Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[PuduEbooks]

[QUOTE=Gatsby;42127832]Is there a good website to meet women nearby thats down for causal sex? None of that dating bullshit either.

It's been a while ya know...[/QUOTE]

Click on porn ads until you get sex

[Bobie]

what actually is grindr lol why does everyone keep talking about it

[killerteacup]

its a sex date app for gay guys and girls

theres an alternative blendr for straight people but apparently it doesnt really translate as well in straight culture

[RainbowStalin]

[QUOTE=Gatsby;42127832]Is there a good website to meet women nearby thats down for causal sex? None of that dating bullshit either.

It's been a while ya know...[/QUOTE]

Either go to clubs/bars and try to get a girl that way or have a wank.

[Boba_Fett]

I find that my personality drastically changes throughout the day. In the morning, I'm usually self-conscious and shy, but as the day progresses I get more and more outgoing and loose.

There's really no reason why I should be so nervous at the start of the day. There's really nothing wrong with me. I'm 5'11, decently attractive and my arms are pretty muscular. Nobody really dislikes me either, but I always get a little bit nervous being around people.

[Heigou]

muscular arms?

it's the chicken legs then

[Boba_Fett]

[QUOTE=Heigou;42131738]muscular arms?

it's the chicken legs then[/QUOTE]
I actually gained the nickname "Legs man" from my lifting buddies because I destroy the leg workouts. Maxed out the squat machine last time and did ten reps on it.

That being said, I'm not a huge person, I'm just muscular. I'm not small though.

[bobsynergy]

[QUOTE=Heigou;42131738]muscular arms?

it's the chicken legs then[/QUOTE]

~They always go to the gym for their arms but their downfall is their legs~
-Bobsynergy, Facepunch (2013)

Funny story though, I used to be like that to and I would just have my arms flexed all the time and I remember talking to my ex when we first got together and she said she noticed my arms a lot and I thought in my head "lol something as gay as that actually god damn worked"

So do that, make sure you wear shits that show off your arms and get rid of your skinny legs and you'll be covered in girlfriends.

Though something not related, basically I got my closure with my ex really and I'm now done with her completely even though she was my first love and it was amazing and she did so much things for me but I feel like I could go into another relationship tomorrow like nothing even though we only broke up 2 weeks ago, is that normal? I'm only asking because I usually see people not go into a new relationship for a long time and my head is like "all right, time to find someone else who actually cares about you"

[QUOTE=Boba_Fett;42131827]I actually gained the nickname "Legs man" from my lifting buddies because I destroy the leg workouts. Maxed out the squat machine last time and did ten reps on it.

That being said, I'm not a huge person, I'm just muscular. I'm not small though.[/QUOTE]

Shit then ummm Squat the body builders at your gym, though I already have big legs so only thing squatting has done mainly is give me a cute ass according to girls :(

quote on quote

"You legit have the cutest ass I have ever seen, better then a lot of celebrities too" should I be worried?

[Heigou]

[QUOTE=Boba_Fett;42131827]I actually gained the nickname "Legs man" from my lifting buddies because I destroy the leg workouts. Maxed out the squat machine last time and did ten reps on it.

That being said, I'm not a huge person, I'm just muscular. I'm not small though.[/QUOTE]

The squatting machine is easy doe, stabilizes for you.

[editline]9th September 2013[/editline]

or you mean leg press which is even easier

[bobsynergy]

[QUOTE=Heigou;42131970]The squatting machine is easy doe, stabilizes for you.

[editline]9th September 2013[/editline]

or you mean leg press which is even easier[/QUOTE]

I remember when I first went to the gym and I slowly moved up on the machines and thought I was doing so good but then I maxed them out just after 2 weeks of weights :v: You have to legit squat Boba Fett

[Boba_Fett]

[QUOTE=bobsynergy;42132050]I remember when I first went to the gym and I slowly moved up on the machines and thought I was doing so good but then I maxed them out just after 2 weeks of weights :v: You have to legit squat Boba Fett[/QUOTE]
The gym at my college doesn't have a pad for the squat rack like the YMCA at my hometown does. Maybe I sound like a huge bitch, but 155lbs and higher really starts to hurt without padding.

[Jake]

I've been having problems with my girlfriend's parents and I'm not sure what to do without making myself look like an ass.

Anyways, I've not particularly liked her parents because whenever I'm over there or doing something with her family they always ask to see my phone and read my messages or something just as privacy invading. I've been nice to them and I've had good manners, but her mother has commented on me being her "least favorite of her daughter's boyfriends" and she's told me that I'm a "very strange" person. Nevertheless, my girlfriend's mother attempts to mess with me such as throwing her husband's dirty and wet socks at my face for no reason at all. Just recently she asked to have a word with me and I reluctantly agreed. The bulk of her talk was blaming me for her daughter's "bad grades"(she had one C+ and the rest were all A's) and she said that she doesn't want her daughter being with me if I'm going to be a "bad influence". I was just really confused but nodded through her whole talk.

