Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[thisispain]

clash with my butt

[OscarLimaEcho]

I'd be honored

[thisispain]

as you should be

[Leader of Me]

I don't know if I'm strange but, ever since I broke up with my girlfriend I haven't really been attracted to anyone, yet whenever I dwell on her I feel instantly attracted to her. I don't have feelings for her its just strange that I don't really feel attracted to anyone else, its like I'm only attracted to her and no one else. Anyone experience this?

[Gobo]

[QUOTE=Grahamcracker;40214903]So I'm not sure if this is the thread for this but I want to vent it somewhere.

So me and this girl met about 3 and a half years ago when I got hired to work out of this retail store, we flirted for a couple weeks before we started dating. Most beautiful woman I've ever seen and she was actually into me, which was hard to believe since I'd been single for a year or two before that. Over the next few years we became inseparable, madly in love, and her family couldn't get enough of me to boot. While this was happening I was going through the paperwork of joining the US Air Force, something that I didn't have the courage or motivation to do before her. But she made me into the man I could never be by myself.

Fast forward to last November, I flew her out to England to meet my parents and take a vacation. While we were there I took her out to the cathedral in Peterborough, and amongst the Christmas lights and scenery, I proposed to her. She said yes, it was the happiest moment of my life. Two weeks later I was called early out to Basic Training.

During Basic we got one phone call a week(if we were lucky), and I always called her. she was my strength, my reason to get through that hellhole and every time I called I was reminded of how lucky I was. 8 weeks after that I graduated Basic and moved to technical training, basically college under military supervision. I've been here since, we've been skyping, texting and calling several times a week, either just to talk or to plan the wedding.

Well all the wedding planning was leading up to a wedding here last Saturday, but 3 days before that, I came home from work to a Dear John and the engagement ring. She basically told me she doesn't love me anymore, that she can't go on with this anymore. She apologized over and over, said it wasn't anything I did or didn't do. It just sort of happened. It's been nearly a week, I cant pay attention in class, I haven't slept in days, I'm slipping at work. I've become a crazy, emotional wreck. My friends want me to see the chaplain, my family is trying to paint her as a bad person to make me feel better, but I can't stop thinking about her.

She was my everything, I've had plenty of relationships before this, i'm not exactly the youngest guy. this has effected me differently though. I truly believed that I loved her, that she loved me. I thought she was the end. I was prepared to devote myself to a life with her, and now I have nothing. I don't know what to do with myself now.

If this is in the wrong thread i apologize, and I'll snip it.[/QUOTE]

So this is a bit of an update on this post I made several months back, I feel like I need to vent, or talk about it or something.

I've since graduated Tech School, got stationed, started living a normal life again. Except, as much as an obsessive creep as it makes me sound, I can't live normally, not happily anyway. I've deleted and trashed pictures, deleted everything off my phone, removed her from my life. She won't stay out of my head, I dream about her, I think about her. Worse is I shouldn't, I should hate her, I found out she was cheating on me while I was in basic, fucking the same guy she's with now.

You would think after hearing that it would help, but it didn't. I of course a month after hooked up with this girl, beautiful girl that I flirted with on a whim and ended up dating, sleeping with, living with. 4 months with her and a month in I was living in her apartment, her 8 year old son loved me, her family loved me... She loved me. But I didn't love her, I dumped her, left her on the curb because I couldn't let someone hurt me like my ex-fiance did. I'm seeing another girl now, only because I think it will help, but it doesn't. I can see the same cycle now with the last girl, and now I'm hurting people to save myself hurt.

I just don't know what to do with myself anymore. Work is the only place I'm not unhappy, where I deal with things more important than me and my mind can stay clear.

[RainbowStalin]

[QUOTE=Leader of Me;42518871]I don't know if I'm strange but, ever since I broke up with my girlfriend I haven't really been attracted to anyone, yet whenever I dwell on her I feel instantly attracted to her. I don't have feelings for her its just strange that I don't really feel attracted to anyone else, its like I'm only attracted to her and no one else. Anyone experience this?[/QUOTE]

You'll wake up one morning and realize you're no longer attracted to her and then you'll curse yourself for not getting over her sooner.

Just give it time.

[Aries]

I was thinking exactly like LeaderofMe was today, when all of a sudden this really amazingly attractive cute girl walks up to me and it turns out she's friends with my friend. Then I keep working and this other amazingly attractive girl walks in and we talk, I make her laugh, I get her name and introduce myself, and bam. I feel like I'm back in it. It feels [I]really[/I] good.

[NoDachi]

[QUOTE=thisispain;42518143]i think all men would like to think women feel more comfortable around them[/QUOTE]

idk there might be a little truth in it.

Maybe its not women being directly more comfortable around them, but they're more comfortable around women which can help with making friendships because god damn some men are awkward around women even platonically.

I grew up with just a mother and a sister and I find a lot of my closest friends are female.

[MaverickIB]

It might just me thinking that way but at the same time, I don't really see many males interacting with women the way I do. Like the other night, we hit the town square and it was just me and 5-6 other girls in our group. That sort of configuration, me being the only male, is pretty common for me. If they all didn't flirt and compete for my attention then I would totally feel like the gay friend.

[UncouthJungle]

What do you do if two girls are making fun of you and using the fact that they're girls, you can't do bullshit. I'd knock their teeth out but i don't want to go to jail yet and i'd like to hear some opinions here.

