Crossdressing & Transgender & A̲L̲L̲I̲E̲S̲ Discussion v. Thread Reassignment Surgery - General

[QUOTE=Rubs10;48703501]That's dumb :/ longer hair has nothing to do with gender I'm sure you've got some more leeway, a good masculine style would still be longer than that on top.[/QUOTE] She just hates long hair on guys I think, probably because last time I tried having long hair when I was younger and didn't do any of the trans stuff I didn't manage it too well.

[QUOTE=Backsalot;48701759]I'd say the main thing holding you back is your hair, all honesty. A good hair style and some flattering clothes would do you a world of good, and naturally hormones even more so.[/QUOTE] I'm still totally boymode in that pic, haven't felt ready enough yet to start presenting myself as girl as I can. I'm actually waiting to get my haircut soon because I feel like it's too long at the moment, but I've always liked short bob cuts, I don't really know how I should style it. I wish I had hairstyle suggestions or something because I seriously don't know what'll look good on me, lol.

[QUOTE=GhostProject;48703557]I'm still totally boymode in that pic, haven't felt ready enough yet to start presenting myself as girl as I can. I'm actually waiting to get my haircut soon because I feel like it's too long at the moment, but I've always liked short bob cuts, I don't really know how I should style it. I wish I had hairstyle suggestions or something because I seriously don't know what'll look good on me, lol.[/QUOTE] Honestly, the style you have now suits you well, but then again I don't know a damn thing about good hairstyles :wavey:. If you really don't wanna do that, you could always go the [url=https://encrypted-tbn2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcS9E6iljj3Xy1Re_gH2hDWD9IS2IOuA4JmAJd2txgQSqebBhyJiwIa8VA]pixie cut[/url] road or have most of it on [url=https://encrypted-tbn2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcTM8Tb_UtnzmqQUPUJkFY9l8ZEwsC1oZPZgwqEoskT-ZyuGPbvw6zGmNb0]one side or the other[/url]. Again, I'm tone-deaf in regards to good hairstyles, but I figured I'd try to help anyway! Sorry if they're both bad choices :v:

[QUOTE=Vaught;48704085]Honestly, the style you have now suits you well, but then again I don't know a damn thing about good hairstyles :wavey:. If you really don't wanna do that, you could always go the [url=https://encrypted-tbn2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcS9E6iljj3Xy1Re_gH2hDWD9IS2IOuA4JmAJd2txgQSqebBhyJiwIa8VA]pixie cut[/url] road or have most of it on [url=https://encrypted-tbn2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcTM8Tb_UtnzmqQUPUJkFY9l8ZEwsC1oZPZgwqEoskT-ZyuGPbvw6zGmNb0]one side or the other[/url]. Again, I'm tone-deaf in regards to good hairstyles, but I figured I'd try to help anyway! Sorry if they're both bad choices :v:[/QUOTE] Either of those is actually how my hair usually looks when I keep up to date on styling it. It's been a few months since my last cut and I'm getting it cut again at the end of this month. My hair grows like weeds.

[QUOTE=GhostProject;48706313]Either of those is actually how my hair usually looks when I keep up to date on styling it. It's been a few months since my last cut and I'm getting it cut again at the end of this month. My hair grows like weeds.[/QUOTE] I had a feeling those were something you already did but I didn't want to assume. I gotta stop thinking so hard about these things :surrender:. In different news, I wish winter was here already. I want to wear my damn sweaters.

went into endo today to get told that I got rejected from hormoens AND im getting removed from the trans program ive been involved in for two years due to lack of therapy (due to costs and transportation issues) and inability to prove im not a danger to myself or others, so basically the last two years of my life and countless therapy sessions and non-insured costs were an absolute waste of time boy howdy do I want to fucking die right now

Oh gosh, that really sucks. They don't make special cases for people who're literally unable to jump through their hoops (like you because of transportation issues)?

[QUOTE=Judas;48708461]went into endo today to get told that I got rejected from hormoens AND im getting removed from the trans program ive been involved in for two years due to lack of therapy (due to costs and transportation issues) and inability to prove im not a danger to myself or others, so basically the last two years of my life and countless therapy sessions and non-insured costs were an absolute waste of time boy howdy do I want to fucking die right now[/QUOTE] At this point I would just order them online.

[QUOTE=Zero_;48708517]At this point I would just order them online.[/QUOTE] I need to wait until I move out to live with my girlfriend, my current living situation doesn't allow me to selfmed (and I probably couldnt afford it anyway, im really broke atm)

[QUOTE=Judas;48708578]I need to wait until I move out to live with my girlfriend, my current living situation doesn't allow me to selfmed (and I probably couldnt afford it anyway, im really broke atm)[/QUOTE] Hormones are usually 1k a year minimum in the US. My girlfriend is gonna be moving in with me soon, when I get a job (my first one) - not looking forward to the financial hell this all will be, tbh.

[QUOTE=Kaiwren;48708790]Hormones are usually 1k a year minimum in the US.[/QUOTE] I assume that's without insurance? I was under the impression it was to the point of being almost prohibitively expensive....

