Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Taepodong-2]

[QUOTE=Psychokitten;42495105]Well, what do you usually have to say?[/QUOTE]

I pretty much just ask tge typical questions of where they're from and what their major is. I cant think of anything else I could possibly say.

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=Juice_Layer;42495039]So, just random tip out of the blue here -

If any of you can play guitar and are close enough friends with a girl you're interested in, consider playing her "Most Beautiful Girl (In The Room)" by Flight of the Conchords. I kid you not, this is the second time I've done it and she loved it. I posted it to her Facebook wall and everybody thought it was great / cute / hilarious. Just post and play it in the least creepiest way possible and you'll gain some points. You can even implement some of your own stuff in there as far as lyrics go. Both of the girls I sang it for were from work (two different jobs) and I mentioned that in there.

Where I'm going with this is it's a fun, ballsy way to spark some interest and show that you can play guitar and sing. Plus it's a really happy-go-lucky song. The first girl I played it for I ended up dating for about 8 months, still in the early stages with this new girl, but it definitely broke some ice and made her laugh (in a good way).[/QUOTE]

i agree playing guitar is the best way into a girls heart, heck when i play this song for any girl they ask me to take her home ;)

[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c9tihJqWayo[/media]

[editline]11th October 2013[/editline]

by take home i mean i have sex with them btw

[Juice_Layer]

and by have sex with them, i mean against their will

[opti2000]

[QUOTE=Juice_Layer;42495529]and by have sex with them, i mean against their will[/QUOTE]

Its called rape :P

[Juice_Layer]

[QUOTE=opti2000;42495894]Its called rape :P[/QUOTE]

not if you kill them first

[♠️♥️♦️♣️]

you guys are weirdos

[Catshit]

[QUOTE=Mobon1;42495929]you guys are weirdos[/QUOTE]

[B]WELCOME TO THE INTERNET SIR[/B]

[MaverickIB]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42495162]I pretty much just ask tge typical questions of where they're from and what their major is. I cant think of anything else I could possibly say.[/QUOTE]

Talk about things you're interested in. Who gives a shit how not-cool you think they are or whatever, if you like computers and nerdy shit, talk about computers and nerdy shit. This isn't fucking high school anymore, they aren't stupid girls who just want to be with the guy with the biggest biceps, intelligent women want to be with someone who is passionate about things. They may not know a damn thing about what you're interested in, but it's not like they're unwilling to learn.

I have always been and will always be an introvert. I am not an extremely social person. I don't approach people and try to make conversation. I spend most of my life alone, which I have no problem with. I dick around on the computer, go to the gym, and go to work. But I'm passionate about what I do, I absolutely love bodybuilding and everything about it. When people ask me what I enjoy doing, I don't act embarrassed or try to find some cookie-cutter response, I tell them I love sculpting the body. I tell them about how the body works, these girls have no fucking clue what I'm saying but they absolutely love that I'm passionate about something. It makes no sense to people spectating, why the fuck would any girl be interested in some ultra-narcissistic dude who only cares about being shredded as fuck right? It isn't because I'm an asshole (actually a really nice dude when it comes to females) or any dumb bullshit like that, it's because I'm not afraid of being myself. Females are drawn to me because I am unique, I don't try to be like everyone else, so I stand out.

You have to learn how to be comfortable in your own skin. Stop trying to be something you aren't, stop trying to force conversations in ways you aren't comfortable with. If you're awkward with a strange sense of humor, be awkward with a strange sense of humor. You might turn off a lot of people, but fuck, eventually you will find someone just like yourself and everything will click. Who knows, maybe that girl you think is totally normal is actually putting on an act just to fit in, and is actually strange as fuck just like you. If you sit there asking her what her major is and other stupid bullshit, you'll never find out.

There is nothing wrong with being an introvert. There is nothing wrong with not being like everyone else. There is nothing wrong with being awkward, having a sense of humor nobody understands, always choking on your words, those kinds of things are what make you who you are. I guarantee girls would prefer to be with someone who is true to themselves even if that means being awkward as shit over some faggot pretending to be something he isn't.

That's the problem. You're afraid of being yourself. That needs to fucking stop. There is nothing wrong with who you are. Embrace it.

