Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Taepodong-2]

[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;42545823]

then talk about tanks guns and military aircraft

aviation is interesting for everyone just make it sound deep
[/QUOTE]
I like planes because they're fast and loud and blow up brown people. How do I make that sound not weird?

[Guy Mannly]

here is something i don't think you're understanding
this is your life
the situations you're currently experiencing are the same ones you're going to experience for the rest of your life. stop waiting for a perfect opportunity. every time you go outside is an opportunity to meet someone, every day of your life is an opportunity to seek happiness and self-fulfillment. there isn't some cave of shy virgin women waiting for a defeatist self-pitying manchild to find them. if you want anything out of life you have to get it yourself. bitching and moaning on the internet to try and justify your lack of progress might be comforting for a while, but once the novelty of thinking you're a special needs kid wears off, you'll realize that it's your job to adapt to the world, not the rest of the world's to adapt to you. if you want anything out of life, you're going to have to fucking get it yourself, not bitch on a forum waiting for someone to buy you a mail-order bride.

[editline]16th October 2013[/editline]

you don't need advice. we've given you all the advice we can and it seems the only reason you're here is to argue why you can't grow up and be an adult like everyone else does. we can't teach you how to be better at something you won't even try. you need to fucking push yourself.

[Slowbro]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42545964]I like planes because they're fast and loud and [b]blow up brown people.[/b] How do I make that sound not weird?[/QUOTE]

what the fuck man

[pfoot]

[QUOTE=Slowbro;42546101]what the fuck man[/QUOTE]

he's making a joke but he doesn't know how to make it funny

[Taepodong-2]

[QUOTE=pfoot;42546115]he's making a joke but he doesn't know how to make it funny[/QUOTE]

This is what I'm doing. My social skills are just that fuck awful

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42545964]I like planes because they're fast and loud and blow up brown people. How do I make that sound not weird?[/QUOTE]

say it exactly like that

[ardosos]

How do I get more interests? Every time someone asks me what I do for fun I'm just like "man that's a really depressing question".

[ardosos]

[QUOTE=hunterNormandy;42546243]for starters dont say that, it probably kills all interest.[/QUOTE]

I usually just awkwardly try to make a joke ("I played a video game once...") and hope that somebody changes the subject before I have to give a definitive answer.

[Taepodong-2]

In a shocking turn of events I came imto my next class and talked to a girl and it went ok.

[MuffinZerg]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42546400]In a shocking turn of events I came imto my next class and talked to a girl and it went ok.[/QUOTE]

Now that's a plot twist

[Daniel Smith]

I've been making pretty shitty posts in SH lately and I need tips on how to not be so shitty.

[Emugod]

I'd really like to get to know the girl I like in university, but we are never in the same place at the same time. And, if we are, it's usually going in the opposite direction toward classes. What should I do? Should I wait for something to happen, or should I go out of my way to "coincidentally" be in the same place as her?

[Emugod]

[QUOTE=hunterNormandy;42546538]just ask her one day when you are passing by her if she would like to meet up some other time.

set a date for the future.

[editline]Edited:[/editline]

dont make it awkward on purpose, that can become a bad decision.[/QUOTE]

It's such a rare occurrence, though. I only ever see her once or twice a week. If I get lucky, 3 or 4 times. We have mutual friends -- though, I'm not very good friends with them -- so, maybe I could use them to my advantage?

[Emugod]

[QUOTE=hunterNormandy;42546604]I dont entirely recommend that.
just keep in mind the next time you bump into her just be like "Hey..."
strike up small talk, and end with a question on if shed like to just hang out some time.

thats my best advice.[/QUOTE]

We've been texting for a while, though she doesn't respond very frequently, and I kind of brought up hanging out with each other. Her response was "that'd be awesome", but nothing ever came of it. I've tried getting in contact with her, but she hasn't responded to my texts. I don't want to appear clingy and constantly text her, but there's just not a lot of chances that I could talk to her. She's also constantly with her friends who all like me (not like like, but say hi and smile when we see each other) so I can't really talk to her one on one very often.

