• Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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[QUOTE=killerteacup;42314215]being transparent about your feelings is the only way people should be I think that's one of the things about high school and how people always keep 'secrets' but tell like 10 people even though its a secret then get really mad when it comes out to the public - doing all that is for lame people[/QUOTE] i agree with this, i've personally always been very open about everything because i don't really have boundaries or things i'm uncomfortable with sharing, but the downside of it is that you can't really justify people not liking you with "you don't know the real me" or whatever but the people who do appreciate honesty respect you that much more for it though i don't think being honest while under the influence of drugs/alcohol is a good thing
Being transparent is definitely a good thing. If nothing else, you'll now know how she feels, through inaction or otherwise. Holding feelings inside you is no gewd.
From experience, being transparent without letting too much through is the best, it's great to let your feelings out to a girl saying you like her and what not without having to drown her in a tidal wave of it.
chances are youre a lot more transparent than you think you are
[QUOTE=thisispain;42315799]chances are youre a lot more transparent than you think you are[/QUOTE] I take this to heart and assume that, because people are most likely going to see through anything I try to do, I just outright tell them things. It's worked out so far in my life. Actually no, nvm, my ex said that it was unromantic and that she'd prefer to be lied to. I've provided plenty of reasons that she's my ex though and that's just another.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;42315272] though i don't think being honest while under the influence of drugs/alcohol is a good thing[/QUOTE] I can vouch for this, definitely. I've had some rather interesting experiences in these regards.
[QUOTE=theobod;42306465]I don't really know if this is the place to say this, and this is not as serious as some other posts here, but here we go, shitty formed post incoming!. I have a step sister whom I'm deeply in love with, and is one of the few persons that I really trust. The 20th of July so did I lose my grandfater, and the 22th of July so did I lose my dog, this did put me into depression, I'm still depressed but not as much as I was before, I have tried to meet with my step sister and talk to her about my love to her and how much my 2 loses affected me and had me at thougts to kill myself. But shes has always said that she always has been busy with friends and such, which sucks alot. From what I have heard from people I know who go to her school so is there sometimes some of her guysfriends whom are groping her, I doubt that this acutally happen since she does not seem like that person, but if shes sleeping around and such so will my some of my respect to her drop. I really dont know how to cope with this, she does not seem to really care about me since I told her that my two loses effected me deeply, and I really want to get togheter with her even tho it may seem fucked. This is really badly formed, but its late and my English is shit.[/QUOTE] Guys, I need help or advice, sure this situation is not as serious as others here, but I want to know what to do. But dont stress it
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;42316437]I take this to heart and assume that, because people are most likely going to see through anything I try to do, I just outright tell them things. It's worked out so far in my life.[/QUOTE] i'm the same way. as the name might imply i used to go out of my way to pretend to be male on the internet (particularly in league of legends). i met a guy ingame at one point who seemed pretty cool and we started talking. i decided to try an experiment and went out of my way to avoid talking about anything that would imply i was female. we mostly just talked about the game, just a lot of small talk. didn't give away much about my personality. eventually i had some issues with my now-ex and ended up venting to him at one point. obviously it was kind of a given that i was female at this point. he didn't say anything about it and the next day he said it hadn't even surprised him (and he didn't even really notice that i had just made clear what sex i was) because he had assumed it from the start. so from that point on i stopped trying to pretend. not only online but in general. i always had attempted to act masculine to fit in (pretty much all of my friends have always been male). it's the reason i don't use emotes anymore (though that's just habit at this point). but i realized that how others view me is something beyond my own control, so instead of trying to filter it i've just opted for being open and friendly. i view it as a sign of strength to be able to comfortably talk about something that others would consider sensitive.
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[QUOTE=theobod;42318559]Guys, I need help or advice, sure this situation is not as serious as others here, but I want to know what to do. But dont stress it[/QUOTE] I'm sorry for your loss. I would seek professional help for your depression if it is that serious. On the topic of your step-sister, are romantic involvements such as these considered taboo in Sweden? Though you guys aren't technically related, this type of romantic involvement would probably be considered borderline incestuous if it were in America.
