Crossdressing & Transgender & A̲L̲L̲I̲E̲S̲ Discussion v. Thread Reassignment Surgery - General

Gotta go back to Northampton for HIV/HPV/etc test on the 9th, then like most single people on valentine's day I get to have a wank. Since I'll have to make my first "contribution". NHS is paying for all the initial appointments and freezing and will pay for the freezing for the first 3 years, after that I'll have to pay (Which I'm totally fine with) Law says I can store for up to 55 years from freezing, clinic is saying they'll store until I'm 55 so I may have to transfer it at some point. Whether I ever touch the stuff who knows but better safe than sorry.

wheres a place to buy socks/thigh high socks for people taller than average women, like 5'9/5'10ish pref in australia asking 4 a friend :)

I don't go to this thread often enough. [t]https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/164968899916464128/286013191014580224/IMG_20170227_2252292.jpg[/t] Winter takes its toll on my good looks and charm, i think.

I have a Drs app on the 8th in which I should get a prescription for 2mg of Estradiol now that my fertility treatment is done.

gotta spew for a bit briefly: repression is/was such a horrible experience. recognising all the potential trans signs and systematically stamping out each one, so you can't use it as evidence. eventually your gender-related suffering is almost fully abstracted from gender, and just becomes suffering. you have no words to describe the problem because it's been going on so long it just feels like part of yourself. you assume this is just how it is to live. it's pretty incredible that people repress this for 20 years, let alone 40+, but now I get how it happens. even in a relatively permissive culture, apparently 40 is still the average age of transition. I can't imagine floating through this purgatory for another 20 years because someone told me one time it went away if you really tried enough to become a normie. I started my phd back in october 2015. despite having achieved my career dream, thinking about my future felt like staring into the black. [I]I do the research, and then what? I can't live like this, but I don't know what's wrong.[/I] still had no idea what I was hiding from. eventually the walls broke down in early 2016, and I spent a year pushing towards treatment. aside from my mum, I told one cis girl I met at uni who is now a very close friend and my college housemates, who took it well as I could have expected. despite life being mostly dogshit, I've now stored my gametes, almost completely destroyed my beard with a laser, and am being bounced back and forth between my GP and another GP in wales who is trying to get them to prescribe real T-blockers (my college healthcare service have an informed consent system but apparently have never bothered to implement it!) come on baby, I'm almost there. please god let this be the solution to the problem I have. please let me feel different on HRT. don't let me make a fool of myself again. [editline]3rd March 2017[/editline] phew. I hope you folks are doing okay. I've been lurking these threads for near on 10 years and have seen people come and go. really good to see mostly positive posts from people here.

Turnips I personally could have repressed for 20 years more than I did easily, honestly repressing was actually easier for me than coming to terms with it. Since coming out my minor victories have been littered with nothing but vast amounts of pain between them and sometimes I doubt whether coming out was even worth it.

It's so frustrating that I want hormones, so badly, and I can live with anything you tell me. Except for ONE fuckin' thing. Sterility. That fucking terrifies me. I don't know if I want to have kids. I think I'd like to. I want to have my own, biological children one day. But because I'm trans, it's like I gotta either look like a guy for the majority of my adult life, or, I have to; Pay out the ass to bank my semen, which right now I can't afford (and then have children in the next like 10-12 years) Pay a ridiculously huge amount of money to adopt an infant or adopt a child in foster care, of which the average age is 9, so no raising from birth. Also they won't be genetically related to me. How do you guys cope with this? This is so frustrating and scary to me.

[QUOTE=Clovis;51911141]i think its a matter of virtually nobody else here wanting children[/QUOTE] I guess. When I hear my sister's kids screaming and crying, I just breath a sigh of relief that I don't have kids. But that's just for right now. I think I will want kids in the future, or at the very least I'm uncertain. I've never really been the type to make broad predictions about what I'll want when I'm older, like "Oh I don't want kids" or "Oh I'll kill myself when I'm 30" and shit like that. I want to see a miniaturized version of myself running around, and see them grow in to an amazing person that I can love, and be able to say "Look, look, I have family worth a fuck now" [editline]e[/editline] in a weird way, what I would love is to just go to a doctor and have them tell me I'm already sterile. At least then it isn't a choice, and I'd know I was never going to have biological children, and so I'm free to go on hormones.

[QUOTE=Clovis;51911141]i think its a matter of virtually nobody else here wanting children[/QUOTE] Also there are tons of kids in need of adoption, and if I ever get bit by this matriarchal urge for children I'll pour my love onto someone that needs it the most while ALSO becoming very smug at my choice of following the most ethical parenting option.