[OogalaBoogal]

[QUOTE=Emugod;42546530]I'd really like to get to know the girl I like in university, but we are never in the same place at the same time. And, if we are, it's usually going in the opposite direction toward classes. What should I do? Should I wait for something to happen, or should I go out of my way to "coincidentally" be in the same place as her?[/QUOTE]

Drop your books in front her and blush when she helps you pick them up.

[MaverickIB]

[QUOTE=Emugod;42546713]We've been texting for a while, though she doesn't respond very frequently, and I kind of brought up hanging out with each other. Her response was "that'd be awesome", but nothing ever came of it. I've tried getting in contact with her, but she hasn't responded to my texts. I don't want to appear clingy and constantly text her, but there's just not a lot of chances that I could talk to her. She's also constantly with her friends who all like me (not like like, but say hi and smile when we see each other) so I can't really talk to her one on one very often.[/QUOTE]

Don't "kind of bring up hanging out." Actually ask her if she wants to go out. To a specific thing. At a specific time. None of this "Hey wanna go out with me sometime," shit. More like, "Hey, want to go out with me to [thing] on [day]?"

Also, realize there will never be a perfect situation. A perfect time to go talk to her or ask her. A time where she is just standing there doing nothing out in the open with nobody around, whistling while kicking rocks. Come the fuck on, this is real life, people have shit to do and places to go. She will always be going somewhere, she will always be around people. Who gives a flying fuck if her friends are around? There's no unwritten rule that says you can't ask a girl out with her friends around. If anything, it makes you look like you have some gigantic fucking balls. Shows her you're a man who knows what he wants and isn't going to dick around when it comes down to taking it.

The opportunity will never just fall in your lap. You have to create it. You have to approach her while she's going somewhere, probably with her friends around. Get her fucking attention. Don't just waddle up behind her tapping her shoulder going, "h-h-hey..." If she's coming your direction, you make eye contact, greet her with a smile, then whip around and start walking next to her right when your paths cross and say what's up fat whore want to mash pissers saturday night or what.

If you just sit and wait for the perfect time you will be waiting forever. If you want it, reach up and take it. Don't just stare at it hoping it falls in your lap, because eventually some dipshit with some balls is going to roll in and take it. Then you'll just be crying about how she only goes out with assholes or something dumb like that.

[Emugod]

[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;42546819]Drop your books in front her and blush when she helps you pick them up.[/QUOTE]

Does that actually work or would I just look really stupid? I usually don't have books with me, but I'm constantly on my skateboard, and those things are a death trap. Very easy to fall with those. Or should I bust out a 360 Frontside nose grab kickflip ollie in front of her? I've heard those get all the women.

[zukriuchen]

[QUOTE=Daniel Smith;42546467]I've been making pretty shitty posts in SH lately and I need tips on how to not be so shitty.[/QUOTE]

dont post there
people will always find a way to turn whatever you said around so it sounds incredibly offensive, sh sucks

[Emugod]

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;42546905]Don't "kind of bring up hanging out." Actually ask her if she wants to go out. To a specific thing. At a specific time. None of this "Hey wanna go out with me sometime," shit. More like, "Hey, want to go out with me to [thing] on [day]?"
[/QUOTE]

I don't see her often enough to ask her out to something nor is there much to do on campus besides go get breakfast/lunch/dinner at the campus restaurant or walk. I'll definitely ask her to do something, though. Not saying I won't. I've been thinking about walking up when she's with her friends and asking if they'd like to hang out or something so I'd be more comfortable and we'd have something to do.

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;42546905]
Also, realize there will never be a perfect situation. A perfect time to go talk to her or ask her. A time where she is just standing there doing nothing out in the open with nobody around, whistling while kicking rocks. Come the fuck on, this is real life, people have shit to do and places to go. She will always be going somewhere, she will always be around people. Who gives a flying fuck if her friends are around? There's no unwritten rule that says you can't ask a girl out with her friends around. If anything, it makes you look like you have some gigantic fucking balls. Shows her you're a man who knows what he wants and isn't going to dick around when it comes down to taking it.

The opportunity will never just fall in your lap. You have to create it. You have to approach her while she's going somewhere, probably with her friends around. Get her fucking attention. Don't just waddle up behind her tapping her shoulder going, "h-h-hey..." If she's coming your direction, you make eye contact, greet her with a smile, then whip around and start walking next to her right when your paths cross and say what's up fat whore want to mash pissers saturday night or what.[/QUOTE]

There have been times I've gone up to her while she's with her friends and talked to them, which prompted us walking in the same direction and talking together. But, it's such a rare occurrence that that happens or I actually see her.