I didn't know where to post this but I've been stressing out about this and I'd like some advice. A day ago I was moving my car out of the parking lot. As I pulled out, I felt nothing so I kept on going, but as I looked back I see a small dent on the car on my right side. I keep going on my way, but as I head out I see a couple looking at my license plate. I've been stressing out because I have never been in any accident or law breaking action, and as I am still a minor I'm having a hard time with this small action. I'm ready with insurance and money at hand if it was my fault, but at the time I have not been contacted by anyone. I really hope this doesn't escalate and I haven't put myself into a deep hole.
after an agonizing two hours of staring at a phone, I have gotten a hot homecoming date. [IMG]http://filesmelt.com/dl/83507473.gif[/IMG]
[QUOTE=Rofl_copter;42320866]after an agonizing two hours of staring at a phone, I have gotten a hot homecoming date. [IMG]http://filesmelt.com/dl/83507473.gif[/IMG][/QUOTE] Goddamn. The girl I've had my eye on for awhile is borderline [b]HORRIBLE[/b] at communication, which has me paranoid to call/text because I'm worried I'm bothering or irritating her.
[QUOTE=Rofl_copter;42320866]after an agonizing two hours of staring at a phone, I have gotten a hot [B]homecoming[/B] date. [IMG]http://filesmelt.com/dl/83507473.gif[/IMG][/QUOTE] Why not go elsewhere if it's possible? There are better things out there than homecoming.
homecoming is great it's the only time you'll ever experience it because once it passes by you won't experience it again
[QUOTE=Splash Attack;42319153]I'm sorry for your loss. I would seek professional help for your depression if it is that serious. On the topic of your step-sister, are romantic involvements such as these considered taboo in Sweden? Though you guys aren't technically related, this type of romantic involvement would probably be considered borderline incestuous if it were in America.[/QUOTE] I don't think its incest in the eyes of the law but I'm pretty sure its taboo
So I got broken up with last night; I had been with the girl for one year and 8 months, she controlled every aspect of my life. She wouldn't let me on facepunch or even spend my money on myself, and she wouldn't let me even take showers or shave; or see my friends. I'm happy she's gone, but at the same time, I feel like that even though my friends are picking up the slack that there is a huge void in my life still.
[QUOTE=VaSTinY;42242891][I][very happy vent][/I][/QUOTE] So, follow up on this, sorry if this is just in the way but I really feel the need to vent this So Thursday, I ended up asking our mutual girl friend for advice on what to do when she doesn't like dating, and she suggested just going to the cinema to get a good "feel" for eachother, and afterwards grabbing something light to eat to get to know eachother. The day after (today, friday), I managed to hit my forehead on a ceiling mirror exiting the bus while asking her to the cinema. She was wondering wether we'd be going "as just friends, or?" - as I told her "rather as a date" she also exited the bus and we had a proper long talk. She said she doesn't want to hurt my feelings and she wanted to be honest with me - and explained that she doesn't actually have any feelings like that for me, because she is actually lesbian and has commitment and trust issues. She hasn't told ANYONE except me about it, not even her own family. She explained she's noticed me flirting with her alot and said that she tried waving it off in a way that doesn't hurt my feelings. But I'm VERY thankful and respectful of her for having that conversation with me at all, she's a good person and shows that by letting me know what's really going on so I don't have to chase after her for nothing. A huge part of me is happy and proud of myself for overcoming the generic [I]"buuh what if she says no"[/I] superstitions, and for managing to leave the shitty [I]"lol-look-we're-in-high-school-and-everyone-has-secrets-and-everyone-hates-and-loves-eachother-over-here-but-noone-ever-talks-about-it"[/I] you get in mid-teenages into a more adult [I]"Okay so we're 19+ years old now and we're all mature and can talk about things like this with eachother like adults"[/I] phase. [I]There's unfortunately that really selfish part of me though that wishes she was straight rather than lesbian - Why? Because I've gotten to know her so much since I met her only a few weeks ago and she is pretty much a perfect match in nearly everything for me. Plus ontop of that this is seriously my first time I've ever gotten this far with a woman and dared this much just because I saw how awesome she was - But then I can't have her because she's lesbian, fuck.[/I] She gave me her phone number afterwards though and we wandered around looking in shops, and we're still going to see a movie as just friends tomorrow :v:
So uh, i completely lack of social skills. And i can only do rudimentary social stuff like chit chat but mostly when spoken to. And only if i know them from like 3 weeks or so. But i don't know how to make friends or how to speak to girls. Just putting this out here, but i haven't really ever started a conversation with girl. I have done my schools and my military service. Right now i am unemployed again. No hobbies and i can't really talk with my relatives about these things because i would shame myself and my family. So is there any hope for me or should i just stay away from people and become more and more bitter against everyone?