Luckily I can't drive until October, so my girlfriend and I have hung out almost exclusively at my house, but I'm afraid that her parents will want me over there more often once I can drive. How should I tell my girlfriend that I don't like her parents that much or should I do something else?

[PollytheParrot]

Wow they sound like assholes

[Jake]

[QUOTE=PollytheParrot;42132548]Wow they sound like assholes[/QUOTE]
Yeah. I'm amazed that my girlfriend isn't at all like her mom, at least from my experience.

[Marzipas]

I'm going to a Freshers week night out at my uni tonight, since I'm in first year I barely know anyone, I'm wondering if anyone has any tips on talking to/befriending people who I don't know. I kind of have to admit, I'm quite shy around strangers sometimes, but I'm wanting to try and meet some new people.

[bobsynergy]

[QUOTE=Hellborg 45;42132620]I'm going to a Freshers week night out at my uni tonight, since I'm in first year I barely know anyone, I'm wondering if anyone has any tips on talking to/befriending people who I don't know. I kind of have to admit, I'm quite shy around strangers sometimes, but I'm wanting to try and meet some new people.[/QUOTE]

Try talking to people like they are one of your friends and it's all comfortable, it might sound like weird advice but I used to be shy and shit too but now like I was at a party a week ago and made like 10 new friends just by talking to them like nothing and I guess because I was comfortable and could talk, they got comfortable too and by the end of it you just have a load of people your talking to like your normal friends but you only met them 20 minutes ago, weird feeling but pretty awesome.

I think what I'm basically trying to say is just don't think about it and just talk like it's someone your comfortable talking to and if your comfortable they will be comfortable back and ta-da!

Hell if on my first day of college an Indian immigrant who can barely speak English and has a heavy thick accent can approach people and just have a normal conversation and make friends then you should to :v:

(I hope you get what I'm saying if you can't then I hope someone summarizes it who knows how to type what they say lol)

[hexpunK]

[QUOTE=Hellborg 45;42132620]I'm going to a Freshers week night out at my uni tonight, since I'm in first year I barely know anyone, I'm wondering if anyone has any tips on talking to/befriending people who I don't know. I kind of have to admit, I'm quite shy around strangers sometimes, but I'm wanting to try and meet some new people.[/QUOTE]

I didn't even go to any of my freshers events and still ended up making some pretty great friends within the first fortnight. I'm pretty reclusive and tend to avoid talking to new people too, but it just kinda happens. I assume you're living in halls right? The guys you live with could easily end up being some of the best friends you'll have at uni.

Though the building I was in in my first year was nothing like the others it seems, everybody in the entire building (3 flats of 8, 3 flats of 6) got on really well, where I kept hearing stories of people in other buildings hating the shit out of each other. And one building that ended up being nothing but revenge sex between flatmates...that was a weird one.

It might be worth, if you see any that is, looking for obvious groups of people who share some common interest if you can see them (shirts, wristbands, bigass sandwich boards explaining them). Having at least some common ground certainly helps the "I don't know you, lets talk!" thing. Knowing even a couple of people will usually be enough to get introduced to others where talking is a lot easier.

[Guy Mannly]

well
that was awkward
added that guy who i met last week on fb, wasn't sure what to say so i messaged him and said "when i added you, instead of creeping your profile i went to mine and started deleting things" and he just said "uh? ok i guess?" and i said it was a joke and we didn't say anything for 10 mins and then he logged off
not sure what i'm supposed to do now
i guess he doesn't appreciate my sense of humor

[Meller Yeller]

[QUOTE=Boba_Fett;42131453]I find that my personality drastically changes throughout the day. In the morning, I'm usually self-conscious and shy, but as the day progresses I get more and more outgoing and loose.

There's really no reason why I should be so nervous at the start of the day. There's really nothing wrong with me. I'm 5'11, decently attractive and my arms are pretty muscular. Nobody really dislikes me either, but I always get a little bit nervous being around people.[/QUOTE]

I've got it exactly the same. In the mornings I'm extremely timid and weird, but by afternoon I'm as social as anybody.

I really hate it because I only get the sexy ladies in my morning classes.

[Loopoo]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;42139009]well
that was awkward
added that guy who i met last week on fb, wasn't sure what to say so i messaged him and said "when i added you, instead of creeping your profile i went to mine and started deleting things" and he just said "uh? ok i guess?" and i said it was a joke and we didn't say anything for 10 mins and then he logged off
not sure what i'm supposed to do now
i guess he doesn't appreciate my sense of humor[/QUOTE]

I don't think it's anything to do with your humour tbh, I think it's the fact you were a decent human being and a responsible girlfriend and told him right off the bat you were in a committed relationship. I'm pretty sure if he thought you were single still, he'd be putting a lot more effort into conversations.

