Crossdressing & Transgender & A̲L̲L̲I̲E̲S̲ Discussion v. Thread Reassignment Surgery - General

Hey all, Well, this whole trans stuff has been on my mind for a while now (at least a year or more), I feel probably 94% sure now that I want to go through with transitioning. (MtF) I don't really know what else to put here, but it feels pretty nice to finally write out my thoughts on this, as I've been keeping them bottled up for a while... Lastly, some questions: -How long does HRT normally last? Is it a forever thing or is there a point where I can stop and not have to worry about "reverting". It seems like a dumb question but I figured I'd ask as I couldn't find anything about it online. -Who should I tell first, my mother or my psychiatrist?

What happens with HRT as you get older? Do we really know? We only see young people on HRT and old people starting HRT, how do we know we wont look like weird when we get to that age despite taking it since we were young.

Huh. Can't help bit note that i've been getting a fair share of compliments with my [url=https://puu.sh/qUyzM.jpg]more... overt, choice of clothes[/url], especially from girls.

[QUOTE=Xonax;50976917]What happens with HRT as you get older? Do we really know? We only see young people on HRT and old people starting HRT, how do we know we wont look like weird when we get to that age despite taking it since we were young.[/QUOTE] You won't look any weirder than any other woman of that age, and in actual fact you might retain some of your femininity due to many older woman having already gone through menopause. In fact, many cis women in their 50s-60s tend to get HRT themselves. Essentially, you'll have already had a headstart.

Okay, i've seem to have grown a fondness to the [url=http://www.coquette.com/D1731-Stockings.html]faux-leather garter stockings[/url] from Coquette and uhh... does anyone know how to wash them? I ended up tangling them to the point where i might as well buy a new pair.

[QUOTE=Jamsponge;50977345]You won't look any weirder than any other woman of that age, and in actual fact you might retain some of your femininity due to many older woman having already gone through menopause. In fact, many cis women in their 50s-60s tend to get HRT themselves. Essentially, you'll have already had a headstart.[/QUOTE] a fun reminder that getting the hormones you need if you're cis is a lot easier than if you're trans

Decided to tell my mother this weekend about myself and ask for her help in talking to my father and later on help with everything else. I am absolutely terrified when I think how horrific it's all gonna go and how fucked I'll be after that. I can already see myself being frozen and not really knowing what to reply when she starts verbally fucking me up. Oh god I hope this turns out well in the end.

So today was the beginning of September. I had my first appointment with psychological services at my university just under six months ago, which means that pretty soon here I'll be able to ask my therapist for a letter that I can pass onto health services right on the other side of the sidewalk. I don't know what happens next. I'd like to assume that once I get my general practitioner to look at my letter, she'll prescribe me andro blockers on a trial basis and have bloodwork done soon, and then once I'm ready I'll start on E. I described at group therapy during the summer that approaching this threshold is a bit like sailing up to an island that you've only seen through a spyglass- it looks like paradise from afar, but the closer you get the more foreboding the jungle looks beyond the beach... I don't think I'm going to back down. I've been clawing my way back from a summer malaise in which I stopped shaving and taking care of my personal appearance. Today I bought a cute top and skirt combo from Goodwill, my first clothing purchase since the beginning of summer. My father finally heard the name I plan on adopting in the future by accident; up to this point no one had asked me what I would call myself. He didn't seem uncomfortable, but he did comment that the name (Lydia) was "old fashioned." I don't think so; to me it seems like one of those old names that's coming back around again after a few generations of disuse. I think it's pretty fresh.

So it's been an interesting month. I finally told someone in my life about being trans. To my delight the universe as I know it has yet to cave in on my head, so that's a good sign. I sent her this picture and she didn't even recognize me :v: [t]http://i.imgur.com/7BkUT4A.jpg[/t] Where it gets complicated now is that I'm moving in to a new apartment with two guy friends/roomies, so I'll probably have to out myself sooner rather than later. Additionally I'm still on the fence about seeking HRT I'm not super keen on losing reproductive function. Ideally I still want kids in my future 5-10 years from now. So many life altering decisions to weigh, so little time to thoroughly ponder them.

