Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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[QUOTE=Ardosos;40223174]Everyone I've talked to about the subject has told me that's socially unacceptable for some reason.[/QUOTE]
Hi, want to go out this friday get something to eat and perhaps go see oblivion? Tom cruise is in it and it looks pretty bad ass.
You make it clear you want things to go further than friends during the date. If she knocks you back who gives a fuck, your watching Oblivion. Keep your hand covering that hole you made in the pop corn bag and enjoy the film.
What can anyone tell me about prom? I know absolutely nothing and I'm slightly interested in going. If I do I'd like to be just slightly prepared.
[QUOTE=Cows Rule;40225457]What can anyone tell me about prom? I know absolutely nothing and I'm slightly interested in going. If I do I'd like to be just slightly prepared.[/QUOTE]
A hyped up drinking session. (well it is in the UK)
Get a date, have a dance and get drunk.
[QUOTE=Boss;40224465]Hi, want to go out this friday get something to eat and perhaps go see oblivion? Tom cruise is in it and it looks pretty bad ass.
You make it clear you want things to go further than friends during the date. If she knocks you back who gives a fuck, your watching Oblivion. Keep your hand covering that hole you made in the pop corn bag and enjoy the film.[/QUOTE]
The way I always figured, any social interactions are always implied to be "just as friends" unless stated otherwise, so if I waited until [I]during[/I] the date to state so, wouldn't that be rude? Like leading them on? Or am I approaching this backwards again?
Usually, a simple, "Would you like to go out sometime?" can get the point across.
[QUOTE=Ardosos;40226206]The way I always figured, any social interactions are always implied to be "just as friends" unless stated otherwise, so if I waited until [I]during[/I] the date to state so, wouldn't that be rude? Like leading them on? Or am I approaching this backwards again?[/QUOTE]
I think you're overthinking it.
[QUOTE=Ardosos;40226206]The way I always figured, any social interactions are always implied to be "just as friends" unless stated otherwise, so if I waited until [I]during[/I] the date to state so, wouldn't that be rude? Like leading them on? Or am I approaching this backwards again?[/QUOTE]
It should be made clear, there is no reason to risk the point not getting across by being vague.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;40227809]It should be made clear, there is no reason to risk the point not getting across by being vague.[/QUOTE]
Well that's what I need help with, how would I make it clear without sounding extremely creepy?
[QUOTE=Ardosos;40227900]Well that's what I need help with, how would I make it clear without sounding extremely creepy?[/QUOTE]
K now your over thinking it. Just ask her out somewhere. Planning ahead is just gonna make your plans go askew and then you'll get more flustered.
It's not creepy to just ask someone out on a date.
[QUOTE=Ardosos;40226206]The way I always figured, any social interactions are always implied to be "just as friends" unless stated otherwise, so if I waited until [I]during[/I] the date to state so, wouldn't that be rude? Like leading them on? Or am I approaching this backwards again?[/QUOTE]
Flirt, tease, compliment them on some part of their looks etc. Be sexual.
Doesn't have to be overt, subtlety is often more fun for both parties.
[QUOTE=Ardosos;40227900]Well that's what I need help with, how would I make it clear without sounding extremely creepy?[/QUOTE]
Unless shes got mega issues her self, just hold eye contact a few times longer than necessary. Im not saying count to 10 load the rifle and shoot her head off, just whilst talking. Heck I dont know anyone who actually thinks like you do lol, if she likes you she will be trying to make it clear as well.
Its a movie n dinner not an invitation to participate in a marathon with you, if that doesnt make it clear your probably barking up the wrong tree anyway.
For prom I have seriously considered renting a dress instead.
I'm not into drag of any sort, but that seems like it would make it so much more fun.
Besides, I hate suits, so if I'm going to be warm and uncomfortable, I may as well opt for being well ventilated and uncomfortable, negating at least one downside.
Don't know though. Could be wonderful.
i'm planning to crash the years below mine prom in a dress, drunk and clutching a bottle of port
everyone takes off most of the suit/tux at prom anyway, it gets very hot very fast
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;40231276]For prom I have seriously considered renting a dress instead.