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;42546905]
If you just sit and wait for the perfect time you will be waiting forever. If you want it, reach up and take it. Don't just stare at it hoping it falls in your lap, because eventually some dipshit with some balls is going to roll in and take it. Then you'll just be crying about how she only goes out with assholes or something dumb like that.[/QUOTE]

Guys are another thing I'm worried about. I constantly see her with other guys, they may just be friends, but it kind of puts me down. And, I'd rather not interrupt her time talking to the other guy by being the douche who walks up and kinda steals the light from him. It would piss the guy off as well as her. And, being in a university with a 4:1 split of guys to girls and her being one of the most attractive females here, all the guys will want a piece of her.

I understand that I have to grab life by the balls, but those balls are in another fucking dimension. I'm trying, I really am, but there's only so much that I can do. I know that she leaves to her class at 4:00 every Tuesday and Thursday with her friend, so I'll definitely make it a thing that we "coincidentally" run into each other going in the same direction.

[OogalaBoogal]

to be a successful poster in sh you have to be easily able to circlejerk about gun control.

[editline]16th October 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=Emugod;42546906]Does that actually work or would I just look really stupid? I usually don't have books with me, but I'm constantly on my skateboard, and those things are a death trap. Very easy to fall with those. Or should I bust out a 360 Frontside nose grab kickflip ollie in front of her? I've heard those get all the women.[/QUOTE]

if it did i would have had a lot more girlfriends

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=Emugod;42546906]Does that actually work or would I just look really stupid? I usually don't have books with me, but I'm constantly on my skateboard, and those things are a death trap. Very easy to fall with those. Or should I bust out a 360 Frontside nose grab kickflip ollie in front of her? I've heard those get all the women.[/QUOTE]

slip and fall over and pretend like your in pain

[MaverickIB]

[QUOTE=Emugod;42547034]I don't see her often enough to ask her out to something nor is there much to do on campus besides go get breakfast/lunch/dinner at the campus restaurant or walk. I'll definitely ask her to do something, though. Not saying I won't. I've been thinking about walking up when she's with her friends and asking if they'd like to hang out or something so I'd be more comfortable and we'd have something to do.[/quote]

Fucking bullshit. You don't need to see someone a certain amount of times or at a certain frequency to ask them out. You can ask someone out the second you meet them. Don't ask them all out god damn, just ask HER out. Stop pussy footing around it, all you'd be doing is showing her you're scared to ask her out. You don't think she'd know what's really going on the second it happens? She'll read you like a damn book. That's probably why she stopped responding to you, told you it would be awesome to hang out, pretty much saying, "ask me out," and YOU FUCKING DIDN'T. She pretty much thinks you have no balls right now, so doing something indirect will just drive the point home further.

[quote]There have been times I've gone up to her while she's with her friends and talked to them, which prompted us walking in the same direction and talking together. But, it's such a rare occurrence that that happens or I actually see her.[/quote]

I'm not saying to go up to her and walk with her while talking to her friends. Ask her out. It's different. It doesn't take balls to walk up to a group of people you know and talk to them. It takes balls to ask a girl out when she's surrounded by friends. Huge difference.

[quote]Guys are another thing I'm worried about. I constantly see her with other guys, they may just be friends, but it kind of puts me down. And, I'd rather not interrupt her time talking to the other guy by being the douche who walks up and kinda steals the light from him. It would piss the guy off as well as her. And, being in a university with a 4:1 split of guys to girls and her being one of the most attractive females here, all the guys will want a piece of her.[/quote]

What the fuck. You're worried about her talking to other guys so your solution is to make sure you don't step on any of their toes, making their job easier. What's the fucking point, you obviously don't like this girl that much if you're just willing to let any dude in the world take a stab at her while you patiently watch from the sidelines. Why would she get pissed off? You're creating these absolutely ridiculous delusions in order to persuade yourself away from just approaching and asking her out.