You can put your sperm in a sperm bank if you're worried about children

[QUOTE=Kyle902;50988001]You can put your sperm in a sperm bank if you're worried about children[/QUOTE] I guess that's true, I'll have to look into that. Also, can anyone tell me how I go about talking to a doctor about treatment options? I don't have a GP in this city, is a GP even the right type of doctor to ask?

[QUOTE=Clovis;50988739]GP's should at least be able to tell you where to go if they cant help, so you may as well start with one[/QUOTE] I wish my GP did that, instead he just told me that he "doesn't treat those people" and left me to scurry about desperately for a doctor that was within driving distance

holy shit i've only been on hrt for ~3 months and my breasts have already grown [url=http://i.imgur.com/Cmhv9dV.jpg]this[/url] big from being completely flat, I feel like im having effects incredibly fast

[QUOTE=Judas;50990541]holy shit i've only been on hrt for ~3 months and my breasts have already grown [url=http://i.imgur.com/Cmhv9dV.jpg]this[/url] big from being completely flat, I feel like im having effects incredibly fast[/QUOTE] It's probably because you're young. I was like at the same growth around three months in on HRT.

Just went out on a date with a transwoman. Now im 100% sure that I'm attracted to transwomen. I'm single atm and I wouldn't mind getting in a serious relationship with a transwoman and helping them through their journey

Getting this trip together for just getting to Leeds then to Seacroft is showing just how bad I am at planning routes, at least I should have an hour leeway to give if I fuckup somewhere, just never been to Leeds before so its kinda a shock to the system having to go there, I don't really go into cities.

[QUOTE=Reagy;50997767]Getting this trip together for just getting to Leeds then to Seacroft is showing just how bad I am at planning routes, at least I should have an hour leeway to give if I fuckup somewhere, just never been to Leeds before so its kinda a shock to the system having to go there, I don't really go into cities.[/QUOTE] I'm from Liverpool and have it the same, honestly. I'm thankful that my past few ventures in to places like Manchester have had destinations very close to Piccadilly Station, but I had to go to London a few months ago to see a consultant and was floundering all over the place despite having maps on my phone and a fucking printed out map. The real scare is when you have a bunch of station switches or need to get multiple buses or your route has a dreaded one an hour bus that you can't afford to miss, but thankfully that should be at a minimum if you get the train to Leeds. Good luck at Seacroft!

[QUOTE=DeeCeeTeeBee;50997980]I'm from Liverpool and have it the same, honestly. I'm thankful that my past few ventures in to places like Manchester have had destinations very close to Piccadilly Station, but I had to go to London a few months ago to see a consultant and was floundering all over the place despite having maps on my phone and a fucking printed out map. The real scare is when you have a bunch of station switches or need to get multiple buses or your route has a dreaded one an hour bus that you can't afford to miss, but thankfully that should be at a minimum if you get the train to Leeds. Good luck at Seacroft![/QUOTE] Luckily my route is pretty straight forward, bus into Wigan, train to Leeds, then bus over to Seacroft. Its just getting the timing down and remembering to phone my GP while on the train to see if the blood results are back so they can be faxed over. Had them taken so last minute because [U]everything[/U] came within the last two weeks, job interviews, graduation, this appointment and had to get a blood test in between that and the only open time was last friday, couldn't get hold of my actual GP to sign off a form so I could get it done at the hospital so was forced to book in with the nurse to get them done, shits just chaotic. Plus I still, need to tell my dad about all of this. Going to decide after this trip, still don't know how he'll take it if at all.

Well that felt like both a waste of time and not a waste of time, person I was meant to see was off ill so it was just a repeat of what I did over phone but with someone who I won't be seeing... Went to Five Guys tho, guess thats a good thing out of it all. Just feel slightly annoyed and screwed around right now, went in optimistic, came out knowing nothing more than I did going in.

