• Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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[QUOTE=Rhenae;42550023]Speaking as a less than straight girl who knows a fair number of less than straight women, bisexual and lesbian women tend to be a lot more comfortable around guys and dont bother trying to get attention or be attractive, they act more like one of the guys. Makes them a lot easier to talk to when they have more masculine habits and hobbies too. That and bisexualism to varying degrees is really common in women[/QUOTE] One of my good friends, my next door neighbour in fact, is a massive femme and is consistently one of the girls. I know many more feminine than masculine bi & lesbian girls, kind of the opposite of what you have experienced.
My girlfriend used to have romances with girls, frankly I don't care that much anyway. Nowadays unusual sexual orientations are pretty common and I don't mind them at all. Actually I don't feel I'm together with a bi-sexual. Nor does it really affect us that much.
[QUOTE=Splash Attack;42549451]I'm beginning to think I'm attracted to non-straight women. My last ex was bi-sexual, and it's happened twice now that I've been attracted to a girl whom I find out is a lesbian. I don't know if it's a subconscious behavior I'm attracted to or what.[/QUOTE] Sounds familiar, a lot of girls I'm attracted to turn out to be lesbians. It's quite saddening to be interested in somebody and then find out she only likes girls.
[QUOTE=Leestons;42550093]Sounds familiar, a lot of girls I'm attracted to turn out to be lesbians. It's quite saddening to be interested in somebody and then find out she only likes girls.[/QUOTE] Now when I think about it, nearly every girl with whom I broke up turned into lesbians for some reason. Wonder if I did something wrong :v:
[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;42550048]One of my good friends, my next door neighbour in fact, is a massive femme and is consistently one of the girls. I know many more feminine than masculine bi & lesbian girls, kind of the opposite of what you have experienced.[/QUOTE] It is a tend, I know less although certainly some more girl-girl lesbians too. Depends also I suppose on how you define feminine and masculine traits too
[QUOTE=evilweazel;42548820]A group of many bronies. A flock. Or pack. Herd fits the most though tbh.[/QUOTE]a swarm a brood a nest all are proper terms to describe it. [QUOTE=junker154;42550098]Now when I think about it, nearly every girl with whom I broke up turned into lesbians for some reason. Wonder if I did something wrong :v:[/QUOTE] you were possibly so good that they were bored with every other man they've tried.
Ever since I broke up with my girlfriend I feel like I haven't been really attracted to anyone else except her, every time I think about her I'm instantly attracted to her even though I don't have feelings, but when I think of other girls I'm just not attracted to them. Anyone else experience this?
Usually after a while I was attracted to other girls but I always had my ex-girlfriend somewhere in the back of my mind. Although after getting on with my life I forgot about her. Wounds heal over time.
[QUOTE=evilweazel;42548298]Got back in touch with a girl I used to have a thing with. Kinda shocked me how much shes changed, she sleeps around with the local brony brigade now, gained like 60+ pounds, started chain smoking, and fell into drinking a ton. It's kinda shocking to see someone who I used to think was very pretty just kinda let themselves get out of control like that :/ I half way wanted to just ask her "What the fuck happened to you?" but it's really not my place, I guess.[/QUOTE] My worst nightmare is to meet my ex that I used to love after a few years of broken contact and find out that her life descended down to the bottom. I would rather fail at life myself then be succesful infront of my ex-loved one being hopeless. [editline]17th October 2013[/editline] [QUOTE=Leader of Me;42550648]Ever since I broke up with my girlfriend I feel like I haven't been really attracted to anyone else except her, every time I think about her I'm instantly attracted to her even though I don't have feelings, but when I think of other girls I'm just not attracted to them. Anyone else experience this?[/QUOTE] Same shit here. My gf cheated on me, lied and was a bitch when we broke up (started as the best lovestory of all though, didn't see that all comming). She is also a boring person as she is busy with study all the time and the only thing we can ever discuss is our relationship (you know how that shit is terrible when you can't discuss anything else but the relationship). Still can't get her out of my head. Breaking contact helps though.
[QUOTE=Leader of Me;42550648]Ever since I broke up with my girlfriend I feel like I haven't been really attracted to anyone else except her, every time I think about her I'm instantly attracted to her even though I don't have feelings, but when I think of other girls I'm just not attracted to them. Anyone else experience this?[/QUOTE] Isn't this the fourth time you've asked this here? Are you just wanting people to tell you what you want to hear?
[QUOTE=Flapadar;42551913]Isn't this the fourth time you've asked this here? Are you just wanting people to tell you what you want to hear?[/QUOTE] Sorry it was my mistake, been under a lot of stress at the moment with a few things and I keep forgetting if I've done stuff or not, and because of my OCD if I feel like I forget something I have to make sure I do it.
I really proved my theory about doing something really embarrassing/stupid prevents you from feeling ashamed again. I just headbutted the two gigantic glass doors at a local McDonalds. Everybody inside died from laughter and all I could do was take a bow and compliment the staff on how well they cleaned their glass surfaces. :v: Two girls eating inside laughed like hell, I went by and said "Don't worry, there's nothing in my head." And then I left with my head held high.
