Crossdressing & Transgender & A̲L̲L̲I̲E̲S̲ Discussion v. Thread Reassignment Surgery - General

I want to apologize publicly about what happened over the weekend on the cd/tg discord server. We had drama involving a few people grinding together for a few months resulting in a massive explosion of anger against each other. While i tried to calm both sides for awhile i messed up in my own fashion and probably sped up the process. I apologize to anyone hurt due to the drama and want to let you know that the server has no drama anymore if you wish to rejoin. We are about to have some changes on the server as a result of a survey we sent out that will improve clutter/misc features, prevent drama, and hopefully allow newbies to break the ice better and integrate into the community without feeling like they are a outsider. The invite link is here: [url]https://discordapp.com/invite/0VUSjm6wsqo4T0C9[/url]

[t]http://i.imgur.com/PKyZ6Uj.jpg[/t] [t]http://i.imgur.com/h6Ipjty.jpg[/t] [t]http://i.imgur.com/j0T1IJy.jpg[/t] ~boom~ yes i'm a cyclops don't be rude (not really)

just a reminder that all of you are beautiful have this [del]shit[/del] beautiful selfie of me [t]http://i.imgur.com/1ANEVO5.jpg[/t]

you all look lovely ok

We recently did a server prune on cd/tg discord of inactive members (it's a discord feature!), if you notice the server vanished from your list, dont be afraid to come back! you're not in trouble or anything :ok: fun fact: after the prune we have 85 active people! that includes lurkers and active peeps

Joining in the photo-dump because I am a hopeless selfie hoarder. I'm so jealous of you girls with your long, real hair. I've got wavy/curly hair that becomes so hard to manage in the summer, so I've gotta keep it short until winter when I can wear my toque all day. One day it'll get there. :smile: [t]http://i.imgur.com/Lh1w55T.jpg[/t][t]http://i.imgur.com/7OFfVQw.jpg[/t][t]http://i.imgur.com/wW5J0DE.jpg[/t][t]http://i.imgur.com/klHv9kl.jpg[/t] [t]http://i.imgur.com/biGV3EU.jpg[/t][t]http://i.imgur.com/IQPCwPW.jpg[/t][t]http://i.imgur.com/f7cGqAy.jpg[/t][t]http://i.imgur.com/fflGGN2.jpg[/t]

[QUOTE=AnnieAnim;50881628][IMG]http://i.imgur.com/IQPCwPW.jpg[/IMG][/QUOTE] Your smile there is just unreal levels of cute

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I just finished reading Nevada and I really liked it. I'm actually mostly surprised by how much of its description of the experience of things was exactly right for me. Normally I find these sort of `trans narrative' things are like, I can sort of see where they're coming from but they're phrasing everything a little oddly. Has anyone else read it?

So after waiting near to 3 years. I've got my first clinic appointment next month. I don't really know how to feel about this considering they said it'd be more likely that it'll be next year it'll happen, plus I've also got a job interview next week, then my graduation day the week before and I've gotta get blood tests fitted somewhere all between this before the appointment. I'm mixed between happy and oh god worst time ever everything is happening at once.

[IMG]https://4st.me/gRwQn.png[/IMG] [editline]21st August 2016[/editline] On another note, I think I may have abnormally large breasts compared to other transwomen and I can't figure out why. Can someone help me? Also, image. NSFW obviously: [url]https://4st.me/1luLS.png[/url]

[QUOTE=Solomon;50922431][IMG]https://4st.me/gRwQn.png[/IMG] [editline]21st August 2016[/editline] On another note, I think I may have abnormally large breasts compared to other transwomen and I can't figure out why. Can someone help me? Also, image. NSFW obviously: [url]https://4st.me/1luLS.png[/url][/QUOTE] how long you been on hrt?

Like 2 or so years now.

[QUOTE=Solomon;50922493]Like 2 or so years now.[/QUOTE] unless you're having pain, discoloration, or discharge, I think you're just genetically dispositioned for it [sp]fucking lucky[/sp]

nice theyre a little misshapen though i wish theyd round out and my butt would catch up its fucking flat as fuck its annoying