I'm not into drag of any sort, but that seems like it would make it so much more fun.
Besides, I hate suits, so if I'm going to be warm and uncomfortable, I may as well opt for being well ventilated and uncomfortable, negating at least one downside.
Don't know though. Could be wonderful.[/QUOTE]
Dress makes more sense. Nearly passed out when I was wearing my suit.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;40231904]everyone takes off most of the suit/tux at prom anyway, it gets very hot very fast[/QUOTE]
everyone undressing?
that does sound pretty hot
So I've just had this girl I went on a date with tell me she only ever wants to be friends because apparently I'm "too gangsta" ahah I guess I really am bout dat lyfe
[editline]10th April 2013[/editline]
bout to go shoot up dat ratchet ass hoe
[QUOTE=Tennisball;40233017]So I've just had this girl I went on a date with tell me she only ever wants to be friends because apparently I'm "too gangsta" ahah I guess I really am bout dat lyfe
[editline]10th April 2013[/editline]
bout to go shoot up dat ratchet ass hoe[/QUOTE]
You have my condolences [sp]my nigga[/sp]
[QUOTE=Tennisball;40233017]So I've just had this girl I went on a date with tell me she only ever wants to be friends because apparently I'm "too gangsta" ahah I guess I really am bout dat lyfe
[editline]10th April 2013[/editline]
bout to go shoot up dat ratchet ass hoe[/QUOTE]
"I can't date you, you're too gangsta for me"
"thats a bad thing, being too gangsta?"
Is how it should of went down.
[QUOTE=ScoutKing;40238770]"I can't date you, you're too gangsta for me"
"thats a bad thing, being too gangsta?"
Is how it should of went down.[/QUOTE]
I think he was joking matorade
Ok Facepunch first time I'm ever gonna post here. So basically this girl on facebook which I usually chat with every month or so made a status saying she hates her life so I messaged her asking what was up and she started venting to me about her problems and so I tried to comfort her she then randomly ask me to go for a walk which she lives pretty close so I met up with her we went for a long walk then ended up sitting at the river together. I live in Quebec its fucking cold here atm so we ended cuddling next thing were holding hands, kissing etc, after a while I walk her home and she said she wants to hang out again tommorow. So yea I really like her but she ignored me all day at school and wont answer her facebook allthough I see her liking peoples post and such. Did I just get fucking played?
PS Dont give a fuck about my grammar to pissed at the moment.
Any nice websites to buy prom dresses? I want something to look nice, but not slutty.
I'm passing on prom, I'll just go get some ice cream. I honestly can't see my self having a good time. It's expensive too to get a ticket and rent a tux. Then endless rejections, I'm better off spending a quiet evening to myself.
[QUOTE=PoopOnMyFace;40239196]Ok Facepunch first time I'm ever gonna post here. So basically this girl on facebook which I usually chat with every month or so made a status saying she hates her life so I messaged her asking what was up and she started venting to me about her problems and so I tried to comfort her she then randomly ask me to go for a walk which she lives pretty close so I met up with her we went for a long walk then ended up sitting at the river together. I live in Quebec its fucking cold here atm so we ended cuddling next thing were holding hands, kissing etc, after a while I walk her home and she said she wants to hang out again tommorow. So yea I really like her but she ignored me all day at school and wont answer her facebook allthough I see her liking peoples post and such. Did I just get fucking played?
PS Dont give a fuck about my grammar to pissed at the moment.[/QUOTE]
She might have
or she might be busy - there's no guarantee of anything in these circumstances. I know thats a shitty response but really that's all you can take from the context you've given
Just ask her to hang out again, if she says no, then say "Ok", realise that she isnt worth your time, and move on with your life
[QUOTE=Metherat;40239442]Any nice websites to buy prom dresses? I want something to look nice, but not slutty.[/QUOTE]
Sears, or whatever you local equivalent shop is. Buying online is silly and over expensive, same with the stuff you will find at local dress speciality shops. I got my prom dress for 30 bucks on sale, it's a simple but fairly elegant black dress which I can re-wear to most any other occasion.