[QUOTE=Kaiwren;48708790]Hormones are usually 1k a year minimum in the US. My girlfriend is gonna be moving in with me soon, when I get a job (my first one) - not looking forward to the financial hell this all will be, tbh.[/QUOTE] There was a point in which I was going to order them online, just before I got my prescription. And it was way cheaper than 1K a year. It was around $500 per year, if I remember correctly.

[QUOTE=Judas;48708461]went into endo today to get told that I got rejected from hormoens AND im getting removed from the trans program ive been involved in for two years due to lack of therapy (due to costs and transportation issues) and inability to prove im not a danger to myself or others, so basically the last two years of my life and countless therapy sessions and non-insured costs were an absolute waste of time boy howdy do I want to fucking die right now[/QUOTE] It's fucking terrifying that people can just decide "No, you're not trans enough" and just ruin people's lives like that.

Got my first appointment at Nottingham on the 3rd of November. Hooray.

[t]http://i.imgur.com/sXWLWEB.jpg[/t] For the first time in ever, I'm starting to like myself. Shame my ribs get in the way. Dumb ribs.

I shaved my legs for the first time, and nobody but me and my best friend know because I tend to wear jeans, but holy hell I feel so much better. I haven't started transitioning or come out to many people, but life is bearable again.

[QUOTE=Baboo00;48709602]I shaved my legs for the first time, and nobody but me and my best friend know because I tend to wear jeans, but holy hell I feel so much better. I haven't started transitioning or come out to many people, but life is bearable again.[/QUOTE] hairless legs is one of the best things life can offer

So tomorrow I (hopefully) have a meeting. An organization I work with that wants to help me with my transgender process is going to be meeting with my mother and I and explaining that a huge part of what we're doing is going to involve helping me transition in ways that cannot be hidden. Hopefully my mom takes it well. In any case, assuming everything goes well, my MtF transition might, after so many years, begin tomorrow. Here's hoping.

My local mental health team lost my paperwork for a few months and my endocrinologist only just received it. So now I have to wait around for an e-mail from him to say whether I'm good to go on hormones or if I need to wait another year or so. I also leave to go back to Uni in under a week and if he says I'm good to go, I need to see my GP. I hope this all works out.

[QUOTE=Kaiwren;48708790]Hormones are usually 1k a year minimum in the US. My girlfriend is gonna be moving in with me soon, when I get a job (my first one) - not looking forward to the financial hell this all will be, tbh.[/QUOTE] [b][i]Minimum[/b][/i] 1 grand a year? That might be true if you live in richer parts of the US because I pay roughly ~$50 a month for mine.

My best friend started hrt yesterday :o I should still do something about getting hormones

[QUOTE=Judas;48708461]went into endo today to get told that I got rejected from hormoens AND im getting removed from the trans program ive been involved in for two years due to lack of therapy (due to costs and transportation issues) and inability to prove im not a danger to myself or others, so basically the last two years of my life and countless therapy sessions and non-insured costs were an absolute waste of time boy howdy do I want to fucking die right now[/QUOTE] I know how you feel. For me they literally told me I didn't fit [b]their[/b] criteria for what being trans means.

[QUOTE=T-Sonar.0;48711485][b][i]Minimum[/b][/i] 1 grand a year? That might be true if you live in richer parts of the US because I pay roughly ~$50 a month for mine.[/QUOTE] Yeaaaah. Mine aren't anywhere that expensive. I'm taking shots, and for a 200 mg/ml vial, it's $26 without insurance. I take 0.5 ml every three weeks. If I keep that cycle, it'd be $225. Even if I did a weekly dose, that's still only be $676 for a year. 'Course, that's for T.

Ugh, how am I supposed to flirt with my crush if she's never out of her room? Inviting her for lunch/stuff would be way too obvious, and sound too desperate.

[QUOTE=Zero_;48713194]Ugh, how am I supposed to flirt with my crush if she's never out of her room? Inviting her for lunch/stuff would be way too obvious, and sound too desperate.[/QUOTE] If she's a shut in maybe just invite her over for some netflix and chill.

What kind of criteria do therapists or whatever even look for when prescribing hormones to people they "think" are trans? I'm seriously afraid that I'll get denied a prescription.

holy shit I'm going to he meeting now I'm so nervous let's hope that I come back living as a girl openly

[QUOTE=GhostProject;48714158]What kind of criteria do therapists or whatever even look for when prescribing hormones to people they "think" are trans? I'm seriously afraid that I'll get denied a prescription.[/QUOTE] I guess if you're not super feminine and don't only talk about boys, shopping, makeup and hair they think you're not really a girl.

[QUOTE=T-Sonar.0;48714206]I guess if you're not super feminine and only talk about boys, shopping, makeup and hair they think you're not really a girl.[/QUOTE] Well I'm feminine but not like super open with it, and the primary thing wanting me to transition is the fact that I don't like my physical self at all and I'm uncomfortable with my birth genitalia. Not sure if that's a point they look for but I'm trying to know as much as I can about this meeting thing before it happens.

[QUOTE=GhostProject;48714158]What kind of criteria do therapists or whatever even look for when prescribing hormones to people they "think" are trans? I'm seriously afraid that I'll get denied a prescription.[/QUOTE] Wouldn't worry too much, here they seem to look for any excuse to not have to spend money treating trans people.