Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[jhfjdh746]

Okay, so in a attempt to move on with my life; I started talking to this girl who I think is down right amazing she shares the same hobbies, and is super attractive.

Here's the catch, I live in Texas; she Lives in Seattle, I'm going down there for TI next year.. but I really don't know what to do.

[Broadus]

Sorry about the wall of text:

Hey guys I need some help with this girl, I've never asked out a girl before or been in any type of relationship so any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I used to work at this restaurant and they called me earlier this week and asked if I wanted to make some money. I said sure and worked Friday and Saturday. Friday was the first time I've seen anyone there in like 3 months so when I got there I was greeted with hugs from all my friends there and such. I start talking with this girl Alex, about college and how its going and blah blah blah. After a while of talking she asks me if I have a girlfriend yet, I say no and she says she doesn't have a boyfriend. I say 'oooooooooooh' and giver her a wink and she walks out of the kitchen. Probably 10 minutes later I'm talking to another girl about her boyfriend and asks how hes doing and and she says their doing great. As were talking Alex walks in and says something like 'I don't have a boyfriend' I try and say something but she walks out of the room. At this point I realize that those are hints and I start freaking out internally and try and think of what I should do. Like 30 minutes later Thomas, the owner of the restaurant and father of Alex comes up to me and literally says 'Broadus, Alex is single why don't you date her.' I feel really uncomfortable so I give an awkward laugh and then he says 'Common dude you could fuck that' I feel even more awkward now and I do another awkward laugh. Later were talking about some stalker she has at college and at the end of the conversation she says that hes to young for her anyways. I was really confident in asking her out until she said that. I'm 18 and shes 20. Speed up to the end of the night I say fuck it and I'm about to ask her out but her brother comes into the kitchen and just stares at us while were talking and I was to nervous to ask her out in front of him so I just talked about school again and how I was doing bad in math. She's really good at math so she offered to help me out and we exchanged numbers and then she left. So now I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should ask her out and how to do it. Would texting her something along the lines of: Hey your single right? 'Yeah' Do you wanna go out with me on a date this weekend : work? I can't ask her face to face since I'm not going to see her again since I don't work at the restaurant anymore.

[Aries]

"Want to do something this weekend?"

[RainbowStalin]

[QUOTE=Broadus;42342246]Sorry about the wall of text:

Hey guys I need some help with this girl, I've never asked out a girl before or been in any type of relationship so any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I used to work at this restaurant and they called me earlier this week and asked if I wanted to make some money. I said sure and worked Friday and Saturday. Friday was the first time I've seen anyone there in like 3 months so when I got there I was greeted with hugs from all my friends there and such. I start talking with this girl Alex, about college and how its going and blah blah blah. After a while of talking she asks me if I have a girlfriend yet, I say no and she says she doesn't have a boyfriend. I say 'oooooooooooh' and giver her a wink and she walks out of the kitchen. Probably 10 minutes later I'm talking to another girl about her boyfriend and asks how hes doing and and she says their doing great. As were talking Alex walks in and says something like 'I don't have a boyfriend' I try and say something but she walks out of the room. At this point I realize that those are hints and I start freaking out internally and try and think of what I should do. Like 30 minutes later Thomas, the owner of the restaurant and father of Alex comes up to me and literally says 'Broadus, Alex is single why don't you date her.' I feel really uncomfortable so I give an awkward laugh and then he says 'Common dude you could fuck that' I feel even more awkward now and I do another awkward laugh. Later were talking about some stalker she has at college and at the end of the conversation she says that hes to young for her anyways. I was really confident in asking her out until she said that. I'm 18 and shes 20. Speed up to the end of the night I say fuck it and I'm about to ask her out but her brother comes into the kitchen and just stares at us while were talking and I was to nervous to ask her out in front of him so I just talked about school again and how I was doing bad in math. She's really good at math so she offered to help me out and we exchanged numbers and then she left. So now I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should ask her out and how to do it. Would texting her something along the lines of: Hey your single right? 'Yeah' Do you wanna go out with me on a date this weekend : work? I can't ask her face to face since I'm not going to see her again since I don't work at the restaurant anymore.[/QUOTE]

Its sounds like you're in a really good situation here ask her out dingus

just do it

[PuduEbooks]

[QUOTE=RainbowStalin;42344425]Its sounds like you're in a really good situation here ask her out dingus

just do it[/QUOTE]

They should change the title of the thread to "Just do it you dingus"

[Loopoo]

To be fair if some girl's dad came over to me and called me broadus and said I could totally fuck his daughter, I'd feel really uncomfortable too. He's like... a dad, man. Dad's saying that kinda stuff is just weird.

