Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[killerteacup]

this will sound silly but I feel like I'll go in and the psych will just be like "why are you wasting my time you don't have problems compared to some of the people I deal with"

[thisispain]

everyone has problems. if you didnt feel like you'd benefit from help you wouldnt be there

[MindMuncher]

[QUOTE=Agoat;42287337]Yeah, and it's going to suck for a little while. [/QUOTE]

I thought that when one lost a sexual partner, they generally stopped sucking.

Or are you not talking about fellatio..?

[Agoat]

[QUOTE=MindMuncher;42289981]I thought that when one lost a sexual partner, they generally stopped sucking.

Or are you not talking about fellatio..?[/QUOTE]
Are you a robot irl?

[editline]24th September 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=doomevil;42289873]A week ago I feel stressed out on high school. Clearly for thinking too much about my social life. I want to be known as that unique kid who makes helmets out of paper or video edits. Give me and I mean [b]give[/b] me all the hella tips you can give me for a 15 year old boy to make friends.

This is now serious official business.[/QUOTE]

Live this music video in real life

[url]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lg_FoEy8T_A[/url]

(Chill out. I don't think you want to be the kid that makes helmets, but making cool videos always get you attention. That's what I did in high school. Just be sure the videos aren't JUST video games!)

[Shozamar]

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;42288258]Today, I was feeling pretty angsty for literally no reason and deliberately avoided talking to people I converse with on a daily basis (my ex included) as some sort of desperate cry for attention. It didn't work. I finally got home from school and it occured to me what I had been doing all day. It seems really immature for me to do such a thing and yet, I don't even know why I did it.

Emotions are weird. :/[/QUOTE]

I hate that. You feel like such a prick when you catch yourself subconsciously attention-seeking. I guess it helps to remember that everyone does it, and those who say they don't are kidding themselves.

[MindMuncher]

[QUOTE=Agoat;42292513]Are you a robot irl?
[/QUOTE]

[b]Query: {[/b]Are you a robot in irl?[b]}={"[/b]irl[b]" defining... defining... defining... Contextual Definition found:[/b] "In real life[b]"}[/b]

[b]Diagnostic check: {verify Operating Hardware... verifying... verifying... verifying... Operating Hardware verified: Sentience Programs are operating on [i]v. 89600~ Homo sapiens sapiens[/i]}={current hardware class=organic. [i]Robot[/i] hardware class=artificial}[/b]

[b]Query: {[/b]Are you a robot in irl?[b]}={resolved: false}[/b]

[b]Output: {verifying context. Output class=Typing}={String: "[/b]No, I'm not a robot in in rea[b]" ... ... ...}!!![/b]

[b][ERROR][/b]

[b]Rebooting... ... ...[/b]

[b]Automatic Emergency Output: {uploading error report to Online Sentience Database... ... ... ... ... ... no response to ping. [i]"Online Sentience Database"[/i] not found.}
Automatic Emergency Output: {uploading error report to Failsafe Backup Sentience Database... ... ... ... ... no response to ping. [i]"Failsafe Backup Sentience Database"[/i] not found.}

[IMMINENT NULL STATUS DETECTED]

Automatic Emergency Output: {searching databases... searching... sea!!! Online Database found.}={new Online Database=[/b]//http.Facepunch.com[b]}
Automatic Emergency Output: {uploading error report to //http.Facepunch.com}[/b]

[GreenDolphin]

I know this guy and recently had thoughts of asking him out. He's cute and easy to get along with but there's an issue. He's 17 yet I'm 21. From a legal standpoint there's nothing wrong but from a socially moral standpoint I'm unsure. Is he too far out of my age range?

[Ricool06]

[QUOTE=GreenDolphin;42296307]I know this guy and recently had thoughts of asking him out. He's cute and easy to get along with but there's an issue. He's 17 yet I'm 21. From a legal standpoint there's nothing wrong but from a socially moral standpoint I'm unsure. Is he too far out of my age range?[/QUOTE]

If he's mature then sure, if he's a child don't go wild.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Ricool06;42296448]If he's mature then sure, if he's a child don't go wild.[/QUOTE]

there is no such thing as "being mature for your age", brain development isn't that random and unless he's graduated high school early and already working and in college he's probably not anywhere near the same point in life.

[editline]24th September 2013[/editline]

i don't think there's anything wrong with it, but there's definitely a chance of a maturity gap causing problems.

