Crossdressing & Transgender & A̲L̲L̲I̲E̲S̲ Discussion v. Thread Reassignment Surgery
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I was told gender was a spectrum and you had to choose somewhere between male and female and I called it off for being PC Femenist bullshit. Than I got why I didn't like it I was completly fine with the stuff that could be considered more female. I just didn't feel the need to put a label on myself and I liked the freedom so it strikes me as odd when people want to put these label on themselfs.
I also find gender pronouns to be a bad idea too.
[QUOTE=FuzzyLiama;52242140]I was told gender was a spectrum and you had to choose somewhere between male and female and I called it off for being PC Femenist bullshit. Than I got why I didn't like it I was completly fine with the stuff that could be considered more female. I just didn't feel the need to put a label on myself and I liked the freedom so it strikes me as odd when people want to put these label on themselfs.
I also find gender pronouns to be a bad idea too.[/QUOTE]
Gender is a spectrum, but you don't 'have to choose' anything you don't want to. Just tell people what your gender is if they get it wrong and ask that they call you by your preferred pronouns. Some people like labels and some don't. Gender pronouns are there and you can ask that people just staright up don't use them if that's your preference. I prefer to be referred to by female pronouns but I don't tend to use many labels to fit myself into categories unless it's important to put across a specific meaning or context.
Been working up the courage to post here and say hi to everyone
I'm Maddie
[thumb]http://i.imgur.com/BNBqfSD.jpg[/thumb]
you're a cute one maddie
Funny thing happened on Friday. Mom visited me and the first thing she asks is "when did you start self medicating". I haven't started hormones at all yet, so I was left kinda speechless when she asked that.
I ran out of estradiol two weeks ago and my doctor's office forgot to send out my prescriptions after my doctor wrote them, and then my stupid online pharmacy dragged its feet in mailing my prescriptions out again... I probably won't get my patches until day after tomorrow. In the meantime, I feel completely awful 90% of the time and I feel like I've lost a bunch of progress that I've been making.
So I switched therapist for the second time (at the request of my previous one) and ended up getting the therapist that was my first choice but my parents said I couldn't have because they weren't covered by health insurance. :v:
She's actually specifically therapist for trans people, unlike the last two, and she's mega rad. She's preparing to sign me a letter and recommended an endocrinologist so I can get hormones. I called the doctor and the person on the phone said that they don't take my insurance, making the price of just the appointment 209$, but I called them at exactly closing time, so I'm hoping they just didn't want to deal with me and that they actually do take my insurance. [sp]I'll call them again tomorrow, wish me luuuck[/sp]
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I want full-body IPL even though my body hair isn't that bad (apart from my legs), but god damn it's so expensive.
Hello, I was curious about hormone medication for MTF, sort of. It's kind of confusing but I was wondering if anyone had experience with it, and if so can I speak to you privately about it and ask questions? Thanks in advance.
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Hi! I don't know pretty much anything about trans stuff but I have a lot of friends who are and just want to know more about it since I'm often left in the dark.
I got the jist of transitioning from the op, but I have a few questions. I could go to google, but I'd rather hear from people here instead. How long does it take to transition? Vary from person to person? When do you stop: when you feel you like your body or when it's prescribed to? What happens in therapy? Therapy to me seems like you sit down with a councelor and talk about how the transition is going. I might be thinking about emotional therapy, but I'm unsure. How does voice therapy work? An estimate of how long it would take to be comfortable with a feminine voice?
I have other questions. However, they are personal and rather talk about them on an individual basis. It's a pretty touchy subject for me, and I often ignore it, but I want to alleviate my uncomfortableness talking about this stuff. Thanks! :happy:
[QUOTE=Otterman;52354985]Hi! I don't know pretty much anything about trans stuff but I have a lot of friends who are and just want to know more about it since I'm often left in the dark.
I got the jist of transitioning from the op, but I have a few questions. I could go to google, but I'd rather hear from people here instead. How long does it take to transition? Vary from person to person? When do you stop: when you feel you like your body or when it's prescribed to? What happens in therapy? Therapy to me seems like you sit down with a councelor and talk about how the transition is going. I might be thinking about emotional therapy, but I'm unsure. How does voice therapy work? An estimate of how long it would take to be comfortable with a feminine voice?
I have other questions. However, they are personal and rather talk about them on an individual basis. It's a pretty touchy subject for me, and I often ignore it, but I want to alleviate my uncomfortableness talking about this stuff. Thanks! :happy:[/QUOTE]
Ultimately it depends on the person but for most (not all) transitioning includes a lifetime of hormone replacement through pills, patches or injections. Some transgender people will get surgery and others won't and almost all of us have been through emotional therapy at some point. Voice therapy is also based on the person, some people get by with little conditioning of their voice while others require years of practice to get comfortable with their own voice. Ultimately there is no end goal other than to live a comfortable life without the stress of dysphoria, wherever that point is will be up to each person to decide. I'm always open for private messages if you have more to ask.
[QUOTE=Otterman;52354985]Hi! I don't know pretty much anything about trans stuff but I have a lot of friends who are and just want to know more about it since I'm often left in the dark.