Anyways, you've got this. Even though imo she was pretty strange saying she doesn't have a boyfriend twice.

[Heigou]

-snip- I think I'm mixing up my terminologies.

[OogalaBoogal]

[QUOTE=gtanoofa;42346605]Is it okay to drink energy drinks or coffee, hours after i have consumed antidepressants or right after i have consumed the pill(6 hours by now)?

I've been on Wellbutrin 150 mg for my ADHD for 4 days and i had no side effects so far, only good things i guess, like not being a hyperactive beast that jumps to a new thought millieseconds after i was already thinking about something, or the fact that my motivation has been sightly boosted.

I am not a depressed individual.

[editline]29th September 2013[/editline]

Also i rarelly drink energy drinks, like once a month.[/QUOTE]

Bupropion (Wellbutrin) helps with ADHD and depression, and it may be why your motivation has been boosted, not to mention increased attention.

I did some deep internet digging, and it looks like there is no problems with mixing both, other than the possibility of some increased anxiety (a side effect of both chemicals, nothing to do with them both mixing). There should be no problem with consuming both at the same time really.

I'm not a doctor though, so if you really want to know about the medical effects of both, you should talk to your medical professional.

[Loopoo]

If you're gonna drink a caffeinated drink, avoid the energy drinks. They hit like sledge hammers and - for me, at least - almost always cause anxiety. Coffee is a much better alternative, due to the lower caffeine content.

[Broadus]

[QUOTE=Aries;42343751]"Want to do something this weekend?"[/QUOTE]

Where's a good place to take her? I was talking to my friend about it and I was thinking the mvoies but he said no since we wouldn't be able to talk at all.

[RainbowStalin]

[QUOTE=Broadus;42353124]Where's a good place to take her? I was talking to my friend about it and I was thinking the mvoies but he said no since we wouldn't be able to talk at all.[/QUOTE]

A cafe or a coffee shop or something. Get some lunch together

Thats usually good for a first date

[Heigou]

a love hotel

[Splash Attack]

Soo I just found out today that my ex is with some other guy. I was walking with them today and they kissed when they parted. Threw me way off guard.

Man, I should be over this shit by now. Idk what is wrong with me. :/

[NoDachi]

how long as it been?

It took like 3 months~ for me and my last ex to start talking about our respective new sex lives like we were just friends again.

[MindMuncher]

My ex told me about how her and her new boyfriend discovered that she had a latex allergy about six months after we broke up, but then tried to say that she had a pillowcase with latex in the fabric, and that she wasn't saying anything about sex. She was, she just assumed that I wouldn't want to hear about it or something.

[Splash Attack]

[QUOTE=NoDachi;42357622]how long as it been?

It took like 3 months~ for me and my last ex to start talking about our respective new sex lives like we were just friends again.[/QUOTE]

It's been probably 3 and a half months since we broke up. The same as how long our relationship lasted, strangely.

When we broke up, she immediately got with this other girl. I've posted about it several times before. Anyways, as far as I knew, they were still together. I had no idea they had broken up, let alone that she is with another guy now. I honestly didn't expect her to get with him either. She and I even hung out in a group with him once while we were together. Her dating him came as a bit of a shocker.

I just never really got over her completely. As much as I really want to move on, it just feels like I'm trapped in this mental state. Rationally, I know she doesn't feel anything romantic towards me, and I know that there's really no hope for anything between us again. Yet I still seem to be stuck obsessing over her.

Even when I think I'm ready to move on, something just hits me and knocks me off my feet again to remind me of my feelings.

[bobsynergy]

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;42358729]It's been probably 3 and a half months since we broke up. The same as how long our relationship lasted, strangely.

When we broke up, she immediately got with this other girl. I've posted about it several times before. Anyways, as far as I knew, they were still together. I had no idea they had broken up, let alone that she is with another guy now. I honestly didn't expect her to get with him either. She and I even hung out in a group with him once while we were together. Her dating him came as a bit of a shocker.

I just never really got over her completely. As much as I really want to move on, it just feels like I'm trapped in this mental state. Rationally, I know she doesn't feel anything romantic towards me, and I know that there's really no hope for anything between us again. Yet I still seem to be stuck obsessing over her.

