Crossdressing & Transgender & A̲L̲L̲I̲E̲S̲ Discussion v. Thread Reassignment Surgery - General

Just make sure you check that nothing ends up ingrowing after a few days, only downside to shaving against.

[QUOTE=Judas;49759777]shave against the grain and use coconut oil, you'll be smooth for dayz[/QUOTE] I mean against :v [editline]17th February 2016[/editline] I assume against means from bottom to top. Also I use shaving cream, I don't think Coconut Oil will work in the shower that well.

[QUOTE=Xonax;49759821]I mean against :v [editline]17th February 2016[/editline] I assume against means from bottom to top. Also I use shaving cream, I don't think Coconut Oil will work in the shower that well.[/QUOTE] I think she means shaving cream, and when you're done, apply coconut oil. [editline]17th February 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=Reagy;49759819]Just make sure you check that nothing ends up ingrowing after a few days, only downside to shaving against.[/QUOTE] What do you do then, though That seems like a "oh, whoops, I got ingrown hairs on me, now. Well, that sucks." It just seems to be a shit side effect of shaving to me

I'd thought I'd post here, a friend of mine who is a trap confessed that they had feelings for me and wanted me to be their boyfriend. I said I would think about it, but I'm afraid he might do something to himself if I say no. I don't know how to approach this if I'm honest.

[QUOTE=TentuZero;49761004]I'd thought I'd post here, a friend of mine who is a trap confessed that they had feelings for me and wanted me to be their boyfriend. I said I would think about it, but I'm afraid he might do something to himself if I say no. I don't know how to approach this if I'm honest.[/QUOTE] Have you known him to do stuff like that? Like, is he easy to get depressed and suicidal? Anyway, I have a bit of a problem myself. Long story short, I have Autism, I am not good with changes, I feel really sick and scared. I shaved my legs (as you all probably know considering I've been posting about it) and I am not coping too well with it, I don't think it's because the hair is gone, but because the idea of having to shave a lot is an idea I really don't like. I try to limit my time in the bathroom as I like to get stuff done and the sooner the better, so shaving my legs would make me stay in the bathroom longer, unable to do stuff. I was wondering if you lot have any ideas on what I could do to help me. I did come up with some ideas, such as getting my leg and thigh hair removed permanently, shaving my legs the same way I shave my facial hair, not all the time, just when I need to (such as when it's starting to get obvious, or I am going out)

[QUOTE=TentuZero;49761004]I'd thought I'd post here, a friend of mine who is a trap confessed that they had feelings for me and wanted me to be their boyfriend. I said I would think about it, but I'm afraid he might do something to himself if I say no. I don't know how to approach this if I'm honest.[/QUOTE] Give it a go

[QUOTE=TentuZero;49761004]I'd thought I'd post here, a friend of mine who is a trap confessed that they had feelings for me and wanted me to be their boyfriend. I said I would think about it, but I'm afraid he might do something to himself if I say no. I don't know how to approach this if I'm honest.[/QUOTE] Only do it if you want to, seriously consider this and don't just do it because they'll do something to themselves if you don't because jumping into a relationship to "save" someone would only hurt them even more when you decide enough is enough. [editline]17th February 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=Chickens!;49761135]Give it a go[/QUOTE] If you actually care about people's feelings "giving it a go" just to see what its like and then backing out if you dont like it is kinda an awful thing to do :) [editline]17th February 2016[/editline] Shit this isnt the thread I thought it was

