Crossdressing & Transgender & A̲L̲L̲I̲E̲S̲ Discussion v. Thread Reassignment Surgery - General

I wish I still had female friends, I lost them after finishing school. Also that dress is pretty cute.

I think the "costume-y" look makes it look nicer/unique to me

Just had my first session of laser done on my legs I knew it was going to hurt but jfc I didn't think it'd be [B]that[/B] much, even with taking some painkillers beforehand.

Well. I managed to come out to several people on my mom's side of the family a few days ago. Which include two aunts and my grandma. It wasn't really planned but it happened. They were all super supportive. But every day I have stronger feelings of regret for doing it. It felt really good that evening. But that was about it. They want to come sometime next week to help me come out to my mom. I don't feel ready for it. (Which I really doubt I ever will be)

[QUOTE=The golden;52436861]Ask them to turn the intensity down.[/QUOTE] That's good to know, if it gets rough next time I'll ask them

Don't think I could manage laser. Think I have too low of a pain intolerance and I probably couldn't afford it lol. Shaving is just like apart of my shower routine now so I don't really think a whole lot of it. I have more issues with facial hair tbh. Shit's hard to maintain since I have to pluck it and bleach what I can't pluck.

[QUOTE=Pascall;52437564]Don't think I could manage laser. Think I have too low of a pain intolerance and I probably couldn't afford it lol.[/QUOTE] It's not that bad. Flick a rubber band against whatever body part. It feels like that. [QUOTE=Pascall;52437564]Shaving is just like apart of my shower routine now so I don't really think a whole lot of it. I have more issues with facial hair tbh. Shit's hard to maintain since I have to pluck it and bleach what I can't pluck.[/QUOTE] Do you use Nair?

I've gotten maybe 5 sessions of laser done at this point, at a trans-friendly place. It's not too painful if they know what they're doing (ie test different heats in the first session to find the best setting for you). Laser did a good job of thinning out the hair on my cheeks and neck but now that the easy hair's gone I'll have to switch to electrolysis. I got electrolysis done once on my upper lip and it's way more effective at removing coarser hairs, but maybe twice as painful and left red marks for 4 or 5 days.

[QUOTE=Pascall;52437564]Don't think I could manage laser. Think I have too low of a pain intolerance and I probably couldn't afford it lol. Shaving is just like apart of my shower routine now so I don't really think a whole lot of it. I have more issues with facial hair tbh. Shit's hard to maintain since I have to pluck it and bleach what I can't pluck.[/QUOTE] Facial hair is a hassle to me as well. Doesn't matter if I shave or pluck, the facial hair always grows back quick and thick. ugh.

Unless the people who are performing the treatment are demonstrably incompetent, the pain from lasering is, at worst, a slight annoyance.

is laser pain like "put a flaming match to my body" pain or is it like "somethings pinching me constantly" type pain because i can handle one more than the other

[QUOTE=The golden;52440124]It's neither. If you've ever had a needle inserted into your skin - it feels like the exact moment the needle punctures your skin... but then it stops instantly. Just that first initial "pop" feeling and then nothing. Of course that's per laser pulse. You'll be pew-pew'd dozens of times during a single session as the laser tech moves from one side of your face to the other. (Or arm, leg, butt, etc). And as said before: The intensity can be varied. [B]Edit: [/B]I just got back from a laser session so I'll try and describe it while it's fresh in my mind. It's like having little small "pop" explosion-like feelings in your hair follicles. It's really hard to explain without just experiencing it.[/QUOTE] having a rubberband slapped against you over and over again is usually how I tell other people about it

Is it a common feeling to not want to dress feminine until I'm more happy with how my body looks? I kinda feel like I would be more uncomfortable in girly clothes with the way I look now compared to just wearing guy clothes even though I want to look feminine. It does make me afraid that I actually don't like myself at all though. Like if I lose the weight would I still be uncomfy wearing girl clothes? I don't know the answer to that and I'm kind of unsure about it in general. :pudge: But I thought I would ask in case someone has felt this way and could shed some light on it for me.

for sake

[QUOTE=YOMIURA;52441333]I felt like this, but I was forced by necessity to switch because nothing of old fit anymore. Your hold up feeling is different though. I think you still might not be comfortable even after losing weight, but you will get used to it in time. I feel of all people where their desire initial was not to dress feminine, it is a holdup during transition.[/QUOTE] I think I should have also specified that my situation is a bit odd? I want to look feminine but still be male, if that makes any sense. So I am not fully transitioning to female I guess? Ideally I would only be male in my, well, parts. Otherwise I would look female. It's kinda weird. :huh: I'm hoping it'll be easy and I'll just be happy when I lose the weight and try dressing more feminine, but I know anything worth doing is usually not easy...I think crossdressing is going to be difficult for me in general and to get to my goal I'm going to have to do it, but I guess I'm not sure if I should do it now and try and get used to it or wait and see if I would be more comfortable after I lose the weight I want to lose. :s: I guess I'm really afraid that I won't ever be happy with my body and how I'll deal with that down the line. I'm hoping for the best though...and thank you for your response!