Even when I think I'm ready to move on, something just hits me and knocks me off my feet again to remind me of my feelings.[/QUOTE]

Is it possible to not be around your ex at all? like I got my ex out of my life completely and everything is great even though she used me. Try something like that if you can, being around her looks like it isn't helping you at all.

Also can anyone help me, there is this girl I like in College and I think she likes me as well but the problem is she is a bit introverted, shy and awkward and I've only dealt with people who are the complete opposite like all my friends. Do I just stick with it until she opens up and becomes more comfortable or? it just feels weird but it looks like she is becoming more comfortable now so I'll see where that goes.

[Splash Attack]

Pretty much unavoidable. We 2 out of like 15 electrical engineering majors at my community college. We have three classes plus a lab together.

Although I think some distance outside of class could do me some good, trying to avoid her while in the same room would probably result in me staring at her/thinking about her the entire time like it did when school started. As much as I hate to admit it, she's also my only good friend in our classes and I don't think she's close with the others either. Despite having this history, we are still good friends. I'm just having trouble getting over our breakup.

But, yeah. I'll try to create some distance. I don't see how it can do anything but help.

[RainbowStalin]

[QUOTE=bobsynergy;42361337]Is it possible to not be around your ex at all? like I got my ex out of my life completely and everything is great even though she used me. Try something like that if you can, being around her looks like it isn't helping you at all.

Also can anyone help me, there is this girl I like College and I think she likes me as well but the problem is she is a bit introverted, shy and awkward and I've only dealt with people who are the complete opposite like all my friends. Do I just stick with it until she opens up and becomes more comfortable or? it just feels weird but it looks like she is becoming more comfortable now so I'll see where that goes.[/QUOTE]

If shes shy and you like her back then ask her out dumbo

[Xmeagol]

I haven't really really loved anyone in the past 4 years. I always thought that they key to happiness was to be loved, but that's so not true, when I loved someone selflessly I never felt more alive!

So i guess i can say that it's better to love and not being loved back than to not love and being loved.

That's that, maybe i'll post again in a couple of years

[bradhl]

There is this old friend i have, she's really pretty, fun and someone who I've known for a while. Anyways after a year of not seeing each other (she left the school because of a bunch of problems) we arrange to meet up at a train station that's on my way to work. So we meet up, have a chat, catch up and i notice a few things, she's sitting [I]really[/I] close to me, always playing with her hair and she was always looking down to my mouth. I was pretty sure she was into me, so i offered to take her to the city with me and buy her Breakfast at a little cafe next to work. The whole train ride there she's still giving off signals like: hanging on to me, still looking down at my lips, her hand on my leg. So i take her to the cafe, we eat, chat laugh and on our way out i pay for us ($40 for two bacon and egg meals, man fuck prices in the city) We both sit down to have a smoke and eventually the conversation steers to peoples looks and i ask "On a scale of 1-10, that would i be?" she gives me a solid 7 and i give her a 10, and of course she's all shy and flustered when i compliment her. I walk her back to the train station so she can head home, we get there and hug and all that but before she leaves i kiss her,then as she leaves she moves my arm around her waist and give me this teasing smile. I'm kinda confused right now, she's a great girl and i like her, but i'm not sure if she likes me or it was just a one time thing.

[PuduEbooks]

Fuck my selfsteem is so low that it's hard for me to imagine this girl being into me, any good confidence boosters?

[Saza]

Hi. I don't think I've posted here before and I don't think I've ever needed to. Tomorrow I'm going to ask a girl I know pretty well out and see if she'd like to go grab lunch during the week.
The school's homecoming is this week and I don't really want to come off as the last-minute date kinda person because I honestly don't really give a shit about that. Is there anything you guys could advise? I'm more or less acceptable of rejection (but I'd rather not this time.)

[MindMuncher]

[QUOTE=Saza;42362797]Hi. I don't think I've posted here before and I don't think I've ever needed to. Tomorrow I'm going to ask a girl I know pretty well out and see if she'd like to go grab lunch during the week.
The school's homecoming is this week and I don't really want to come off as the last-minute date kinda person because I honestly don't really give a shit about that. Is there anything you guys could advise? I'm more or less acceptable of rejection (but I'd rather not this time.)[/QUOTE]

Pick a day. Don't say "Sometime this week" or anything like that. You can ask what works for her or whatever, but if you leave it open ended, it tends not to happen.