[Rofl_copter]

is it weak to ask a girl to homecoming via text?

i go to an all boys' school too so it's difficult to get to actually see her face to face, if that were the case I'd just go right up and ask

the thing is i absolutely hate calling girls on the phone, it just feels so weird to me.

[MindMuncher]

[QUOTE=Rofl_copter;42299497]is it weak to ask a girl to homecoming via text?

i go to an all boys' school too so it's difficult to get to actually see her face to face, if that were the case I'd just go right up and ask

the thing is i absolutely hate calling girls on the phone, it just feels so weird to me.[/QUOTE]

Calling is less weird than texting.

Call her.

[skynrdfan3]

PMA

[Aries]

[QUOTE=blitzown;42279388]This may sound off. Maybe this isn't the right place but. Recently, my life has crashed upon my head. All my life I've lived in a pained, abusive, neglective family. Recently so bad to the point where I run away daily and end up sleeping in subways or hotel lobbies. Horrible, unforgivable things have been done and said to me, things you wouldn't think happen to a 16 year old kid such as myself. This situation has always led me to blame myself, and turned my heart into stone. Hateful grievances are my company now, my friends aren't a help either. I told them the fact that I'm poor, and they consistently made fun of me for it. The girl I had thought I loved, has just recently lost interest in me. She is short and angry with me, she isn't the same and as of now treats me no better than anyone else. I have nothing but music in my life, in fact playing guitar and singing is the only joy I find myself having anymore, and I usually do so on the street for change to help myself. The life I've lived and am currently living should've spit me out and Killed me ages ago. I'm so sad, I'm so lonely, and hurt, yet I strive for nothing more than to make people happy, which is the only comfort I find in myself. I miss my girl, she used to be a real help, but now I feel I have nothing. She used to care. I don't know what I'm asking for, maybe something I can't place in my head. If you managed to read this, I don't think I deserve help. But I want people to learn what a life like this can do to someone, and strive to better themselves because of it. There's too much that you could give someone with a gesture of optimism. I'm Chase, and you all are people with potential to be great. Good day.[/QUOTE]
Hey man, no one has responded to this but since I know the feeling I'll shoot you a PM and type it here just in case anyone has anything else to add or if they're in a similar situation.

My family and I have only really found each other in the last month or so. For the last two years, we've barely had contact. Every Friday afternoon, I'd have a rehearsal for some high school show that I'd partake in each year and I'd always feel this incredible depression at the end of it because I knew I would have to go home and be at home for the weekend and no one else would be there because no one else could come to my house because my parents made me feel like absolute shit and hit me frequently. I would go home and cry, pretend nothing was wrong, hide in my room and lock the door every weekend. That, or I would ride my bike and not come home and sleep on someone's couch. I went out with a girl whom I met on the first day of high school named Caroline in my second last year of high school. We had been good friends since the first day, and then once we realised we loved each other we were inseparable. She knew my family could be.. aggressive.. at times. She didn't know the full extent. One night, I stood up to my dad and we exchanged blows. I texted her saying that I didn't know what just happened and I was scared, and she used her awesome powers of being cool to have someone pick me up and let me stay at their house for the night. That was two years ago, and I hadn't returned to the house until two weeks ago. I lived on a couch for a few months, lived with a hippy, lived with my best friend, and then I followed my girlfriend to a city north of the town I was living in to be with her and make my way in the world. I knew I couldn't go home and live there, and I knew that I wanted to be with her more than anything in the world. No exaggeration, I know, and knew, what my heart wanted and that was that. For two years we lived in that town, and I would have constant nightmares of my old life. I'm fairly sure it counted as PTSD. The best friend I lived with wanted a change in pace, so he lived with me and brought one of our really good friends with him and we (sans my girlfriend) all lived together. So that was about a year ago, and I had made a good life for myself. Through distancing myself, I would call my parents very occasionally but slightly more frequently as time moved on because that was one of my goals; to make time for each other and make amends. I'm the type of person that if something is broken I must fix it. Unfortunately, due to living abroad for a bit and then living in that town I had neglected 90% of the friends I had during high school. But that was cool for the moment. Eventually, my room-mates decided to abdicate our lease and forcing me to go along (I couldn't pay rent myself, it was two against one) and I stayed at a friends house due to tensions and to make myself secure again and met up with them a few times.

