Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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So that girl I talked couple pages back, which is in my arts class that I like...Last thursday I managed to have a nice chat with her and her friend during lunch where we laughed a lot, we both, and since then I was 100% that I like her. Today, we had a double arts lesson, she saw my drawing and said that it is really nice, and when I responded 'thank you' she laughed a bit with her (female)friend, but not like 'hahaha what a looser can't speak english properly'(or something(I am a native-russian speaking student in London)) but exactly opposite, and when I went to the studio to put back my book, and she came out of it, she was smiling to me all time while she was passing near me. What could it possibly mean when a girl smiles a lot to you? Is that because I have a 'nice accent' or because I am a foreigner and she likes this(apparently), or something else?
[QUOTE=CommanderPT;42530698]My real name is Peyman so I just ran up on stage yelling "I am Peyman. I make criminals [I]pay[/I]!". :v:
While I would like to show it I think it is better that I don't. There is a lot of stuff that we would like to keep secret for the following years. But I made this gif for you all. It is kind of crap since I tried to keep it under 10mb. But you can still see me and my glorious underpantaloons.
[IMG]http://pahlavan.se/dump/underpantaloons.gif[/IMG]
So what I am trying to say here is, don't be afraid to do stupid shit. Since stupid shit is the best shit ever.[/QUOTE]
that gif is all i needed
many thanks!
I wish I was still at the age where my opinions on relationships wasn't filled with anger and regret.
wow, that might be my most depressing post, ever.
[QUOTE=CommanderPT;42524941]Seeing as you are in Sweden. Which Uni? Because KTH is a sausagefest.
Is this the part where we discover that we are classmates?[/QUOTE]
I dont go to Uni. Upper secondary highscool is what I go to. In Swedish=gymnasium. Haha. I dont know if it is IT Engineering I study.
[QUOTE=MadBomber;42530896]I take nobody has a solution to my problem then, maybe it's too complicated to just fix so easy.[/QUOTE]
not much you can do.
don't bother with long distance unless there's a foreseeable end to it. ldrs suck and if you're planning to just do the same painful thing of visiting two or three times a year for the next 10 years, you might as well break it off sooner rather than later. unless you're able to move in together it never gets better.
and long distance or not, most people don't appreciate being cheated on. if you have different values about that then you need to discuss it and try to come to an understanding.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42526867]I never realized how spoiled I am compared to some people. All of my classes have at least a 50/50 girl/guy split.[/QUOTE]
try 80/20 girl guy split in art college son
at uni its more like 60/40 now though
So how exactly am I supposed to start a conversation with a girl when I sit by her in a class without resorting to boring bullshit just for the sake of saying something?
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42533359]So how exactly am I supposed to start a conversation with a girl when I sit by her in a class without resorting to boring bullshit just for the sake of saying something?[/QUOTE]
Don't start a conversation when you have nothing to say. Wait for something to happen or make something happen. Bring something interesting to school and take it out when you are sitting by her, make her be all "wow what's that".
[QUOTE=MuffinZerg;42533378]Don't start a conversation when you have nothing to say. Wait for something to happen or make something happen. Bring something interesting to school and take it out when you are sitting by her, make her be all "wow what's that".[/QUOTE]
Just make sure that it's NOT your penis you're taking out.
My suggestion would be just say "Hi, I'm Taepodong-2!". More likely than not, it'll strike up a conversation. Sounds a lot easier than it actually is, but once you start talking, it'll be much easier.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42533359]So how exactly am I supposed to start a conversation with a girl when I sit by her in a class without resorting to boring bullshit just for the sake of saying something?[/QUOTE]
Out of all these social problems facing you, I'd be happy with taking just being 'boring'.
[QUOTE=Emugod;42533452]Just make sure that it's NOT your penis you're taking out.
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Next day: Breaking! Kid brought a gun to school!
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42533359]So how exactly am I supposed to start a conversation with a girl when I sit by her in a class without resorting to boring bullshit just for the sake of saying something?[/QUOTE]
If you don't have anything interesting to say, nobody is going to want to listen to you anyway.
[QUOTE=Emugod;42533452]Just make sure that it's NOT your penis you're taking out.
My suggestion would be just say "Hi, I'm Taepodong-2!". More likely than not, it'll strike up a conversation. Sounds a lot easier than it actually is, but once you start talking, it'll be much easier.[/QUOTE]
I can do that, it just always leads to a boring conversation.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;42533490]maybe you're just boring???[/QUOTE]
I am and I'm aware of that. But I can at least learn how to pretend to not be boring.
you can't pretend
i mean you've been boring us to death for the last few weeks
but without being overly pessimistic towards you, being boring isn't really genetic so w/e sort your life out a little bit and don't expect miracles overnight
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42533516]I am and I'm aware of that. But I can at least learn how to pretend to not be boring.[/QUOTE]
Dude, read a book about social interaction. I linked you to one earlier. Seriously, do it. There is just too much for you to learn, we can write pages and pages about it here, but won't bother. It's like having to describe how to live.