[QUOTE=CommanderPT;42556178]I really proved my theory about doing something really embarrassing/stupid prevents you from feeling ashamed again. I just headbutted the two gigantic glass doors at a local McDonalds. Everybody inside died from laughter and all I could do was take a bow and compliment the staff on how well they cleaned their glass surfaces. :v: Two girls eating inside laughed like hell, I went by and said "Don't worry, there's nothing in my head." And then I left with my head held high.[/QUOTE] Now all you need to do is get your dick out in a school and you'll be totally untouchable.
[QUOTE=CommanderPT;42556178]I really proved my theory about doing something really embarrassing/stupid prevents you from feeling ashamed again. I just headbutted the two gigantic glass doors at a local McDonalds. Everybody inside died from laughter and all I could do was take a bow and compliment the staff on how well they cleaned their glass surfaces. :v: Two girls eating inside laughed like hell, I went by and said "Don't worry, there's nothing in my head." And then I left with my head held high.[/QUOTE] in principle it's a good idea to get used to failure, though obviously it doesn't need to be to that extent. but for people who are afraid of asking someone out or something, just ask out a lot of people - once you've been rejected, you'll realize it's not as bad as you thought it would be. same thing goes for saying stupid shit. i used to be so afraid to talk to people because i felt like i had foot-in-mouth syndrome. i haven't gotten any "better" at conversation, i still make the same dumb comments that i used to beat myself up over for hours - now i just don't think about it twice.
So, i used omegle a bit and was just randomly trying to chat with someone.Then i stumbled upon a girl who was mad that an American called her country "hentai".Anyway, we started chatting, i got to know her a bit, got her name and skype.So, she really lifted my spirit and probably gave me a bit of experience for the future. Sometimes Omegle can work out just SO great.
The obligated to talk to her post by whats his name a while back cracked me up. All I could think of was him getting scared of talking to her and stealing the book .
[QUOTE=benbb;42545734]This might sound like a stupid question, but what's the age that you guys had your first kiss? I haven't had mine yet and I don't think I'm likely to for a long time soon. :tinfoil:[/QUOTE] 16 and no luck. :( (two rejections, hell yea) [editline]18th October 2013[/editline] Late answer, eh
[QUOTE=Itsjustguy;42557058]So, i used omegle a bit and was just randomly trying to chat with someone.Then i stumbled upon a girl who was mad that an American called her country "hentai".Anyway, we started chatting, i got to know her a bit, got her name and skype.So, she really lifted my spirit and probably gave me a bit of experience for the future. Sometimes Omegle can work out just SO great.[/QUOTE] Whenever I use Omegle I just get spam bots who say "Hi 21/f (insert random US state) kik me xxsexyhoexx not a bot" and horny Indian men.
[QUOTE=CommanderPT;42556178]I really proved my theory about doing something really embarrassing/stupid prevents you from feeling ashamed again. I just headbutted the two gigantic glass doors at a local McDonalds. Everybody inside died from laughter and all I could do was take a bow and compliment the staff on how well they cleaned their glass surfaces. :v: Two girls eating inside laughed like hell, I went by and said "Don't worry, there's nothing in my head." And then I left with my head held high.[/QUOTE] i don't really get too ashamed of myself when i do stupid things either but i never had to go the extra mile to break myself first [editline]17th October 2013[/editline] i am deeply considering texting some ho that secretly hates me for no reason but i'm not sure if i want to go through with it hmhmhmhmmmhm
[QUOTE=RocketRacer;42557395]16 and no luck. :( (two rejections, hell yea) [editline]18th October 2013[/editline] Late answer, eh[/QUOTE] Hey man, it could be worse 19 here and no luck either It doesn't help i study engineering, theres like a single girl for every 5 guys on the campus, and most of them are ugly like hell. Such is life i guess :v: [QUOTE=Disseminate;42559506]There are girls that aren't in engineering you know[/QUOTE] This is an engineering-focused campus. When i say there are 1 girl for every 5 guys, i'm taking the women from the architecture department into account. I'm not joking when i say we're in dire straits here man
[QUOTE=LtBubbles;42559304]It doesn't help i study engineering, theres like a single girl for every 5 guys on the campus, and most of them are ugly like hell. Such is life i guess :v:[/QUOTE] There are girls that aren't in engineering you know
I got really close to having a date today. So damn close. I had finally gotten the balls to ask the girl out and we had decided on getting dinner together at 6, and everything was going perfectly. I text her at about 5:40 asking if she was ready, and she replies that she's just taken a shower, and it'll take time to get ready and if we wanted to reschedule. I reply saying sure and when she was ready she could text me and I could pick her up. Well, an hour passes, and the great Agoat is helping me through everything, and no reply. I find out later that the girl is already at the place with another friend. FUCK. Everything was going so perfectly. The first time I ask a girl out and I get somewhat stood up. What could have gone wrong?
