Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[mrphilosopher]

Unfortunately for me I always take an interest in women who would have no interest in me.

[jhfjdh746]

I really like this girl; the only problem is that she lives in garland: about a two hour drive, she has said she likes me; but we dated before and she broke up with me in a week.

I don't know if she is genuinely interested or if I'm being toyed with; please help me.

[Flapadar]

[QUOTE=S33T;42367983]I really like this girl; the only problem is that she lives in garland: about a two hour drive, she has said she likes me; but we dated before and she broke up with me in a week.

I don't know if she is genuinely interested or if I'm being toyed with; please help me.[/QUOTE]

How is anyone meant to give you advice if you give us almost 2 lines of unimportant details and miss out the important stuff.

[editline].[/editline]

Hint : It's why she broke up with you that's important

[Tin Can™]

[QUOTE=Broadus;42353124]Where's a good place to take her? I was talking to my friend about it and I was thinking the mvoies but he said no since we wouldn't be able to talk at all.[/QUOTE]

Try the movies first, and then grab a bite to eat/some coffee afterwards.

That's what I was planning to do with the girl who told me she was lesbian I wrote about a few days ago - who I don't know is actually a lesbian or not anymore because shes really showing an attraction to me now and I'm all confused

[jhfjdh746]

She left me for some other guy; apparently when they broke up (I wasn't around) she tried to contact me, she said the reason she left me for him is because he "would take more risks, and was much more fun to be around."

So I don't know what to do, I mean I can't really help that I have the social skills of a rock.

[RainbowStalin]

[QUOTE=S33T;42368598]She left me for some other guy; apparently when they broke up (I wasn't around) she tried to contact me, she said the reason [b]she left me for him is because he "would take more risks, and was much more fun to be around.[/b]"

So I don't know what to do, I mean I can't really help that I have the social skills of a rock.[/QUOTE]

And you're ok with this? Seriously dude cut this girl out of your life she really doesn't sound like shes worth it. She left you for a shitty reason and now that her relationship ended she just wants to get back with you because she thinks she can get away with it.

Dude when you were with her she got bored of you after a week, don't waste time on her she'll just do it again.

[jhfjdh746]

That is exactly what I was worried about..

I seem to only attract girls that are toxic; for once I just wish I could find somebody who isn't fucking shitty.

[Flapadar]

[QUOTE=S33T;42368598]"and was much more fun to be around."[/quote]

[quote]I mean I can't really help that I have the social skills of a rock.[/QUOTE]

And therein lies the rub. Stop worrying about whether or not you want to get back with a girl who doesn't want you and try and enjoy yourself more. If you're enjoying yourself more and have more respect for yourself, other people are more likely

[MindMuncher]

Going to the gym is always advised. Yes, plenty of people say it, but really.

If I don't go to the gym, I'm a complete bum. I will sit around with little motivation for anything, even eating sometimes. I make myself do things.

When I do go to the gym, I'm more liable to want to move around, talk to people and get shit done. I want to do things, and don't have to force myself.

Anyone that goes to college is likely to have some sort of gym available to them. They need to make use of it. Other people should look into local gyms as well and attempt to sign up, if they have the money. Most gyms offer lower prices for families or groups of people, so you could buddy up and get other people to keep you accountable even when you don't want to go (and trust me, that is the hardest hurdle).

[editline]1st October 2013[/editline]

This isn't advice for getting a girlfriend, by the way. This is advice for living life. I don't have a girlfriend, but plenty of people tell me that I'm an incredibly positive person and I seem to get along well with people easily.
This is not entirely due to the gym, but going to the gym certainly accounts for a lot of it. When I don't regularly do something active, I have trouble talking to people on the fly. I can have delightful conversations once I get into the flow, but initially I'm awkward and quiet. This is significantly mitigated when I have been being active. My words are looser and my smiles are more common.