Some people should never be parents. I am lucky in so many respects to have good parents, when I know that many out there through absolutely no fault of there own have suffered because of their parents - who should be their ultimate protectors and teachers. It only leaves me upset.

I got a lot of fucked up genetics runnin in my family. Cp Scoliosis and possibly a degenerative brain disease to name a few so yeah i aint reproducing anytime soon. havent posted a pic here in a century either [t]https://scontent-lga3-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.0-9/17021592_720188711485952_6084691905397257201_n.jpg?oh=9f6d587b3699e57985595c7ddf473bde&oe=593EE2C4[/t]

I love the feeling I'm getting right now after freshly shaving my face for the first time in about two weeks... Shaving is difficult, time-consuming and painful, so if I'm not even publicly out or presenting female, I don't bother doing it every day. My sense of dysphoria is heavily alleviated just from the placebo effect of HRT, too. But I shaved last night before my overnight shift and just got home from work. I go to the bathroom and it really hit me how things are progressing. I still don't look female, but I'm definitely heading in the androgynous direction after almost 4 months.

Had srs abit more than two weeks ago. Pretty cool The first 5 days were hell as i wasnt allowed to move much and got blisters everywhere from the medical adhesive but it was worth it

I have to talk to my therapist for a year and get a signed letter before I get started on hormones. Wish I didn't have to wait that long but hey, it's something!

I've been taking estrogen by injection for a month now and it's not getting easier. In fact my needle phobia is only getting worse every time something goes wrong. :dead:

I was on patches at my doctor's recommendation for maybe 9 months? I needed to switch to injections for a higher dosage. Sure hoping it gets easier. edit: got it done, 2 days late. At least I didn't skip a week. I had to inject it really slowly and it hurt more than going fast but it worked.

If anyone has questions about srs feel free to ask.

[QUOTE=Clovis;51984014]So the more and more clothes I order the more I really wanna show them, but I dont wan't to hog this thread just posting stuff every time something comes in the mail so I've waited a while til now where I have quite a bit of stuff, and I can just put them in one post and links so whoever isnt interested can just skim past it. Sorry but I just really love clothes! and i dont have many people to ever show them to [url=https://puu.sh/uQz5Q/1fbffeac42.jpg]two block[/url] [url=https://puu.sh/uQz6u/4131728fbd.jpg]colour jumpers[/url] [url=https://puu.sh/uQz9d/08fdeede49.jpg]kimono round 2[/url] [url=https://puu.sh/uQzaV/8dad2b7164.jpg](rear)[/url] [url=https://puu.sh/uQzcc/69e4d4b179.jpg](clear boots!!)[/url] [url=https://puu.sh/uQz7g/144c06b0b7.jpg]generic[/url] [url=https://puu.sh/uQzcL/66c63bec6e.jpg]sweaters[/url] [url=https://puu.sh/uQzeB/3465f3f98d.jpg]cropped[/url] [url=https://puu.sh/uQzdS/8b94236c64.jpg]sweaters[/url] [url=https://puu.sh/uQz8a/9898595cb3.jpg]freebie shirt i got[/url] (i actually love it! very nice to have a pink shirt in the warddrobe) [url=https://puu.sh/upxVk/ad0c2b77d2.jpg]this was from a while ago[/url] so sorry if i already have shown it [url=https://puu.sh/ueURc/6a666a8219.jpg]nails i did a while ago as well[/url][/QUOTE] I want your closet!

[QUOTE=Clovis;51984014]So the more and more clothes I order the more I really wanna show them, but I dont wan't to hog this thread just posting stuff every time something comes in the mail so I've waited a while til now where I have quite a bit of stuff, and I can just put them in one post and links so whoever isnt interested can just skim past it. Sorry but I just really love clothes! and i dont have many people to ever show them to [url=https://puu.sh/uQz5Q/1fbffeac42.jpg]two block[/url] [url=https://puu.sh/uQz6u/4131728fbd.jpg]colour jumpers[/url] [url=https://puu.sh/uQz9d/08fdeede49.jpg]kimono round 2[/url] [url=https://puu.sh/uQzaV/8dad2b7164.jpg](rear)[/url] [url=https://puu.sh/uQzcc/69e4d4b179.jpg](clear boots!!)[/url] [url=https://puu.sh/uQz7g/144c06b0b7.jpg]generic[/url] [url=https://puu.sh/uQzcL/66c63bec6e.jpg]sweaters[/url] [url=https://puu.sh/uQzeB/3465f3f98d.jpg]cropped[/url] [url=https://puu.sh/uQzdS/8b94236c64.jpg]sweaters[/url] [url=https://puu.sh/uQz8a/9898595cb3.jpg]freebie shirt i got[/url] (i actually love it! very nice to have a pink shirt in the warddrobe) [url=https://puu.sh/upxVk/ad0c2b77d2.jpg]this was from a while ago[/url] so sorry if i already have shown it [url=https://puu.sh/ueURc/6a666a8219.jpg]nails i did a while ago as well[/url][/QUOTE] take me shopping with you you always seem to find nice things

