Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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Well today I managed to compliment a girl on her appearance and I wasn't a stuttering mess when I did it. I feel like I accomplished something.
Congratulations.
Well I'm kind of pissed.
Today, I was waiting outside of my engineering class for the previous class to leave. Cue my ex, her new boyfriend and his friend walking up. She sets her stuff down in the hall and goes to use the bathroom. While she was gone I noticed her bf was talking to his friend about me from about 10-20ft away. I didn't really catch everything they were saying, but I could clearly pick out him saying "Why doesn't she like me anymore?" in a whiny, condescending tone, and something along the lines of "I should just go and tell it like it is." I don't know if I was meant to hear them or they were just bad at covering it up, it pissed me off nonetheless.
I mean, for fuck's sake, I'm not some hopeless angsty teen trying to revive a dead relationship. Yeah, getting over this has been a little hard, but I'm not fucking clueless. Seriously, how fucking immature do you have to be that you have to stroke your ego over the fact that I'm your girlfriend's ex.The only time I've ever spoken to this guy was when I [I]was[/I] dating my ex. I can only guess this is shit she's been relaying to him, not that I have a problem with her talking about it. It's still kind of an asshole-ish thing to do, to make comments and shit like that. I had half a mind to confront her about it, but I figured that would just stir more shit up and get her pissed at me.
If it's going to come full circle like this, I'm just fucking done. I'm sick of trying to move on and then hive shit blow up in my face to remind me. If I have to cut off ties to be done with this, then so be it. I may not be able to cut every tie, and I may be losing a friend in the process, but if this is what it takes, then so be it. Good riddance.
If that happened to me, I wouldn't have bottled everything up to talk about later on. I'd have gone up to her boyfriend and asked him what the fuck his problem was. He's clearly being a massive cunt for the sake of it, and you should have called him out on his bullshit. They probably wanted you to hear, and you ignoring it is only going to make the dick be more of a condescending asshole in the future.
Good luck with the future man, ex's like that are scum. Relaying your personal messages to a douchebag is seriously not okay.
[QUOTE=fishyfish777;42440741]I don't exactly have social anxiety or any sort of trouble talking to random people but as someone who grew up their entire childhood spending about 8+ hours a day on the computer, it just dawned on me after a conversation with a friend that most people don't spend 90 hours a week on a computer in college
oh god what am I doing with my life I need to go out and socialize but how[/QUOTE]
being on a computer that much isn't that healthy, but there's nothing wrong with being introverted (if this is the case). extroverts are not better people than introverts and preferring to keep to yourself doesn't make you any worse of a person than someone who prefers being around others.
you should look for other hobbies outside of your computer and probably find a way of getting regular exercise.
i don't think introversion has anything to do with preferring to keep to yourself
i consider myself an introvert but i like being around people, but being around people also drains me emotionally, where i'll end up irritable and grumpy by the end of the night, i wouldn't rather be on a computer by myself but it recharges my social battery in a way to have alone time
Sometimes I quit my skype and turn off any link to the outside world I have on the computer and don't answer phones for a full week, I do that once a year maybe, I feel refreshed by the end.
[QUOTE=loopoo;42447299]If that happened to me, I wouldn't have bottled everything up to talk about later on. I'd have gone up to her boyfriend and asked him what the fuck his problem was. He's clearly being a massive cunt for the sake of it, and you should have called him out on his bullshit. They probably wanted you to hear, and you ignoring it is only going to make the dick be more of a condescending asshole in the future.
Good luck with the future man, ex's like that are scum. Relaying your personal messages to a douchebag is seriously not okay.[/QUOTE]
The thing is my ex would never try to pull shit like that. We're totally cool with each other, other than the fact that I haven't completely moved on. She probably has been telling him about what's been going on, but I would her to tell her SO if no one else. I'm mainly just pissed that he's such a cunt and pulls this shit.
Like I said, I met him when my ex and I were still together. He was an annoying cunt then and he is an annoying cunt now.
[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;42447936]i don't think introversion has anything to do with preferring to keep to yourself
i consider myself an introvert but i like being around people, but being around people also drains me emotionally, where i'll end up irritable and grumpy by the end of the night, i wouldn't rather be on a computer by myself but it recharges my social battery in a way to have alone time[/QUOTE]
by definition introverts prefer solitary activities to social ones, i think it's fair to assume that in most cases an introvert would prefer being alone to going out to parties in their spare time.
[editline]7th October 2013[/editline]
but yes it's possible that there are other reasons like social ineptness that could come into play, i'm just saying that if he legitimately just doesn't enjoy being around others constantly there's nothing wrong with it. too much effort is spent trying to "fix" introverts because a line isn't drawn for what's unhealthy and what's personal preference.
Hi LA,
I don't normally post here, but I'm sort of in shock. I was talking to a girl I know really well, and she said flat out that she's going to prom with me - should I take this as a sign to move forward? I'm assuming that all signs point to yes here - we've been good friends for a while and she was definitely genuine in what she said after. I already said that I wouldn't ever turn her down, and she's good like that - but prom is several months off, so should I interpret this as a sign to act?
YES! Feels awesome, doesn't it?