[QUOTE=LegndNikko;49760828]I think she means shaving cream, and when you're done, apply coconut oil. [editline]17th February 2016[/editline] What do you do then, though That seems like a "oh, whoops, I got ingrown hairs on me, now. Well, that sucks." It just seems to be a shit side effect of shaving to me[/QUOTE] Well theres a few things you can do with ingrowers, best one is to just exfoliate the area daily but don't do it so much that the skin goes red. Other options are to literally dig them out with tweezers and have a dish of mild salt water to clean up the area but that's last ditch honestly. Best way to avoid them is after you shave you exfoliate where you shaved then after that moisturise where you shaved, this will remove anything forming over the follicles and soften the skin, basically do the same as if you were using an epilator, only difference is you're not pulling the hairs out, just cutting them. Other things you can do is shave once against then shave again with the grain right after, this will take off the "sharp edge" that'll face towards your skin if you only shave against the grain, its just little things like making sure the hair wont have an edge and it wont grow into anything. Eitherway hopefully you're not like me where my hair is like thin wire and grows really fast, I get ingrowers a lot and isn't much I can do about it, goes in the family apparently. [editline]17th February 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=TentuZero;49761004]I'd thought I'd post here, a friend of mine who is a trap confessed that they had feelings for me and wanted me to be their boyfriend. I said I would think about it, but I'm afraid he might do something to himself if I say no. I don't know how to approach this if I'm honest.[/QUOTE] If you're genuinely interested then go with the flow, if you're not just explain and state your side. If you're worried they might do something explain that to them and get their side, from there you can both work things out. Someone saying they don't share the same interest wont send everyone over the deep end, sometimes it just makes friendships even stronger.

[QUOTE=TentuZero;49761004]I'd thought I'd post here, a friend of mine who is a trap confessed that they had feelings for me and wanted me to be their boyfriend. I said I would think about it, but I'm afraid he might do something to himself if I say no. I don't know how to approach this if I'm honest.[/QUOTE] Kay let's rewind here. [QUOTE=TentuZero;49761004]I said I would think about it, [b]but I'm afraid he might do something to himself if I say no.[/b][/QUOTE] [b][i]RUN[/i][/b]

every new pair of shorts i get makes me dread this torture season known as winter even more [img]https://scontent-iad3-1.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-xlt1/v/t1.0-9/12729248_601977989958997_7477637435164355761_n.jpg?oh=0c63e8e360c7504fe781b3b9bab2a4d7&oe=57630E29[/img]

I am starting to be a bit more comfortable with shaven legs, it's not so bad. Still get a bit uneasy when I am out in the open but that will eventually pass.

[QUOTE=Reagy;49761607]Well theres a few things you can do with ingrowers, best one is to just exfoliate the area daily but don't do it so much that the skin goes red. Other options are to literally dig them out with tweezers and have a dish of mild salt water to clean up the area but that's last ditch honestly.[/quote] That'd take waaay too long. Taking tweezers to hair follicles over my body would take a while. [QUOTE=Reagy;49761607]Other things you can do is shave once against then shave again with the grain right after, this will take off the "sharp edge" that'll face towards your skin if you only shave against the grain, its just little things like making sure the hair wont have an edge and it wont grow into anything.[/QUOTE] I've considered this, since I shave my face like that and it works fine. But my whole body? A shaving shower takes me ~30-40 minutes already, but that'd push me over an hour. Not to mention it'd use up so much shaving cream. I'm not trying to be all "YEAH, WELL THAT DONT WORK, WHAT NOW, REAG?," I appreciate the advice, really. I just kind of deal with it at this point.

[QUOTE=LegndNikko;49764386]That'd take waaay too long. Taking tweezers to hair follicles over my body would take a while. I've considered this, since I shave my face like that and it works fine. But my whole body? A shaving shower takes me ~30-40 minutes already, but that'd push me over an hour. Not to mention it'd use up so much shaving cream. I'm not trying to be all "YEAH, WELL THAT DONT WORK, WHAT NOW, REAG?," I appreciate the advice, really. I just kind of deal with it at this point.[/QUOTE] no offense but that is an insane amount of time to be showering, you can shave your whole body and face + clean hair + wash body + exfoliate in like 25 minutes

[QUOTE=Judas;49765812]no offense but that is an insane amount of time to be showering, you can shave your whole body and face + clean hair + wash body + exfoliate in like 25 minutes[/QUOTE] ^this it's also worth noting that shaving goes really fucking fast if you have razors that are designed specifically designed for body hair.

Is Exfoliating important?

Sounds like my razors are shit then. I'm not that tall+the whole shaving thing still takes forever. Though my timing is based on doing this while relaxing in the bath.

