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Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

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No shit she doesn't know I exist if I haven't talked to her. I'm honestly scared to talk to her because of how bad talking to girls always goes for me.

[QUOTE=MuffinZerg;42488931]I have been there a month ago bro. It is normal. Your girlfriend seems quite rude breaking up like this. 2 years just to not be alone? So here is the thing. You will feel like shit. You will miss her. You will feel hopeless. But it's something that will get better if you move on. Best you can do is to change your life a bit. Go pick up a new hobby. Meet a new friend. Learn a new thing. You will feel like you want to just stand and cry, but that's what you have to fight. You should realise that now both you and your ex are moving separate ways. Memorize the good things and try to move on. I would strongly advice to break contact with her. You will feel like rummaging throught your past together with her, but that will only hurt you more. You may restore contact and even try to date again, but only after a long break. Also stay the hell out of other relationships. I made a mistake of starting a realtionship while I wasn't over my break up yet. It was completely terrible, worst mistake I made. Life's not over mate. Don't give up.[/QUOTE] Thanks man, I owe you.

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42492607]No shit she doesn't know I exist if I haven't talked to her. I'm honestly scared to talk to her because of how bad talking to girls always goes for me.[/QUOTE] Shit man, we've told you hundreds of times, just FUCKING GO and talk to her, nobody will love you just because you exist.

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42492544]I would if I had talked to her before and felt like she was at least somewhat interested in me. But I haven't talked to her and she doesn't even know I exist even though I'm literally sitting 5 seats away from her right now.[/QUOTE] Alright. Your plan of actions: 1. Stop treating yourself so poorly. You are not worse, then anyone. The mindset of a looser is the first thing to fight, without it you can achieve most things. 2. Have a casual talk with her. Just do it. She might reject you - it's okay, the social circle will probably react agressively to it (I suppose you are known as a shy guy). But it's a start. Just talk to her really. Don't ask her out, talk to her. 3. If anyone tries to mock you over it, don't get provoked. Don't start explaining yourself. Respond with a joke if you want or tell them to fuck off, whichever fits you better.

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42492607]No shit she doesn't know I exist if I haven't talked to her. I'm honestly scared to talk to her because of how bad talking to girls always goes for me.[/QUOTE] ugh just go up to her (if her friends are there, just ask her if you can have a word with her and her friends will likely leave you two to it) and ask her if she maybe wants to go get a coffee sometime or whatever. it's that simple. if you get nervous, just remember... worst possible outcome: she simply declines, which might suck a little, but hey, it's not the end of the world, and you won't be in any worse a position than you currently are. best possible outcome: she says yes, you guys go on a date, and who the fuck knows, maybe you guys will actually really hit it off. you have nothing to lose by just asking her.

It's not that easy for me to go talk to her. I'm a fucking massive introvert and girls don't start conversations with guys.

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42492712]It's not that easy for me to go talk to her. I'm a fucking massive introvert and girls don't start conversations with guys.[/QUOTE] dude i'm a huge introvert too. you just gotta suck it up and talk to her man. i know it's hard but it's the only way to really overcome your introversion.

Neergh but guys if I talk to her one of her friends might talk to me and he has facial hair what if facepunch found out I spoke to a neckbeard I might just die And sitting in self pity calling yourself a introvert who can't talk to girls is a shitty attitude and until you get rid of that you won't get anywhere.

I think we should look for the source of the problem, what holds you back from doing it?

Feels so easy to advice everyone when your own social life is a disaster.

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42492712]It's not that easy for me to go talk to her. I'm a fucking massive introvert and girls don't start conversations with guys.[/QUOTE] Look at ya! Sniveling wretch

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42492712]It's not that easy for me to go talk to her. I'm a fucking massive introvert and girls don't start conversations with guys.[/QUOTE] Lemme tell you right now. Just go do it. Up until I started college this year, I was a massive fucking introvert too. I still am in many ways, but the people I have mustered up the courage to talk to have supported me every step of the way, and made my life that much better. Seriously, just do it. Worst case, you've proven that you're capable of doing it, and next time might not be as bad. Best case, you meet someone awesome who may be willing to help you take the next step.

I ust want to say to the guys who are afraid to even talk to the girls.. If you really, truly think you don't have a chance, then you have nothing to lose. If you are in the mindset that no matter what happens, you won't be able to be with a girl, then nothing can really go wrong. You can't lose her, so you should just try! (or any gender going after any gender. Just talk to people)

[QUOTE=opti2000;42483201]I was once in the exact same situation like you but my version ended bad...with a broken heart and lovesickness... You should really talk to her and ask what's wrong. I mean you are a human and humans are not able to read minds. Communication is really important. I guess you like her in a special way (love) and if thats true dont let her go.[/QUOTE] Oh fuck i tried to message her, i've messaged her several times before, but this time i tried to talk about normal stuff at first hell it was so fucking akward, fuck this isn't going to end well.

