Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Juice_Layer]

[QUOTE=thelurker1234;42587146]tell me if it's true that you turn into super mohawk saiyan if you drink beer
[/QUOTE]

You definitely feel like one. I got about as drunk as I can ever recall being last night before I went out. Had about 7 shots of whiskey, 4 beers, and then chugged 2 beers in the car on the way to watch my friend's band play. Right before we left I was so incoherent that my friends were like talking and asking me stuff and it wasn't even registering.

There were only like 20 - 30 people at the show and I was SOO damn loud ahah, just like "FUCK YEA YOU GUYS ARE AWESOME!!" and I was dancing like a madman. On the way to the show I remember I made my friend pull over to a gas station because I had to pee so bad, then on the way out him and my other friend had gone inside the gas station and I was waiting out front by my car and these two sketchy old black dudes somehow knew it was my birthday (I think my friend told them?) And they're all like "Hell yeah Mike! Happy birthday man! Can I borrow a quarter?" Plastered out of my mind I reached into my pocket where I must've had like $3 or $4 in change and just like plopped it in their hands lol. I hope to god I didn't have like a $10 bill in there.

Anyways, some parts of it were choppy and I only remember bits and pieces. I met two pretty cute chicks at the show, but they ended up being 18, which is too young for me. I still talked with them and had a blast, then my friends and I wound up at Waffle House and I ordered about 1200 calories of food which was my first step back to sobriety. I didn't even last until 12:00AM to where I could go to the bars out at the beach. I was so drunk by about 6:30PM that I couldn't manage to drink anymore even though I had just turned legal.

We got back to my dorm and me and my roommate went on the balcony and started yelling at these guys that we always see on the balcony opposite of ours and now we're like best friends, then we were like yelling out "Hey!" to a bunch of random people walking by and these two chicks ended up coming up to our dorm and chilling for a bit. I had no intention of hooking up with them though. One was pretty cute, but she definitely wasn't my type and she was black, I just can't go for that out of personal taste - not being racist whatsoever, just not very attracted to it. Anyhow, we ended up making quite a few friends and it was a lot of fun. Can't wait to do it again for my friend's 21st next month.

TL;DR - You don't turn into a Saiyan.

[Nastardos]

[QUOTE=prop_physic;42587454]I feel coldhearted.

[editline]20th October 2013[/editline]

Do something that you both like, example: watching a specyfic movie, do specyfic sport, play video games, read (or try to do impressions of it) books. Possibilites are endless.[/QUOTE]

Yeah i suppose, i think i just feel that now i have to come up with something really extra but we have had really great time like doing nothing :D. Also last time she was at my house she saw Gta V and was like oh you have that and i asked jokingly wanna try and she said yes. So i was kinda shocked and excited at the same time because she played better than most of my friends and went to tune cars and so on, i was thinking ''Holy shit, i like her'' :D . I think she plays on the phone a lot but i dont know what we could play together. I have LBP on ps3 but not another controller damn it!

[prop_physic]

[QUOTE=Nastardo;42587721]Yeah i suppose, i think i just feel that now i have to come up with something really extra but we have had really great time like doing nothing :D. Also last time she was at my house she saw Gta V and was like oh you have that and i asked jokingly wanna try and she said yes. So i was kinda shocked and excited at the same time because she played better than most of my friends and went to tune cars and so on, i was thinking ''Holy shit, i think i like her'' :D . I think she plays on the phone a lot but i dont know what we could play together. I have LBP on ps3 but not another controller damn it![/QUOTE]

I think controllers are cheap, but it depends on the country you live on, and their priceing.

[editline]20th October 2013[/editline]

+ find some games that features splitscreen mode. (example: portal 2,borderlands 2, killzone 3 or resistance 3)

[Thelurker1234]

[QUOTE=prop_physic;42587754]I think controllers are cheap, but it depends on the country you live on, and their priceing.

[editline]20th October 2013[/editline]

+ find some games that features splitscreen mode. (example: portal 2,borderlands 2, killzone 3 or resistance 3)[/QUOTE]
do not play mario kart splitscreen with her

the blue turtle shell destroys all relationships

[Nastardos]

[QUOTE=thelurker1234;42588127]do not play mario kart splitscreen with her

the blue turtle shell destroys all relationships[/QUOTE]

The only split-screen i have now is killzone 3, and i don't think that killing helghans strengthens our relationship :D

[RobbL]

[QUOTE=Juice_Layer;42587686]. Had about 7 shots of whiskey, 4 beers, and then chugged 2 beers in the car on the way to watch my friend's band play. Right before we left I was so incoherent that my friends were like talking and asking me stuff and it wasn't even registering.[/QUOTE]

lol lightweight

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=Yahnich;42588577]while it might be 'unfair', i really think there must be some physical attraction, so if he finds them unattractive what is he supposed to do, force himself to like them out of desperation?[/QUOTE]

no, but maybe his standards are too high.