[editline]10th April 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=PoopOnMyFace;40239196]Ok Facepunch first time I'm ever gonna post here. So basically this girl on facebook which I usually chat with every month or so made a status saying she hates her life so I messaged her asking what was up and she started venting to me about her problems and so I tried to comfort her she then randomly ask me to go for a walk which she lives pretty close so I met up with her we went for a long walk then ended up sitting at the river together. I live in Quebec its fucking cold here atm so we ended cuddling next thing were holding hands, kissing etc, after a while I walk her home and she said she wants to hang out again tommorow. So yea I really like her but she ignored me all day at school and wont answer her facebook allthough I see her liking peoples post and such. Did I just get fucking played?
PS Dont give a fuck about my grammar to pissed at the moment.[/QUOTE]
She was upset and you comforted her, but she may not feel the same once she isn't in the same emotionally vulnerable state.
Anyway she said she wanted to hang out again so ask her to hang out again. If she doesn't come up to you at school why not go up to her? Take some initiative.
[QUOTE=Cows Rule;40239443]I'm passing on prom, I'll just go get some ice cream. I honestly can't see my self having a good time. It's expensive too to get a ticket and rent a tux. Then endless rejections, I'm better off spending a quiet evening to myself.[/QUOTE]
that's literally the worst mentality you can have. just go, get fucked up, and let the night flow. that's pretty much what prom's all about.
[QUOTE=PoopOnMyFace;40239196]Ok Facepunch first time I'm ever gonna post here. So basically this girl on facebook which I usually chat with every month or so made a status saying she hates her life so I messaged her asking what was up and she started venting to me about her problems and so I tried to comfort her she then randomly ask me to go for a walk which she lives pretty close so I met up with her we went for a long walk then ended up sitting at the river together. I live in Quebec its fucking cold here atm so we ended cuddling next thing were holding hands, kissing etc, after a while I walk her home and she said she wants to hang out again tommorow. So yea I really like her but she ignored me all day at school and wont answer her facebook allthough I see her liking peoples post and such. Did I just get fucking played?
PS Dont give a fuck about my grammar to pissed at the moment.[/QUOTE]
Like Rhenae said she might just not be in the same emotional state. Don't get too worked up about it. Just talk to her when you can and ask her what was up with her ignoring you or whatever, if she says she didn't mean it then move on with life. Might even be she's just nervous. It's best if you're just understanding with the situation, rather than getting mad at her for "playing" you. You helped her out in a time of need, you should feel good about that regardless the outcome.
[QUOTE=Cows Rule;40239443]I'm passing on prom, I'll just go get some ice cream. I honestly can't see my self having a good time. It's expensive too to get a ticket and rent a tux. Then endless rejections, I'm better off spending a quiet evening to myself.[/QUOTE]
Worst mentality. Even though my night wasn't the best, and I could have made better decisions on what party to go to (ie: not the lame one where all we did was play videogames) It was worth every dollar I spent, I like dancing and I like friends.
[editline]11th April 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=Metherat;40239442]Any nice websites to buy prom dresses? I want something to look nice, but not slutty.[/QUOTE]
...What country do you live in? I spent a long time looking at prom dresses with my gf-at-the-time, I know my way around a bit with all the prom dresses. I spent longer looking at dresses than tuxes.
People usually try to sell their old prom dresses too. You could probably get a nice dress for a nice price locally instead of mailing away for one.
[QUOTE]emotionally vulnerable state[/QUOTE]
Cracks me up every time.
Dont waste your time kid, she wants any of your time she will go to you.
[QUOTE=riku2211;40240535]Like Rhenae said she might just not be in the same emotional state. Don't get too worked up about it. Just talk to her when you can and ask her what was up with her ignoring you or whatever, if she says she didn't mean it then move on with life. Might even be she's just nervous. It's best if you're just understanding with the situation, rather than getting mad at her for "playing" you. You helped her out in a time of need, you should feel good about that regardless the outcome.[/QUOTE]
Might as well wash his face before meeting.
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