So today, I got grouped with my ex for my 2.5 hour physics lab in addition to the previous 1 hour class we had together. It went surprising well. We've already been talking to each other regularly and sitting next to/near each other in our classes, but this is the first time we've really interacted for this long since we broke up about 3 months ago. It feels like we're really good friends again and even borderline flirty at times. I think we've finally both gotten to the point where we are totally comfortable around each other, despite our history. I'm really okay with this.
try not to get borderline flirty, that does not sound good [editline]28th September 2013[/editline] [QUOTE=S33T;42328969]So I got broken up with last night; I had been with the girl for one year and 8 months, she controlled every aspect of my life. She wouldn't let me on facepunch or even spend my money on myself, and she wouldn't let me even take showers or shave; or see my friends. I'm happy she's gone, but at the same time, I feel like that even though my friends are picking up the slack that there is a huge void in my life still.[/QUOTE] she wouldn't let you take showers??
[QUOTE=S33T;42328969]So I got broken up with last night; I had been with the girl for one year and 8 months, she controlled every aspect of my life. She wouldn't let me on facepunch or even spend my money on myself, and she wouldn't let me even take showers or shave; or see my friends. I'm happy she's gone, but at the same time, I feel like that even though my friends are picking up the slack that there is a huge void in my life still.[/QUOTE] what did you get out of this weird relationship
so basically this girl forced you to become a greasy neckbeard with no friends? and you put up with this for almost two years? sorry i know relationships can be complicated but i don't get that at all
[QUOTE=VaSTinY;42328995] [I]There's unfortunately that really selfish part of me though that wishes she was straight rather than lesbian - Why? Because I've gotten to know her so much since I met her only a few weeks ago and she is pretty much a perfect match in nearly everything for me. Plus ontop of that this is seriously my first time I've ever gotten this far with a woman and dared this much just because I saw how awesome she was - But then I can't have her because she's lesbian, fuck.[/I] [/QUOTE] [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QsVyBHJrNQw[/media]
Joined atheist student group in hopes of making friends, fishing for dates, and having fun. Turns out all the women are lesbians. All of them. [I]Fuck.[/I]
[QUOTE=Used Car Salesman;42331893]Joined atheist student group in hopes of making friends, fishing for dates, and having fun. Turns out all the women are lesbians. All of them. [I]Fuck.[/I][/QUOTE] If something other than your personal views is labeled "atheist", it's bound to be a shit show. What other student groups are there?
[QUOTE=Agoat;42331952]If something other than your personal views is labeled "atheist", it's bound to be a shit show. What other student groups are there?[/QUOTE] There's a student group for pretty much everything. Honestly, though, the group is full of interesting and entertaining people that I love hanging out with. I just wasn't quite expecting so many of them to be gay.
I got in reality, nothing just alot of heartache. Luckily my friends were right there to pick me up when we broke up. [editline]27th September 2013[/editline] And no, she wouldn't let me take showers because she thought that if I smelled good that "girls would talk to me" she also disconnected me from my family.
[QUOTE=S33T;42332494]I got in reality, nothing just alot of heartache. Luckily my friends were right there to pick me up when we broke up. [editline]27th September 2013[/editline] And no, she wouldn't let me take showers because she thought that if I smelled good that "girls would talk to me" she also disconnected me from my family.[/QUOTE] [img]http://25.media.tumblr.com/86412710735a7f9e6fcee4fdb7877d6b/tumblr_mo8n77mgaF1so8sm2o1_500.png[/img]
Sounds about right.
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