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42492712]It's not that easy for me to go talk to her. I'm a fucking massive introvert and girls don't start conversations with guys.[/QUOTE] Take it slow then. Who said you have to befriend girls you have feelings for? Try and talk to a girl who you don't have a crush on. It'd help build up your confidence, and hopefully shatter the illusion of girls being different to guys. If you just talk to them like they're human beings (as opposed to sea monsters), you'll be grand. If you're a boring person, change that! Start rock climbing, take up a sport, do some archery, whatever. It'll give you topics to talk about that are actually interesting. Once you overcome that beginning hurdle, everything'll slide into place and become so much easier.

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;42493658]Oh fuck i tried to message her, i've messaged her several times before, but this time i tried to talk about normal stuff at first hell it was so fucking akward, fuck this isn't going to end well.[/QUOTE] Messaging before a real talk? That's the best way to expose that you have no balls. No offense, it's a dumb move.

[QUOTE=MuffinZerg;42493674]Messaging before a real talk? That's the best way to expose that you have no balls. No offense, it's a dumb move.[/QUOTE] I won't see her until monday, and i thought it would be better earlier than later, anyways, i didn't told her anything about it because the conversation was not going well.

really, why this thread is captioned "just fucking ask her out" is because of stuff like this. going to say it again, doing your best and failing is so much better than not trying at all. you can learn so much from your failures, next time your best will be 10x better. trust me. Heres a good video about trying new things that I saw on tumblr the other day. [video=youtube;qM5Qwk5NRlA]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qM5Qwk5NRlA[/video]

I hadn't actually done anything with my friends in months so today I asked a few if I could hang out with them sometime this weekend and they laughed at me. Am I missing something here? Did I do something wrong or just funny or what?

Sometimes when I get up too fast I see stars in my vision followed by everything going dark and a headache. Is this normal?

[QUOTE=Daniel Smith;42494067]Sometimes when I get up too fast I see stars in my vision followed by everything going dark and a headache. Is this normal?[/QUOTE] Depends on how severe the semi-blindness and headaches are but generally yeah, that's blood rushing to your head. I get severe (but short) headaches and dizziness when I get up too fast. Same with my friends and my mum.

[QUOTE=Krinkels;42494027]I hadn't actually done anything with my friends in months so today I asked a few if I could hang out with them sometime this weekend and they laughed at me. Am I missing something here? Did I do something wrong or just funny or what?[/QUOTE] I don't see the problem. Unless these friends of yours want to make fun of you for some reason the reaction is strange.

[QUOTE=Catscratch;42494094]Depends on how severe the semi-blindness and headaches are but generally yeah, that's blood rushing to your head. I get severe (but short) headaches and dizziness when I get up too fast. Same with my friends and my mum.[/QUOTE] It might also mean you have low blood pressure.

Alright, so obviously I've heard how and why a movie is a bad first date but how is it for number three? Last time we just got dinner and walked around downtown which was fun, but I'm not totally sure how to follow it up.

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;42492822]I think we should look for the source of the problem, what holds you back from doing it?[/QUOTE] Constant rejection from girls I try to talk to for reasons that are completely unknown to me and it makes me feel like it's not worth it because I see literally no reason why it should go any better with the next girl I talk to.

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42494879]Constant rejection from girls I try to talk to for reasons that are completely unknown to me and it makes me feel like it's not worth it because I see literally no reason why it should go any better with the next girl I talk to.[/QUOTE] What do you classify as "rejection"?

So, just random tip out of the blue here - If any of you can play guitar and are close enough friends with a girl you're interested in, consider playing her "Most Beautiful Girl (In The Room)" by Flight of the Conchords. I kid you not, this is the second time I've done it and she loved it. I posted it to her Facebook wall and everybody thought it was great / cute / hilarious. Just post and play it in the least creepiest way possible and you'll gain some points. You can even implement some of your own stuff in there as far as lyrics go. Both of the girls I sang it for were from work (two different jobs) and I mentioned that in there. Where I'm going with this is it's a fun, ballsy way to spark some interest and show that you can play guitar and sing. Plus it's a really happy-go-lucky song. The first girl I played it for I ended up dating for about 8 months, still in the early stages with this new girl, but it definitely broke some ice and made her laugh (in a good way). [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9jLDZjMF3tk[/media]

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;42495013]What do you classify as "rejection"?[/QUOTE] Making herself difficult to talk to, generally acting uninterested in me or anything I have to say.

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42494879]Constant rejection from girls I try to talk to for reasons that are completely unknown to me and it makes me feel like it's not worth it because I see literally no reason why it should go any better with the next girl I talk to.[/QUOTE] Even if a million girls reject you, you have 3.499billion girls to go.

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42495055]Making herself difficult to talk to, generally acting uninterested in me or anything I have to say.[/QUOTE] Well, what do you usually have to say?

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