I've bought some stuff before, it fit okay, except for the sleeves which were too short. Don't know how to avoid that really.

I've bought a couple things online before but they always feel cheaply made. A [sp]maid[/sp] outfit I bought basically fell apart the moment I put it on. The buttons weren't stitched in very well and would just come right out. And a hoodie I bought had very little arm holes to stick your arms through, which made it very weird putting it on and moving around with it. I don't seem to have very good luck buying clothes online.

Just wondering, what would work best with a long haired pink wig? I'm personally eyeing the Nina from Arda, though partly for a cosplay. Still, with wigs being a bit of a large purchase money-wise, I might as well wear it with street wear

how do you put garter clip on cotton thigh-high

I was wondering if anyone has a compiled list of resources that go over many of the biological factors in gender identity among any number of related topics? Both for use whenever we have to prove our existence and because learning about that stuff is always super neat! Recently I started indexing various sources that I can point back to. Reading into the science is what really helped me accept myself and hopefully it can help others to accept themselves and the world at large to accept us. I'd love to see any other pools of similar resources, even including religious stuff for people of various faiths. Potential physical evidence one can point too (note this is a trend and not a catch all): [URL="http://www.psyneuen-journal.com/article/S0306-4530(05)00177-0/abstract"]Finger length ratio[/URL] Research resources: [URL="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Causes_of_transsexuality"]wikipedia[/URL] [URL="http://sitn.hms.harvard.edu/flash/2016/gender-lines-science-transgender-identity/"]harvard.edu/[/URL] [URL="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3602930/"]ncbi.nlm.nih.gov[/URL] [URL="https://www.newscientist.com/article/dn20032-transsexual-differences-caught-on-brain-scan/"]newscientist.com[/URL] [URL="https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2017/02/170227082158.htm"]www.sciencedaily.com[/URL] [URL="http://www.nature.com/news/sex-redefined-1.16943"]www.nature.com[/URL] [URL="https://mediamatters.org/research/2016/05/05/comprehensive-guide-debunked-bathroom-predator-myth/210200"]Bathroom predator mythology[/URL]

So someone I went to high school with recently popped into my people I may know on facebook I think. She has transitioned though and what I believe to be her old account is still up but hasn't been active in a couple years. Is there a way to tactfully ask her who she is without deadnaming her? Any insight would be much appreciated.

I'm finally getting an appointment booked for a couple weeks from now to see a therapist. Things are looking up. Now, how many sessions does someone usually have to go through to get a recommendation to an endo?

[QUOTE=DepDirkson;52053864]Is there a way to tactfully ask her who she is without deadnaming her? Any insight would be much appreciated.[/QUOTE] If you happen to know her parents' names or something like that then you could ask if she's their daughter. There's a couple of other potential creative ways to do it, like if there is a shared event in the past you could bring up. Personally, I wouldn't be bothered by someone directly asking as long as they were respectful about it, but I obviously don't speak for everyone. [QUOTE=Arctic-Zone;52056849]Now, how many sessions does someone usually have to go through to get a recommendation to an endo?[/QUOTE] As with almost everything else about transitioning it can be highly variable. For me it was 7 sessions at one per week, but I've heard of some getting one within the first meeting or two.

I feel cute today

Had to switch therapists because my last one wasn't qualified to sign any letters or anything like that. New one starts off with "so I understand that you want to have a gender transformation." Slay meeee

[URL="https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/?tr=Hdr_Brand"]https://therapists.psychologytoday.com[/URL] I don't think its a definitive list but it's a good starting place to search around the area for therapists that know how to deal with transgender issues. Just put in your zip code and on the side where it lists issues select "transgender". Just make sure to watch out for anyone working for a religious organization. That is all assuming that you want to go through the hassle of starting with another new person.