[Guy Mannly]

mav summed it up pretty well.
no matter who you are, some people will like you and some won't. it's impossible to please everyone, but you have a much better shot at being interesting by being open about who you are. hiding any semblance of personality because you're too much of a wuss to accept rejection will only bore every person you meet.
the chick you're talking about in your class probably isn't your future wife. you probably won't even be compatible as friends. so just fucking talk to her, get it over with, and move on if it doesn't work. being rejected by one person isn't the end of the world. not getting along with another person isn't their fault for not liking you and it isn't your fault for not being perfect enough to them - it just means you don't work well together and that's it.

would you rather spend the rest of your life with someone who knows you're weird as hell and loves you for it, or spend the rest of your life keeping up an act that you were too afraid to drop when you first met them?

[editline]12th October 2013[/editline]

and jesus christ stop making excuses for your actions.

nobody has a perfect life. everyone has difficulties with something, having social anxiety is incredibly common. it's not everyone else's fault if you haven't adapted, it's yours for not trying. are you going to rattle off the list of excuses you've posted here to every person who ever wants to talk to you in real life? nobody cares about what your excuses are except for you, at the end of the day you're the one suffering from it, not everyone else.
so instead of trying to justify not trying to function like a normal human, go talk to someone you don't know, make yourself feel uncomfortable as fuck, and do it again and again until you realize that people aren't out to get you and talking to strangers isn't so bad.

[GoldenGnome]

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;42496439]Talk about things you're interested in. Who gives a shit how not-cool you think they are or whatever, if you like computers and nerdy shit, talk about computers and nerdy shit. This isn't fucking high school anymore, they aren't stupid girls who just want to be with the guy with the biggest biceps, intelligent women want to be with someone who is passionate about things. They may not know a damn thing about what you're interested in, but it's not like they're unwilling to learn.

I have always been and will always be an introvert. I am not an extremely social person. I don't approach people and try to make conversation. I spend most of my life alone, which I have no problem with. I dick around on the computer, go to the gym, and go to work. But I'm passionate about what I do, I absolutely love bodybuilding and everything about it. When people ask me what I enjoy doing, I don't act embarrassed or try to find some cookie-cutter response, I tell them I love sculpting the body. I tell them about how the body works, these girls have no fucking clue what I'm saying but they absolutely love that I'm passionate about something. It makes no sense to people spectating, why the fuck would any girl be interested in some ultra-narcissistic dude who only cares about being shredded as fuck right? It isn't because I'm an asshole (actually a really nice dude when it comes to females) or any dumb bullshit like that, it's because I'm not afraid of being myself. Females are drawn to me because I am unique, I don't try to be like everyone else, so I stand out.

You have to learn how to be comfortable in your own skin. Stop trying to be something you aren't, stop trying to force conversations in ways you aren't comfortable with. If you're awkward with a strange sense of humor, be awkward with a strange sense of humor. You might turn off a lot of people, but fuck, eventually you will find someone just like yourself and everything will click. Who knows, maybe that girl you think is totally normal is actually putting on an act just to fit in, and is actually strange as fuck just like you. If you sit there asking her what her major is and other stupid bullshit, you'll never find out.

There is nothing wrong with being an introvert. There is nothing wrong with not being like everyone else. There is nothing wrong with being awkward, having a sense of humor nobody understands, always choking on your words, those kinds of things are what make you who you are. I guarantee girls would prefer to be with someone who is true to themselves even if that means being awkward as shit over some faggot pretending to be something he isn't.

That's the problem. You're afraid of being yourself. That needs to fucking stop. There is nothing wrong with who you are. Embrace it.[/QUOTE]

fucking missed you maverick you incredible bastard

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;42497075]fucking missed you maverick you incredible bastard[/QUOTE]

shrug

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;42496439]Post[/QUOTE]

I often disagree with the way you post but this post is a really great thing and actually gave me a bit of an epiphany so thank you

[RainbowStalin]

One time I was super drunk in a club and I walked up to some random girl and was like 'DO YOU LIKE VIDEOGAMES' and she was like 'YES' and then we went out it was cool.

Obviously this isn't a good example of what to do but just talk to girls and eventually you'll meet someone you get along with. Getting rejected is not as terrible as you think it is.

[killerteacup]

I get REALLY awkward at clubs and shit and barely talk to strangers beyond a simple hello

its very frustrating its a weird instinctual unconcscious fear i cannot place

[Taepodong-2]

Ok I understand talking about things I'm passionate about. That's obviously more interesting than the dumb bullshit I normally say. The only problem is my complete and total lack of social skills means I don't know how I could steer a conversation in a way that lets me talk about things that interest me without just awkwardly going up to a girl and saying how awesome GTA V is or talking about the guns I'm going to buy when I get my firearms license.