[Splash Attack]

Last night I dreamed that my ex and I got back together again and we were being all couple-like again. I'm not sure whether to be disappointed it wasn't real or annoyed that I'm dreaming these things.

[Taepodong-2]

Does it mean anything if a girl starts a conversation or am I just over analyzing shit?

[Jake]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42145451]Does it mean anything if a girl starts a conversation or am I just over analyzing shit?[/QUOTE]
I think you're just over-analyzing. I mean, you start conversations with people you aren't attracted to, right?

[AltUser]

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;42140833]Last night I dreamed that my ex and I got back together again and we were being all couple-like again. I'm not sure whether to be disappointed it wasn't real or annoyed that I'm dreaming these things.[/QUOTE]

I dream about my ex practically every single night. These days I just wake up and don't think much of it, it should get better for you too.

[Taepodong-2]

I also introduced myself to a girl in one of my classes yesterday and tried to have a conversation with her but she was super shy and talked so quiet that I could barely hear her. Is there any way to make her open up other than be patient and keep talking to her?

[Nikeos]

you can't really force people to open up, so no not really

find a topic she cares about and try talking about that

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=loopoo;42140014]I don't think it's anything to do with your humour tbh, I think it's the fact you were a decent human being and a responsible girlfriend and told him right off the bat you were in a committed relationship. I'm pretty sure if he thought you were single still, he'd be putting a lot more effort into conversations.[/QUOTE]

i dunno, even though he acts like a bit of a dick from time to time he's always the one who texts me first. i've kind of lost interest in talking to him but he usually texts me once a day to try and initiate conversation
and he normally does seem to try kind of hard at conversation, he asks a lot of questions and stuff. i just find that our personalities don't really click, we have a lot of interests in common but he's just boring to talk to. doesn't take well to jokes.

[editline]11th September 2013[/editline]

but he texted me again today asking what i was up to so i guess our brief facebook conversation wasn't as awkward for him as i thought it was lol

[Zorkov]

hm

[AltUser]

I felt like things were getting much better since me and my ex split up, but recently in the past few days they seem to have gone back to me being miserable again, why?
Like today I spent some time downstairs, and when I came back up I looked over to my phone and no one text me or anything, it sounds pathetic, but I was just reminded that I was completely alone, the days of talking to her daily are gone. And then I start missing other simple things, like just kissing her and falling asleep with her, it sucks. I also find myself questioning things, like I ask myself if it was really my fault she started to become less interested in me, as I could have pushed her away.
I was doing really well just a few days ago, and now I'm just going back downhill. I have the sense to know that we will never be together again, and that our relationship was often filled with arguments anyway, but I've started wondering if it was really me who was wrong, and if my next relationship will be a fuck up because of me, I sometimes wonder if she was really something special and now I've lost her.

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=AltUser;42157330]I felt like things were getting much better since me and my ex split up, but recently in the past few days they seem to have gone back to me being miserable again, why?
Like today I spent some time downstairs, and when I came back up I looked over to my phone and no one text me or anything, it sounds pathetic, but I was just reminded that I was completely alone, the days of talking to her daily are gone. And then I start missing other simple things, like just kissing her and falling asleep with her, it sucks. I also find myself questioning things, like I ask myself if it was really my fault she started to become less interested in me, as I could have pushed her away.
I was doing really well just a few days ago, and now I'm just going back downhill. I have the sense to know that we will never be together again, and that our relationship was often filled with arguments anyway, but I've started wondering if it was really me who was wrong, and if my next relationship will be a fuck up because of me, I sometimes wonder if she was really something special and now I've lost her.[/QUOTE]

one of the things i was told through my recent breakup which I think is very true is that all things aside we are still a very primitive species and that after a breakup like this you're going to spend some time feeling very vulnerable because you're alone and as a species humans are meant to be social - being newly alone makes you feel very exposed. You will be okay in this regard though once you realise that there is a huge amount of people around to care about you and for you. Your friends still exist and now is a time to focus on spending time with them.

As for things being your fault its normal to feel that way but you really shouldn't. Just because she was the one who ended it doesn't mean it was your fault. You can't be anyone more than who you are at that point in time and if she couldn't handle who you are, then that's her problem and her responsibility to deal with. I'm sure she was special in her own way, but she will not be the most special person you will ever meet. Your next relationship will be better. In the meantime just avoid contact with her and keep yourself to yourself until you are truly over it.