[Omniskull]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;42587038]so do you think someone would pretend to be a girl who's interested in him for 4 years?[/QUOTE]

People have done crazier things

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Omniskull;42589311]People have done crazier things[/QUOTE]

like accusing people who you know on the internet of not being real?

[junker154]

[QUOTE=RobbL;42589036]lol lightweight[/QUOTE]

You're such a badass.

[Emugod]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;42589224]no, but maybe his standards are too high.[/QUOTE]

My standards aren't the highest. But, I still like my women to look nice. It's a turn on for me. I honestly wouldn't date a girl who doesn't really take care of herself. I'm not the most attractive person ever, but I still take time out of my day to take a shower, fix my hair, wear good clothes. I mean, I don't expect girls to go through the same ritual I do, but a little fixing up doesn't hurt.

[bobsynergy]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;42587038]so do you think someone would pretend to be a girl who's interested in him for 4 years?[/QUOTE]

Ummm isn't that a major thing with the Obsidian HL2 mod? where there are 2 devs who are in an online relationship for years and the guy hasn't ever seen a picture of the one who is supposed to be a girl and then it was revealed that the girl was actually a guy or something?

[QUOTE=D3TBS;42589224]no, but maybe his standards are too high.[/QUOTE]

Yeah but now your just assuming something, what if he posted pictures and you thought they were unattractive as well? does that mean your standards are too high?

If he isn't attracted to them then that's fair enough.

[junker154]

[QUOTE=Emugod;42589480]My standards aren't the highest. But, I still like my women to look nice. It's a turn on for me. I honestly wouldn't date a girl who doesn't really take care of herself. I'm not the most attractive person ever, but I still take time out of my day to take a shower, fix my hair, wear good clothes. I mean, I don't expect girls to go through the same ritual I do, but a little fixing up doesn't hurt.[/QUOTE]

That's a nice way of putting it, a girl doesn't need the best looking body or shape. But it's nice when people invest time in taking care of their looks and clothing style. I had a girlfriend once who didn't look bad but she never really clothed well or tried to look pretty, even when going somewhere more fancy. It's annoying.

My girlfriend right now tries to look good by getting her hair right and clothing appropriately, it's just far nicer and you feel better when you know that you look good. It's also tells something about the character of that particular person.

Although taking if it's to excessive than it's more of a negative point.

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=bobsynergy;42589496]Yeah but now your just assuming something, what if he posted pictures and you thought they were unattractive as well? does that mean your standards are too high?

If he isn't attracted to them then that's fair enough.[/QUOTE]

I was just guessing, chill.

Theres people with high standards, rejecting moderately cute girls just because theyre "not good enough". And in the end its the reason they dont get anything. But I dont know, I could only say that he has high standards if he posts pics.

[editline]20th October 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=Emugod;42589480]My standards aren't the highest. But, I still like my women to look nice. It's a turn on for me. I honestly wouldn't date a girl who doesn't really take care of herself. I'm not the most attractive person ever, but I still take time out of my day to take a shower, fix my hair, wear good clothes. I mean, I don't expect girls to go through the same ritual I do, but a little fixing up doesn't hurt.[/QUOTE]

Yeah sounds fine I guess

[NoDachi]

I only date genetically superior überfrau

[Heigou]

I only date myself.

[RainbowStalin]

Everyone needs love

[vizard38]

Oh man this is going to sound stupid but anyway, I've never really had any problems with much. I have a large amount of friends who I hang out on a regular basis, but I can't help but have this feeling that its nothing beyond this absoluteness. That is, I don't think I'm close enough to any of them that I can honestly open up to them about anything; I've kept this superficial facade, and I've never gotten to give any of them a clear view of who I actually am simply because I don't think I'm close enough to them to do that. Maybe I'm just saying that I don't have that one friend who's got my back. I don't know. I suspect I have something like a hedgehog's dilemna (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hedgehog's_dilemma), because the rare moments I've tried to open up I feel like I'm isolating them away by sounding excessevily needy.

Sorry it sounds like a pointless rant, but it just hurts thinking that I've talked about more personal things with Facepunch than with the people in my life.

[Omniskull]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;42589413]like accusing people who you know on the internet of not being real?[/QUOTE]

why are you taking it so personally? the main point of my post was to tell him its silly to become so emotionally attached to someone you have never met once.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Omniskull;42591376]why are you taking it so personally? the main point of my post was to tell him its silly to become so emotionally attached to someone you have never met once.[/QUOTE]

Guy and a few other users in here have met their current SOs online and maintained long distance relationships for quite some time. Your entirely devaluing that type of relationship just because they havent met in person yet and saying you cant have a connection to a person like that.
I dont know about you but i can see that being offensive.