I rarely, if ever, want to find myself posting here, but I feel like I don't have much of a choice. My mom is extremely transphobic and has said on numerous occasions very toxic things in regards to my girlfriend's gender identity. Now, I know most of it is just passing, unintentional stuff, but it really stings and makes me very worried for my girlfriend's coming visit in December. Another thing that concerns me about this is her ravenous support for Donald Trump and her rise in bizarre xenophobia, racism and anti-minority sentiments. She's made comparisons like saying feeling guilty about the WW2 internment camps for the Japanese is just as bad as saying you should just let illegals in all the time. This makes me very very afraid to come out in any way. My dad is not as bad but he wouldn't support me in any way, as he sees most trans people as attention seekers. I have no other choice and regularly find myself questioning the validity of my own life in regards to pursuing my gender identity. My girlfriend does so much for me, and is willing to do even more to try and get me hormones, but I don't feel its worth it at this point since, were my parents to find out, I'd lose all familial and financial support instantaneously. They've already called me a failure on numerous occasions. Should I even try anymore?

[QUOTE=Zillamaster55;51008834]I rarely, if ever, want to find myself posting here, but I feel like I don't have much of a choice. My mom is extremely transphobic and has said on numerous occasions very toxic things in regards to my girlfriend's gender identity. Now, I know most of it is just passing, unintentional stuff, but it really stings and makes me very worried for my girlfriend's coming visit in December. Another thing that concerns me about this is her ravenous support for Donald Trump and her rise in bizarre xenophobia, racism and anti-minority sentiments. She's made comparisons like saying feeling guilty about the WW2 internment camps for the Japanese is just as bad as saying you should just let illegals in all the time. This makes me very very afraid to come out in any way. My dad is not as bad but he wouldn't support me in any way, as he sees most trans people as attention seekers. I have no other choice and regularly find myself questioning the validity of my own life in regards to pursuing my gender identity. My girlfriend does so much for me, and is willing to do even more to try and get me hormones, but I don't feel its worth it at this point since, were my parents to find out, I'd lose all familial and financial support instantaneously. They've already called me a failure on numerous occasions. Should I even try anymore?[/QUOTE] If you have to, just break ties with them or keep minimal contact and give them very small details about your life. I know it sounds like a jerk thing to do but you can't let them dictate your life. If you don't live alone yet I suggest you start looking into it somehow. Get a loan from a friend, find an okay-paying job, whatever works. You absolutely can't let them control you. Yeah sorry if I'm not offering much but you gotta get away from them.

I'm zilla's gf by the way.

Zilla, if you really can't get away from your parents by December, you two should meet somewhere else in secret. Come up with an excuse or whatever, tell them you're going to some place with friends. [editline]6th September 2016[/editline] Everything will fix itself with time, but for now this is the best option you've got

Zillamaster55, Kyle902, if you can both make it to Chicago I have a couch that turns into a bed. I can't host long term (unless you want to chip in on the rent lol) but if you 2 need a weekend together and a place to sleep during said weekend I can help. Also reminder that I live in the gayest (and one of the safest) parts of town so your personal safety should not be an issue.

Zilla actually lives in Illinois, I live in California but I'm coming over to visit her after Christmas.

[QUOTE=Kyle902;51010704]Zilla actually lives in Illinois[/QUOTE] Rockford Lyyyyf mofugga [sp]Heroin and empty buildings[/sp]

[QUOTE=Kyle902;51010704]Zilla actually lives in Illinois, I live in California but I'm coming over to visit her after Christmas.[/QUOTE]Right, Rockford so 1 hour 30 min drive into the city. I assume you're flying in so you'll be in the city anyway. I could go into more details (I've done this same kind of arrangement for a few people already) but I think that's better for private PMs. You and/or Zilla should add me on steam *points to profile link* if you both think this could workable.

gotta love being on the verge of coming out to your friends then they start making fun of other "trannies"

Does anyone know where to cop hormones online or is that sort of stuff not good to talk about on FP?

[QUOTE=Arctic-Zone;51023222]Does anyone know where to cop hormones online or is that sort of stuff not good to talk about on FP?[/QUOTE] 99% of people in this thread will tell you that self-medding is a [I]baaad[/I] idea.