So I hung out with the girl I'm into. We helped host this party that we for some people she interns for at one of the guys houses. Everyone was super nice and basically accepted me into their network. I hardly got to see her but we sat and talked for a while while we weren't busy doing other stuff. She was mostly in the kitchen and I was mostly on the porch making drinks for people. I picked her up from her house though and opened the door for her when we got to the car each time and walked her to her place. Still ended with a hug. I don't know how to gauge it! We talked the whole way home, like a 45 minute drive about personal stuff and it was nice. I really like her, just don't know when and how to make the move. She was like, oh my gosh you're such a gentleman whenever I got the door for her and stuff and seemed flattered. We're working together tomorrow night and she's coming out for my birthday with me and some friends on Saturday night. Should I possibly make a move then? We've only hung out twice outside of work. I don't want to rush into it. I feel comfortable around her though. It's nice.
[QUOTE=Juice_Layer;42560973]So I hung out with the girl I'm into. We helped host this party that we for some people she interns for at one of the guys houses. Everyone was super nice and basically accepted me into their network. I hardly got to see her but we sat and talked for a while while we weren't busy doing other stuff. She was mostly in the kitchen and I was mostly on the porch making drinks for people. I picked her up from her house though and opened the door for her when we got to the car each time and walked her to her place. Still ended with a hug. I don't know how to gauge it! We talked the whole way home, like a 45 minute drive about personal stuff and it was nice. I really like her, just don't know when and how to make the move. She was like, oh my gosh you're such a gentleman whenever I got the door for her and stuff and seemed flattered. We're working together tomorrow night and she's coming out for my birthday with me and some friends on Saturday night. Should I possibly make a move then? We've only hung out twice outside of work. I don't want to rush into it. I feel comfortable around her though. It's nice.[/QUOTE] So are you guys actually dating? Ask for a birthday kiss :v:
[QUOTE=Rhenae;42561014]So are you guys actually dating? Ask for a birthday kiss :v:[/QUOTE] No we aren't, haha she mentioned a birthday kiss, but it was pretty vague and I didn't want to read into it too much like I tend to let myself do. I think if you go back to page 103 I kind of sum up what's already gone down. She was like "I should get you a sache that says birthday boy on it and a necklace that says kiss me it's my birthday." Haha I told her I'd totally wear it! I would love to date her though. That's the goal, but I'm enjoying the journey right now. Just not sure what she thinks of me yet.
[QUOTE=Juice_Layer;42561050]No we aren't, haha she mentioned a birthday kiss, but it was pretty vague and I didn't want to read into it too much like I tend to let myself do. I think if you go back to page 103 I kind of sum up what's already gone down. She was like "I should get you a sache that says birthday boy on it and a necklace that says kiss me it's my birthday." Haha I told her I'd totally wear it! I would love to date her though. That's the goal, but I'm enjoying the journey right now. Just not sure what she thinks of me yet.[/QUOTE] If you think she probably likes you I'd go for asking for a birthday kiss. But maybe thats a terrible idea, the rest of the thread can weigh in on that. Sometimes I like terrible ideas.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;42561070]If you think she probably likes you I'd go for asking for a birthday kiss. But maybe thats a terrible idea, the rest of the thread can weigh in on that. Sometimes I like terrible ideas.[/QUOTE] Haha, I just can't really get a feel for it yet! I'll try my best to ask for one without looking like a jackass. She keeps asking what I want for my birthday, but I don't know what to tell her. I WANT YOU FOR MY BIRTHDAY!! We've got a lot of stuff planned like going out to see bands play and doing some fall pumpkin carving and stuff.
[QUOTE=Emugod;42560574]I got really close to having a date today. So damn close. I had finally gotten the balls to ask the girl out and we had decided on getting dinner together at 6, and everything was going perfectly. I text her at about 5:40 asking if she was ready, and she replies that she's just taken a shower, and it'll take time to get ready and if we wanted to reschedule. I reply saying sure and when she was ready she could text me and I could pick her up. Well, an hour passes, and the great Agoat is helping me through everything, and no reply. I find out later that the girl is already at the place with another friend. FUCK. Everything was going so perfectly. The first time I ask a girl out and I get somewhat stood up. What could have gone wrong?[/QUOTE] Mixed blessing. You found out she's a huge bitch before spending any time or money on her. Consider yourself lucky.
[QUOTE=MaverickIB;42562875]Mixed blessing. You found out she's a huge bitch before spending any time or money on her. Consider yourself lucky.[/QUOTE] No, I don't think she's a huge bitch, or a bitch at all. She's actually one of the nicest persons I've ever met. I'll speak with her about what happened. There's probably some kind of miscommunication that went on.
If she really wanted to date you and had a true interest in you, she wouldn't have fucked up like this. I don't know, accidents can happen. But this is actually really insolent of her, espcially considering that she met another friend right after that. It shows that she didn't take this serious enough or at least less serious than you. Even if it was a misscommunication, it emits a bad vibe from her.
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