[Hammerz]

Every time I plan a gettogether with my (ex)girlfriend it always falls through because of a myriad of excuses. (ex, because we put the brakes on our relashionship in the beginning of September, because we just didn't have time to see eachother and it was pretty stressful finding time for eachother)
Even if the initial response is very positive, she'll pick the location and what we'll do, it just never works out, this time she got sick, last time she had to spend time with her cousin etc. I don't have any reason to doubt her, but it really seems suspicious, because I've seen people with worse time-related problems maintain a relationship just fine. Thoughts? Should I just bugger off and find someone else? This has really been grinding my gears for the past month and I would love a second opinion on it.

[pfoot]

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[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=pfoot;42371713]um

i think you should break up wtih her dude[/QUOTE]

They're already broken up...

[pfoot]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;42371717]They're already broken up...[/QUOTE]

oh gosh i read that so wrong

[Hammerz]

[QUOTE=pfoot;42371723]oh gosh i read that so wrong[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Rhenae;42371717]They're already broken up...[/QUOTE]
Just to clarify, we're still interested in eachother, or well, that is what we concluded when we last met face-to-face 2 weeks ago.

[jobizzle]

I miss maverick.

[Saza]

[QUOTE=Saza;42362797]Hi. I don't think I've posted here before and I don't think I've ever needed to. Tomorrow I'm going to ask a girl I know pretty well out and see if she'd like to go grab lunch during the week.
The school's homecoming is this week and I don't really want to come off as the last-minute date kinda person because I honestly don't really give a shit about that. Is there anything you guys could advise? I'm more or less acceptable of rejection (but I'd rather not this time.)[/QUOTE]

Well, shit - she wasn't here today. I'm still committed to asking her though.

[bobsynergy]

Yesssss I love my friends, dumb girl whos my friend (well was) sent out invites for a party and wanted my ex to come and not me since I think she hasn't gone to the past parties because I was there (which makes sense because they are my friends and she only talked to them because of me) and instead of keeping quiet like she said in the mass text, people bitched at her and people told me to go any ways. Within a second she says never mind that I can come.

While it pissed me off that she did this it showed me her real side even after being a really good friend of hers, 20 times more then my ex who barely talked to anyone, so now I'm happy because now I know how she really is and bam, she's out of my life now so I'm happy that's out of the way.

Fuck life

[OscarLimaEcho]

[QUOTE=bobsynergy;42374316]Yesssss I love my friends, dumb girl whos my friend (well was) sent out invites for a party and wanted my ex to come and not me since I think she hasn't gone to the past parties because I was there (which makes sense because they are my friends and she only talked to them because of me) and instead of keeping quiet like she said in the mass text, people bitched at her and people told me to go any ways. Within a second she says never mind that I can come.

While it pissed me off that she did this it showed me her real side even after being a really good friend of hers, 20 times more then my ex who barely talked to anyone, so now I'm happy because now I know how she really is and bam, she's out of my life now so I'm happy that's out of the way.

Fuck life[/QUOTE]

Wait so you didn't go to the party? I think I'd at least take the opportunity to enjoy your friends put someone in place, and see how your ex reacted.

[bobsynergy]

[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;42374415]Wait so you didn't go to the party? I think I'd at least take the opportunity to enjoy your friends put someone in place, and see how your ex reacted.[/QUOTE]

Lol I'd never do that, sorry I worded it wrong, it's for a party that is happening at the end of October and get this, the girl who is sending out the mass invites, it isn't her damn house lmfao (she used to throw all the parties but you know why she isn't throwing this one? because for the prom after party her house was a complete wreck and you know who was the only person to stay up all night helping her clean while everyone either left or slept, including my ex? yeah that was me) so yeah I would of showed up any ways but now I'm invited because everyone bitched at her.

But yeah I am going to go definitely since it's basically all my friends and no one can stop me, hell all my friends jokingly make fun of me all the damn time but as soon as that part was read in the text they went up in arms and started flipping and told me to go anyways because they wanted me there and not her but I had other friends who I wasn't with send her txts and bitched so she changed her mind and said I was invited now.