My girlfriend, roommates and I had dinner once, it was great. They ended up racking a $1000 electricity bill in [I]one[/I] month. They disappeared, sent me the bill and told me to kill myself. Two guys I had known for ten and seven years, gone like that. I still don't know what happened. My girlfriend helped me through the times, but with uni and visiting her family on uni break I had to be more and more by myself. She ended up throwing a surprise birthday party for me (I had never had a birthday party before), bought her and I tickets to the Gold Coast (in Australia, sorry guys) to a convention where we met actors from Firefly and one of the Doctors from Doctor Who and went to a themepark with only our friends there exclusively. It was the greatest weekend of my life, still is. And then two months later, after wondering what was happening and if I had done something wrong and her ignoring me for one, we both asked each other to meet up and broke up. I was okay with it because I didn't like how it was going, but I don't know why she did it. Technically was mutual, but I still loved her. She since cut ties completely and has never responded to a single text, call or PM from Facebook except for "If you contact me again, I will take action against you". So two death threats and a possible harassment suit (her parents were litigious so I didn't push it) because I wanted answers for what I had done wrong. It makes it hard, because the two guys were in my main circle of friends and my girlfriend was my closest friend, one of my oldest friends and my partner of three years. She made a fool of me by posting faux cries for help for being single, ostracising me from my other close friends who all had close ties to her personally and through all of our girlfriends being extremely close. Everyone else, the 90%, didn't care. I moved back home, met with my family whom I welcomed with open arms, and now I'm here.

I know our family lives probably aren't exactly the same. Neither of our situations are. But what I'm trying to say is that while I know it's [I]extremely[/I] hard, the only person who can make a difference is you. I got up from my parents with a bloody face, and walked out to make a new life for myself with help from my closest friend. I got up from my financial and personal betrayal from two of my best friends almost by myself, but I got up from an abandonment in a city I didn't want to be in by someone who got me through it all completely by myself. I've started a great job. I'm planning on travelling very soon. I've made amends with my family, and I've made it all myself. Believe in yourself Chase. You'll read it in this thread more often than almost anywhere else because it's a social thread but confidence to do whatever you want is key. Any idea you have, there is help to get it. It may sound hard, but if it's bad - get help! Move from your family. There are organisations for that, I promise. Forgive your exgirlfriend and friends, or don't, because it only harms you if you keep your emotions targetted on them. I hadn't realised it until two weeks ago, but life is what you make it. And you can make it anything. Ask me anything, please. I can't make the decisions, but I know things can definitely get so much better.

[NoDachi]

[QUOTE=blitzown;42279388]This may sound off. Maybe this isn't the right place but. Recently, my life has crashed upon my head. All my life I've lived in a pained, abusive, neglective family. Recently so bad to the point where I run away daily and end up sleeping in subways or hotel lobbies. Horrible, unforgivable things have been done and said to me, things you wouldn't think happen to a 16 year old kid such as myself. This situation has always led me to blame myself, and turned my heart into stone. Hateful grievances are my company now, my friends aren't a help either. I told them the fact that I'm poor, and they consistently made fun of me for it. The girl I had thought I loved, has just recently lost interest in me. She is short and angry with me, she isn't the same and as of now treats me no better than anyone else. I have nothing but music in my life, in fact playing guitar and singing is the only joy I find myself having anymore, and I usually do so on the street for change to help myself. The life I've lived and am currently living should've spit me out and Killed me ages ago. I'm so sad, I'm so lonely, and hurt, yet I strive for nothing more than to make people happy, which is the only comfort I find in myself. I miss my girl, she used to be a real help, but now I feel I have nothing. She used to care. I don't know what I'm asking for, maybe something I can't place in my head. If you managed to read this, I don't think I deserve help. But I want people to learn what a life like this can do to someone, and strive to better themselves because of it. There's too much that you could give someone with a gesture of optimism. I'm Chase, and you all are people with potential to be great. Good day.[/QUOTE]

You sound similar to the girl I'm seeing.

Things can and will get better, eventually.

[mrphilosopher]

I like older women, around 35 to 45. Only the fit ones though.

[MindMuncher]

[QUOTE=mrphilosopher;42302896]I like older women, around 35 to 45. Only the fit ones though.[/QUOTE]

I hope you can find one that's into you somehow, but that's a relationship built around sex, considering that you would both be in very different places in your lives.

Hope you find your milf without strings attached.