People always seem miffed whenever I talk to them and eventually just start ignoring me.
People who consider themselves my "friends," mind you.
Whose fault is this? Is it mine for having some unknown personality trait that makes people hate me, or is it theirs for being generally shitty at maintaining relationships?
[QUOTE=MuffinZerg;42533530]Dude, read a book about social interaction. I linked you to one earlier. Seriously, do it. There is just too much for you to learn, we can write pages and pages about it here, but won't bother. It's like having to describe how to live.[/QUOTE]
I don't think that will actually give him something to talk about though... he needs to actually do a little something with his life.
[QUOTE=pdp;42533531]People always seem miffed whenever I talk to them and eventually just start ignoring me.
People who consider themselves my "friends," mind you.
Whose fault is this? Is it mine for having some unknown personality trait that makes people hate me, or is it theirs for being generally shitty at maintaining relationships?[/QUOTE]
Ask them yourself?
[QUOTE=pdp;42533531]People always seem miffed whenever I talk to them and eventually just start ignoring me.
People who consider themselves my "friends," mind you.
Whose fault is this? Is it mine for having some unknown personality trait that makes people hate me, or is it theirs for being generally shitty at maintaining relationships?[/QUOTE]
Guess it's both. If people are ignoring you then you should ditch contact with them.
Then revise your usual choice of topics, words and your body language. Think what might be making it boring for them.
Maybe your back is the shape of "?" and no one can take you seriously? Maybe you don't maintain eye contact and appear lying, even when telling the truth? Maybe you hurt their feelings or judge them? Tell stories when people don't want to hear them?
When you figure what your possible mistakes are, try to make a few new contacts. Then, if you are confident enough, you can go back to these friends of yours and be fine. Wouldn't trust them much if they behave like that tho.
[QUOTE=MuffinZerg;42533582]Guess it's both. If people are ignoring you then you should ditch contact with them.
Then revise your usual choice of topics, words and your body language. Think what might be making it boring for them.
Maybe your back is the shape of "?" and no one can take you seriously? Maybe you don't maintain eye contact and appear lying, even when telling the truth? Maybe you hurt their feelings or judge them? Tell stories when people don't want to hear them?
When you figure what your possible mistakes are, try to make a few new contacts. Then, if you are confident enough, you can go back to these friends of yours and be fine. Wouldn't trust them much if they behave like that tho.[/QUOTE]
It's just a select group of people. I have friends who actually like being around me, but these guys are flakes. They always have an excuse to not hang out. I haven't done anything really to offend or hurt them, either, so maybe it's just a personality clash and I need some new friends.
[QUOTE=metallics;42533539]I don't think that will actually give him something to talk about though... he needs to actually do a little something with his life.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, but it will give him something on HOW to talk about things and not appear boring. The book I linked also tells the reader to actually go seek new activities and information, to be a more interesting person too.
Also my family are all starting to ask why I don't have a girlfriend yet. Is there some rule or something that says you need to have a girlfriend when you're almost 20 years old or something?
[QUOTE=pdp;42533606]It's just a select group of people. I have friends who actually like being around me, but these guys are flakes. They always have an excuse to not hang out. I haven't done anything really to offend or hurt them, either, so maybe it's just a personality clash and I need some new friends.[/QUOTE]
Then it seems like these people either behave like that with everybody or don't take you seriously. Either way I would suggest breaking contact with them for a week or so, just to see if they will check on you.
[editline]15th October 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42533620]Also my family are all starting to ask why I don't have a girlfriend yet. Is there some rule or something that says ypu need to have a girlfriend when you're almost 20 years old or something?[/QUOTE]
Wait, how old are you?
It means they're worried about you being the end of the genetic line. Generations of survival and reproduction only to come to a crashing halt because, "Waaah I don't know what to say."
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42533620]Also my family are all starting to ask why I don't have a girlfriend yet. Is there some rule or something that says ypu need to have a girlfriend when you're almost 20 years old or something?[/QUOTE]
you know there isn't a rule what the fuck
i'm sorry taopodong its prison for you with the other bachelors
[QUOTE=MuffinZerg;42533624]Then it seems like these people either behave like that with everybody or don't take you seriously. Either way I would suggest breaking contact with them for a week or so, just to see if they will check on you.[/QUOTE]
They never initiate the conversation, so yeah. They might as well be dead to me. It's unfortunate because I enjoyed their company. I guess the feelings weren't mutual.
[QUOTE=MuffinZerg;42533624]
Wait, how old are you?[/QUOTE]
19, will be 20 in March.
[QUOTE=NoDachi;42533642]you know there isn't a rule what the fuck
i'm sorry taopodong its prison for you with the other bachelors[/QUOTE]
you're not gonna make it man, get one quick!!
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