[Saza]

[QUOTE=MindMuncher;42363303]Pick a day. Don't say "Sometime this week" or anything like that. You can ask what works for her or whatever, but if you leave it open ended, it tends not to happen.[/QUOTE]

I was thinking Friday.

[Used Car Salesm]

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;42362709]Fuck my selfsteem is so low that it's hard for me to imagine this girl being into me, any good confidence boosters?[/QUOTE]

Exercise.

I am dead serious. I lost my last job in February of this year and decided to enroll at IU. At that point, I committed to walking two laps of my 3.1 mile route every single evening, unless there was some kind of specific event I had to be at. I didn't really change my diet, apart from trying hard to put an end to the shittiest habits. I also intermittently started a really basic weight lifting routine.

I'm still doing that route every day, only now it's escalated into jogging part of the time. Dunno how much weight I've lost (ignorance is bliss, I don't keep track) but I'm wearing pants from the back of the closet that haven't fit me in at least two years. I walk into class every day feeling like THE FUCKING MAN because I'm in easily the best shape of my adult life. It's incredible what regular exercise can do to your self esteem. Even if you don't need to loose weight, just improving strength and endurance is worth it.

[bobsynergy]

[QUOTE=RainbowStalin;42361925]If shes shy and you like her back then ask her out dumbo[/QUOTE]

Hey man, I aint a dumbo I'm intelligent, but any ways I know that's the obvious answer and I was going to but that shy awkwardness felt weird and gave me mixed signals (well not really any more because she's more comfortable and open now) but yeah definitely going to ask her out this week.

[QUOTE=bradhl;42362596]There is this old friend i have, she's really pretty, fun and someone who I've known for a while. Anyways after a year of not seeing each other (she left the school because of a bunch of problems) we arrange to meet up at a train station that's on my way to work. So we meet up, have a chat, catch up and i notice a few things, she's sitting [I]really[/I] close to me, always playing with her hair and she was always looking down to my mouth. I was pretty sure she was into me, so i offered to take her to the city with me and buy her Breakfast at a little cafe next to work. The whole train ride there she's still giving off signals like: hanging on to me, still looking down at my lips, her hand on my leg. So i take her to the cafe, we eat, chat laugh and on our way out i pay for us ($40 for two bacon and egg meals, man fuck prices in the city) We both sit down to have a smoke and eventually the conversation steers to peoples looks and i ask "On a scale of 1-10, that would i be?" she gives me a solid 7 and i give her a 10, and of course she's all shy and flustered when i compliment her. I walk her back to the train station so she can head home, we get there and hug and all that but before she leaves i kiss her,then as she leaves she moves my arm around her waist and give me this teasing smile. I'm kinda confused right now, she's a great girl and i like her, but i'm not sure if she likes me or it was just a one time thing.[/QUOTE]

I'm sorry this reminded me of some thing that was retweeted which was one of those dumb long videos on the secrets of how to fuck any girl any time and one of the tips was that if you stare at her lips it subconsciously makes her think about wanting to fuck you and it was pretty hilarious :v: I don't know maybe it worked on you man.

But it seems obvious that she likes you, just ask her out if you do like her.

[bradhl]

[QUOTE=bobsynergy;42363435]
I'm sorry this reminded me of some thing that was retweeted which was one of those dumb long videos on the secrets of how to fuck any girl any time and one of the tips was that if you stare at her lips it subconsciously makes her think about wanting to fuck you and it was pretty hilarious :v: I don't know maybe it worked on you man.

But it seems obvious that she likes you, just ask her out if you do like her.[/QUOTE]

Oh lord i've seen those things, but if it somehow did work, i'm happy for her to do it to me any day :quagmire: But still, i'm just not sure if she's just being a tease or if she really likes me. Man half my best friends have been women and i [I]still[/I] don't understand them.

[Swearblocked]

I don't think she likes you, give up all hope. :(

[OscarLimaEcho]

[QUOTE=bradhl;42363722]Oh lord i've seen those things, but if it somehow did work, i'm happy for her to do it to me any day :quagmire: But still, i'm just not sure if she's just being a tease or if she really likes me. Man half my best friends have been women and i [I]still[/I] don't understand them.[/QUOTE]

Yeah uh she's being a tease but that's probably because she likes you. How about that?