[Meller Yeller]

[QUOTE=vizard38;42590922]Oh man this is going to sound stupid but anyway, I've never really had any problems with much. I have a large amount of friends who I hang out on a regular basis, but I can't help but have this feeling that its nothing beyond this absoluteness. That is, I don't think I'm close enough to any of them that I can honestly open up to them about anything; I've kept this superficial facade, and I've never gotten to give any of them a clear view of who I actually am simply because I don't think I'm close enough to them to do that. Maybe I'm just saying that I don't have that one friend who's got my back. I don't know. I suspect I have something like a hedgehog's dilemna (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hedgehog's_dilemma), because the rare moments I've tried to open up I feel like I'm isolating them away by sounding excessevily needy.

Sorry it sounds like a pointless rant, but it just hurts thinking that I've talked about more personal things with Facepunch than with the people in my life.[/QUOTE]

I've always been kind of the same way. Except, I always find it much easier to open up about stuff with my more effeminate guy friends... even if I don't know them as well.

[Omniskull]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;42591426]Guy and a few other users in here have met their current SOs online and maintained long distance relationships for quite some time. Your entirely devaluing that type of relationship just because they havent met in person yet and saying you cant have a connection to a person like that.
I dont know about you but i can see that being offensive.[/QUOTE]

Theres a difference though they didn't not meet for 4 years did they?

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Omniskull;42591779]Theres a difference though they didn't not meet for 4 years did they?[/QUOTE]

aside from meeting the person i'm going to spend the rest of my life with in a video game, i have a few incredibly close friends i only know online. just because we don't happen to live near each other doesn't discredit the fact that they're closer friends than anyone i know in person.

[rammaster]

Me: "y'know girls don't have to "like" you to be friends"
My friend: "Then what's the point?"

[editline]20th October 2013[/editline]

i can't... I think he's beyond help.

[GeeOhDee]

[QUOTE=Heigou;42589823]I only date myself.[/QUOTE]

That man looks good, that woman looks great;
But today, I take myself out on a date.

[Used Car Salesm]

I think the thread title may be telling me what I need to do. I've met somebody through the atheist club who seems genuinely cool. She's reasonably close to my age, doesn't appear to be seeing anybody, talks intelligently about interesting things, and is into a lot of the same things I am that get blank stares and "Huh"s from other people. Most importantly, she actually seems interested in talking to me, which is pretty unusual. Normally they just...tune out.

I've lost some weight and gained a lot of confidence over this past year, not to mention done a lot of growing up since my last relationship (like 6 years ago, holy shit). Still, though, I feel like she's out of my league physically. I don't really believe in that way of thinking, and I honestly think that other things are a lot more important, but still, nobody wants to date [I]down.[/I]

I'm afraid of making a complete idiot of myself. I'm afraid of making it obvious that I have [I]no fucking clue[/I] about how any of this is supposed to work. I'm afraid of acting casual until my voice goes shaky and reveals how shit scared I am of what she'll say. I literally haven't had the self esteem to seriously think of even [I]trying[/I] in years.

So, what? Pound a shot of bourbon, obey the thread title, and just fucking do it? We talk online a bit, is that acceptable when the club events are too difficult to talk alone? Should I just shut up and go back in my hole for another few years?

[GeeOhDee]

If you wait for the ocean to settle before going in to bathe, you're going to wait a long time.

[Fire Kracker]

put your faith in yourself like i put my faith in my god

and you'll be provided with what you seek

[Used Car Salesm]

[QUOTE=Yahnich;42592547]yes[/QUOTE]

Okay then.

[Boozy&Bitter]

[QUOTE=Used Car Salesman;42592524]I think the thread title may be telling me what I need to do. I've met somebody through the atheist club who seems genuinely cool. She's reasonably close to my age, doesn't appear to be seeing anybody, talks intelligently about interesting things, and is into a lot of the same things I am that get blank stares and "Huh"s from other people. Most importantly, she actually seems interested in talking to me, which is pretty unusual. Normally they just...tune out.

I've lost some weight and gained a lot of confidence over this past year, not to mention done a lot of growing up since my last relationship (like 6 years ago, holy shit). Still, though, I feel like she's out of my league physically. I don't really believe in that way of thinking, and I honestly think that other things are a lot more important, but still, nobody wants to date [I]down.[/I]

I'm afraid of making a complete idiot of myself. I'm afraid of making it obvious that I have [I]no fucking clue[/I] about how any of this is supposed to work. I'm afraid of acting casual until my voice goes shaky and reveals how shit scared I am of what she'll say. I literally haven't had the self esteem to seriously think of even [I]trying[/I] in years.

So, what? Pound a shot of bourbon, obey the thread title, and just fucking do it? We talk online a bit, is that acceptable when the club events are too difficult to talk alone? Should I just shut up and go back in my hole for another few years?[/QUOTE]

Ask her out, if she says no, continue with your life.

She sounds great, and maybe she is, and maybe you just don't like her at a fundamental level. You can't think of it as if its your only chance at a relationship, that kind of stress will cause you to screw up.