[Metallics]

[QUOTE=UncouthJungle;42521845]What do you do if two girls are making fun of you and using the fact that they're girls, you can't do bullshit. I'd knock their teeth out but i don't want to go to jail yet and i'd like to hear some opinions here.[/QUOTE]

Chill out a bit and don't take it so personally. I suspect if you didn't get so worked up over it it wouldnt be as fun for them.

[UncouthJungle]

[QUOTE=metallics;42521930]Chill out a bit and don't take it so personally. I suspect if you didn't get so worked up over it it wouldnt be as fun for them.[/QUOTE]

The thing is that they're making fun AND mocking me and my family, + when i tell them to back off they only laugh and think i'm kidding...they don't know yet that i'm willing to do everything to protect my family.

[Loopoo]

[QUOTE=UncouthJungle;42521949]The thing is that they're making fun AND mocking me and my family, + when i tell them to back off they only laugh and think i'm kidding...they don't know yet that i'm willing to do everything to protect my family.[/QUOTE]

Tell them if they don't knock it off, you won't be inviting them to your superhero themed 12th birthday party!! Also make fun of the fact they're girls and have cooties.

[NoDachi]

[QUOTE=UncouthJungle;42521949]The thing is that they're making fun AND mocking me and my family, + when i tell them to back off they only laugh and think i'm kidding...they don't know yet that i'm willing to do everything to protect my family.[/QUOTE]

how old are you seriously

[Loopoo]

Also show them your family katana heirloom that has been passed down generation to generation and defiantly and proudly proclaim that you will stop at nothing to protect the honour and safety of your family.

[editline]14th October 2013[/editline]

thanks for breaking my automerge NoDachi gosh (this is why we don't talk anymore).

[UncouthJungle]

Well if that's the response i'm getting, then i guess people here enjoy getting their family mocked, i feel sorry for you.

[zukriuchen]

[QUOTE=UncouthJungle;42522086]Well if that's the response i'm getting, then i guess people here enjoy getting their family mocked, i feel sorry for you.[/QUOTE]

dude you're taking jokes seriously, both from us and from those girls
theres your problem

[UncouthJungle]

[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;42522141]dude you're taking jokes seriously, both from us and from those girls
theres your problem[/QUOTE]

Let me RE-TELL you everybody HERE, my PROBLEM. It ISN'T the "jokes" or "mocking", it's that they're doing it LIKE they are bullying me! GET IT? Shit that hurts my feelings, and if you people tell me that i have to GET over it, then i seriously doubt you even know what you're talking about.

[zukriuchen]

[QUOTE=UncouthJungle;42522210]Let me RE-TELL you everybody HERE, my PROBLEM. It ISN'T the "jokes" or "mocking", it's that they're doing it LIKE they are bullying me! GET IT? Shit that hurts my feelings, and if you people tell me that i have to GET over it, then i seriously doubt you even know what you're talking about.[/QUOTE]

no you dont have to get over it, go ahead and feel as hurt as youre physically able to, but as long as you show them that you care, they're gonna keep doing it

[editline]14th October 2013[/editline]

you either mock them back or you dont give a shit, but ~defending your family's honor~ isnt gonna do much

[MaverickIB]

If it bothers you then leave/avoid them. Why is that so difficult.

[UncouthJungle]

Well, i've tried not giving a fuck, but as soon as a "open" chance comes, they start doing it, and well, me just not giving a fuck makes it more funnier to them, which makes them do it more...i guess i'll just have to live through 1 more year with those cunts...

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=UncouthJungle;42522514]Well, i've tried not giving a fuck, but as soon as a "open" chance comes, they start doing it, and well, me just not giving a fuck makes it more funnier to them, which makes them do it more...i guess i'll just have to live through 1 more year with those cunts...[/QUOTE]

when you're saying shit like "defending your family's honor", are you really sure they think you don't care what they're saying?

[Agoat]

[QUOTE=UncouthJungle;42521845]What do you do if two girls are making fun of you and using the fact that they're girls, you can't do bullshit. I'd knock their teeth out but i don't want to go to jail yet and i'd like to hear some opinions here.[/QUOTE]
You should make fun of them. What do they like and what do they look like, I'll come up with some stuff right now.

[UncouthJungle]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;42522537]when you're saying shit like "defending your family's honor", are you really sure they think you don't care what they're saying?[/QUOTE]

I haven't said anything to them, it's just inside me.

[Agoat]

Actually only make fun of them if you're quick witted.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=UncouthJungle;42522579]I haven't said anything to them, it's just inside me.[/QUOTE]

if you're really ignoring them and don't look like you're offended then they'll get bored of it sooner or later. not much you can do besides try and avoid them.

[Agoat]

Wait are you black or anything? Man, if you could spin this into racism you'd be a hilarious spot.

[UncouthJungle]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;42522618]if you're really ignoring them and don't look like you're offended then they'll get bored of it sooner or later. not much you can do besides try and avoid them.[/QUOTE]

Well, i'll try to ignore them for this time.

[Slowbro]

[QUOTE=Agoat;42522595]Actually only make fun of them if you're quick witted.[/QUOTE]

[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8l4r10MOH70[/media]

[Kindlinho]

I'm afraid he's not very old. Or bright.
[URL]https://twitter.com/MrDoubleKiller[/URL]
Enough said.

Anyway, yeah, ignore them. They just long for attention and when you take it away from them, they'll leave you alone eventually.