Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Splash Attack]

See my ex walking with a friend of hers on my way to our next class. I get in the room and sit down before they get there. Hear her friend say to her before she enters the room something along the lines of, "Have fun going in there with that guy who's acting awkward around you, " clearly repeating whatever she had told him earlier.

:I

Never seen or met this guy in my life. She has been telling random people about how I act around her. Pisses me off just a wee bit.

[Heigou]

step it up a notch and let the inner badass dying to get out escape, brom, bishes won't have shit to say on you no mo'

[editline]12th September 2013[/editline]

lift the motherfucker above your head, instate dominance

[editline]12th September 2013[/editline]

your reign begins, deadlift the corpses of your defeated foes

[MightyLOLZOR]

So yeah, I'm hooking up with a girl next Tuesday. This will be my first time having sex. Any advice? I'm like super nervous.

[thisispain]

youre probably gonna be awful because its your first time so be comfortable with that

[AltUser]

[QUOTE=killerteacup;42158788]one of the things i was told through my recent breakup which I think is very true is that all things aside we are still a very primitive species and that after a breakup like this you're going to spend some time feeling very vulnerable because you're alone and as a species humans are meant to be social - being newly alone makes you feel very exposed. You will be okay in this regard though once you realise that there is a huge amount of people around to care about you and for you. Your friends still exist and now is a time to focus on spending time with them.

As for things being your fault its normal to feel that way but you really shouldn't. Just because she was the one who ended it doesn't mean it was your fault. You can't be anyone more than who you are at that point in time and if she couldn't handle who you are, then that's her problem and her responsibility to deal with. I'm sure she was special in her own way, but she will not be the most special person you will ever meet. Your next relationship will be better. In the meantime just avoid contact with her and keep yourself to yourself until you are truly over it.[/QUOTE]

Thank you, that was just perfect advice.

[arcticdrinker]

Hey I don't know where to post this since it isn't about girls or whatever but it seems fine here

I recently moved to the Chicago area from my home of Florida and work at some sandwich place that I hate. I really just got it to kill time, make money and try and meet people but work hasn't paid me twice now as their computers are all fucked up, I constantly get told to stay later than the schedule says and it's full of that corporate "we really care stuff", think of that resturant from Office Space.

But I've all ready joined the Air Force and will be leaving probably around December-ish. Basically my point is that I hate going into my job every day and I wanna quit but I know I'll have even less to do in a state where I know no one and my parents are gonna give me a lot of shit for it. I could spend a lot of my time visiting family and friends across the country before I leave for basic.

What do you guys say?

[Kirbunny]

Okay guys, I have a bad habit of popping into this thread for assistance and never returning once I receive my advice. If I don't come back, I apologize. But I'm in the midst of a dilemma and was hoping you guys could help me out.

So there's this girl that I like (shocking, I know). We saw each other every day at school last year and we're really good friends. I asked her out last year, and she said yes! However, we never actually followed up on that. I reminded her about it a few weeks later, but once again it never resulted in us going out. Summer came. We talked on Facebook about once a week (maybe less), but I never brought up my proposition again. I just figured she wasn't interested after all and decided to let it go.

Skip ahead to two days ago. An acquaintance of mine approaches me on the bus and tells me that the girl likes me back. (He apparently heard this straight from her, too.) He told me to make my move and ask her out. I told him I'd tried once already, but he said everything would be fine and that things were “different” now.

I tried asking her out yesterday, but I couldn't find an opening. Today was much better, though. Even though I panicked and froze up at the start, I managed to ask her out again and she said yes again! We didn't have much time to talk about it because we were in the hallway between classes, so I told her we could discuss it tomorrow in class.

My problem is this: I'm still not entirely sure if I'm in the clear yet. This feels exactly like last year, where she said yes and then nothing ever came of it. I might be acting paranoid, but I'm afraid she's just saying yes and hoping I'll forget about it because she doesn't want to say no. Girls have been dishonest with me in the past, which is why I'm so concerned. I really want to be happy about this, but I can't bring myself to do a happy jig until a plan is set in stone.

What do you Facepunch love experts think about this? What should I say to her tomorrow? Am I insane? Thanks in advance for any responses!

[Heigou]

Sounds like you're too passive to me, hell, you even seem to be asking this girl out passively as fuck.

[Kirbunny]

[QUOTE=Heigou;42169560]Sounds like you're too passive to me, hell, you even seem to be asking this girl out passively as fuck.[/QUOTE]

That's similar to what somebody else said. Heh. Well, I was planning on pursuing it more assertively this time around. What can I do to seem more determined while not coming off as rude or...clingy? Those probably aren't the right words, but I hope you know what I mean. I just don't want to go overboard.

[ozzypozzy]

[QUOTE=Kirbunny431;42169357]Okay guys, I have a bad habit of popping into this thread for assistance and never returning once I receive my advice. If I don't come back, I apologize. But I'm in the midst of a dilemma and was hoping you guys could help me out.