Though yeah when I go I'm just going to ignore that friend completely because screw her and I doubt my ex is going to be there any ways and if she is? oh well, her fault for not planning ahead on what would happen when she broke up with me even though we had all the same friends, especially after the way she handled it by basically using me.

Though as soon as I got home I tweeted something like "You can't shut me down #trustory #alwayshere #alwayswillbe) which was my own way to say "fuck you"

Though this friend only knows that we broke up in a stupid way while one of the friends that bitched to her actually knows the full story and doesn't want her there, because of this should I actually confront and tell her the full story or just ignore it and not care.

[OscarLimaEcho]

It's pretty sweet that your other friends stood up for you though.

[editline]2nd October 2013[/editline]

Muh automerge. Looks like you're handling it pretty well.

On the subject of telling her, could you elaborate on what you'd tell her?

[bradhl]

[QUOTE=ole johan;42365703]Yeah uh she's being a tease but that's probably because she likes you. How about that?[/QUOTE] I'm not too sure about that, even when she was dating another guy and we were just friends she's still be a tease, stuff like wrapping my arms around her when she's cold, leaning on my shoulder on the bus, tight hugs. I'm just not sure if that means she likes me or if it's just what she does when she's comfortable with a guy friend. She's a bit of a complicated girl, but then again what girls aren't complicated?

[Loopoo]

I'm glad I'm not in highschool anymore.

[bobsynergy]

[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;42374717]It's pretty sweet that your other friends stood up for you though.

[editline]2nd October 2013[/editline]

Muh automerge. Looks like you're handling it pretty well.

On the subject of telling her, could you elaborate on what you'd tell her?[/QUOTE]

Just telling her the actual full breakup story because the only thing she knows is that she broke up with me in a stupid way and for some reason even after being a really good friend to her she wants my ex to be there and not me. Maybe telling her the full story that instead of what she thinks was a bad breakup as her seeing that my ex used me and change her mind about liking her more and trying to get me not to come to my own friends parties.

(which is extremely childish and immature, your friends are asking you to do the invites so you invite all their damn friends and not go "well even though he is friends with everyone here and she isn't, I like her more so I won't send him an invite") Like I didn't even get an invite to my good friends birthday 2 weeks ago (a friend she barely knows) for the same reason which was more subtle as she didn't just invite me where here in the invite she flat out said to keep it a secret from me. I still went to that one though as well.

[QUOTE=loopoo;42374819]I'm glad I'm not in highschool anymore.[/QUOTE]

Lmfaoo sorry to burst your bubble but I'm in College and a lot of my friends are in University, it's just my ex (who didn't go anywhere after highschool) and this girl who are starting drama for no reason.

Like honestly, I could of just went to everyone and said she used me and bla bla bla bla but I didn't as much as I wanted to because that has nothing to do with anyone else and I just had to move on which I have, but now it's interfering with my social life and my friends for no reason other then people being childish, what do you expect?

[OscarLimaEcho]

Yeah, I'd explain it to her.

[Dyson6]

How the hell do you show romantic intention on a date? I just got coffee with this awesome girl and we talked for like three hours... but that's it. I kept feeling like if I did any touch or anything it would seem totally out of the blue and weird.

I told her it was a date when I asked her out, so I'm afraid that my lack of "making a move" worried her as well.

Help me out super friendlies.

[Loopoo]

Shit, guys. Do you know when you're not doing yourself any favours, and [I]you know[/I] you're making a mistake, but you keep on chugging along with it anyways because [U][B]feelings[/B][/U]? I feel like an obese man with a bowl of Ben and Jerry's (make that 3 bowls) who knows that he has an eating problem but still sits there eating the Ben and Jerry's because I'm a fatass and it gives me this faux feeling of satisfaction and pleasure. Sheeeyt. I'm turning into some crabby, crank, grumpy old cunt [I]waaaaay[/I] before my time.

[OscarLimaEcho]

[QUOTE=Dyson6;42375164]How the hell do you show romantic intention on a date? I just got coffee with this awesome girl and we talked for like three hours... but that's it. I kept feeling like if I did any touch or anything it would seem totally out of the blue and weird.