Gonna ask a girl who's caught my eye every day in class to a toga date party. Never even had a conversation with her but let's see how this goes.
Girlfriend goes to college an hour away
I only see her on the weekends now, and I work on the weekends. Im really starting to feel the separtation, I feel so sorry for anyone who has a real long-distance relationship.
Lots of stress lately with missing her, working 38 hours a week, and trying to keep my grades above B level.
[QUOTE=loopoo;42450623]YES! Feels awesome, doesn't it?[/QUOTE]
Yeah, my heart leapt when she talked to me about it. Intoxicating would be the term I would use to describe it.
I don't know if it's just the fall taking its toll on me, but i'm starting to feel terrible because pretty much all of my friends are or at least have been in some kind of a relationship at some point, and here i am with jack shit.
And so far every time i've even come close, it's [b]always[/b] gone to shit sooner or later.
I just don't see what's wrong.
Well, i'm definitely no fucking Brad Pitt, so there's that, but i've seen some waaayyy worse cases get bitches.
And at least i take good care of my looks to put the little that i have to good use.
I'm not some anti-social "nice guy" neckbeard either.
I just try to be nice to people and at least get along with everyone even if i wouldn't exactly like them.
Some of my friends have even called me one of the nicest people they know, so i guess i'm not a total dick.
Well on the bright side, i'm still young so everything's possible.
I just had to vent a little because i was seriously feeling shitty about this.
So this girl i used to be pretty close to from a little more than a year ago, we went out alot of times, drinking coffee together talking etc. she traveled alot back then so i didn't see a great chance of telling her how i felt about her. Well last year i kind of cut the contact with her after feeling it didn't get anywhere and i was more or less getting friend zoned. Would it be weird to regain contact with her again after so long and ask her out?
[QUOTE=DudesonFan;42454033]I don't know if it's just the fall taking its toll on me, but i'm starting to feel terrible because pretty much all of my friends are or at least have been in some kind of a relationship at some point, and here i am with jack shit.
And so far every time i've even come close, it's [b]always[/b] gone to shit sooner or later.
I just don't see what's wrong.
Well, i'm definitely no fucking Brad Pitt, so there's that, but i've seen some waaayyy worse cases get bitches.
And at least i take good care of my looks to put the little that i have to good use.
I'm not some anti-social "nice guy" neckbeard either.
I just try to be nice to people and at least get along with everyone even if i wouldn't exactly like them.
Some of my friends have even called me one of the nicest people they know, so i guess i'm not a total dick.
Well on the bright side, i'm still young so everything's possible.
I just had to vent a little because i was seriously feeling shitty about this.[/QUOTE]
How old are you?
[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;42454177]How old are you?[/QUOTE]
19.
Am I wrong to think certain people put too much emphasis on wanting to have a significant other? Might be because I never had one but I'm 21 and I'm at the best I've ever been currently, I have all the time in the world to do the things I love and follow my goals, not that I wouldn't want a significant other but I'm not sad at all about having never had one.
[QUOTE=hunterNormandy;42454265]Listen you're not the only one.
I know what its like to feel alone.
its a feeling no one should go through.
don't beat yourself up, there's plenty of people out there.[/QUOTE]
Thanks man.
At least i don't feel completely alone since i have a lot of good friends.
[QUOTE=DudesonFan;42454389]Thanks man.
At least i don't feel completely alone since i have a lot of good friends.[/QUOTE]
At least you have that. My good friends are all abandoning me for girls.
[QUOTE=DudesonFan;42454226]19.[/QUOTE]
So am I.
Before my current girlfriend of 5 months, I had never had a girlfriend before.
Eventually youll find someone who just clicks into place with you and it will all be worth it.
if you're alone then seek others out instead of waiting for them to come to you.
that's why we should be together bb
I hate going on Twitter/Tumblr and seeing friends post about being sad or some shit like that. I feel the need to ask them about it and if I can help but I always feel like I'm butting into their business. So I feel bad either ways. Fuck.
[QUOTE=Rammaster;42455650]I hate going on Twitter/Tumblr and seeing friends post about being sad or some shit like that. I feel the need to ask them about it and if I can help but I always feel like I'm butting into their business. So I feel bad either ways. Fuck.[/QUOTE]
If they are being purposely being vague, they are probably looking for attention. Don't feel bad.
I've always had a visual hallucination problem but it has gotten worse. If I turn out the lights I see shapes and people and monsters that aren't there, this is NOT normal. It is getting extremely bad to the point where I have trouble sleeping because of these hallucinations.
[QUOTE=Daniel Smith;42461951]I've always had a visual hallucination problem but it has gotten worse. If I turn out the lights I see shapes and people and monsters that aren't there, this is NOT normal. It is getting extremely bad to the point where I have trouble sleeping because of these hallucinations.[/QUOTE]
You should probably go see a doctor.
I feel like something is missing. I also feel like there is something holding me back, i don't know what it is or what it is holding me back from.
[QUOTE=Gatsby;42462464]I feel like something is missing. I also feel like there is something holding me back, i don't know what it is or what it is holding me back from.[/QUOTE]
Just do it, and try your best. Not even trying is the worst fate.
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