Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;42253365]B-I-N-G-O, you guys are overreacting way too much
I never said video games were a waste of time, and i never said that you couldn't socialize on video games (in fact I said the opposite), and I'm certainly not enforcing my opinions on you.
I said that [U]for me[/U] I found that I was much more happy focusing on the outside world. I'm not saying you have to, just saying it worked for me.[/QUOTE]
hmm...
[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;42250343]i never said they were detrimental to a person's social life, i said that there were much better things to be doing, gawsh
[B]video games are really a dead end though (excluding spatial cognition and stress relief)[/B]
reading is good because it grows your interests and your intelligence on subjects, and its a great stress relief.
playing piano is good because it can get you out playing in bands or open mic nights, not to mention the numerous number of positive mental health benefits of playing a musical instrument.
watching tv is actually pretty lame, do that in moderation.
hobbies are a great way to get your foot in the door of social life. im pretty close to a couple of friends because of playing garrys mod and minecraft together years ago, i even got my first gig writing music for my friends game.[/QUOTE]
Nah that sounds like what you said. Your list also insinuated games dont do those things as well and many of them it can and does. That and you keep saying "do this or that in moderation" which is a bit of a silly statement anyway. Everything should be in moderation since excess is always too much, so really its more saying "you shouldnt do those things much", suggesting basically they they are for the most part a waste of time.
Video games gave me jet fighter pilot reflexes and it has helped me greatly in boxing at punching people in the liver.
[QUOTE=Heigou;42259433]Video games gave me jet fighter pilot reflexes and it has helped me greatly in boxing at punching people in the liver.[/QUOTE]
video games:
- taught me about/inspired a future interest in history (age of empires)
- taught me a completely random assortment of skills that will probably come up once or twice in a lifetime, like alchemy, marie antoinette, identifying the sexes of crabs, and reading mayan calendars (nancy drew series)
- taught me how to use excel to create spreadsheets (diablo 3)
- helped me become more confident about my skills (lol/wow)
- taught me leadership abilities (wow)
- taught me about doing proper research and identifying reliable sources of information (any mmo)
- helped me learn about my preferences for a future career and gave me a new perspective on what interviewers look for in employees (recruiting for/running a raiding guild in wow)
The productive thing I got out of video games is that it inspired me, like many others, to take interest in programming, which is becoming more and more of a huge deal irl.
Socially, it's something to do with my friends when outside sucks.
[QUOTE=Mobon1;42260578]The productive thing I got out of video games is that it inspired me, like many others, to take interest in programming, which is becoming more and more of a huge deal irl.
Socially, it's something to do with my friends when outside sucks.[/QUOTE]
to be honest, the downside of this is that countless kids who are forced by their parents to go to college end up majoring in game design just because they play video games. i have a friend who's a game design major and has developed a lot of games on his own and he constantly vents his frustration to me about the kids in his classes who are only there because they don't know what to do as a career.
this definitely isn't the fault of video games on their own though, the issue is that a lot of game design majors don't have a career they're interested in so they go with something related to a hobby of theirs, even though designing games is nothing like playing them.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;42260442]
- taught me a completely random assortment of skills that will probably come up once or twice in a lifetime, like alchemy, marie antoinette, identifying the sexes of crabs, and reading mayan calendars (nancy drew series)[/QUOTE]
uhm these are skills i use on a daily basis
just today i transmuted water into beer and had a sick-ass party
did you drink water and buy a beer thats how i do it every time
videogames taught me how to dive in to oncoming traffic
[QUOTE=killerteacup;42261879]did you drink water and buy a beer thats how i do it every time[/QUOTE]
i transmuted paper into a peach fuzzy navel
Well, just got together with a girl I've been interested in for a considerable time. It was looking pretty cloudy, and I was considering just moving on, but being clear about it pretty much made the difference, it'd seem.
Hi, I have a bit of an issue with loneliness. I made a thread but someone said I should post here.
facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1309638
Full details are in the link.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;42258904]hmm...
Nah that sounds like what you said. Your list also insinuated games dont do those things as well and many of them it can and does. That and you keep saying "do this or that in moderation" which is a bit of a silly statement anyway. Everything should be in moderation since excess is always too much, so really its more saying "you shouldnt do those things much", suggesting basically they they are for the most part a waste of time.[/QUOTE]
I've had a long think about it and I'm going to take back what I said.