So there's this girl that I like (shocking, I know). We saw each other every day at school last year and we're really good friends. I asked her out last year, and she said yes! However, we never actually followed up on that. I reminded her about it a few weeks later, but once again it never resulted in us going out. Summer came. We talked on Facebook about once a week (maybe less), but I never brought up my proposition again. I just figured she wasn't interested after all and decided to let it go.

Skip ahead to two days ago. An acquaintance of mine approaches me on the bus and tells me that the girl likes me back. (He apparently heard this straight from her, too.) He told me to make my move and ask her out. I told him I'd tried once already, but he said everything would be fine and that things were “different” now.

I tried asking her out yesterday, but I couldn't find an opening. Today was much better, though. Even though I panicked and froze up at the start, I managed to ask her out again and she said yes again! We didn't have much time to talk about it because we were in the hallway between classes, so I told her we could discuss it tomorrow in class.

My problem is this: I'm still not entirely sure if I'm in the clear yet. This feels exactly like last year, where she said yes and then nothing ever came of it. I might be acting paranoid, but I'm afraid she's just saying yes and hoping I'll forget about it because she doesn't want to say no. Girls have been dishonest with me in the past, which is why I'm so concerned. I really want to be happy about this, but I can't bring myself to do a happy jig until a plan is set in stone.

What do you Facepunch love experts think about this? What should I say to her tomorrow? Am I insane? Thanks in advance for any responses![/QUOTE]
If you're "going out" then maybe propose to do something together?

[Heigou]

[QUOTE=Kirbunny431;42169603]That's similar to what somebody else said. Heh. Well, I was planning on pursuing it more assertively this time around. What can I do to seem more determined while not coming off as rude or...clingy? Those probably aren't the right words, but I hope you know what I mean. I just don't want to go overboard.[/QUOTE]

Gotta be aggressive, you asked her out, she said yes, furiously fist her anus.

[Kirbunny]

[QUOTE=ozzypozzy;42169617]If you're "going out" then maybe propose to do something together?[/QUOTE]

To be honest, that's the one vital thing I failed to do last time. In today's case, the only time I could catch her while she was alone was when we only had a couple minutes to spare. Tomorrow I'll walk in with suggestions blazing. She's been talking a lot about movies lately, so that'll probably be my first suggestion.

[QUOTE=Heigou;42169632]Gotta be aggressive, you asked her out, she said yes, furiously fist her anus.[/QUOTE]

Then there's this.

[dmillerw]

How the fuck do people meet people outside of school/work?

I was at a local hobby/toy shop the other day, buying a Rubiks cube, and I saw a girl about my age looking through the various Settlers board games. I wanted to ask her about that, since I haven't played in ages, but I totally flaked out.

Is that what I should do? Just strike up conversations?

[Taepodong-2]

Is there no chance for a guy to ever date a girl who's taller than them? I'm 5'7" and the girl I'm talking about is about 5'10". I still want to get to know her a little better before I try to make any moves, but I'm just wanting to make sure I'm not totally screwed from the start because of my height.

[Nikeos]

what

thats the silliest thing i've ever heard

sure some people have preferences but if they would reject you because of your height, you don't want to be with them anyway

[AltUser]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42169793]Is there no chance for a guy to ever date a girl who's taller than them? I'm 5'7" and the girl I'm talking about is about 5'10". I still want to get to know her a little better before I try to make any moves, but I'm just wanting to make sure I'm not totally screwed from the start because of my height.[/QUOTE]

Nah man, that's silly. I actually know of people who date girls taller than them. It shouldn't put you at a disadvantage, go for it!

[editline]12th September 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=dmillerw;42169785]How the fuck do people meet people outside of school/work?

I was at a local hobby/toy shop the other day, buying a Rubiks cube, and I saw a girl about my age looking through the various Settlers board games. I wanted to ask her about that, since I haven't played in ages, but I totally flaked out.

Is that what I should do? Just strike up conversations?[/QUOTE]

I can relate to this 100% I always wonder where to meet women, people say it will just happen, but that seems so weird if I'm not even sure where I would meet someone. I'm also the kind of person who can't just go up to a random person and start talking, I can be really confident at times, but I still can't manage to do it.
In my case I also need to meet some new friends as 95% of mine are leaving to go to university.

[ozzypozzy]

[QUOTE=Kirbunny431;42169677]To be honest, that's the one vital thing I failed to do last time. In today's case, the only time I could catch her while she was alone was when we only had a couple minutes to spare. Tomorrow I'll walk in with suggestions blazing. She's been talking a lot about movies lately, so that'll probably be my first suggestion.

Then there's this.[/QUOTE]
Then go in for the cliché yawn into arm around her move.