I got the jist of transitioning from the op, but I have a few questions. I could go to google, but I'd rather hear from people here instead. How long does it take to transition? Vary from person to person? When do you stop: when you feel you like your body or when it's prescribed to? What happens in therapy? Therapy to me seems like you sit down with a councelor and talk about how the transition is going. I might be thinking about emotional therapy, but I'm unsure. How does voice therapy work? An estimate of how long it would take to be comfortable with a feminine voice?
I have other questions. However, they are personal and rather talk about them on an individual basis. It's a pretty touchy subject for me, and I often ignore it, but I want to alleviate my uncomfortableness talking about this stuff. Thanks! :happy:[/QUOTE]
I've looked at a lot of transition timelines and met trans people in various stages of transition, and I would say that hormones [I]usually[/I] do their thing within five years. Outside of that, transition can take however long anyone wants it to take, because transition is only "done" when the transitioner has decided it is. Some people want all sorts of surgery, some people don't. Some people don't even want hormones. So, really, the answer to "how long does it take?" is "what, in your mind, is a complete transition?". That question will determine how long the transition is likely to take.
You stop when cis women tend to stop doing HRT- so probably when you're in your 70s. By that point, though most of the changes have already happened so it likely wont have much of an effect.
In my expirience in therapy you just talk. Often times trans people haven't really talked much about their issues, so there's a lot to talk about. On top of that, different practices are used to counsel the person about any sort of trauma they've endured over the years due to expiriencing gender dysphoria or other dehabilitating psychological issues due to being transgender.
Voice therapy is where you sit down with a liscenced speech pathologist who has expirience in teaching transgender people how to get a voice they're more comfortable with. It's akin to singing lessons, or speech therapy: you practice pitch, resonance, intonation, cadence, etc. Again, the feminine voice is a very ymmv type of thing. Some people might do fine with just a bit of practice because they already had a very naturally feminine voice, some people may need more work because they have a very masculine sounding voice, and some people may need quite a bit of work to get something that may or may not be passable due to a very low voice.
If you'd like you can PM me here or you can find me on tumblr at [url]https://www.tumblr.com/blog/sleepingcomputer[/url] and send me a message. I like answewring people's questions, so, yeah, feel free to ask me anything!
finally got my first appointment
gonna go to an informed consent clinic on october 19th
if all goes well i'm gonna start hormones on november 2nd
Holy hell, I haven't been gendered male in a month even though i've been traveling around a lot, and only one or two people have apologized after calling me ma'am. I don't wear makeup or dress particularly femme. im taking this as a sign that i should change my name and go full time.
[QUOTE=Kiwi;52350210]Xposting from wayt but I've overcome a very big obstacle.
All aboard the train ride.[/QUOTE]
proud of you <3
Oh crap, this thread's still here? It's been years since I last posted here, all yall here are too adorable tho uwu
Here's me after a particularly sweaty larp last weekend, 4 years on hrt! Just for all you kids so you can feel good about passing better than me
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I think you pass fine~ :cat:
Denied HRT because "I wasn't girl enough". What kind of reason is that? Sorry for not going to the hospital in a frilly dress and a wig (although I'd like to, I don't want to get spat on, hit and pushed like before and besides, it's 35°C). "You can think about it in the next few years" Really? How about we start now so I feel better which would be a massive step up from feeling like jumping in front of a train and ruining the day of 10 thousand people. I would switch hospital but sadly they're the only ones in the country that offer that kind of treatment. Up until now I've been patient and composed about my situation but outright being denied HRT for that bullshit reason made my blood boil at first but now I genuinely feel like offing myself because it'll be too late by the time we can start anything. Everyone I know IRL is busy with their own lives, I have no family to speak of and any amounts of psychological help won't help my situation; I'm beyond fucked up.
I'm trying to become an androgynous elf, also been getting ma'am'd a lot lately which is really nice. But androgyny is definitely my favorite, feels so perfectly neutral.
[t]https://i.imgur.com/u4A07rp.jpg[/t] [t]https://i.imgur.com/e8fwHMu.jpg[/t]
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Is it cool to post in here if I'm thinkin' I might be genderless or somethin', I don't wanna make presumptions but I figure some people might know what's up.
That's cool, I wasn't sure how common it was and I wasn't sure if people would think it was legitimate or something. Sometimes I feel feminine and sometimes I feel masculine but most of the time I'm in some nebulous in between. Most people online confuse my gender anyway and call me whatever they think I am which is cool too. I'm not too hung up on pronouns tbh as long as I'm not being called "it".
But it's nice to know it's not like a super weird thing or anything.
for sake
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[QUOTE=June;52419614]I'm using male pronouns here and still do in person because nobody else knows yet.. but I guess he'll become my second mom. I am 100% supportive, obviously he's dead set on getting this done despite what my mom might think but I'm hoping it doesn't fuck over my plans for moving with them to toronto. will update this tonight after it all goes down[/QUOTE]
I hope everything goes smoother than you suspect.
Hello
I'm pretty new to Facepunch in general (lurked a lot but not much else).
Just wanted to say I finally got my call from the Northern Region GIC in England. I was wondering if anyone has any advice for a first appointment or if anyone knows what to expect at all.
So I told a friend about my crossdressing for the first time last week, and she was super supportive! Fast forward to today, and I went and bought female clothes in a store for the first time ever with her. I feel like all of the awkwardness and nervousness I thought I would feel just vanished because I had someone there with me.
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