[theobod]

I don't really know if this is the place to say this, and this is not as serious as some other posts here, but here we go, shitty formed post incoming!. I have a step sister whom I'm deeply in love with, and is one of the few persons that I really trust. The 20th of July so did I lose my grandfater, and the 22th of July so did I lose my dog, this did put me into depression, I'm still depressed but not as much as I was before, I have tried to meet with my step sister and talk to her about my love to her and how much my 2 loses affected me and had me at thougts to kill myself. But shes has always said that she always has been busy with friends and such, which sucks alot. From what I have heard from people I know who go to her school so is there sometimes some of her guysfriends whom are groping her, I doubt that this acutally happen since she does not seem like that person, but if shes sleeping around and such so will my some of my respect to her drop. I really dont know how to cope with this, she does not seem to really care about me since I told her that my two loses effected me deeply, and I really want to get togheter with her even tho it may seem fucked. This is really badly formed, but its late and my English is shit.

[Rofl_copter]

[QUOTE=MindMuncher;42300731]Calling is less weird than texting.

Call her.[/QUOTE]

This is a good representation of me trying to call a girl.

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[AltUser]

Damn I've had a stressful day, 13 hours of it to be precise, and for some reason while I'm stressed I decide to look on my ex's twitter, why the hell do I do that? So I see all this stuff about her saying how she wants to fall in love, and calling guys hot and talking about people hitting on her. I know I shouldn't be upset that she got over me pretty quickly, but I really am. Only two days ago I talked to someone who really opened my eyes about my ex, and thinking about it, she was a bitch. I hope I get over her pretty soon, I've still got my plan laid out about getting a job, etc. But I still can't find one, so I guess I've just got to stay positive now.

So to wind down tonight after a really bad day I opened my window and sat outside with a bottle of Bud, it was nice just to chill out a bit, but then either a bat or a massive moth flies towards me, so now I'm afraid to go back out.

[Heigou]

Do you not have any hobbies to unwind on after a huge day that will at the same time get your mind off this shit?

[AltUser]

I'm unemployed, so most of my days are generally empty. And really I don't have any hobbies, I just can't find anything appealing.

[Heigou]

Start liftin', it's easy as hell to get into, there's no rush, no one's expecting you to win a cup and it's really cheap in comparison to most other hobbies.

The serotonin will also do you gud.

[AltUser]

Funnily enough, that's what I'm doing right now, combined with cardio. Sorry I didn't mention it, it just feels more like a daily routine rather than a hobby now, which is a good thing really.

[Heigou]

I'm an idiot, I even replied to your thread in the WTF subforum, goes to show how I don't take attention.

[AltUser]

I guess lifting is a hobby, so at least your post wasn't too out of place!

[ewitwins]

[b] I HAVE MADE A MASSIVE MISTAKE[/b]

So long story short, this girl that I've had an on again, off again thing with probably received a big long sappy voicemail from me about an hour ago because for some reason my brain was like

"haha [b]FUCK LOGIC[/b] dat nigga don't know shit"

and I was just like "she needs to know how I FEEEEEEL".

So, uh, do I say something or just leave it be? We've been texting and she hasn't said anything about it yet.

[mrphilosopher]

There's this woman who works where I work and I think she's lovely.

[vizard38]

[QUOTE=ewitwins;42312764][b] I HAVE MADE A MASSIVE MISTAKE[/b]

So long story short, this girl that I've had an on again, off again thing with probably received a big long sappy voicemail from me about an hour ago because for some reason my brain was like

"haha [b]FUCK LOGIC[/b] dat nigga don't know shit"

and I was just like "she needs to know how I FEEEEEEL".

So, uh, do I say something or just leave it be? We've been texting and she hasn't said anything about it yet.[/QUOTE]

Sorry bout that mate. I've had a similar situation happen (never mix weed, feelings, and peer pressure at the same time), and I don't really have any advice. Good luck though!

[CyanLime]

[QUOTE=ewitwins;42312764][b] I HAVE MADE A MASSIVE MISTAKE[/b]

So long story short, this girl that I've had an on again, off again thing with probably received a big long sappy voicemail from me about an hour ago because for some reason my brain was like

"haha [b]FUCK LOGIC[/b] dat nigga don't know shit"

and I was just like "she needs to know how I FEEEEEEL".

So, uh, do I say something or just leave it be? We've been texting and she hasn't said anything about it yet.[/QUOTE]

maybe being transparent about your feelings isn't necessarily a bad thing

[killerteacup]

being transparent about your feelings is the only way people should be

I think that's one of the things about high school and how people always keep 'secrets' but tell like 10 people even though its a secret then get really mad when it comes out to the public - doing all that is for lame people