpg[/t][/QUOTE] how did your hair grow out so good looking in a year wtf my hair can't do that

She's very lucky as even after 15+ treatments of IPL, I still have to shave almost daily for it to be almost invisible to the eye. And I'm totally jealous of her hair D:

Hey cool, I got mistook as a girl at work but now I think the guys that thought I was a girl are making fun of me! being trans is a blessing lmao.. At least the hrt is working and its Christmas

Oh yeah I forgot to say the name I'm changing to is Hailey

[QUOTE=Boilermaker;52999455] Im assuming you treat it more as a transitional process based on your post which makes sense to me, but I dont really understand people that point to it as their gender identity in and of itself.[/QUOTE] I can answer this! I am not using nonbinary as a transitional process, I consider myself to be nonbinary transgender permanently (or as permanent as gender can be, anyway). I don't personally feel like anything gender-wise at all, not "in between" or necessarily an absence either (like agender), but more like an "other" gender. I'm not quite sure if I don't feel like anything at all or if I feel like [I]something[/I] but not female/male, but I don't really care about figuring it out because I'm not sure I even can - I mostly just identify as queer. I don't really understand why people identify as just female or male because don't you fluctuate every day the way you feel and want to be seen to a certain extent? But at the same time, there is an unnameable part of me that knows what being female or male must feel like and recognizes that I don't have either of those in me at all, even a little bit. For other people who don't use the term nonbinary as a process, it just means that they feel not entirely male or female all the time. Could be a solid, mostly nonfluctuating state like what I feel, or it could fluctuate all the time, like gender fluid. Hope that makes sense!

i don't know why i'm so scared to tell my brothers about me transitioning, i'm going to have to eventually i keep pushing it back

I think I'm finally gonna have to start taking steps towards transitioning after this year; I just can't live like this anymore. I've been putting it off because I know I'd never stop feeling like an imposter, as in I don't think it would ever feel quite "real" to me; and no matter how well I pass I'll end up in a situation where I have to tell someone I'm trans, which is both really scary and makes the former part so many times worse. But right now all I want is to feel alive again; at least a little...

My mom got me a makeup kit for Christmas. I suppose that's the kind of approval I've been looking for for years, yet in a sense I don't exactly trust it. Something about people getting me gifts of feminine stuff feels more like they're indulging me in crossdressing more than transitioning. But, I mean, shit, not to look a gift horse in the mouth. If my mom wants to start supporting me, then I won't refuse.