[MaverickIB]

Who gives a fuck if it's awkward. If you want to talk about GTA V just sit down next to a girl in class or something, turn to her and go, "Wake me up if I pass out, I spent all night playing the new GTA." She might be like, "Uhhhh okay," which in that case you know she doesn't give a fuck nice try sit next to someone else next time. She might be like, "What the fuck is GTA?" and you can crack a joke like, "It's a hooker murdering simulator."

You don't have to preface conversations with generic shit. Just turn to someone and start talking about what you like. I'd steer away from talking about guns because of the environment you're in, that kind of stuff freaks people out, but mostly everything else is fair game.

There's no "steering" a conversation into a certain direction. You simply start in the direction you want to go. For example, I wouldn't turn and greet a girl with cookie cutter bullshit like, "How are you, enjoying this weather?" or some shit. The other day I sat next to a cute girl, stuck my arm out while turning to her and said, "Check out how veiny I am today holy shit." She asked me why the fuck my arms look like that, she's never seen someone that veiny, I told her I do WiiFit and Zumba.

Like I said, who gives a shit if it's awkward. Be awkward. Nobody fucking cares. You need to understand being awkward is a personality trait, and plenty of people find it attractive. I think it's the cutest thing ever when a girl is awkward and quirky, and I've met plenty of girls who find the same traits attractive in males. Not all girls are looking for some smooth talker Casanova.

[Loopoo]

Just throwing this out there: talking about something you're passionate about is awesome, but please don't be one of [I]those[/I] people that sort of seize a person for 10 minutes in a conversation about a dull topic. I've been on the receiving end and it sucks. It's usually the types of people who are really into gaming, so I'll be having to listen to League of Legend champions or the best way to kill so-and-so and it just gets really frustrating because I have to politely listen to it even though it really isn't my thing or whatever.

Just a heads up. When I'm talking about something I'm passionate about, I keep a mental check on it to make sure I don't overstay my welcome on the topic.

[MaverickIB]

[QUOTE=killerteacup;42499174]I get REALLY awkward at clubs and shit and barely talk to strangers beyond a simple hello

its very frustrating its a weird instinctual unconcscious fear i cannot place[/QUOTE]

I hate clubs as well but simply because it's impossible to talk to people at them and they are based around finding someone to pump and dump. The entire environment is just a place where you find someone physically attractive, walk up to them, and if they find you attractive as well then that's who you're going home with tonight. The loud music and whatnot actively discourages conversation/getting to know the person. It's pretty much a giant building with tons of people wearing, "I want to get laid," signs on their backs.

Just never has been and never will be my kind of place.

[NoDachi]

I think I've had equal success in pulling girls I never really spoke to in clubs, than those I've actually tried talking to.

So really isn't something you should start over thinking.

[RainbowStalin]

I only ever enjoy clubs if its me and people I know in a group on the dancefloor throwing out some hot shapes.

But I'd take a night in a pub over a night in a club any day.

[Leader of Me]

How should we go in for a hook up?

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=loopoo;42499446]Just throwing this out there: talking about something you're passionate about is awesome, but please don't be one of [I]those[/I] people that sort of seize a person for 10 minutes in a conversation about a dull topic. I've been on the receiving end and it sucks. It's usually the types of people who are really into gaming, so I'll be having to listen to League of Legend champions or the best way to kill so-and-so and it just gets really frustrating because I have to politely listen to it even though it really isn't my thing or whatever.

Just a heads up. When I'm talking about something I'm passionate about, I keep a mental check on it to make sure I don't overstay my welcome on the topic.[/QUOTE]

omg
no matter who you are
if you're one of the fucking people that play league of legends, please keep it to your fucking self
i used to play it and even i can't stand talking to other people who played it

[editline]12th October 2013[/editline]

but this applies to any subject, though especially video games. if the person doesn't know anything about the subject don't assume they're going to care about nuances that only someone who plays it would understand.

once my roommate had one of his pothead friends over and he and my bf ended up spending half an hour showing him all their different mounts in wow. he obviously didn't give a shit but they were so excited about explaining how they got each of them. it was terrible

[PuduEbooks]

Video games are socially a low-end hobbie, but it's not different from reading a book or watching a movie, you just have to keep it controlled, for example i had a friend who talked about Harry Potter the whole fucking day, it was terrible.