Sorry, I misunderstood. Looking femenine with clothing alone is difficult based on your features, regardless of weight. Good luck. Another note is that transitioning does not imply end goal of SRS.

personally I found laser pretty painful, but as others have said, it subsides quickly and the results have been absolutely worth it [editline]8th July 2017[/editline] I went out in semi-girl-mode on monday to my local support group, then a few of us went to a bar afterwards. it was absolutely lovely. I remember being so jealous of the girls who were a bit further ahead of me. and thinking at one point "yeah, I'm a girl. this makes sense and I like it. yay" going back to male presenting for work the next day was disorienting. my boobs are also growing and I was freaking out about that somewhat, but I have mostly calmed down now. advice for anyone, don't start questioning your identity again when you're having an anxiety attack.

[QUOTE=The golden;52446801]I recommend getting some thin sports bras. Preferably in whatever colour(s) best matches whatever you wear for shirts. The thinness will help your skin breathe and also will reduce the strap lines which can often show under shirts. Either way they will help take the "edge" off your chest and also help control painful bounce if that's an issue for you too.[/QUOTE] thanks. I am already wearing a sports bra day to day at work and stuff. definitely handy

To those crossdressing, how do you guys deal with the fear of being recognized by coworkers if you want to pretty yourself up?

[QUOTE=flashn00b;52447504]To those crossdressing, how do you guys deal with the fear of being recognized by coworkers if you want to pretty yourself up?[/QUOTE] Honestly, once you're in public, that's a risk you're going to have to accept. If you know what they look like its easy to dip, but you'd be doing 360's frequently. If you really want to blend, wear non-bright colors so you don't get picked out in a crowd. Either way, its a ton of stress, which is compounded by the more people you know. It's why I do it in the comfort of my home! [editline]8th July 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=Clovis;52447665]keep your eyes on everyone else so you seem em before they do and you can dodge them really, when youre dressed up you're constantly alert about that happening whereas its not really a thing on anyone elses mind, so the chances are of you noticing someone else in that state is far higher than them noticing you unless youre wearing really standout clothing that draws attention regardless of the fact[/QUOTE] I really need to read all the posts more often. :s:

[QUOTE=The golden;52419302]That's awesome! Agender (no gender at all) is a very real thing and accepting it within yourself can be quite empowering. It's kinda like setting your own rules for yourself and carving out your own specific identity that is unique to you. I usually describe myself as demi-fem but I do sometimes feel as if I'm just simply.... me. Like I would feel most comfortable to just describe my gender using nothing but my name. At least that's my personal experience with it.[/QUOTE] same thing here, I just don't really figure that into my personal identity really. Like, hypothetically, I feel like I'd be comfortable as either sex. Of course since I am comfortable, no reason to change anything.

[QUOTE=flashn00b;52447504]To those crossdressing, how do you guys deal with the fear of being recognized by coworkers if you want to pretty yourself up?[/QUOTE] If you go out, visit places outside the town you work in, and preferably outside the town you live in. That could be hard if you live in a rural area, I understand, but if you're in an urban or suburban area and you have a car, a 20 minute drive can get you anonymity pretty easily.

yeah I've always been embarrassed to wear girls clothes in front of anyone, now I dress feminine when ever I'm home but in public I just dress andro or boyish I do want to be able to wear skirts and dresses in public I just don't like how I look in them rn but im getting there

Jean jackets rule. Looking good! The shiny top is a new one, don't think I've ever seen a shiny button down before. Unless my eyes deceive me.

It's actually kinda trippy from the opal-like coloring. Must've cost a pretty penny too :<

I had my first (and seemingly only) appointment with the psychologist. He seems pretty keen on getting things done quite quickly, but my appointment with the endocrinologist won't be for at least 3 months.

[QUOTE=Clovis;52460025]yeah its semi-iridescent but it just ends up reflecting mostly this neutral green. i recently bought this black top that reflects a maroon from one side but blue from the other (top/bottom) so it looks entirely maroon unless it creases/folds in which those creases look blue, its pretty cool [editline]12th July 2017[/editline] [t]https://images.discordapp.net/attachments/314808282776731658/334574435820634112/20170712_135829.jpg[/t][/QUOTE] Ttat's actually pretty cool! How hard are they to track down? Seems like something that'd only be made by a certain line in a different country. [editline]12th July 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=I Guess;52460960]I had my first (and seemingly only) appointment with the psychologist. He seems pretty keen on getting things done quite quickly, but my appointment with the endocrinologist won't be for at least 3 months.[/QUOTE] An unfortunate side of a lot of psychology is that they have to do things in a kinda standardized way, so it may seem fast paced. I'm glad you took the first step though! It seems far away, but it'll give you time to mentally prepare for it all c:

That's a lotta rainbow! And I know the exact feeling. I'll order something cute, be a month later, get a box and go "oh fuck what did I buy again" and be pleasantly surprised. Except that time I got thigh highs that fit, then my thighs got huge and now they don't fit anymore :c

figuring out how to take girly selfies is fun [thumb]http://i.imgur.com/1k2Sdlx.jpg[/thumb]

Try the above angle shot! I find it to be one of the cuter angles (in my opinion anyway :v:)