I agree that video games can have merits beyond just stress relief, and recommend people go pursue those things (guy's list).
I think I felt that way about video games because I have known many people in my life who have complained about never having a social life beyond their computer but just resort to playing more PC video games at home, not realizing that it's why they are having such troubles.
However, I do know many people who have found amazing social lives on the internet. Many of my friends rely on the internet to find people with similar interests, heck, my cousin met his wife on World Of Warcraft (regular guy, promise).
I've got some better advice than the stuff I gave before:
If you keep on doing what you're doing, you'll have more of what you've got. If your life has got you down, doing the same thing over and over might not help. Try new and different things, and see how it affects your life.
I don't know if this is weird.
I have a thing where I feel like I [I]must[/I] work out to feel efficient and capable. All of my confidence wanes in those periods where I just don't do any physical exercise. But when I am feeling fit, pumped and my back is straight, my shoulders aren't clumped forwards and my eyes are facing forward, I feel [B]absolutely[/B] different and feel a lot more social too. It's not like I become a shut-in if I don't workout, I just don't talk nearly as much or hang around my few friends that I have.
And what are your views on having people with conflicting views close to you? I feel like I argue more than I ever nod in agreement with my friends and sometimes it gets a bit frustrating, even. Thus far I've just figured it's good to have someone that disagrees so when there is a legitimate mistake I can notice it...but the problem is their constant disagreeing is kind of making even myself doubt if what I'm thinking to be right is right. Mainly philosophical and moralistic shit, the usual stuff teenagers flap their gums about.
This may sound off. Maybe this isn't the right place but. Recently, my life has crashed upon my head. All my life I've lived in a pained, abusive, neglective family. Recently so bad to the point where I run away daily and end up sleeping in subways or hotel lobbies. Horrible, unforgivable things have been done and said to me, things you wouldn't think happen to a 16 year old kid such as myself. This situation has always led me to blame myself, and turned my heart into stone. Hateful grievances are my company now, my friends aren't a help either. I told them the fact that I'm poor, and they consistently made fun of me for it. The girl I had thought I loved, has just recently lost interest in me. She is short and angry with me, she isn't the same and as of now treats me no better than anyone else. I have nothing but music in my life, in fact playing guitar and singing is the only joy I find myself having anymore, and I usually do so on the street for change to help myself. The life I've lived and am currently living should've spit me out and Killed me ages ago. I'm so sad, I'm so lonely, and hurt, yet I strive for nothing more than to make people happy, which is the only comfort I find in myself. I miss my girl, she used to be a real help, but now I feel I have nothing. She used to care. I don't know what I'm asking for, maybe something I can't place in my head. If you managed to read this, I don't think I deserve help. But I want people to learn what a life like this can do to someone, and strive to better themselves because of it. There's too much that you could give someone with a gesture of optimism. I'm Chase, and you all are people with potential to be great. Good day.
[QUOTE='[Green];42277403']I don't know if this is weird.
I have a thing where I feel like I [I]must[/I] work out to feel efficient and capable. All of my confidence wanes in those periods where I just don't do any physical exercise. But when I am feeling fit, pumped and my back is straight, my shoulders aren't clumped forwards and my eyes are facing forward, I feel [B]absolutely[/B] different and feel a lot more social too. It's not like I become a shut-in if I don't workout, I just don't talk nearly as much or hang around my few friends that I have.[/quote]
this is fairly normal. physical activity releases endorphins which will lift your mood.
i get depressed if i don't go out for a few days at a time. i always feel a lot more energetic during the week when i'm at school because i'm getting plenty of sunlight and exercise from walking across my entire fucking campus because of shitty parking.
[QUOTE='[Green];42277403']And what are your views on having people with conflicting views close to you? I feel like I argue more than I ever nod in agreement with my friends and sometimes it gets a bit frustrating, even. Thus far I've just figured it's good to have someone that disagrees so when there is a legitimate mistake I can notice it...[b]but the problem is their constant disagreeing is kind of making even myself doubt if what I'm thinking to be right is right. Mainly philosophical and moralistic shit, the usual stuff teenagers flap their gums about.[/b][/QUOTE]
this is a good thing. there is absolutely nothing wrong with questioning your own opinions instead of just accepting them as being there. most of our initial opinions are based more on emotion than logical reasoning so it's good to assess the source of our opinions.