[Taepodong-2]

I guess I need a new hobby then because the only things I can really talk about in depth are games, guns and airsoft.

[Loopoo]

I remember I was talking to this girl and I started our conversation (we were talking about serious things like uni, school, degrees and all that and I wanted to lighten it up) with "Are you much of a reader?" and she said "Yeah!" and then when I asked her if she read any books that I had, she hadn't. I told her "Well this is the last time I ask someone if they're into reading" and we both laughed and it was pretty cool, even though it could have been awkward "Oh, you don't. Ok." <5 minute silence>.

If you're confident in yourself and relaxed, you can easily use any one of those three hobbies of yours to get a fun conversation going. I mean, I'd go so far as to invite them over to shoot one of my guns if they were up to it, it'd be fun as shit.

[Slowbro]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42501885]I guess I need a new hobby then because the only things I can really talk about in depth are games, guns and airsoft.[/QUOTE]

don't take up a new hobby just for the sake of talking to others about it.

[Loopoo]

[QUOTE][IMG]http://i.imgur.com/CydZBvZ.jpg[/IMG][/QUOTE]

Pretty awesome conversation starter tbh. I've had people come over and shoot it with me and it's pretty chill (it's fun to get competitions going between us).

[MaverickIB]

There's a difference between talking with someone and talking at someone.

If you sit there just drilling shit into their ear and they are either not responding or just going, "uh huh," you are talking at them. Involving the other person is important. Don't just go, "hurr durr I like guns let me tell you how much I love guns and how they do cool things," but pose questions. Ask what they think about gun control laws, if they would want people to be able to carry on campus, actually have a discussion instead of just blasting their ears off with rambling.

That's the problem with those League of Legends/dude who takes video games way too seriously type of people. They don't want to talk with you about the game, they don't want to discuss anything, they just want to tell you how much they love it. They don't care about your input at all. It's just a display of autism, "Hey guys let me tell you how much I love this even though you don't know me and don't give a fuck what I love."

I don't sit there and tell girls how much I love lifting weights and yadda yadda yadda. We have discussions about increasing obesity rates, how the fitness industry is based on scamming your stupid ass, fat doesn't make you fat, etc. You know, stuff that involves them providing input. Not just me rambling in their ear about bullshit while they sit there wishing I'd shut the fuck up.

[Splash Attack]

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;42502070]There's a difference between talking with someone and talking at someone.

If you sit there just drilling shit into their ear and they are either not responding or just going, "uh huh," you are talking at them. Involving the other person is important. Don't just go, "hurr durr I like guns let me tell you how much I love guns and how they do cool things," but pose questions. Ask what they think about gun control laws, if they would want people to be able to carry on campus, actually have a discussion instead of just blasting their ears off with rambling.

That's the problem with those League of Legends/dude who takes video games way too seriously type of people. They don't want to talk with you about the game, they don't want to discuss anything, they just want to tell you how much they love it. They don't care about your input at all. It's just a display of autism, "Hey guys let me tell you how much I love this even though you don't know me and don't give a fuck what I love."

I don't sit there and tell girls how much I love lifting weights and yadda yadda yadda. We have discussions about increasing obesity rates, how the fitness industry is based on scamming your stupid ass, fat doesn't make you fat, etc. You know, stuff that involves them providing input. Not just me rambling in their ear about bullshit while they sit there wishing I'd shut the fuck up.[/QUOTE]

Talking with random strangers about politically charged issues is something I'd generally advise against. Yeah, it's good to have engaging conversation, but I would choose another topic.

[MaverickIB]

Why is that? As long as you refrain from being an idiot who resorts to insults and other personal attacks, it's tons of fun having those discussions with strangers. Because a stranger has no incentive to be nice to you or whatever like a friend does, they aren't afraid to step on your toes and say something you might disagree with. Even if someone disagrees with me, its incredibly attractive when someone has the ability to hold an intelligent discussion. Plenty of people here know me, I tend to have views on subjects most people disagree with, it's no different with people in the real world. They disagree with me all the time but that doesn't stop them from being attracted to me because I'm not a twat about it. I'm just a twat about it here on FP sometimes because I will never meet any of you in real life therefore I have more freedom to dick around and push buttons, unlike a person in real life who I'd have to see every time I go to class or something.