I told her it was a date when I asked her out, so I'm afraid that my lack of "making a move" worried her as well.

Help me out super friendlies.[/QUOTE]

The romantic intention is already there when you ask someone out on a date. You gotta make a move or at least make her enjoy the date.
If you didn't make a move, you should still tell her it was nice, you want to do it again, all that. Not every date needs a "move".

[editline]2nd October 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=loopoo;42375176]Shit, guys. Do you know when you're not doing yourself any favours, and [I]you know[/I] you're making a mistake, but you keep on chugging along with it anyways because [U][B]feelings[/B][/U]? I feel like an obese man with a bowl of Ben and Jerry's (make that 3 bowls) who knows that he has an eating problem but still sits there eating the Ben and Jerry's because I'm a fatass and it gives me this faux feeling of satisfaction and pleasure. Sheeeyt. I'm turning into some crabby, crank, grumpy old cunt [I]waaaaay[/I] before my time.[/QUOTE]
Know that feel.

Though, if you're literally talking about icecream;
Start setting up budgets that don't allow for bullshit spending like ben and jerry's(just do that anyways).

[Gatsby]

Even though I have lots of friends, I feel like lonely inside. My life isnt going where I want it to be. I know im young as hell, almost 18. But im afraid I wont be happy later in life. My motivation is just horrible. I promised my self I would get into lifting like a year ago. I also delayed it with some bullshit excuse. Same with work and projects. I daydream ALOT, I realized all that been doing is trying to make me escape reality. It works. Then I pretend I dont know whats wrong with me. But truth is right now, as I am typing this. I realized I was intentionally blocking out my problems, daydreaming all the time of a great future or some alt life bullshit so I can pretend my life isnt so damn boring forever.

I feel like I have an existential crisis everyday. I feel like two people. One person is the one everybody sees and know but i it isnt me. Hell the voice I used in my head, you know like when you say stuff in your head but not aloud? It's never my voice it is always somebody elses. Whether somebody I know irl or some movie character. Does this mean something? Its been like this for pretty much all my life and i most likely been through thousands and thousands of voices.

I dont know who Im really am or what I actually want. Im just saying some of the many problem thats been going on right now mentally.

[Dyson6]

[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;42375223]The romantic intention is already there when you ask someone out on a date. You gotta make a move or at least make her enjoy the date.
If you didn't make a move, you should still tell her it was nice, you want to do it again, all that. Not every date needs a "move".
[/QUOTE]

Oh god, that's a load off of my mind. I did say I'd like to do it again and she agreed, so I guess I'm good then?

The internet just made it seem like not making a move on the first date was really really bad. (I'm aware this sentence makes me sound like a complete chump)

[OscarLimaEcho]

[QUOTE=Gatsby;42375437]Even though I have lots of friends, I feel like lonely inside. My life isnt going where I want it to be. I know im young as hell, almost 18. But im afraid I wont be happy later in life. My motivation is just horrible. I promised my self I would get into lifting like a year ago. I also delayed it with some bullshit excuse. Same with work and projects. I daydream ALOT, I realized all that been doing is trying to make me escape reality. It works. Then I pretend I dont know whats wrong with me. But truth is right now, as I am typing this. I realized I was intentionally blocking out my problems, daydreaming all the time of a great future or some alt life bullshit so I can pretend my life isnt so damn boring forever.

I feel like I have an existential crisis everyday. I feel like two people. One person is the one everybody sees and know but i it isnt me. Hell the voice I used in my head, you know like when you say stuff in your head but not aloud? It's never my voice it is always somebody elses. Whether somebody I know irl or some movie character. Does this mean something? Its been like this for pretty much all my life and i most likely been through thousands and thousands of voices.

I dont know who Im really am or what I actually want. Im just saying some of the many problem thats been going on right now mentally.[/QUOTE]

Go lift something. Right now. What's your excuse not to?