one of my best friends is a libertarian guy who likes Ron Paul and thinks education should be purely private. i've had shouting matches with him before over the merits of voucher-based education (there are none).
but whatever you know, he's fun to be around with. just because we have conflicting viewpoints doesn't mean that i can't get him drunk and have him annoy people with his hilarious speeches on space travel or why lucky star is a better anime than K-On! (it isnt)
[QUOTE=thisispain;42279990]one of my best friends is a libertarian guy who likes Ron Paul and thinks education should be purely private. i've had shouting matches with him before over the merits of voucher-based education (there are none).
but whatever you know, he's fun to be around with. just because we have conflicting viewpoints doesn't mean that i can't get him drunk and have him annoy people with his hilarious speeches on space travel or why lucky star is a better anime than K-On! (it isnt)[/QUOTE]
on a scale from one to ten how much do you like giving people shit?
10
i am RELENTLESS
[QUOTE=Ricool06;42276586]Hi, I have a bit of an issue with loneliness. I made a thread but someone said I should post here.
facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1309638
Full details are in the link.[/QUOTE]
You're in a similar spot to the one I'm in, you just gotta chill out. Focus on fun, not people. :j
[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;42254704]I have the perfect plan.
I'll walk up to a girl, and talk to her.[/QUOTE]
I talked to her, it went okay.
I shall talk to her again tommorow.
[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;42283483]I talked to her, it went okay.
I shall talk to her again tommorow.[/QUOTE]
serenade her in rap
it'd probably be boring if all my friends agreed on my viewpoints. i love debates.
that said, it'd be nice to be friends with someone who has vaguely the same music taste as i do.
Single today after 19 months. It sucks
[QUOTE=Cups;42286415]Single today after 19 months. It sucks[/QUOTE]
Yeah, and it's going to suck for a little while. But one day you wake up and it sucks less. Then the next day ain't so bad. Then one day you wake up with someone that makes you even happier. Then you find out you're the one and you start dodging bullets and learning kung fu.
[QUOTE=Agoat;42287337]Yeah, and it's going to suck for a little while. But one day you wake up and it sucks less. Then the next day ain't so bad. Then one day you wake up with someone that makes you even happier. Then you find out you're the one and you start dodging bullets and learning kung fu.[/QUOTE]
He's right you know.
But in all seriousness, it does get much better after a while, although it may not seem like right now. And yeah, you will meet someone better, who makes you more happier. And if you want to become some kind of kung fu master who dodges bullets and all that shit then that's cool too.
[QUOTE='[Green];42277403']
And what are your views on having people with conflicting views close to you? I feel like I argue more than I ever nod in agreement with my friends and sometimes it gets a bit frustrating, even. Thus far I've just figured it's good to have someone that disagrees so when there is a legitimate mistake I can notice it...but the problem is their constant disagreeing is kind of making even myself doubt if what I'm thinking to be right is right. Mainly philosophical and moralistic shit, the usual stuff teenagers flap their gums about.[/QUOTE]
just accept that they have opposite views and talk about something else
i don't agree with my friends a lot, cuz i like gays, and i like to give girls a lot of space in a relationship(my friends are clingy boyfriends and they kind of annoy me when they talk about their girlfriends(they try to make it seem like they're in the right)) so we never talk about or if they want to talk about it i just change the topic or make an excuse to leave or something
Today, I was feeling pretty angsty for literally no reason and deliberately avoided talking to people I converse with on a daily basis (my ex included) as some sort of desperate cry for attention. It didn't work. I finally got home from school and it occured to me what I had been doing all day. It seems really immature for me to do such a thing and yet, I don't even know why I did it.
Emotions are weird. :/
I went to the health services today and booked an appointment so I can get a referral from a psychologist
I keep back and forthing on whether I need to see one or not. What makes a person think they're in a position where they need to?
A week ago I feel stressed out on high school. Clearly for thinking too much about my social life. I want to be known as that unique kid who makes helmets out of paper or video edits. Give me and I mean [b]give[/b] me all the hella tips you can give me for a 15 year old boy to make friends.
This is now serious official business.
[QUOTE=killerteacup;42289867]I went to the health services today and booked an appointment so I can get a referral from a psychologist
I keep back and forthing on whether I need to see one or not. What makes a person think they're in a position where they need to?[/QUOTE]
you dont have to do anything you dont want to do, you can go to the psychologist just once and see if it does anything for you
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