[quote]I understand that I have to grab life by the balls, but those balls are in another fucking dimension. I'm trying, I really am, but there's only so much that I can do. I know that she leaves to her class at 4:00 every Tuesday and Thursday with her friend, so I'll definitely make it a thing that we "coincidentally" run into each other going in the same direction.[/QUOTE]

You aren't trying. Your lies are terrible, nobody is buying that shit. Only so much you can do? Like go up to her and ask her out? "B-but her friends b-but other guys b-but I don't see her enough b-but..." All just stupid bullshit excuses. A girl doesn't have to be alone to be asked out. You don't have to be the only guy she talks to before you can ask her out. You don't have to see her X amount of times before you can ask her out.

You have everything you need to ask her out. A mouth and some legs. Don't "coincidentally" run into her, approach her, say, "Hey I was looking for you, have dinner with me tonight," or something. Stop trying to make everything look like it's happening by chance or it's just coincidence, this big fucking grand contraption you're building where she just "happens" to fall into your arms and shit. This isn't the fucking movies. Ask her out. Make your intentions perfectly clear. Give her a reason to be interested in you.

[Taepodong-2]

[QUOTE=MuffinZerg;42546414]Now that's a plot twist[/QUOTE]

I'm surprised I did it too. But I missed that class last day, I was sitting beside her and thought she was attractive so I decided asking what I missed last class would be a good idea. We ended up having a conversation that wasn't forced and after class she gave me her notebook so I could get the previous day's notes which means I'm kind of obligated to talk to her again next time I have that class, which is on Monday.

[PuduEbooks]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42547264]I'm surprised I did it too. But I missed that class last day, I was sitting beside her and thought she was attractive so I decided asking what I missed last class would be a good idea. We ended up having a conversation that wasn't forced and after class she gave me her notebook so I could get the previous day's notes which means I'm kind of obligated to talk to her again next time I have that class, which is on Monday.[/QUOTE]

Good, now just don't ovethink it and keep it cool.

[Omniskull]

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;42547166]Fucking bullshit. You don't need to see someone a certain amount of times or at a certain frequency to ask them out. You can ask someone out the second you meet them. Don't ask them all out god damn, just ask HER out. Stop pussy footing around it, all you'd be doing is showing her you're scared to ask her out. You don't think she'd know what's really going on the second it happens? She'll read you like a damn book. That's probably why she stopped responding to you, told you it would be awesome to hang out, pretty much saying, "ask me out," and YOU FUCKING DIDN'T. She pretty much thinks you have no balls right now, so doing something indirect will just drive the point home further.

[/QUOTE]

Agreed with this x10, When I started my old job there was this banging chick working there, I talked to her on the first day then asked her out and it went terrifically, you just gotta stop being a pussy and making up excuses for why you cant do anything otherwise you will always be the guy who loses out

[evilweazel]

Got back in touch with a girl I used to have a thing with. Kinda shocked me how much shes changed, she sleeps around with the local brony brigade now, gained like 60+ pounds, started chain smoking, and fell into drinking a ton. It's kinda shocking to see someone who I used to think was very pretty just kinda let themselves get out of control like that :/ I half way wanted to just ask her "What the fuck happened to you?" but it's really not my place, I guess.

[thisispain]

[quote]she sleeps around with the local brony brigade now[/quote]

???

[evilweazel]

[QUOTE=thisispain;42548355]???[/QUOTE]

A group of many bronies. A flock. Or pack. Herd fits the most though tbh.

[Splash Attack]

I'm beginning to think I'm attracted to non-straight women. My last ex was bi-sexual, and it's happened twice now that I've been attracted to a girl whom I find out is a lesbian. I don't know if it's a subconscious behavior I'm attracted to or what.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;42549451]I'm beginning to think I'm attracted to non-straight women. My last ex was bi-sexual, and it's happened twice now that I've been attracted to a girl whom I find out is a lesbian. I don't know if it's a subconscious behavior I'm attracted to or what.[/QUOTE]

Speaking as a less than straight girl who knows a fair number of less than straight women,
bisexual and lesbian women tend to be a lot more comfortable around guys and dont bother trying to get attention or be attractive, they act more like one of the guys.
Makes them a lot easier to talk to when they have more masculine habits and hobbies too.

That and bisexualism to varying degrees is really common in women