[Taepodong-2]

Well I'll see what I can do. There's two girls I'm kind of interested in right now though. There's the tall girl who's really friendly and outgoing and another girl who's really shy and quiet. I should probably get to know both of them better before I make any choices.

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42170051]Well I'll see what I can do. There's two girls I'm kind of interested in right now though. There's the tall girl who's really friendly and outgoing and another girl who's really shy and quiet. I should probably get to know both of them better before I make any choices.[/QUOTE]

sounds to me like you are trying to find excuses for them not to like you

just keep talkin to them, it'll be fine

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=Kirbunny431;42169677]To be honest, that's the one vital thing I failed to do last time. In today's case, the only time I could catch her while she was alone was when we only had a couple minutes to spare. Tomorrow I'll walk in with suggestions blazing. She's been talking a lot about movies lately, so that'll probably be my first suggestion.

Then there's this.[/QUOTE]
don't need to do it when she's alone

if you're clear about liking her it shouldn't matter who's around make it known that you like her

if you're scared go watch people embarass themselves on youtube and spaghetti videos so that you'll be all like man i'm glad i'm not like those guys or atleast you'll know how to not act

[editline]13th September 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=dmillerw;42169785]How the fuck do people meet people outside of school/work?

I was at a local hobby/toy shop the other day, buying a Rubiks cube, and I saw a girl about my age looking through the various Settlers board games. I wanted to ask her about that, since I haven't played in ages, but I totally flaked out.

Is that what I should do? Just strike up conversations?[/QUOTE]
yeah pretty much

[editline]13th September 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=NuclearAnnhilation;42169220]Hey I don't know where to post this since it isn't about girls or whatever but it seems fine here

I recently moved to the Chicago area from my home of Florida and work at some sandwich place that I hate. I really just got it to kill time, make money and try and meet people but work hasn't paid me twice now as their computers are all fucked up, I constantly get told to stay later than the schedule says and it's full of that corporate "we really care stuff", think of that resturant from Office Space.

But I've all ready joined the Air Force and will be leaving probably around December-ish. Basically my point is that I hate going into my job every day and I wanna quit but I know I'll have even less to do in a state where I know no one and my parents are gonna give me a lot of shit for it. I could spend a lot of my time visiting family and friends across the country before I leave for basic.

What do you guys say?[/QUOTE]

i say go for it because you'll get paid in the airforce but i don't know i've never been in the military so i don't know how sound it'd be

[Agoat]

[QUOTE=AltUser;42169856]I can relate to this 100% I always wonder where to meet women, people say it will just happen, but that seems so weird if I'm not even sure where I would meet someone. I'm also the kind of person who can't just go up to a random person and start talking, I can be really confident at times, but I still can't manage to do it.
In my case I also need to meet some new friends as 95% of mine are leaving to go to university.[/QUOTE]

It's not so much walking up to strangers as much as actually talking when the opportunity presents itself. I'm in a similar boat as far as meeting people goes, just find places to go. I'm gonna make some friends a GTA V launch, find something similar!

[AltUser]

[QUOTE=Agoat;42173571]It's not so much walking up to strangers as much as actually talking when the opportunity presents itself. I'm in a similar boat as far as meeting people goes, just find places to go. I'm gonna make some friends a GTA V launch, find something similar![/QUOTE]

I think for me its because the majority of the time, the only time I am in social situations is when I'm with my friends, and its always at a pub/club. Even when I'm drunk I cannot just walk up to another person and start talking to them. If it was the other way around and they started talking to me then I'd be great.

[Aries]

someone please tell me the protocol for sleeping with a female friend's single mom. based on experience, is that okay or not? i understand individual experiences may vary.

[RainbowStalin]

Why would you want to bang your friends mom anyway.

Real life isn't porn dude that shits weird.

[Heigou]

Why wouldn't you want to bang your friends mom anyway.

[RainbowStalin]

[QUOTE=Heigou;42178937]Why wouldn't you want to bang your friends mom anyway.[/QUOTE]

Nothing turns me on like the menopause.

[Taepodong-2]

Wow, that girl just totally ignored the fact that I even exist. But then again if it were me I would also rather go sit with a friend than someone I barely know.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42182086]Wow, that girl just totally ignored the fact that I even exist. But then again if it were me I would also rather go sit with a friend than someone I barely know.[/QUOTE]

so did she actually ignore you or did she just opt to sit with her friend?

[Taepodong-2]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;42183529]so did she actually ignore you or did she just opt to sit with her friend?[/QUOTE]

She did both. Didn't even acknowledge me when she walked into the class. I wish I knew how to make girls not forget about me within 5 minutes agter I talk to them.

[Bobie]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42183885]She did both. Didn't even acknowledge me when she walked into the class. I wish I knew how to make girls not forget about me within 5 minutes agter I talk to them.[/QUOTE]

you just started talking to her right, 5 minutes ago? yeah. you're not engaged yet