[QUOTE=Solomon;50922544]nice theyre a little misshapen though i wish theyd round out and my butt would catch up its fucking flat as fuck its annoying[/QUOTE] ill trade you ive got the opposite problem

no i need my boobs too

Hello everyone! I haven't posted here before but I do lurk occasionally. I'm asking this for a really close friend who considered themselves as gender fluid but is now doubting their identity a bit and confused on their preference, thinking perhaps they're more on being trans to female. Apologies if my wording or terms isn't perfect as well. So recently my friend is getting frequent dreams of being a girl, being happier at the thoughts of dressing up as a girl and being called beautiful, the thoughts of during sex and actually having actual female genitals and such. They used to be fully accepting they're gender fluid, showing their masculine side and feminine side at certain times. Right now however, they're starting to feel less and less comfortable about themselves, especially their masculine name and side, and would prefer with their feminine side and name everyday. Right now on what they're confused with however is if they're actually trans or not, and they're afraid of making a decision. It's been causing a whole lot of anxiety for them and I really want to help, but I'm not too well versed on gender fluidity and identity and how they work. It's been really confusing them as well and has been quite a serious topic so I'm hoping if there's anyone that can shed some light on this to hopefully understand what they're going through better. Appreciate any help and answers from you all, thank you.

I just came to the realization that I'm attracted to transwomen, I'm straight and still consider myself straight. I really appreciate all the sacrifices the trans community makes in order to achieve true happiness in themselves, I find that inspiring and brave. I feel comfortable enough in myself that I would be able to date a transwoman and treat them the way they deserve to be treated just as the women they are.

I posted a before and after on /r/transtimelines [url]https://www.reddit.com/r/transtimelines/comments/4z9mg9/20_mtf_1_year_pre_hrt_to_around_20_months_hrt/[/url]

So it turns out there's a gender therapy place just a couple hours from me that's completely dedicated to being transgender and what not. Seriously thinking about calling them up and scheduling an appointment. I keep seeing transition photos and it keeps making me re-think my decisions on being trans...

Would like to thank The golden for the explanation and everyone here as well. Kiwi and me almost have the same hesitation on moving towards transitioning but I haven't personally got the slightest clue on the reasons, so it's at least comforting to know as well that we're not alone and a lot of people are feeling the same way and willing to support each other. I've been a shy a lot but I just want to introduce myself here properly. I want to go MtF but can't due to a lot factors like finances, family, friends and living in a predominantly religious country has been stopping me from going through aside from crossdressing and along with you all sharing your experiences and thoughts which helps me cope up with gender dysphoria. Really nice to get to know you all! :smile:

[QUOTE=~Kiwi~v2;50945277]Hey. I just wanted to say that thanks for explaining and you nailed a few points about what was running in my mind ( I am the friend that Nacho mentioned). Yea the brain is incredibly powerful and effective in making a voice but I gotta be real. I don't think I could ever do transition. For the people who do I have nothing but respect and admiration for y'all. I can't do it cause it fucks with a routine this way of expressing who I really enjoy being but I think it would go too far like I'm not ready, I'm not capable of handling every change in my body my appearance. The only way I can express myself with out taking it too much for me where I go this ain't right Im outta the comfort zobe and it's too late, is just to follow my gender fluid feelings which since I've understood it better when I came in here last time ( still trying to find counselling that's free and time and a good enough excuse cause fuck I can't be honest and tell em). Last night for me was probably a realization that pushed me a little too far but I understand myself better I'm not hiding the fact that in most situations I feel a more comfortable identifying as a chick. If I had the courage the knowledge and most importantly the support from my friends and my family. I would really consider it. But I cant but maybe I don't have to, just to feel happy. Really sorry for the huge rant. E: amazing how many errors I made with auto correct[/QUOTE] I told my therapist about my gender identity stuff almost three years ago, and I've yet to reach a decision from the psychologists if I will be given support for it, even though I'm fairly sure they will take me seriously. I don't exactly know how differently things work in NZ compared to Finland, but just be prepared that if you do decide to bring it up with a professional, it might be a long road before you would actually be prescribed HRT. If you have a therapist I heartily recommend you bring the matter up with them, and maybe even ask for a referral to a gender clinic. You might change your mind over time, or you might not, but it probably is a good idea to start getting along with this all now that you've started to question your gender identity.

So, my life has felt pretty shit recently but finally something good has happened - I should hopefully be starting hormones in November! It was kind of a shock, given that I didn't expect to be on them until June or July of next year.