[QUOTE=Judas;49765812]no offense but that is an insane amount of time to be showering, you can shave your whole body and face + clean hair + wash body + exfoliate in like 25 minutes[/QUOTE] If I'm rushing, yeah. But I'm not going to rush, especially shaving. [editline]18th February 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=GayIlluminati;49765837]^this it's also worth noting that shaving goes really fucking fast if you have razors that are designed specifically designed for body hair.[/QUOTE] Have I been using the wrong razors the whole time, because I'm pretty sure women's razors are made for body hair

Note that if you're pre-hrt, please use shaving cream and regularly change your razors. <3

Shaving used to make my showers take 45 minutes and i had to shave every single day. After 6 months of HRT it takes me about 15 minutes to shave and shower and I honestly only need to do it every 4 days.

[QUOTE=GayIlluminati;49766441]Note that if you're pre-hrt, please use shaving cream and regularly change your razors. <3[/QUOTE] Compared to what? Do people shave without any cream? And I change my razors after every 3 or 4 shaves, just about. They're the ones with the little moisturizer things in it, so if there's still a good amount left in it, I figure to hold on to it a bit longer.

[QUOTE=LegndNikko;49766478]Compared to what? Do people shave without any cream? And I change my razors after every 3 or 4 shaves, just about. They're the ones with the little moisturizer things in it, so if there's still a good amount left in it, I figure to hold on to it a bit longer.[/QUOTE] I usually use shower gel in place of cream. Some people dont need to use anything and shave dry tho (not that i recommend doing this)

[QUOTE=Kyle902;49766493]I usually use shower gel in place of cream. Some people dont need to use anything and shave dry tho (not that i recommend doing this)[/QUOTE] jfc that sounds terrible

[QUOTE=LegndNikko;49766501]jfc that sounds terrible[/QUOTE] Probably still less painful then using an epilator

I used to shave with only water, felt fine to me. Anyway I guess I will Exfoliate once ingrown hair starts to be a problem. Also my mom said I could try waxing my legs as she has stuff for it (she waxes sometimes) and she also suggested this cream that you put on your legs and thighs, leave it around 5 minutes and wipe it off with a towel, the hair will come off and it will make the hair grow back less over time. Smells like crap but it's an option. Right now I will just do it once a week tho.

Brown sugar scrub is a magical exfoliator.

i think my mom is just now starting to understand what a exactly a transgender person is after seeing a transman on tv.

[QUOTE=GayIlluminati;49766441]Note that if you're pre-hrt, please use shaving cream and regularly change your razors. <3[/QUOTE] does HRT cause hair to grow back slower or something or are you just talking about repeat shavings being easier

[QUOTE=HAKKAR!!!;49770649]does HRT cause hair to grow back slower or something or are you just talking about repeat shavings being easier[/QUOTE] HRT causes most body hair growth to slow down significantly while also making the hair itself much thinner and softer and thus far easier to cut.

Well. Came out to my sister on Thursday at like 11pm and had to cut it short because I needed to go to bed, and then yesterday my sister told my parents about it which is the one thing i've been trying to avoid and well, most of it came out to them. I told them that I was confused and what I've been doing with these appointments and stuff like that and they said to me they're supporting my mental health and only want me to be happy, but still hate anything trans related. So for now I'm guess I'm in a good position as the thread of disownment isn't as strong as it was, but what happens when the Child Mental Health hospital tell me that I'm trans and they put me on hormones? I'm as good as fucked by then. Guess now the next step is for me to wait for them to call me back for when I can re-arrange the appointment that I cancelled which was meant for the 22nd.

[QUOTE=Shotz;49779267]Well. Came out to my sister on Thursday at like 11pm and had to cut it short because I needed to go to bed, and then yesterday my sister told my parents about it which is the one thing i've been trying to avoid and well, most of it came out to them. I told them that I was confused and what I've been doing with these appointments and stuff like that and they said to me they're supporting my mental health and only want me to be happy, but still hate anything trans related. So for now I'm guess I'm in a good position as the thread of disownment isn't as strong as it was, but what happens when the Child Mental Health hospital tell me that I'm trans and they put me on hormones? I'm as good as fucked by then. Guess now the next step is for me to wait for them to call me back for when I can re-arrange the appointment that I cancelled which was meant for the 22nd.[/QUOTE] This is good though, now that they know you can talk to them about it and try and change their opinions, and ask them how they would feel if you started HRT. You can do a whole lot of What ifs, you can jump around the possibility of being Trans without outright saying you are due to you being confused.