Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[evilweazel]

Well, last night I wrote this big apology thing to my best friend after we had this huge falling out... I wouldn't call it burning bridges, the lovely little argument we had was more like just like dropping a hundred atomic bombs on said bridge. Either way, spent a lot of time writing it, and sent it off, figuring that the situation couldn't get much worse. So didn't get a lot of sleep last night after I sent it, but after a few hours I woke up to my computer booping because I got a message back. She said she had tried writing a few of them herself, but that she was too afraid to send them, thinking she would mess everything up even more. Also said a bunch of stuff that it wouldn't really make sense for me to post here because it's all little inside jokes we had more or less, but it was all good stuff that I honestly thought I'd never hear again from her. She told me that after the stuff I blew up on her for, it helped her get life together, stop drinking and cutting, etc. Said she was definitely willing to be friends again, if I was. The sigh of relief I let out after reading that, jeeze... Either way, yeah, little steps to hopefully build up that friendship again I guess.

I know writing a big message seems dumb as all hell, but I couldn't actually talk to her face to face for a while, work schedules and the like.

Just felt like posting this here, for whatever reason. Thought some people might like to see a story like that turn out as well as it could in the end, and that others might get a kick out of such a petty problem, I don't know :v:

[Kindlinho]

[QUOTE=Gatsby;42388868]Oh god, I think I might have Maladaptive Daydreaming. The symptoms fit me PERFECTLY. I have been like this as long as I could remember.[/QUOTE]
That's okay. Yesterday I checked Wikipedia and found out I meet all the requirements for being classified as a psychopath.

[Darth_Kris]

Ok, my best friend came up to me yesterday and seriously asked if I want to have a thereesome with him and his gf (both of us are straight).
What am I supposed to do?
[sp]I'm a virgin btw[/sp]

[MaverickIB]

Tell him threesomes are pretty much guaranteed relationship killers.

Maybe there's a few outliers but I have NEVER seen a relationship last very long after a threesome.

[RocketRacer]

holy shit holy fuck. I've spoken to some people so much today, specially with girls, we even laughed in arts studio(wasn't a lesson, free periods) I am so happy right now that I am actually starting to talk more instead of being silent all the fucking time.

[theobod]

Yeah, about my step sister? It went like fucking shit. I texted her saying "Why havent I heard from you since I last asked you if we could meet, and that was one month ago." And she said "but why should we meet? I dont know shit about your life, and you dont know shit about mine, you should contact someone else". After that so did I say "Its all about you this thing. And what do you mean with we dont know shit about eachothers life?" And then so did she sent a text that pretty much said "You have your life, and I have mine. We never see each other anymore, and I'm the person that understands you the least, go to someone else" I responded with "Why do we never see eachother then? We have known each other for seven freaking years. It does not seem like you dont care about me at all. Why should I go to someone else when its about you?" And yet, no response from her, and this was 11 hours ago. I feel deeply deceived by her, and she's the person that I respect and trust the most... Dont know how to take this, seems like she really doesnt give a shit about me anymore. I'll keep myself from calling/texting her anymore untill she reponses if you guys dont have any better advice? Is this the right thread to post this?

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=theobod;42396922]Yeah, about my step sister? It went like fucking shit. I texted her saying "Why havent I heard from you since I last asked you if we could meet, and that was one month ago." And she said "but why should we meet? I dont know shit about your life, and you dont know shit about mine, you should contact someone else". After that so did I say "Its all about you this thing. And what do you mean with we dont know shit about eachothers life?" And then so did she sent a text that pretty much said "You have your life, and I have mine. We never see each other anymore, and I'm the person that understands you the least, go to someone else" I responded with "Why do we never see eachother then? We have known each other for seven freaking years. It does not seem like you dont care about me at all. Why should I go to someone else when its about you?" And yet, no response from her, and this was 11 hours ago. I feel deeply deceived by her, and she's the person that I respect and trust the most... Dont know how to take this, seems like she really doesnt give a shit about me anymore. I'll keep myself from calling/texting her anymore untill she reponses if you guys dont have any better advice? Is this the right thread to post this?[/QUOTE]

she just told you to leave her alone in about 5 different ways. leave it, if she responds again then cool, but i wouldn't hold your breath.

and definitely don't tell her about your feelings if this is her attitude toward you.

[theobod]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;42397711]she just told you to leave her alone in about 5 different ways. leave it, if she responds again then cool, but i wouldn't hold your breath.

and definitely don't tell her about your feelings if this is her attitude toward you.[/QUOTE]

Yeah I will leave it as it is now. She might have problems of her own, and I wont get in the way if this is the case. But this just does not seem like her, or I might just be an complete idiot and overreact alot.