6 of my songs were used in MDE's World Peace on adult swim today. Its funny cus their gag is that the're alt-right and stuff. So yeah thats cool! Also man The new estrgen pills ive been taking have made my boobs bigger

Still 100% natural (not counting paper towel bits underneath my shirt), and this is probably my most overt choice of clothes ever. Feel like i should get some higher heels though. [t]http://puu.sh/qQQWK.jpg[/t]

Hello thread, I'm kind of new here since I just recently started looking into HRT, transitioning and whatnot, I have posted here before a few years back but ever since then I mostly just lurked from time to time. Anyway I'd like to share a bit of my story with you all if not's too much of a bother. I'm quite nervous! I'd say I've identified myself as transgender since I was ~15yo(I'm also a guy btw), although I have been very doubtful about my sexuality and my body ever since I was around 12yo and I can even remember being a child and loving to walk around in my mother's high heels and play doll with my cousin, but even though I started thinking the me I am right now wasn't actually the me I wanted to be, I kind of got pressured by family, religion(my parents are kind of religious fanatics), and everything else into somehow accepting this is who I am and this is who I should be. Because of that I have suffered from depression for quite some time a few years back and when I entered uni it all started to feel like there was no hope left for me, getting older and being led into a life I should live was becoming something I accepted. The thing is, I've had a gf for 3 years now, we started dating halfway through my first year in uni and ever since then I started actually liking myself a bit more, like, genuinely managed to start thinking that it wasn't so bad to have been born a guy and leading the life I had so we could end up together. But this last weekend while we were talking about some intimate stuff, I ended up telling her all about how I feel about myself and to my surprise she was super supportive and told me she'd love me either way, so if I still had any doubt about myself, I should look into it and she'd be with me every step of the way if that was the path I chose. No need to say that drove me to tears and made my head start spinning and bursting with toughts about my emotions and who I wish to be in the future. So that brings us to here and now, I've been asking around and trying to get help however I can(the trans community in my country seems kind of small from what I've gathered so far and I live in a somewhat small town so it's been very hard!) so I'm pretty naive about everything(I never really had the guts to inform myself deeply about the subject.) and how effective HRT can actually be, that being said, I turned 21yo in june so hopefully I'm not too old to start, and although I think I'm kinda tall(1.80m, should be around 5'10" I think), I never had that much body hair, they grow mostly on my legs, but otherwise my arms, chest and face are mostly bare, so that makes me hope it will be easier to pass as a woman later on, even if just by a little! What really troubles me is the size of my hands and feet, they're pretty fucking big, but my fingers are very thin and so are my feet kind of(I know nothing can be done about it so I guess there's not really any use in worrying this much,) that, and my jawline and chin, I have a pretty square jawline and my chin is like, sunken and small, so that may make it necessary for me to get some kind of surgery to help me look more feminine later on is what I'm thinking. Another issue is my nose, after I had a surgery done on it a few years ago due to some respiratory problems, it turned into a potato-ish mess! I absolutely hate it so I am positively sure I'll have something done on it someday. Anyway, I just wanted to share this huge wall of text with you lovely people since I'm becoming a little messy ball of emotions, worries and hopes and I don't really know what to feel right now! I'd really love some feedback and maybe some tips if possible, thanks for the patience :)

[QUOTE=rysunles;50970512]I turned 21yo in june so hopefully I'm not too old to start[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=biodude94566;50087761]it's never too late to start it's never too late to start IT IS [B][I]NEVER[/I][/B] TOO LATE TO START. LITERALLY NEVER. You could be 80+ years old and it would still be a good time to start. If you are transgender and transitioning is the right choice for you, then you can start whenever you are able. Especially if it will make you comfortable within your own body. Not trying to come across angry or anything, I just see this all the time. It's an important message that I want to get out to as many people as I can. I personally knew a lady who started in her mid-to-late 30's (I think, I could find her timeline on reddit) and she came out of it just fine. I never even knew or questioned her being a woman when I was introduced to her, I just thought she had a deep voice. Again, [b][i]IT IS LITERALLY NEVER TOO LATE TO START[/i][/b].[/QUOTE] I will never not repost this

/r/transtimelines is one of my favorite places to go on reddit because of how inspiring everyone is with their changes and bravery all yall are great for having the courage to go through with transitioning and whatnot :ok:

Thanks for the support and inspiring words :D I feel like this is the best time I'll ever have to start fighting for myself, I feel more mature now and believe my choices to truly be what I wish for myself, and most of all I now have people I can trust with being there for me when I need them! I feel like convincing my family will be very very hard if maybe even not possible, they're mostly very religious, and being a family of five with the only woman in the house being my mother means I grew up in a rather harsh and "masculine" environment, having heard quite a deal of times the phrase "I raised three sons" from both of my parents whenever I tried to drop a hint about how I feel in a way it sounded like a joke so they wouldn't skin me alive. But on the other hand my gf and her sister now know about me and they are helping me as best they can, I plan to also tell her parents whenever possible as I normally am more comfortable talking to them than to my own parents. It's all so very exciting! In these next few weeks we will be looking into local LGBTQ+ communities for support and information, and hopefully things can kick off from there. I can't wait to get started so I can buy some new clothes, but especially arm-warmers and knee-high socks. <3