And no I wont until we can just sit down and talk, no matter how long it'll take. But yeah you're right pretty much.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=theobod;42398135]And no I wont until we can just sit down and talk, no matter how long it'll take. But yeah you're right pretty much.[/QUOTE]

this is NOT a good idea. what are you expecting to happen? she's already made it blatantly obvious she doesn't want to talk to you or be around you.

you need to understand that nothing is going to happen between you two. if you value your friendship with her (on the offchance you even have one after the scathing messages you just posted here), you need to keep this to yourself. you'll get over it by accepting that nothing will happen between you, not by publicizing your emotions. putting your feelings out into the world isn't going to make them go away, it's going to make them continue to be a problem for longer than you want them to.

[MaverickIB]

[QUOTE=theobod;42398135]
And no I wont until we can just sit down and talk, no matter how long it'll take. But yeah you're right pretty much.[/QUOTE]

This is extremely childish.

"Waaaah I'm not gonna stop until I get my way no matter how much it inconveniences other people."

If you cared about her you would respect her wishes for you to leave her the fuck alone.

[bobsynergy]

[QUOTE=RocketRacer;42394481]holy shit holy fuck. I've spoken to some people so much today, specially with girls, we even laughed in arts studio(wasn't a lesson, free periods) I am so happy right now that I am actually starting to talk more instead of being silent all the fucking time.[/QUOTE]

I know that feeling man, I used to be pretty quiet and such but now I'm extremely social and it's just a great feeling to have random conversations and be cool with it. It helps to so that when you talk to people who you can tell are quiet and shy your more patient with them waiting for them to open up because you get it.

[UtraWalrus]

I have been having a really hard time recently dealing with my depression and losing my close friends. i don't know where i can post to talk about it and possibly receive advice though? I have been lurking this thread for a while and from what i understand the depression thread is no help? it seems really odd to post stuff like that here though

[thisispain]

the depression thread is just a bunch of people feeling sorry for themselves
if you need help on managing certain things or need advice on stress management techniques and shit you can ask in this thread but theres not a lot posting on a forum can fix about your depression

[killerteacup]

fun fact I considered posting in the depression thread recently and went in there and decided that posting there would be a haaard no from me

I saw a therapist today and it was really great and she gave me some really cool stuff that is helping me make sense of everything thats happened and how I can sort of tinker with my worldview to make me feel a bit better about myself it really helped a lot for the first time in a couple of months I feel like I can start to regain control of my life :) :)

[editline]4th October 2013[/editline]

now im sitting in my bedroom listening to Ride and reading through the stuff she gave me and I actually feel a bit more in control this is great

[UtraWalrus]

right. well one certain thing that i have been having trouble with recently is i kinda have issues being entertaining to people. im a bit boring i guess? its hard to explain but it seems like a lot of people at my age (17, 12th grade) act really silly in order to be entertaining to others but because im depressed i have a hard time doing that? my best friend has been ignoring me recently and i notice a lot of her friends make her happier then i do, and i think this is the reason why. she will come into class and see one of her friends and go "ARRON!!!" and hug them. she does this with pretty much everyone except me. she just sits by me and pretty much won't say anything until i say something. it really hurts because last year we were such good friends and i don't know what happened. all that i could think of it that im just sad so i bring her down, even though i try not to be.

[Gatsby]

Snip- god im such a fucking loser

[Rhenae]

A short note for anyone that if they are upset and have an SO, petting is the best thing. Just get them to pet your hair or your back or whatever <3
Likewise if your SO is upset, that really can be super helpful in calming down

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=theobod;42398135]Yeah I will leave it as it is now. She might have problems of her own, and I wont get in the way if this is the case. But this just does not seem like her, or I might just be an complete idiot and overreact alot.

And no I wont until we can just sit down and talk, no matter how long it'll take. But yeah you're right pretty much.[/QUOTE]

why do you want your sister's D so much omg

[ewitwins]

AGGGHHH

So that girl that I was talking about earlier that is horrible about communication agreed to go to dinner with me, but she has yet to respond with an answer to when would be good for her. It's agitating as hell and I'm not sure of a polite way to ask her to hurry the fuck up.

[editline]4th October 2013[/editline]

I'm starting to think it's an Indian thing not to be good at cellphones. Even Indian-American :v:

[Fire Kracker]

just decide a time yourself and if she says she's busy change it

[theobod]

[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;42403219]why do you want your sister's D so much omg[/QUOTE]

Oh god that sounds so wrong. But if you mean what I think you mean, then no I'm not trying to get laid with her.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;42399052]this is NOT a good idea. what are you expecting to happen? she's already made it blatantly obvious she doesn't want to talk to you or be around you.

you need to understand that nothing is going to happen between you two. if you value your friendship with her (on the offchance you even have one after the scathing messages you just posted here), you need to keep this to yourself. you'll get over it by accepting that nothing will happen between you, not by publicizing your emotions. putting your feelings out into the world isn't going to make them go away, it's going to make them continue to be a problem for longer than you want them to.[/QUOTE]

I got some things to think about. Alright I wont do it, and I never will then.

As of now so dont I want a relationship with her. And yes it was a risky message I sent her, and it was stupid to say that. And thanks.

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;42399336]This is extremely childish.

"Waaaah I'm not gonna stop until I get my way no matter how much it inconveniences other people."

If you cared about her you would respect her wishes for you to leave her the fuck alone.[/QUOTE]

I will leave her alone, and I wont do shit with her until she reponses. I guess thanks to you all for giving me some food for thought or however the saying goes. Now I'm out until something new happens with my life.

[OscarLimaEcho]

[QUOTE=theobod;42403492]Oh god that sounds so wrong. But if you mean what I think you mean, then no I'm not trying to get laid with her.

[/QUOTE]

It sounds so wrong because it is so wrong, your first post basicly said you wanted your step-sister, you even started saying you told/wanted to tell her your losses made you contemplate suicide(worst thing you can say to someone you like).
It surely doesn't sound like banging your sister is above you. Stay away from her. Even if she answers.

[theobod]

[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;42403546]It sounds so wrong because it is so wrong, your first post basicly said you wanted your step-sister, you even started saying you told/wanted to tell her your losses made you contemplate suicide(worst thing you can say to someone you like).
It surely doesn't sound like banging your sister is above you. Stay away from her. Even if she answers.[/QUOTE]

It sounded wrong when he said "Why do you want your sister's D so much omg". Yes I know that I said it, but I thought about it and talked to friends and we all agreed on that it would be fucked, even tho I said something totally diffrent in my first post.

[zukriuchen]

[QUOTE=thisispain;42401622]the depression thread is just a bunch of people feeling sorry for themselves
if you need help on managing certain things or need advice on stress management techniques and shit you can ask in this thread but theres not a lot posting on a forum can fix about your depression[/QUOTE]

the depression thread just makes me even sadder whenever i'm looking for advice

[jhfjdh746]

So I did like you guys said, and cut that girl out of my life.

But now I need help with something else; I have a gay friend (as I'm sure most do) and he was talking to me when some girl that he was apparently friends with walks up.

Now at this point when she finally gets up to where we are my heart feels like it's about to explode (I seem to get random panic attacks now).

She just so happens to be the most beautiful girl I have ever fucking seen in my entire life, we get to talking and it turns out that she just got out of a bad relationship; we exchange numbers and get to talking.

The only problem is I'm not entirely sure if she's interested..she could just want to be friends.

[Big D Duchovny]

[QUOTE=S33T;42405635]So I did like you guys said, and cut that girl out of my life.

But now I need help with something else; I have a gay friend (as I'm sure most do) and he was talking to me when some girl that he was apparently friends with walks up.

Now at this point when she finally gets up to where we are my heart feels like it's about to explode (I seem to get random panic attacks now).

She just so happens to be the most beautiful girl I have ever fucking seen in my entire life, we get to talking and it turns out that she just got out of a bad relationship; we exchange numbers and get to talking.

The only problem is I'm not entirely sure if she's interested..she could just want to be friends.[/QUOTE]

From what you've said it seems like you've met her once - how about talking to her a bit more, and then figure out what you want? And just go into it without specific intentions, if she's interested you'll figure it out.

[Daniel Smith]

Okay so I had infatuation on someone online earlier this year that lasted a few months until I went to far (not the proudest moment of my life) and I am trying to contact her to apologize, I even tried contacting some of her best friends but they just ignore me.

All I want to do is say I'm sorry but I can't even do that.

[editline]4th October 2013[/editline]

This guilt went so far that I slapped myself very hard multiple times because that is what she would have done

[jhfjdh746]

Talked to her again today; she got back together with the tool that cheated on her.

[RocketRacer]

I don't even know how to feel about this.

There is a girl in my arts class that I think I might have got crush on...The problem is, I only know her for two days(two days ago I first time talked to her since I started studying) so I don't know anything about her and vice versa. I am fucking sure that I have absolutely zero chance, but I am trying not to think about it because, well, this is wrong. I don't know anything about her but I got a crush on her because of her appearence.

this is bad.

[Dyson6]

I had a good first date with a girl a few days ago, and we both agreed that we wanted to see each other again and have a second planned, but I'm not sure if I'm going about communication in-between then correctly?

I've started a text conversation with her at least for a little while each day, but is that too much if we've only had one date and I didn't really even make a move physically? She seems genuinely into the conversation because she'll ask questions and make jokes and stuff, but at the same time, she's never actually initiated a conversation. Is she maybe just humoring me? Or am I contacting her enough for the both of us?